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my father had this and unfortunately in order to stop the addiction he replaced it with other addictions. I don't know how I can help but I would suggest to go to a community (a center maybe?) about addictions, in which people talk about this stuff. That's what my psychologist suggested to my father at least.

maybe I should have put it on the intellectual thread. Facepalm

I want to see how many people in this forum believe in determinism or free will. If someone believes in both it's not a problem but personally I don't see how this can be the case. Even if randomness exist and everything is not predetermined, still that doesn't mean there is free will, it's just luck I suspect. So people of this forum, do you have free will? This is a question of curiosity, not a metaphysical serious topic, that's why I put it on this thread. Personaly I vote for determinism

@HojoI am too coward to suicide anyway, I decided to live my life till the end of this perspective.

I think I am one of those men, can't learn game for various brain reasons, no humour etc. . I think I will focus on art, languages and becoming 10% body fat (which may never happen) . Do you really think a ''loser'' can find a gf? I don't think so. It wasn't meant to happen to me, determinism is cruel . If things could improve it would be different, but they can't. I wish I could cry to feel better, but it doesn't come out, LOL. Please note, the advice ''learn game'' doesn't work for me cause my brain is wired differently and I have low IQ. People also tell me I have no low IQ just low self confidence. No, I have low IQ, I know it, I can see it, it's so sad that some people have low IQ. That's why I want to know if reincarnation is real, so I go to the next life, but I am so coward I am going to stay and live this life till the end. I am not a pessimist, I am a realist, if I was high IQ I would not have a problem telling it or keeping it to myself. I really needed to vent. Do you think dying a virgin is a big problem? Are any of you in the same position? how do you cope? Thank you for all the support and answers you give me all this time, this forum is amazing and helpful, thank you so much. Just saying.

@Leo GuraIf someone suicides, will this affect his next life in negative ways? also how long does it take to be born in the next life after death?

that valuable things take time. This is the most important thing that I learned that gave meaning to my life. Then that everything is One so I am everyone and you are everyone.

Idealizing women makes me unnatractive to them. Also it makes me so anxious I forget how to talk and can't look them in the eyes or face in general. How to stop this? Also is it true that the more experience you have with women the less you think they are goddesses and you become more relaxed when you are with them and thus you are more attractive? If yes, how do I get experience if I find them so attractive I can't talk to them? When I see an unattractive woman I have no problem talking to her with ease. I even become bored talking to her pretty quickly. But when I find a woman attractive even if everyone finds her unnatractive I am filtering everything i say at least 5 times and I end up saying nothing and I don't know what they think, they probably think I am weirdo or that I am a snob that doesn't even talk to some people. This life is so hard for me honestly pfff.

Assasin's Creed Odyssey <3 <3 <3

@Leo Gurawith so much misinformation on the internet I don't know what's true and what's not. Is your 3 parts attraction series all I need to know?

I think at 40 you are already at the end of attractiveness, with peak 25-35, 25 being the best, 35 being good and then declining, 40 being at the end.

I have no looks or intelligence. When I was a runner that did also a little muscle workout 10 years ago, many women used to be attracted to me (i know cause they complimented me or talked to me. They didn't talk to me when I hadn't this body fat). They were also taller, rarely much taller. Some even made specific eye expressions that meant they were approachable they were 20-40 years old. I was just an 20 year old autistic kid so I was too scared to approach. Even now I would be scared. Also I had a ''friend'' back then, he was a sociopath although I thought he was a good guy. He was short (166 cm) like me (167 cm). He had and suspect still has so much action with women, even taller than him , you know why, because he was so funny. Being funny means you are intelligent and also make women feel happy. Honestly I start to think that you have to have some looks and intelligence (great humour) or have great looks and zero humour. And even then humour will get you more than great looks. But you still have to have some looks. For real attraction you need no serious money, not great kindness, not great social circle, no great influence and power, you just need some of that, which is easy when you have either looks or some/great looks and intelligence (humour). All these things (money etc) are for long term relationship. But real attraction (which is often short term) you need only these 2 things. I lack the one, and I struggle to get the other. What's your experience? No one can pursuade me looks don't matter, as a short autistic (low IQ) man, looks were the only solution. No one can pursuade me that being extremely funny doesn't work, my short sociopathic ''friend'' that didn't look as good as me (although not bad looking) were extremely attractive to many women his whole life, many more than me although they didn't approach him as much as me. What do you think, is this the only thing that matter? Or other things matter too, for real attraction, not for long term relationship?

relative to me that my brain is low IQ, everyone seems like he/she has superpowers. That being said I really think some people like 1 in 15 are so smart they have superpowers relative to other people. It really depends how you mean it.

As someone that has been physical being bullied for 3 years from 13-16, it's really disturbing that the other 13 year old that destroyed my life didn't go to prison, cause ''these are just kids''. I don't care if you are 8 or 13, if you destroy people you deserve to go to prison, I don't care if it helps them or not. That being said, I am really scared of authorities abusing their power and sending innocent 13+ year old teens to prison. I don't trust the system. Metaphysical speaking, if they are me I am just punishing myself.

I decided to do psychedelics. My reasons, I have autism , inferiority complex, existential curiosity, internet addiction, too many desires and many other things, so I want to overcome these problems (yeah I know autism can't be cured, but I think it can be helped). I want to ask : In what country are they legal? are they expensive? what magic mushrooms or other psychedelics should I do? Where to find them (legally)? How many times should I try them and how long till i try them every new time? Will they help my problems? can i travel alone and do them? how much dose? What should i think or do while I am under their influence? Any other thing I should be worried about? Thank you in advance