Juan Cruz Giusto

Actualized.org Video Summaries!

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  • A Table of Contents for Leo’s Blog can be found at: ✒️📜Leo's Blog: Table of Contents📜🖋️
  • A list of Leo’s Blog Videos and Interviews can be found at: ▶️Blog Videos, Summaries & Interviews▶️
  • There’s an Actualized.org Textbook that was assembled by @Cepzeu and others.  You can download it at: Actualized.org Textbook
    • Summaries that are in the Textbook will say: (book pg XXX)
    • The page numbers refer to v2 of the Textbook
  • Leo’s “20 Dream Killers” article is here
  • The first 200 episodes have transcripts in the video section of Actualized.org
  • If you want to contribute to this thread, select one of the episodes that still needs a summary and post it here


Actualized.org Youtube Episodes:

Episodes:          1 - 250 ⬇️

Episodes:         250 - 490

[x] - summary is done   (pg XX will take you to the summary)

[] - summary is not done


1. [x] How to Invest In Yourself (pg 11)

2. [x] Why Life Coaching Works (pg 11)

3. [] Be Different to Be Successful

4. [x] Get Coached (pg 12)

5. [] Inner Game of Career Development

6. [] The Most Interesting Problem in Philosophy and Science

7. [x] How I Lost 65 Pounds in 5 Months (pg 12)

8. [x] Understanding Resistance (pg 8)

9. [x] Mastery (pg 11) (book pg 140)

10. [] Work Less to Accomplish More

11. [] What's the Worst That Can Happen?

12. [] What a Roman Emperor Can Teach You About Happiness

13. [] The Number One Reason Why You're Not Succeeding

14. [] The Problem of Self-Control

15. [] The Art of Solving Problems Permanently

16. [] How You Must Think About Failure

17. [] Life Purpose - Critical Points For Finding Your Life Purpose 🏜

18. [] As Good As Your Life Will Ever Get 🏞️

19. [] How to Delegate to Your Subconscious Mind

20. [] Garbage In, Garbage Out - Watch Your Information Intake

21. [] The $100 Million Dollar Question

22. [] Positive vs Negative Motivation

23. [] How To Transform Your Entire Life

24. [] Personal Development Blueprint - Intro - Actualized.org

25. [] Personal Development - The Ultimate Vision of What You Can Be

26. [] Life Purpose - The Thrill of Creative Contribution

27. [] Success & Creativity - Why You Should Be More Schizophrenic

28. [] Personal Development - How Your Mind is Like a Rider Atop an Elephant

29. [] Personal Development - Tips About How to Give Advice

30. [] Create an Exciting Life - Your 5 Proudest Moments Exercise

31. [] Happiness & Success - Should You Work on Strengths or Weaknesses?

32. [] Personal Development - Professional vs Hobbiest

33. [] Personal Development Blueprint - Mission Statement

34. [] Personal Development Blueprint - Charged Life

35. [] Personal Development Blueprint - Top 5 Feelings

36. [] Personal Development Blueprint - Eliminate Addictions

37. [] How to Make Your Life Extraordinary - Actualized.org

38. [] How to Do Real Personal Development

39. [] Personal Development Blueprint - Meditation

40. [] How To Become Successful - The Secrets That Everyone Overlooks

41. [] How To Get More Energy - An Approach Nobody Ever Talks About

42. [] How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You - What Guys Really Want

43. [] How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You - What Girls Really Want

44. [] How To Make More Money - Increase Your Income In Career or Business

45. [] How To Become A Life Coach - Every Part of the Process Revealed inDetail

46. [] Benefits of Meditation - Top Reasons To Start Meditating Right Now

47. [] How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert

48. [] What Is The Purpose Of Life? - Use Purpose to Achieve Massive Success

49. [] How To Motivate Employees - Creating Ultra-Productive Workers

50. [] How To Feel Happy - Scientifically Proven Ways of Creating Lasting Happiness

51. [] Productivity Strategies - Are You Prolific?

52. [x] How To Increase Your Results From Self-Help Products by 10x (book pg 206)

53. [] Personal Development Blueprint - Information Intake

54. [] New Years Resolutions - How Getting Back On Track Is A Huge Opportunity

55. [] Self Expression - How To Express Yourself & Find Your Authentic Creative Voice

56. [x] How to Be Happy in Life - Happiness Bottlenecks (pg 13)

57. [] Overcoming Fear - How To Slay Your Greatest Demon

58. [x] Sensitivity - Why Personal Development Is Impossible For You Right Now (pg 15)

59. [x] How To Never Quit - The Key To Reframing The Toughest Obstacles (pg 15)

60. [] How Your Subconscious Holds You Back From Greatness

61. [] Negative Thoughts - The Origin Of Negative Thinking & How To Eliminate It Forever

62. [] How To Succeed In Life - The 6 Key Elements of Phenomenal Success

63. [] Fear Of Public Speaking - The One Key To Overcoming It Forever

64. [] How To Change Your Life - Making BIG Life Changes Actually Stick

65. [] Fear Of Failure - Why We Have It & How To Deal With It

66. [] How To Change Careers - Dealing With The Fear & Transitioning Smart

67. [] How To Stay Focused - The Key To Being Extremely Productive & ClearMinded

68. [] Resume Writing Tips - The Secret Mindset For Writing a Perfect Resume

69. [] How To Stay Motivated To Lose Weight - The Psychology of Weight Loss Success

70. [] How To Stop Worrying - The Fundamentals of Eliminating Worry

71. [] How To Change The World - What It Takes To Have Massive Social Impact

72. [] Personal Power - How Personal Power Creates Success

73. [] SMART Goal Setting - How to Set Extremely Effective Goals

74. [] The Subconscious Mind - Using Your Subconscious Mind to Create Massive Success

75. [] What Is Ego - How Your Ego Dictates Your Entire Life

76. [] How To Get Motivated - Creating a Consistent Drive for High Performance

77. [x] The Law Of Attraction - How It Really Works & How To Use It (pg 11)

78. [] How To Stop Procrastinating - A Step-by-Step Process For Busting The Worst of Procrastination

79. [] How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident

80. [x] Self Actualization - The Most Inspiring Self-Help Concept Of All Time (book pg 37)

81. [] Positive Affirmations - The Tricks of Using Affirmations to Transform Your Life

82. [] What Should I Do With My Life - How To Find Your Passion For Life

83. [] Peak Performance - How To Hit and Maintain Consistent Peak Performance In Life

84. [x] How To Stay Healthy - The Psychology of Maintaining Consistent, Effortless Health (pg 13)

85. [x] Overcoming Adversity - How To Handle The Most Horrific Life Challenges Ever (pg 15)

86. [] How To Become A Vegetarian - Practical Steps You Must Take To Succeed

87. [] How To Control Anger - The Shocking Truth Behind Your Anger Problems

88. [] Positive Psychology - What Is It & How It Can Transform Your Life

89. [x] Self Control - How To Develop Self-Control To Create An Amazing Life (pg 9)

90. [] How To Relieve Stress - Scientifically Proven Stress Relief Techniques

91. [x] How To Be Attractive - The Ultimate Attraction Strategy (pg 2)

92. [x] Why Am I Depressed? - The Shocking Truth Behind Your Depression (pg 12)

93. [x] Profound Quotes #001 - "All Of Humanity's Problems Stem From Man’s..." (pg 12)

94. [] True Vision - I Reveal My Life Purpose Until You Can Feel It 🥲

95. [] Willpower - Scientifically Proven Techniques to Increase Willpower

96. [] Redefining Philosophy - How To Become A Jedi Master

97. [] How To Become Rich - The Number One Reason You're Not Already Rich

98. [] Mindfulness - How To Actually Practice Mindfulness & Conquer Your Emotions

99. [] Profound Quotes #002 - "Specialization Is For Insects"

100. [x] What Is Happiness? - An Extremely Advanced Definition Of Happiness (book pg 60)

101. [] Self Image - The Amazing, Absolute Key To All Personal Growth

102. [] How To Stay Committed To A Cause

103. [] Introvert vs Extrovert - A Deep Understanding Of Introverts And Extroverts

104. [] How To Eat Healthy - Create A Super Healthy Meal In 15 Minutes 🥗

105. [x] How To Be A Man - The Deep Core Of Being Masculine (pg 10)

106. [] Positive Thinking - The Key To Thinking Positive

107. [] Healthy Relationships - What You MUST Know To Sustain A Great Relationship

108. [x] Dream Life - What It Takes To Create An Extraordinary Life (pg 15)

109. [] Best Supplements - What You Must Know About Supplementation 💊

110. [x] Optimism - How To Become Optimisitic Right Now (pg 10)

111. [] Letting Go Of The Past - How To Get Over The Past In Minutes

112. [] How To Find Your Passion - Why You Have No Passion & How To Fix It

113. [] Critical Thinking - Use Independent Thinking To Build A Powerful Life

114. [] How To Motivate Yourself - The Trick Behind Lasting Self-Motivation

115. [x] Emotional Intelligence - Why Your EQ Is More Important Than Your IQ (pg 9)

116. [x] Cause & Purpose - What Are You Willing To Bleed For? (pg 10)

117. [] Id, Ego, Superego - Understanding An Old School Psychology Concept

118. [] Self Help - How Self-Help Can Revolutionize Your Entire Life

119. [] Life Coaching - The Powerful Benefits Of Working With A Life Coach

120. [] How To Start A Business - Bootstrapping A Successful Business

121. [] How To Use Technology To Super-Charge Your Personal Growth

122. [] Time Management - How To Get More Time In Your Day

123. [] State Of The Union - My Camera Dies In Death Valley

124. [x] The Secret - The Truth They Didn't Tell You (pg 13)

125. [] Personal Development Plan - The Essentials Of Getting Results

126. [] How To Love Yourself - How To Like Who You Are Right Now

127. [] How To Feel Good - Re-Designing Your Life To Feel Amazing

128. [] How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now

129. [] True Value - How To Create Success Out Of Nowhere

130. [] The Power Of Routines - How Your Daily Routine Holds You Back From Your Dreams

131. [] Staying Hungry - How To Use Pain For Growth ⚖️

132. [x] Relationship Advice - The Master Plan For Creating An Amazing Relationship (pg 10)

133. [] How To Become A Millionaire - The Truth No One Tells You

134. [] Self Esteem - Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem

135. [] Judgment - How You Ruin Your Own Happiness

136. [x] Profound Quotes #003 - "Children Want Candy; The Intelligent Want Self-Control” - Rumi (pg 9)

137. [] Whatever Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger - True or False? 🚃

138. [] What Women Want In A Man - 5 Factors That Hook Women Like Crack

139. [] How To Make A Girl Squirt - Give Your Girl An Explosive Orgasm

140. [] Positive Attitude - The 3 Pillars To Cultivating Positivity

141. [x] How To Exploit People To Grow Yourself - An Advanced Technique (pg 1) (book pg 269)

142. [] Stress Management - Permanent Solutions For Stress Reduction

143. [] Why I'm A Dick - And Why I Won't Change

144. [] Goal Setting - How To Set Goals Effectively

145. [x] Bad Relationships - How To Break Your Cycle Of Painful Relationships (pg 9)

146. [] Bad Habits - A Live Exercise For Dropping Any Bad Habit For Good

147. [] How To Get A Girlfriend - The Ultimate Guide For Landing A Hot Girlfriend

148. [] How To Forgive Someone - The One Trick That Makes Forgiveness Easy

149. [] Openmindedness - A Huge Overlooked Obstacle To Self Improvement

150. [] How To Make Friends - 4 Sticking-Points That Limit Your Ability To Make Friends

151. [] Good Vs Evil - Why Evil Doesn't Actually Exist

152. [] Communication Skills - The 6 Keys Of Powerful Communication

153. [] Low Self Esteem In Women - Why Women Have Lower Self-Esteem Than Men

154. [x] Visualization - A Powerful Technique For Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind (book pg 203)

155. [] Self Confidence - The Two Essential Avenues For Building Confidence

156. [] Why Women Use You For Money - And How To Never Get Used Again

157. [] Why Men Cheat - And 8 Ways To Keep Your Man Loyal

158. [] How To Follow Advice Without Betraying Yourself

159. [x] How To Master & Control Your Emotions (book pg 201)

160. [] Negative Visualization - An Ancient Stoic Technique For Creating Happiness

161. [x] How To Stop Being A Victim - The #1 Reason You Are Stuck In Life  (pg 15) (book pg 84)

162. [] Spirituality vs Religion - The No-Bullshit Guide To Spirituality

163. [x] Self Discipline vs Freedom - How To Create More Freedom In Your Life (pg 11)

164. [x] How To Deal With Depression - The Key To Breaking Out Of Depression (pg 3)

165. [x] How To Stop Caring What People Think Of You (pg 13) (book pg 199)

166. [] How Science Keeps You Stuck In Life - Exposing Problems With "Scientific" Thinking

167. [] Why Women Fall For Assholes

168. [x] Understanding The Authentic Self - Discovering Who You Really Are (book pg 197)

169. [] How To Deal With Difficult & Toxic People

170. [] Leo's List of Top 140 Self-Help Books 📚

171. [] How To Stop Watching TV - Why You Must Eliminate TV Right Now!

172. [] Luck & Success - Is Luck Important For Being Successful?

173. [] How To Meditate - The No Bullshit Guide to Meditation

174. [] How To Manage Your Money Easily Using This Budget Template

175. [] The Biggest Thing You Should Fear - Halloween Special 👻

176. [] How To Be An Attractive Man - Interview With Dating Coach, TrippAdvice

177. [x] How To Stop Being Lazy - Solutions For Short-term & Long-term Laziness (book pg 196)

178. [] How To Deepen Your Love For Life - A Powerful Exercise

179. [] How To Deal With A Breakup

180. [] Why The Most Successful People Don't Do Personal Development

181. [] How To Have Amazing Sex - Part 1

182. [] The Truth About Passive Income

183. [] How To Practice Gratitude - Xmas 2014 Special 🎄

184. [x] How To Stop Being Jealous - Techniques To End Jealousy Forever (pg 2)

185. [x] Responsibility vs Blame - Why You Are 100% Responsible For Everything (book pg 89)

186. [x] How To Study - The Keys To Acing School & College (pg 2) (book pg 214)

187. [x] Beware Of False Prophets - Stop Worshipping Human Personality (pg 11)

188. [x] What Is Karma? - The No-Bullshit Explanation Of How Karma Works (book pg 140)

189. [] Stop Demonizing People! - Why You Are Wrong For Calling Terrorists Evil

190. [x] Spiritual Enlightenment - The Most SHOCKING Truth You'll Ever Hear (book pg 98)

191. [] What To Do Next After Learning About Enlightenment

192. [x] The Happiness Spectrum - The Best & Worst Kinds Of Happiness (book pg 58)

193. [x] Paradoxes Of Personal Development (book pg 61)

194. [x] Spiritual Enlightenment - Part 2 - Understanding The Conceptualized Self (book pg 100)

195. [] The Secret Curse Of Being Human + Bonus: A True Spiritual Exercise!

196. [] How To Have Amazing Sex (For Women) - Drive Your Man Wild In Bed

197. [x] Enlightenment - Part 3 - Creating An Experience Of No-Self (book pg 101)

198. [x] Enlightenment FAQ - Part 1 - All Your Questions Answered (pg 2) (book pg 246)

199. [x] Enlightenment FAQ - Part 2 (pg 14)

200. [x] All Of Religion Explained In One Video (pg 2) (pg 12) (book pg 112)

201. [] How To Have Amazing Sex - Part 2 - Increasing Intimacy & Dominance

202. [x] Understanding Emotions - Part 1 (book pg 190)

203. [] Feminine vs Masculine Compassion

204. [x] How To Stop Backsliding - How To Stop Procrastinating (pg 10) (book pg 195)

205. [x] How To Become Enlightened - The Exact Step By Step Process Revealed! (book pg 102)

206. [x] How To Be A Leader - Leadership Secrets Revealed! (book pg 188)

207. [] How To Stop Being A Workaholic

208. [x] How To Meditate Deeper (pg 8)

209. [x] Science vs Religion - The Absurdity Revealed! (book pg 186)

210. [x] How To Create Your Dream Career - The Ultimate Life Purpose Course (pg 15)

211. [x] How To Unleash Your Ambition - Must-Watch For Ambitious People (pg 1) (book pg 82)

212. [x] How To Get Shit Done - The Inner Game Of Being A Results-Maker (pg 1) (book pg 80)

213. [] My Enlightenment Experience - Exactly How It Happened

214. [x] Lower vs Higher Self - Understanding Your Two-Faced Nature (book pg 184)

215. [x] Using Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs To Self-Actualize (book pg 35)

216. [x] Masculinity vs Femininity - Psychology Of The Male & Female Mind (book pg 182)

217. [x] Meditation Techniques: Do Nothing - The Simplest Meditation Possible (pg 1) (book pg 124)

218. [x] Meditation On Steroids - How To Get The FASTEST Meditation Gains (book pg 127)

219. [x] The Grand Model Of Psychological Evolution - Clare Graves & Spiral Dynamics (book pg 52)

220. [] Being A Spiritual Seeker, Good or Bad?

221. [x] One Simple Rule For Acing Life (book pg 49)

222. [] How To Be Funny - Comprehensive Guide To Developing A Sense of Humor

223. [x] Contemplating Your Own Death - To Stay Motivated For Life (book pg 181)

224. [] How To Deal With Criticism, Trolls, and Haters

225. [x] Avoiding Dysfunctional & Abusive Relationships - 30+ Red Flags (pg 15)

226. [x] Advice For High School & College Students - The Keys To Mastering Life (book pg 204)

227. [] Curing Perfectionism - How To Stop Being A Perfectionist

228. [x] Mindfulness Meditation - A Complete Guide With Techniques & Examples (pg 15)

229. [x] A Vision For The Self Actualized Life - Get Yo Ass Inspired! (book pg 21)

230. [] How To Overcome Creative Blocks & Writer's Block

231. [x] How To Deal With Strong Negative Emotions (pg 14) (book pg 43)

232. [x] Radical Openmindedness - How To Break Free Of Dogma & Beliefs (book pg 94)

233. [x] 30 Ways Society Fucks You In The Ass (pg 1) (book pg 54)

234. [x] How You Lie - All Your Dirty, Sneaky Lies & Manipulations Exposed! (pg 8) (book pg 135)

235. [x] 40 Signs That You Are Neurotic - Understanding Neurosis  (pg 1) (book pg 178)

236. [] How To Stop Judging Yourself

237. [] The Challenges Of Making Bold Life Changes

238. [x] Understanding Awareness - The Staggering Depth Of Your Unawareness Revealed (pg 1) (book pg 39)

239. [x] Free Will vs Determinism - Does Free Will Exist? (book pg 176)

240. [] A Rant Against The Pickup Community - Must Watch For All PUAs

241. [x] The Ultimate Model Of Human Knowledge - All Knowledge Explained! (pg 12) (book pg 66)

242. [x] The Most Important Commitment You Can Make + Huge Announcement (pg 1) (book pg 230)

243. [x] 27 Qualities Of All Successful People (pg 2) (book pg 209)

244. [x] The Enlightened Self - A Description Of Your Existential Nature (pg 1) (book pg 105)

245. [x] Fake Growth vs Real Growth - What If You're Just Tricking Yourself? (pg 1) (book pg 26)

246. [x] How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others (pg 1) (book pg 227)

247. [x] How To Be A Strategic Motherfucker - The 7 Pillars Of Strategic Thinking (pg 1)  (pg 7) (book pg 76)

248. [x] Why Rationality Is WRONG! - A Critique Of Rationalism (pg 1) (book pg 174)

249. [x] The Power Of Self Acceptance - How To Stop Beating Yourself Up (pg 1) (book pg 173)

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             Actualized.org Youtube Episodes (#250 - #490)

250. [x] The Benefits Of Enlightenment  (pg 14) (book pg 259)

251. [x] 3 Step Formula To Be Ruthlessly Effective At Anything (pg 15) (book pg 219)

252. [x] Overcoming Addiction - The Root Cause Of Every Addiction (pg 1) (pg 4) (book pg 44)

253. [x] How Your Mind Distorts Reality - Needy vs Non-Needy Perception (pg 4) (book pg 90)

254. [x] Enlightenment Guided Inquiry - The Neti Neti Method (book pg 106)

255. [x] Grasping The Illusory Nature Of Thought (pg 4) (book pg 93)

256. [x] Lifestyle Minimalism - Renouncing Your Busy Stupid Life (pg 4) (book pg 47)

257. [x] How To Stop Being A Victim - Part 2 - What All Victims Fail To Understand (pg 14) (book pg 87)

258. [x] A Rant Against Morality - Very Foundational (pg 4) (book pg 167)

259. [x] How To Stop Moralizing - Removing The SHOULDs From Your Life (pg 4) (book pg 170)

260. [x] Meditation For Beginners (pg 4) (book pg 264)

261. [x] Awareness Alone Is Curative - How To Auto-Correct Unwanted Behaviors (pg 4) (book pg 42)

262. [x] Be Fucking Patient! - How To Deal With Lack Of Results (pg 4) (book pg 50)

263. [x] The Psychology Of Small Business Success - Top 5 Errors Of Aspiring Entrepreneurs (pg 4) (book pg 220)

264. [x] 10 Important Things You Don't Know You Want (pg 4) (book pg 138)

265. [x] You're Not Happy Because You Don't Really Want To Be (pg 4) (book pg 165)

266. [x] The 3 Levels Of Personal Development Work (pg 4) (book pg 31)

267. [] The Amazing Power Of Psychedelics - Leo Does Magic Psilocybin Mushrooms!

268. [x] How To Use Psychedelics For Personal Development (pg 11) (book pg 207)

269. [] Guided Meditation - The Next Level Of Meditation

270. [x] The Paradox Of Developing Self-Trust (pg 4) (book pg 244)

271. [x] How To Be A Man - Part 2 (Advanced Version) (pg 10)

272. [x] The 64 Most Fascinating Questions A Human Can Ask (pg 4) (book pg 160)

273. [x] What's Wrong With Ego? (book pg 162)

274. [] What Is God? - Leo Becomes Absolute Infinity (Aka God) - All Of Reality Explained

275. [] 5-MeO-DMT - The Magic Pill To Enlightenment & God

276. [x] Low Quality vs High Quality Consciousness (pg 4) (book pg 24)

277. [x] The Dark Side Of Meditation (pg 4) (book pg 157)

278. [x] The Mechanics Of Belief (pg 4) (book pg 154)

279. [x] How To Harness Your Intuition (pg 4) (book pg 262)

280. [x] The Trap Of Projection, Especially Onto Teachers & Mentors (pg 10)

281. [x] A Rant Against Culture (pg 4)

282. [x] Money Psychology - The Inner Game of Mastering Money (pg 4) (book pg 222)

283. [] Using 5-MeO-DMT To Become Enlightened - Interview With Martin Ball

284. [x] How To Deal With Confusion (pg 4) (book pg 33)

285. [x] Becoming A Sage - A New Vision For Actualized.org & You! (pg 4) (book pg 23)

286. [x] Mystical Traditions Around The World - Nonduality Goes Cosmopolitan! (book pg 110)

287. [x] Becoming A Zen Devil - The Dangers Of Half-Assing Enlightenment (pg 4) (book pg 107)

288. [x] Uncovering Your Childhood Vows - Unwire Your Neurotic Personality (book pg 122)

289. [x] The Pre-mortem Technique - The Trick To Avoiding Project Failure (pg 4)

290. [x] How To Control Anger - Part 2 - Understanding Evil To Death (pg 4) (book pg 153)

291. [x] A Rant Against Naive Realism - Reality Is NOT Physical! (pg 4) (book pg 151)

292. [x] How I Do Research & Develop Big Picture Understanding  (pg 2) (pg 4) (book pg 132)

293. [] The Launch Of Infinite Insights - Leo's Blog!

294. [x] The Role Of Balance In Personal Development (pg 4) (book pg 63)

295. [x] Dropping The Roles You Play (pg 4)

296. [] The Gallery Of Absolute Infinity 🎆

297. [x] Build Your Infrastructure For Success (pg 4) (book pg 149)

298. [x] AL-LAD Trip Report - A Powerful Tool For Consciousness Work (pg 10)

299. [x] Understanding How Paradigms Work (pg 4) (book pg 68)

300. [x] Contemplation - The Most Important Tool For Sages (pg 4) (book pg 128)

301. [x] Concentration vs Meditation - How To Develop Concentration (pg 4) (book pg 126)

302. [x] The Big Picture Of Self-Actualization (pg 4) (book pg 18)

303. [x] True vs False Skepticism (pg 4) (book pg 72)

304. [] Leo's Super Healthy Blueberry Smoothie 🫐

305. [x] The Highest Hero's Journey - What It Means To Be Real Hero (pg 4) (book pg 130)

306. [x] Leo's Super Healthy Vegetable Soup 🍲 (pg 9)

307. [x] Understanding Default Positions (pg 4) (book pg 147)

308. [] Leo's Solo Meditation Retreat - 90 Hours Of Nonstop Meditation In The Forest 🏕

309. [x] Balancing Theory vs Practice (pg 4) (book pg 29)

310. [x] How To Deal With Loneliness - Especially While Self-Actualizing (book pg 145)

311. [x] How To Get Started With Self Actualization - Over 40 Techniques (book pg 19)

312. [] 2C-B Trip Report - Experiencing Physical Death

313. [x] Intro To Systems Thinking (pg 4) (book pg 142)

314. [x] Why People Seem Crazy (pg 4) (book pg 119)

315. [] Subtle Addictions

316. [] Successful People Are Not Happy

317. [] Making Sense Of Paranormal Phenomena & Psychic Powers

318. [x] Understanding Absolute Infinity - Part 1 (pg 3)

319. [] Understanding Absolute Infinity - Part 2

320. [x] What Is Art? - Understanding The Essence Of Art (pg 8)

321. [] Setting Proper Expectations

322. [] Leo Hits Rock Bottom - EVERYTHING Understood

323. [x] Learning = Behavior Change (pg 4) (book pg 274)

324. [x] No Growth Possible Without Training (pg 4) (book pg 217)

325. [x] Understanding Meaning, Purpose, & Value 🍌 (pg 4)

326. [x] Distraction - The Ego's Favorite Defense Mechanism (pg 9)

327. [x] What Is The Devil? - The Mechanics Of Evil (pg 3)

328. [x] How To Raise Rockstar Kids (pg 8)

329. [] Correcting The Stigma Of Psychedelics - Part 1

330. [] Learning = Observation

331. [] Correcting The Stigma Of Psychedelics - Part 2

332. [] The Topic Of Mindfuckery

333. [x] Advanced Tips For Self-Inquiry (pg 3)

334. [x] Building Your Existential Vocabulary (pg 4)

335. [] How To Keep The Ultimate Journal (Commonplace Book) + LIVE DEMO 📖

336. [x] Comprehension Has Many Degrees (pg 13)

337. [x] Why Brains Do Not Exist (pg 7)

338. [] Reality Is A Strange Loop - The Beauty Of Paradox + GRAPHICS 🪢 

339. [] The Theme Of Things Going Full-Circle

340. [x] Motivational Speech For Building A Passionate Life (pg 4) (book pg 15)

341. [x] The Deep Problem Of Marketing (pg 3) (pg 4) (book pg 270)

342. [x] Jacques Derrida, Deconstruction, Post-Modernism & Nonduality (pg 4)

343. [x] All Criticism Is Untenable (pg 4) (pg 10)

344. [x] Self-Deception - Part 1 (pg 2) (book pg 231)

345. [x] Self Deception - Part 2 - 60+ Self-Deception Mechanisms (pg 2) (book pg 234)

346. [] Enlightenment Experience Happening In Real Time - LIVE! 🛋️

347. [x] Enlightenment Experience Explanation & Key Lessons (pg 3) (book pg 266)

348. [x] Self-Deception - Part 3  (pg 2) (book pg 237)

349. [] Hitler Reacts To Nonduality / Enlightenment - FUNNY!

350. [] Life Is A Dream

351. [x] How To Shop For Healthy Food (pg 3)

352. [] My Deepest Awakening Yet - Becoming Infinite

353. [] The Importance Of Real Yoga

354. [] Quantum Mechanics Debunks Materialism - Part 1

355. [] Quantum Mechanics Debunks Materialism - Part 2

356. [] Comprehending The Magnitude Of Reality

357. [] Metaphysical Implications Of Godel's Incompleteness Theorem - Part 1

358. [x] Understanding Islam - What Most People Misunderstand (pg 12)

359. [x] Shamanic Breathing Technique + LIVE DEMO 🧘🏻‍♀️ (pg 8)

360. [x] Collective Ego - Understanding The Egoic Dynamics Of Social Systems (pg 12)

361. [] Going Buddha - 30 Day Meditation Challenge

362. [x] What Is Consciousness? - All Questions Answered (pg 2)

363. [] What Is Intelligence? - Infinite Intelligence Explained

364. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Stage Blue (pg 5) (book pg 275)

365. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Stage Orange (pg 5) (book pg 275)

366. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Stage Green (pg 5) (book pg 275)

367. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Stage Yellow (pg 5) (book pg 275)

368. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Stage Turquoise (pg 5) (book pg 275)

369. [x] Understanding Recontextualization (pg 3)

370. [x] How To Contemplate Using A Journal (pg 10)

371. [x] Sameness vs Difference - The Metaphysical Foundation Of Reality (pg 13)

372. [x] How Ideology Works (pg 12)

373. [] Life Is A Maze

374. [x] What Is Spirituality? - A No-Bullshit Intro To Spirituality (pg 3)

375. [x] How To Escape Wage Slavery (book pg 224)

376. [] Body Awareness - How To Relax Your Body

377. [x] What Is Love? - Advanced Spiritual Explanation (pg 2)

378. [x] 35+ Subfields Of Self-Help (pg 3)

379. [] What Is Actuality? - Distinguish Direct Experience vs Concept

380. [x] Mankind Is The Bullshitting Animal (pg 3)

381. [x] Nootropics - Top Supplements For Increasing Mental Performance (pg 12)

382. [] The Radical Implications Of Oneness (Halloween Edition) 🎃

383. [x] 65 Core Principles Of Living The Good Life (pg 3)

384. [x] What Is Perception? - The Metaphysics Of Perception (pg 4) (book pg 254)

385. [] Spiral Dynamics - Important Insights & Nuances

386. [x] The Ten Ox-Herding Pictures - Zen’s Stages of Enlightenment Explained (pg 4)

387. [] The Counter-Intuitive Nature Of Life

388. [x] Understanding Ego Backlash (pg 14)

389. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Areas Of Application (pg 5) (book pg 276)

390. [x] How To Do Self-Inquiry (pg 10)

391. [x] Cult Psychology - Part 1 - How Cults Work (pg 7)

392. [x] Cult Psychology - Part 2 - The Big Picture (pg 8)

393. [x] What Is God? - Part 1 - A No Bullshit Explanation For Smart People (pg 4)

394. [x] What Is God? - Part 2 - Clear Answers To 70+ Commonly Asked Questions (pg 4)

395. [] Aztec Nonduality - Profound Life Lessons From Aztec Philosophy

396. [] Leaving On 30-Day Solo Retreat

397. [] Becoming God - Insights From 13 Back-to-Back Awakenings

398. [x] Understanding Duality - Part 1 - Master List of 250+ Dualities (pg 5)

399. [] Understanding Duality - Part 2 - Scientific Dualities

400. [] Understanding Duality - Part 3 - Existential Dualities

401. [x] Life Unfolds In Chapters & Phases (pg 6)

402. [x] The Power Of Asking Questions (pg 7)

403. [x] What Is The Point Of Life? - An Advanced, Life-Changing Explanation (pg 9)

404. [x] Understanding Survival - Part 1 - The Metaphysics Of Being Human (pg 7)

405. [x] Understanding Survival - Part 2 - Advanced Insights About Survival (pg 7)

406. [x] Understanding Relativism - Part 1 (pg 7)

407. [] What Is Reality? - A Radical Explanation

408. [x] How Authority Works - Where Does Truth Come From? (pg 5)

409. [x] Conscious Politics - Part 1 - The Deepest Political Analysis You'll Ever Hear (pg 5)

410. [x] Conscious Politics - Part 2 - Foundational Insights About Political Ideology (pg 6)

411. [x] Conscious Politics - Part 3 - The Core Principles Of Conscious Politics (pg 6)

412. [x] Conscious Politics - Part 4 - 100+ Specific Policy Proposals (pg 11)

413. [x] Self-Bias - Why All Worldviews Are So Skewed (pg 7)

414. [x] What Is Truth? - The Definitive Answer (pg 7)

415. [] The Power Of Letting Go - How To Overcome Clinginess, Attachment, OCD

416. [x] What Is Love? - Part 2 - The Brutal Nature Of Love (pg 6)

417. [x] How Fear Works - Part 1 - The Ultimate Guide To Dealing With Fear (pg 6) (pg 10)

418. [x] How Fear Works - Part 2 - The Ultimate Guide To Dealing With Fear (pg 6) (pg 10)

419. [x] Understanding Impermanence - Why Reality Is Always Changing (pg 6)

420. [] Announcement - Actualized.org Launching On Patreon + Vision For The Future

421. [x] The Many Facets Of Awakening - List of Top 30 Enlightenment Insights (pg 7)

422. [x] How Corruption Works (pg 6)

423. [] The Dangers Of Spiritual Work

424. [x] How To Discover What's True - A Deep Inquiry (pg 13)

425. [x] Content vs Structure - Going Meta Is A Super-power (pg 15)

426. [x] What Is Death? - How Immortality Works (pg 8)

427. [] Self-Love - The Highest Teaching In The Universe

428. [x] Division vs Unity - The Engine That Runs Reality (pg 8)

429. [] Why Reality CANNOT Be A Simulation - A Clear Answer 🎁

430. [] Reproduction Is An Illusion - Why It Doesn't Matter If You Have Kids 🤶

431. [] Total Awakening Live In Real Time - Part 1 📦

432. [] Total Awakening Live In Real Time - Part 2 🛋️

433. [x] Explicit vs Implicit Understanding (pg 7)

434. [] How Psychedelics Work - Making Sense Of Psychedelics

435. [x] How Society Evolves - Introducing The World Values Survey (pg 9)

436. [] I'm Leaving To Pursue Awakening & Healing - March 2020

437. [x] Outrageous Experiments In Consciousness - 30 Awakenings In 30 Days (pg 8)

438. [] How Openmindedness Works - Exercises To Open Your Mind

439. [x] Life Advice For Young People - Part 1 (pg 8)

440. [x] How To Forgive Anyone Who Hurt You - A Powerful Trauma Release Exercise (pg 15)

441. [] Learning = Making Distinctions - The Secret To Rapid & Deep Learning

442. [x] Life Advice For Young People - Part 2 (pg 8)

443. [] The Ultimate Structure Of Reality Explained

444. [] Understanding Democracy & Authoritarianism

445. [] Why Libertarianism Is Nonsense - Deconstructing Freedom

446. [] What If Reality Is Nothing But Perspective?

447. [] Why Is There Something Rather Than Nothing?

448. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Stage Red (pg 9)

449. [x] Spiral Dynamics - Stage Purple (pg 14)

450. [x] The 9 Stages Of Ego Development - Part 1 (pg 9)

451. [x] The 9 Stages Of Ego Development - Part 2 (pg 9)

452. [x] The 9 Stages Of Ego Development - Part 3 (pg 9)

453. [x] The Trap Of The Toxic Life Purpose (pg 9)

454. [x] Developing Introspection - The Solution To The Problem Of Self-Deception (pg 9)

455. [x] The Sneaky Psychology Behind Conspiracy Theories (pg 9)

456. [] What Is Actualized.org? - The Big Picture of Personal Development

457. [] Guided Exercises For Understanding Infinite Consciousness

458. [x] Deconstructing The Myth Of Science - Part 1 (pg 12)

459. [x] Deconstructing The Myth Of Science - Part 2 (pg 12)

460. [x] Deconstructing The Myth Of Science - Part 3 (pg 12)

461. [x] Should You Go To College? - Common Traps & Mistakes (pg 10)

462. [] What Is Goodness? - Good & Morality Fully Explained

463. [] Guided Exercise For Realizing You Are God

464. [x] What Is Wisdom? - The Ultimate Guide To Wisdom (pg 10)

465. [x] What Are Holons? - Understanding Holism - Part 1 (pg 10)

466. [x] Holism & Holistic Thinking - Part 1 (pg 11)

467. [x] Holism & Holistic Thinking - Part 2 (pg 11)

468. [x] What It Means To "Go Meta” (pg 12)

469. [] Is Actualized.org a Cult?

470. [x] What Is Integrity? - The Role Of Integrity In Life (pg 10)

471. [x] How Survival Shapes Who You Are (pg 14)

472. [] Is Gender A Social Construct? - A Profound Explanation

473. [] Making Sense of Jordan Peterson

474. [] An Advanced Explanation of God Realization

475. [] The Dangers of Misapplying Spiritual Teachings 🕯️🫂

476. [x] Understanding and Coping with Nihilism (pg 15)

477. [] How Modern Branding Exploits and Abuses You

478. [] Expose Yourself to More Experience

479. [] Not Everything Can Be Explained Simply

480. [] Why God Forgives Devilry

481. [x] How Your Mind Interprets Reality (pg 13)

481. [] Relative vs Absolute Truth

482. [] The Social Matrix - How Society Is A Mass Hallucination

483. [x] The Top Dangers Of Using Psychedelics (pg 14)

484. [x] The Root Solution To People Pleasing & Loneliness (pg 14)

485. [] Satisfaction Meditation - How To Make Meditation Enjoyable!

486. [] What Does Awakening Feel Like?

487. [] Everyone Acts From Good Intentions

488. [] Why Valuable Things Require Development Over Time

489. [] Understanding Bias - Bias, Love, & Mind Explained 🐐

490. [] Life, It's All A Mind Game!

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11 minutes ago, FlyingLotus said:





But Leo, how come you're omniscient and don't know that the delivery guy comes into the scene after 5 minutes? How come you have to check the camera's battery life????

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"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

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4 hours ago, Loving Radiance said:
4 hours ago, FlyingLotus said:



That goat should become the Actualized.org mascot 🤣




But Leo, how come you're omniscient and don't know that the delivery guy comes into the scene after 5 minutes? How come you have to check the camera's battery life????

That part of the video was so funny and random.


4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

@FlyingLotus Awesome work!

You're very welcome Leo.  It's all a labour of love.  Just like Life. 

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       This episode gives you a practice you can use to apply the insights from The Root Solution To People Pleasing & Loneliness.  (Summary is here.)  It’s a very simple, but effective meditation technique that’s somewhat counter-intuitive.   It helps answer…

“But Leo, how do I practice becoming satisfied by myself?  How do I embody not needing any kind of external validation?  How do I apply the wisdom that chasing dopamine hits is a bad strategy for happiness?”    

       The point of the Satisfaction Meditation is to take back control of your reward mechanism.  Currently, your happiness usually depends on rewards from someone else (love, praise, attention, etc) or some external event (a promotion, lots of money, a hot date, no lineups at the DMV.)  With the Satisfaction Meditation, we want to develop a practice of just sitting, being and not doing anything.  Just basking in satisfaction.  It’s the idea of just basking in the present moment and being deeply satisfied with it.  That’s it.  It’s literally that simple.

       There are two potential traps.  First, you have to practice it.  Second, your mind doesn't like feeling satisfied with “just existing and being, duuuude.”  Your mind wants to do things and fantasize about stuff.  It has ambitions, fears, problems that it wants to fixate on endlessly.  All of that robs you of your natural joy.


The Satisfaction Meditation

       Meditation starts at 3:22.  It will take 10 minutes.

  1. Set aside all distractions and take a comfy seat.
  2. Sit with your eyes open.
  3. Relax your muscles.
  4. Now, you’re just going to sit there.
  5. Don’t try to manipulate or control anything in your experience.  Don’t try to stop your thoughts or achieve a mystical experience.
  6. Just sit there and be fully satisfied.  Allow yourself to be satisfied with the present.
  7. Keep gently nudging yourself to be satisfied with the Now, with just this moment.
  8. Notice if there's a positive, joyful feeling in your body.  Maybe it’s a feeling of comfort.  Enjoy the feeling, but don’t hinge your satisfaction on it.  If you sit long enough you might start feeling uncomfortable and you still want to be fundamentally satisfied.

       That’s It!  Think you can you do that?

       Normally your mind wants to fixate on the future or the past because that’s where your problems exist.  You then lose touch with the beauty, calm and peace that’s present, in the moment, because it's not relevant to your survival plans.

       We usually take the present moment for granted.  So, you might notice a subtle shift as you bring your awareness into the now.  Proactively start to appreciate and enjoy your direct experience. Keep nudging yourself to feel satisfied with it.  (The present is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present 🎁🧀)


Enjoyable Meditation??

       The enjoyment from the Satisfaction Meditation doesn’t feel like ecstatic, dopamine-fuelled pleasure.  It feels like relaxing into the moment.  “Ahhh 😌, it’s nice to just sit here and be peaceful.  It’s nice not needing to chase an outcome or solve some problem.  Ahhhhhh ⛱️.”

       So basically, you’re going to find satisfaction with being and existing.  During this period of 10, 20 (or 60, 90 💪) minutes you’re just going to focus on being satisfied.

       If you practice this frequently you’ll notice a subtle shift. Before when you meditated you didn't really enjoy it, but now when you meditate you actually enjoy it!  It’s not a chore, or a grind!

       The Satisfaction Meditation can create a positive feedback loop, because the satisfaction will start to build on itself.

⁍ Focusing on feeling satisfied in the present moment…helps you…

⁍  Realize you actually are satisfied…which creates a…

⁍  Feeling of satisfaction about being satisfied and your ability to recognize it.  (“Wow!  Leo’s weird meditation actually works!!”)…which causes an…

⁍  Increase in satisfaction that builds up that feeling even more…which helps with…

⁍  Focusing on feeling satisfied in the present moment…

…So just continue to sit there, and become ever more deeply satisfied…


       -After that, it’s a matter of staying in the sweet spot of satisfaction for as long as you can.  Try to keep your awareness there.


       -The Satisfaction Meditation shows you that being satisfied and happy is something you get to do right nowHappiness is not something you have to chase after!  If you really practice it intensely, it can turn into deep joy, bliss and love.  You can become so satisfied with just sitting in the present moment, not needing anything, that it brings tears to your eyes.

       -You can make this a formal sit down practice that you do everyday or a few times a week.  Or, you can turn this into an entire week-long meditation retreat, where you’re just sitting, being satisfied and not doing anything else.


The Sneaky Ego-Mind

       -Warning: your ego-mind will start to get sneaky…

“Psssst…hey you…sitting there doing nothing…your to-do list ain’t getting any shorter…"

“Wouldn't this moment be better if you had some drugs, or sex, or chocolate?  Or friends?  Or a mystical experience?  Or a mystical, drug fuelled, sexperience with friends?  Or at least a yummmy nummmy cookie…?”

       -You have to let go of those fantasies and just savour what’s right here in the present moment.  Stop trying to chase for a better experience.  Your mind is going to imagine all sorts of “better” scenarios.  For now, focus on the present.  You can spend the rest of your non-meditation time chasing goals and doing stuff.

“But Leo, what if I can't be satisfied in the moment?  That hottie ghosted me!  I got a parking ticket!  I have a project due tomorrow!  I’ve got bills to pay, kids to feed, a hottie to resent and stalk on instagram.  I needs me some enlightenment, pronto!”

       -Well, the challenge is to try.  Your mind might resist and come up with excuses, at first.  You have to notice that those are tricks of your mind.  You have to just let those go. (ep: The Power of Letting Go)  Let go of needing things to be different.  Allow yourself to be satisfied with what's here right now.  Focus on that satisfaction.  Enjoy it.

       -This meditation is powerful because the whole point is to be happy right now.  Other meditations are such a chore that they become difficult to practice consistently.  They’re a frustrating means to some future happiness or enlightenment, which becomes counterproductive.

       Instead of dreading meditation, you’ll look forward to it because you get to just sit and be happy for 30-60 mins!  It’s the same reason you sit down to play 🦊Ghost of Tsushima 🐥 isn’t it?


Spirituality Is Not Supposed To Be A Grind

       -If you're just grinding through meditation, that's a signal you're doing it wrong.  It’s hard to reach mystical states through meditation when you don't enjoy the process.  It takes hundreds, sometimes thousands of hours of just sitting and being present in order to reach that.  How do you plan on keeping that up if you don’t enjoy it?

       Reframe how you think about your meditation practice so that you can bask in the enjoyment.  Whether it’s the Do Nothing technique or Neti Neti or just counting your breaths, enjoy the process. That’s crucial.        

       -Making spirituality all about productivity and attaining some idealized future to avoid the present is a corruption of what spirituality is truly about.  If your spiritual practice isn't aligned with joy and a satisfaction with existence, then there's something deeply askew.

       You could also broaden that lesson out to the entire process of self-actualization and personal development and even your career or life purpose as well.


People Pleasing and Loneliness

     “But Leo, how does being satisfied with nothing connect to people pleasing and loneliness?”

       -People pleasing happens because you need others to fill you with love.  You're not satisfied with things the way they are, so you do a lot of work to get praise and approval from others.  It becomes an addiction.

       On top of that, you’re never fully satisfied even when you do get their validation.  The afterglow of praise doesn’t last very long and it doesn't deeply fulfill you.  If you're not fundamentally happy, you'll probably doubt or criticize their praise.  “She didn’t really have a good time.  She was just being polite.”  “Okay, he complimented my hair, but what about my outfit?  He probably just wants to get laid.”  And so forth.  


       -Loneliness happens when you imagine that the present moment could be improved by having more people around you, or people to talk to, be intimate with, share experiences with and so forth.  It’s similar to people pleasing in that way.


        The solution is to ground yourself in being satisfied with existence, by strengthening your Satisfaction Muscle.  That why you do the Satisfaction Meditation!

        You'll notice that you don’t feel lonely while you're doing the Satisfaction Meditation, because you're satisfied with existence itself.  You don't need anyone else or anything more.  You’re alone, but you're not lonely.

        Developing the deep capacity for satisfaction helps you to be non-needy and detached.  It will augment the joy you do get from relationships.   

        -This isn’t a license to become a recluse.  This doesn’t mean you never socialize or be intimate with other people.  That would be a mistake.  You should cultivate relationships, just not while you’re meditating.


Your Satisfaction Muscle

       -The Satisfaction Meditation will help you build your Satisfaction Muscle, which is your ability to appreciate and be happy with the moment just as it is.  The effect of building your Satisfaction Muscle will spillover into other areas of your life.  You will become happier, because you’ll be the source of happiness itself.

       It’s the kind of joy that most people overlook, because it's not a sharp peak in pleasure.  It's not like a drug high or an orgasm.  It's a very steady, even keeled contentment.  It’s mild at first, but you can train it to levels of deep pleasure.  The satisfaction can even turn into ecstatic levels of joy and bliss.  Ultimately it can even turn into love.

       Why love?   Because, you’ll start to fall in love with existence itself.  That’s the rock bottom of this practice.  Just a love of being conscious of being conscious of the eternal Now.

       With enough practice, you’ll start experiencing mystical states and even some satoris.  Awakenings will happen as you sit there.  You’ve stopped chasing them, but they’ll start happening because you've fully surrendered to the present moment.


      -As you build up your Satisfaction Muscle , you can go out into the world and apply the Satisfaction Meditation to everyday situations, like filing paperwork, grocery shopping, waiting in line at the DMV, etc.  Usually you’d be irritated while sitting in traffic, but instead you can let go of your impatience and turn that into a Satisfaction Meditation.  Also, when you go for a walk in the park, you can really be there and enjoy the beauty that’s all around you instead of being stuck in your head.


Spirituality & Embracing The Now

      -Spirituality is the ability to cultivate your love for existence itself and be satisfied with whatever IS. It’s about developing an appreciation and satisfaction with the present that will carry over into every moment of your life.

       -Ordinarily we ignore the present moment as we go about surviving in the world.  We get distracted trying to solve some problem or chase some goal, just to improve how existence feels.  That can lead to anxiety and worry.

       Instead, practice being happy right now, for no good reason.  Isn't that how you imagine you’d be if you were awakened?  Think of it like this:

  • If you can just sit and allow yourself to be content, do you even need enlightenment?
  • Do you really need mystical experiences?
  • What more do you want, but satisfaction?
  • Why not short circuit all of that and go straight to the satisfaction?

       -You’re chasing these experiences because you believe they will satisfy you.  What if you don't need to jump through all these hoops?

      The present moment is Absolute Truth.  It’s God.  Love.  Spirit.  Consciousness.  Nirvana.  Shunyata.  Teotl.  Fana.  Shiva.  The Groundless Ground.  Mu.  The Tao.  The Force.  It’s right here, right now.  It’s just a matter of developing the ability to become conscious of it.


The Trap of Chasing Enlightenment

"But Leo, if I'm just sitting here satisfied and that’s the bulk of my meditation, will I ever reach enlightenment?  Where's my awakening?  I wanna be wise goddamn it!!”

       -No meditation can guarantee you will become enlightened.  If you’ve been doing a lot of pushing during meditation for months and years, and you’re still not enlightened, maybe you need to try something new?

       Don’t fixate on achieving some mystical state or becoming enlightened while you meditate. If you have that attitude, even at the back of your mind, you're not doing it right.  It’s important you let that attachment go.  Just be satisfied with the present moment.

       You’re chasing some future fantasy, which is not what awakening is about.  The anxiety of pushing for a result is sabotaging your ability to be present.  


       -You might do this especially if you’ve attained crazy high peaks of consciousness through psychedelics.  You can override that impatience by focusing on being satisfied with what is.  Meditation is its own end, and in this case, meditation is about savouring satisfaction.

       ⦿ What you really want is to be more present.

       If you’re constantly trying to achieve a mystical experience, you’re distracted by anticipating some future result.  That takes you out of the present moment.  Worrying and anticipating are future oriented fantasies.  It distracts you from your practice and becomes counter-productive.


       ⦿ Chasing becomes frustrating.

       With a chasing mindset, meditation can feel like a waste if you don’t “achieve enlightenment in 30 minutes.”  You might even shame yourself, which creates a negative association to your meditation practice.

       The meditation becomes another means to an end, when it should be the end itself.  If you're chasing some fantasy state with meditation, that ensures you're never going to be satisfied with most of your meditations.


       ⦿ Chasing happiness makes you unhappy.

       Unhappiness is imagining there’s something you should have, but don’t have, and that having it is the only way to become happy.  This ensures you'll be unhappy until you get that thing, and even if you do get it you’ll only be happy for a moment.


       -True happiness is nothing more than being satisfied with exactly what is happening right here, right now, whatever that might be.  That's the root of happiness.  So, the counter-intuitive move here is to short circuit that whole process.  To say, “why can't I be satisfied right now?” and then actually practice that.

       -Turn this into a quasi-challenge for yourself.  How satisfied can I be with nothing special?  How satisfied can I be with raw existence as it is, without needing to change anything?


Satisfaction and Productivity

       The Satisfaction Meditation is harder than it sounds, because we often don't allow ourselves to be “happy for no reason.”

“But Leo, being happy is going to rob me of my motivation!  If I can be happy doing nothing, then why would I keep working on Wall Street or on my business or chasing millions of babes and dollars…?”

       One could argue that being satisfied is counterproductive to survival.  Counterintuitively, that’s a good thing that you actually want.

       First, being happy makes you smarter, more resilient, more observant and more capable in a multitude of ways, which makes it easier to achieve goals.  Happiness actually fuels success.  It’s not the other way around.  (Shawn Achor has a lot of good books and lectures about this subject.  )

       Second, if you’re honest, has any of that activity ever made you truly satisfied?  No.  It's just put you on an endless treadmill of chasing chasing chasing.  If you keep that up you’re going to waste your whole life chasing stuff and never being satisfied.

       Dopamine tricks your mind into the fantasy that attaining some goal will complete you.  It’s common to fixate on the chase and overestimate how fulfilling money, sex, and approval will be.  It happens to everyone, even the most logical among us 😉.   


       -Focusing on satisfaction doesn’t mean you’re going to sit on your ass and do nothing for the rest of your life.  You should develop a strong work ethic, a life purpose and meaningful relationships.  You most likely need them to feel deeply satisfied with life.  So don't be a slouch.

       You can do all those things, but that needs to be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.  The cake is the Satisfaction Meditation and other practices that develop that muscle.  A stronger Satisfaction Muscle will improve all those other domains of life.

       -Something fundamentally different needs to happen.  So when are you going to wise up and realize that's not going to work?  When you truly “get it” you’ll actually start practicing the Satisfaction Meditation consistently.


Instant Gratification Culture

       -For most people, their Satisfaction Muscle is feeble because we live in a culture of instant gratification.  It’s filled with social media, viral content, video games, loot boxes, tv & movies, fast food, porn and engineers in Silicon Valley using the most seductive bait to trigger those dopamine hits as fast and as frequently as possible.

       It’s a trick of your mind to think that chasing instant gratification and excitement is a wise and sustainable lifestyle.  That’s what you realize after wasting years partying, drinking, masturbating, sexing people, taking drugs, having caviar in fancy cars. You end up crashing into dissatisfaction. 

       -Those dopamine peaks never last no matter how enjoyable.  That’s why you can finish one video game and still go searching for the next one, because no single video game has ever satisfied you.  There's not enough money you can get on Wall Street or the casino to make those dopamine peaks sustainable.

       That’s why you need a root solution to the problem of unhappiness, otherwise you're always going to be unhappy.


Two Different Reward Systems

       (Harvard trained physician Dr. K has an excellent explanation of dopamine at Healthy Gamer.  Some of the following details about dopamine come from him.)

       -Dopamine chasing is ultimately unfulfilling because it has to do with wanting pleasure, not experiencing pleasure.  When you do something rewarding the brain releases dopamine to reinforce that behavior by motivating you to want more of it.  Dopamine does not cause the feeling or receiving of pleasure.  Basically, wanting and enjoying happen in different parts of the brain.

       -Also, Dopamine isn’t “bad.”  If you have too little dopamine you’ll be totally unmotivated.  It just has to be properly balanced and not constantly chased as a lifestyle.


       -Your brain has two different reward circuits: the Dopamine Circuit and the Satisfaction Circuit.

       The Dopamine Circuit rewards you for sharp, positive changes in your survival situation, like stumbling on a hundred dollar bill, eating candy or playing a video game.  It’s a very short lasting reward.  When you get a dopamine spike you feel very happy for a few minutes, an hour, maybe even a day, then you drop back down to your default state.

High Dopamine Activities: People pleasing.  Partying.  Winning the lottery.  Watching TV.  Eating a greasy cheeseburger.  A promotion at work.  Finding a new romantic partner.  Taking drugs.  Chris Evans musical tribute videos, etc.

       Because it triggers wanting instead of pleasure, you can get hit after hit and still feel compelled to chase more dopamine delivery systems (food, Netflix, video games, etc.)  After all, if dopamine caused pleasure directly, you wouldn’t need to keep chasing more pleasure because you’d already be experiencing pleasure.


       The Satisfaction Circuit is rooted in the prefrontal cortex instead of dopamine spikes.  The Prefrontal Cortex is the part of the brain that’s in charge of discipline, wisdom and all the qualities of the higher self.

       When you practice the Satisfaction Meditation, you’re strengthening the reward circuit of your Higher Self.  (ep: Low vs High Quality Consciousness).  It raises your baseline for happiness and consciousness.

       The Prefrontal Cortex also contains the pineal gland and/or third eye and receives dopamine through the mesocortical pathway.  People with a strong Mesocortical Pathway have excellent willpower, vision, motivation and long term planning (among other positive qualities).  One of the ways to develop that is through meditation.


       -No wonder most people are dissatisfied with life!  Nobody taught them the difference between the dopamine circuit and satisfaction circuit.  If you're not convinced of the benefits of strengthening the Satisfaction circuit, try spending the next 5 or 10 years desperately chasing those dopamine peaks.  You'll realize it doesn't work.


Some More Info on Dopamine

     • Dopamine release is about reinforcing a behavior through wanting.  It’s a carrot on a stick.  Trainers will hold up a carrot on a stick in front of a donkey and the donkey will keep chasing it forever and ever, never reaching the carrot.

     • Dopamine problems hurt your ability to delay gratification because it inhibits the part of the brain that’s involved in cost-benefit analysis.  It makes instant gratification much more tempting, so you end up constantly making choices that are low reward for low effort.

     • Dopamine Exhaustion makes activities that promote your health and well-being a lot less enjoyable 😱.  Dopamine Tolerance eventually leads to Dopamine Exhaustion, where you have a vastly diminished ability to enjoy simple things.   Reading a book or going for a walk becomes boring, because your body’s used to much higher amounts of dopamine than a book or walk provide.  

     • If you do it long enough, you’ll end up creating a war between what you should do versus what you’re tempted to do to get that quick, easy dopamine hit.  Thing is, you don’t actually want the donut or video game.  It’s not as pleasurable as you imagine.  Your dopamine is just throwing up false flares.

     • Dopamine chasing reinforces behaviors that aren’t even fun!  You keep indulging in something even though it’s more numbing than enjoyable.  (That’s a sign you really need a dopamine detox to reset your levels.)

     • It can take anywhere between three weeks to three months to go through a full dopamine detox.

     • Having said that, dopamine is necessary.  You just need to regulate it properly.  If you have too little you’ll be totally unmotivated, but you also shouldn't turn dopamine chasing into a lifestyle.

     • Most of us have gotten addicted to dopamine hits, even if we're not doing drugs.  What’s worse, your brain builds a tolerance to dopamine, so the more hits you chase the bigger amount you need to get the same effect.


Double Unhappiness

       If you don't cultivate your Satisfaction Muscle your mindset can get so bad that you’ll still be unhappy in beautiful, extraordinary situations.  Maybe you’ve experienced that first hand.

       You’re sitting on a mountaintop with the love of your life, watching the sunset, admiring the scatter of twilight across the horizon.  You’ve spent all day hiking up the mountain just to arrive at the perfect time and it's only going to last a few minutes.  The weather is perfect, the location is perfect, the sunset is perfect, the person you’re with is perfect, but you're still not happy 😱.

       You know the situation is perfect and that you should be happy, but you're not.  That’s a double dose of unhappiness, because you’re unhappy, and you’re unhappy that you're unhappy.  You may even start wondering,

“If I can't be happy when the stars are aligned, what chance do I have of being happy at all, ever, period?  What if nothing makes me happy?  What if I’m doomed to be sad forever?”

       That’s when a lot of people get depressed or even suicidal.  That’s because nothing can make you truly happy other than yourself. The only long term solution is to train your Satisfaction Muscle to the point where you're satisfied with existence itself.


Stop Living Life By the Numbers

       Stop living your life for some arbitrary numerical metric, like dollars in your bank account, or cars in your garage, or the number on your bathroom scale, or even number of books you've read.  That can get very dysfunctional.  Numbers on a spreadsheet won't satisfy you in the ultimate scheme of things (even if you’re a mathematician!)

       Leo used to have a demanding, results obsessed mindset where he quantified everything.  His attitude was to just grind through work, suck up any suffering and achieve the result.  It was a very left-brained, unhealthy, dysfunctional, stage orange approach to life. It was toxic, unsustainable, and it didn’t lead to satisfaction.


The Problems with Grinding

       1) It’s based in being “not good enough.”     

“But Leo, I’ve got so many things to do and I’m already behind in life.  I’ve got to become spiritual, confident, fearless, more loving, nicer to people who secretly irritate me, or just better all around.  Do you know how hard it is to navigate reality when you’re not perfect, like those people on Instagram…”

You have an idealized image that you feel you must live up to in order to be “good enough.”  Problem is, if you feel bad about failing to live up to that, you’ll be too demoralized to take consistent, long-term action.

       2) It’s unsustainable.

You might be below your ideal target for years because it takes time to build skill.  It’s unsustainable to spend all that time feeling demoralized and not enough.

       3) It makes you cut corners in practice.

When you don’t enjoy practicing, you can get sloppy.  If you’re just grinding through, you’ll cut corners so you can get it over with and do something that you truly enjoy.

       4) It stops you from entering a flow state.

A flow state happens when you lose all sense of yourself in an activity.  It becomes effortless, like you have the creative force of the universe backing up your actions.  The thing is, flow comes from freeing yourself up, not from trying to finish things quickly.

       5) Grinding changes “I want to” into “I have to.”

If your practice is demoralizing, unsustainable, toxic and unenjoyable, it’ll feel like such a drag that you have to force yourself to do it.  You might forget why you wanted to accomplish the goal in the first place.  (Teal Swan has an excellent episode about this: “Have to…The Philosophy that Will Ruin Your Life”)

       6) The most effective motivation “moves towards” something inspiring, not just “away from” something negative.

Leo has an excellent episode about this: Positive vs Negative Motivation.  It’s one of his best about life purpose and motivation 💪.  It’s based on the excellent book “The Path of Least Resistance” by Robert Fritz


Leo’s Reading Example

       When Leo first got into personal development 10 years ago, he wanted to develop himself as quickly as possible:

“Let me achieve as much as I can, as fast as I can, to hell with how it feels!”

       Leo had a mountain of books to read.  He figured if he could master speed reading he could read ten times as many books.  So he got a speed reading book and started going through the exercises everyday.   

       After a month of tedious grinding, his practice became so unpleasant it was actually counterproductive.  He realized he would rather read at a normal, enjoyable pace than speed read through books, worrying about whether he understood or remembered the material correctly.  His boredom, worry and attachment to the outcome of speed-reading was stopping him from entering a good flow of absorbing the book’s information.

       Nowadays, Leo reads pretty slowly but enjoys himself and focuses on absorbing the contents of the book. (Considering how long and dense his book list is he can’t be that slow at reading 😉)

       So, it doesn't matter how fast you read, because the point is not to read X number of books.  The point is to enjoy yourself.  If you end up reading half as many books, but enjoy them twice as much, it’s even more of a win.

       So, you can read a book in an enjoyable way, or in a grinding, unpleasant way.  The better way is to enjoy the process so that you keep doing it without burning out.  Enjoy your career or business.  Enjoy your relationships and enjoy watching yourself grow mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.


Watching Actualized.org Episodes

       Another example of slowing down to be more effective is watching Actualized.org episodes.  There’s at least two different ways to watch them:

       1) You can binge a ton of episodes.

     “But Leo, I’ve stumbled upon this gold mine of information!  I need to get through these big, meaty, complicated episodes as fast as possible.  I’ll just binge watch 500 episodes with a pot of coffee, some modafinil, a stack of legal pads for notes, an even bigger stack of armodafinil, and that eyeball machine from A Clockwork Orange…then I’ll be wise!!”

       2) Or you can slow down and enjoy the process.

       When you watch Leo’s videos, find a sustainable pace that you can enjoy, instead of binging so many they become a blur.  Maybe you only watch one video a week instead of one a day.  In the long run you’ll watch a lot more episodes if you enjoy the process.

       Also, if you take time to pause and contemplate what’s being said, you'll get more benefit by concentrating on fewer episodes in a deeper way.

       When you slow down and get into the rhythm of an activity, you enter a flow state and lose all sense of yourself.  Whatever you're doing becomes effortless when you're in flow, because you’re not putting stressful demands and distracting expectations on yourself.  Flow comes from trying to do things freely, instead of trying to do things well.


Deeply Contemplate Happiness

       -You need to deeply contemplate happiness.  If you can't clearly articulate what happiness is, how can you ever be happy?  Happiness is not a belief or an ideology.  It's not enough for you to just believe what Leo says about happiness. You have to actually derive, for yourself, what happiness is.

       -You figure it out through contemplation and direct experience.  This will help you to distinguish between authentic happiness and dopamine peaks of pleasure.  When you’re happy, notice what’s causing it.  When you’re unhappy, also notice what’s causing it.  Another way to frame the question is: 

What if there's a form of happiness that doesn’t create a downward shift into dissatisfaction after it ends?

       -If you do the Satisfaction Meditation enough, maybe you'll discover it’s pointing you towards authentic happiness, to a type of pleasure that doesn’t create suffering.  Don’t mistake dopamine peaks for authentic happiness.  They're not.  Those dopamine peaks actually create suffering.  This distinction is crucial.


Life Purpose and Happiness

       -The happiness you get from your Life Purpose is different than the dopamine spikes of a video game.  When you find your life purpose and align with it, it triggers a different reward mechanism, similar to the Satisfaction Meditation.  Instead of dopamine swings, it leads to a deep contentment with life.  Bliss and joy can be reached this way.

“But Leo, the contentment from LP won’t be permanent either!”

       Of course it won't. But there’s a difference between getting attached to satisfaction and enjoying satisfaction while it’s here.  This does not mean you cannot meditate on the feeling of satisfaction itself.  In fact, doing so is how you escape suffering.

  • eg: People misunderstand Buddhism’s non-attachment and impermanence as “life is suffering, nihilistic and empty” or “this is why Buddhists can’t have nice things.”  However, the Buddhist notion of suffering and impermanence basically means that chasing material conditions and positive states is dissatisfying because it never lasts.  So you’re guaranteed to suffer.
  • clip: Lose Attachments to Gain Infinite Love (9 mins)

       -Appreciating bliss and satisfaction in the here and now is a far better way to live than chasing dopamine hits, which is what most people are doing.  Think of it this way:

In every moment you can either be satisfied or dissatisfied. Which will you be?


Applying Insights: From Abstract to Concrete

       -You need to develop practical techniques for implementing all the high level, big picture, abstract ideas that Leo talks about.  In this episode you got a very tangible practice.  A lot of episodes don’t and won’t provide that.

       -You need to take ownership of your own personal development.  You won’t build muscle by trying to get Leo to lift the weights for you.  That goes for all self-help teachers, books, courses and insights.

       -To get the most value out of Actualized.org watch out for two traps: listening idly and not taking action.  You can’t just listen distractedly as you cook or do laundry, unless you’re totally new to this content and have trouble focusing.  You could start there, but to get results you need to focus.

       -No matter what level you’re at in your spiritual journey, you must take effective action to get results.  You need to develop the ability to take any insight and ask:

  • “How do I turn this abstract idea into something I can implement in my life?”
  • “How can I practice this wisdom and embody it?”  

       -For every profound insight you get, brainstorm different methods to apply it.  See which ones work and which ones don’t.  That’s where your results will come from!

Edited by FlyingLotus

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10 minutes ago, gettoefl said:

great work!

Thanks 👍

10 minutes ago, gettoefl said:

think you meant 485

Actually I screwed up the last 10 episode numbers in the list and it's too late to change them 🤷🏻‍♀️.  I repeated #481 twice, d'oh.

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1 hour ago, FlyingLotus said:

Thanks 👍

Actually I screwed up the last 10 episode numbers in the list and it's too late to change them 🤷🏻‍♀️.  I repeated #481 twice, d'oh.

i'd say you are permitted one mistake every 500 episodes ... but after that you will be docked future awakenings... xD

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6 hours ago, gettoefl said:

but after that you will be docked future awakenings... xD

In that case I'd better move to Amsterdam 😁

I'll repost the corrected list on the next page, which will be nine posts from now. 

I wish there wasn't a 48hr edit window, especially for a thread like this.  I think it's so trolls can't erase their past posts or something.  

I swear I'm not a troll.  I have no idea how to guard a bridge!!


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Found these on the forum:

Episode #228: Mindfulness Meditation - A Complete Guide With Techniques & Examples


Episode #311: How To Get Started With Self Actualization - Over 40 Techniques

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