I don't care what people say, women DO NOT like masculine men

[Emerald]

I totally agree. When a man is out of touch with his Feminine side, it makes him come across as very unattractive and immature.

Plus, the repression of the Feminine makes men feel this lack and relates to women desperately because he's trying to integrate the Feminine through proxy of his relationship. It's like he's like, "I am impoverished of the Feminine, and I need a woman to provide me Femininity!"

And often times, men will think their issue with dating is that they're not Masculine enough... when the issue is that they're not Feminine enough. And there's no softness or warmth to connect with. And a man with repressed Femininity tend to be kind of anti-social.

Usually, men who polarize into Masculinity and repress their Feminine side are like cold nerdy brains in a jar... and can have a lot of repressed Shadow Feminine qualities sneak through their demeanor like entitlement, cattiness, pettiness, and resentment (towards women).

So, a man who represses his Feminine side is like a combo between a cold juvenile locked-in guy and a resentful catty mean girl all rolled into one.

But a man who integrates his Feminine side tends to come across as more Masculine in an attractive way... and is warm, present, centered in his body, and capable of intimacy.

What makes a man attractive is a mixture between softness and strength.

A man who is only strength is like a cold stone statue.

But the "Men need to be more Masculine to attract women" ideas causes men to harden more and more and more... which makes his problem worse and worse and worse.

[Emerald]

On 11/16/2025 at 10:15 AM, Miguel1 said:

Like I said, masculinity is attractive but femininity connects.

That's a really nice way to summarize it.

The opposite polarity attracts. And this is why men are always trying to polarize into Masculinity to be more attractive to women.

But the commonality is what creates connection, which is what women really value in a relationship. And that's a major part of the attraction... being able to connect with someone of the opposite polarity.

So, if a man tries to polarize into the Masculine without integrating the Feminine... he becomes unattractive because of the detachment and inability to connect.

[Emerald]

23 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

No. This is how a serious man is.

Think of a Zen master. That is a real man. Not some pickup clown.

The truth is that a real man doesn't make his life around chasing club bitches.

A real man does such serious things that he doesn't have time for games, flirting, and galavanting with drunk fools.

Marcus Aurelius, that is a real man. These pickup guys are truamatized sex-obssessed children.

It happens often that men who are very serious are quite stunted and have a repressive relationship with their own humanity.

Perhaps the expectation is to transcend one's humanity and to become the romanticized archetype of the strict stoic Zen master. But the actual results fall somewhere between socially isolated bubble guy and Ebenezer Scrooge.

It's one of those divergences between how one perceives themselves, how others perceive them, and how they actually are.

[Schizophonia]

@Emerald Just the animus/anima clivage shows the poor performance of Jungism, or David Deida's dogshit. 

 

Me all I see are autistic/neurotic, often from anglo-saxon countries you who talked about how "Freudism maintaining Victorian-era gender stereotypes" people who are just coping by saying "No but if I'm boring it's actualy because i'm too masculine yeaa 😎🥸." lmao.

 

Yea you're right lol  😹👍 it must be that .

 

If when I put the triangle in the square it doesn't fit, it's not because the hole box is wrong.

Edited 23 hours ago by Schizophonia

[mmKay]

On 17/11/2025 at 1:59 AM, Leo Gura said:

That's why a real man doesn't care if he doesn't have a girlfriend.

A real man can only be satisfied by the GOAT

[Leo Gura]

Seriously, when you are on your purpose as a man, the girlfriend is irrelevant to your happiness.

[mmKay]

28 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Seriously, when you are on your purpose as a man, the girlfriend is irrelevant to your happiness.

 

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A real man can only be satisfied by the GOAT

I was agreeing with you

I'm talking about goat yoga ofc

Edited 11 hours ago by mmKay

[Spiral]

@Emerald personally I find the balance difficult. When I was younger I was very feminine, to such a degree people thought I was gay. I used to hang out with girls almost exclusively.

Right now i’m probably a bit too masculine and struggle to make female friends. 

[Tenebroso]

18 hours ago, Emerald said:

I totally agree. When a man is out of touch with his Feminine side, it makes him come across as very unattractive and immature.

Plus, the repression of the Feminine makes men feel this lack and relates to women desperately because he's trying to integrate the Feminine through proxy of his relationship. It's like he's like, "I am impoverished of the Feminine, and I need a woman to provide me Femininity!"

And often times, men will think their issue with dating is that they're not Masculine enough... when the issue is that they're not Feminine enough. And there's no softness or warmth to connect with. And a man with repressed Femininity tend to be kind of anti-social.

Usually, men who polarize into Masculinity and repress their Feminine side are like cold nerdy brains in a jar... and can have a lot of repressed Shadow Feminine qualities sneak through their demeanor like entitlement, cattiness, pettiness, and resentment (towards women).

So, a man who represses his Feminine side is like a combo between a cold juvenile locked-in guy and a resentful catty mean girl all rolled into one.

But a man who integrates his Feminine side tends to come across as more Masculine in an attractive way... and is warm, present, centered in his body, and capable of intimacy.

What makes a man attractive is a mixture between softness and strength.

A man who is only strength is like a cold stone statue.

But the "Men need to be more Masculine to attract women" ideas causes men to harden more and more and more... which makes his problem worse and worse and worse.

Interesting perspective but how do you account for exposed abusers, serial killers, narcissists etc attracting women. I spoke to an ex girlfriend of a murderer of multiple women, Wade Wilson. He had marriage proposals and a petition to have him released. Women on TikTok admitting that they would not be able to help themselves around him. I asked his ex girlfriend what she saw in him, she said that she knew his reputation but he was too attractive to turn down, it was supposed to be a fling and then turned into a relationship.

There is also the growing issue of female prison guards having sex with inmates. In the UK female prison guards were having sex with a convicted rapist. I think women care about raw physical attraction and lust more than we want to admit as a society. It was repressed in the past now and we have not caught up in terms of the narrative around dating because perhaps it paints an unflattering picture.

[Miguel1]

5 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

I asked his ex girlfriend what she saw in him, she said that she knew his reputation but he was too attractive to turn down, it was supposed to be a fling and then turned into a relationship.

Realistically, how many girls are really into murderers? Probably a very tiny percentage. Most girls are afraid of and repulsed by them - because they lack femininity completely. They are all macho masculinity, aka toxic masculinity. And this proves everything we have discussed here on this thread.