The Paradox Of Developing Self-trust Summary

[Juan Cruz Giusto]

The Self-Trust Paradox: Self Development tells you to question yourself, your beliefs and so, and on the other hand it tells you to trust yourself completely. So, what do you do?

One problem is that you are not doubting deeply enough some of the things you need to be doubting and the other problem is that you are not trusting deeply enough some of the things you should have faith in.

The problem with the newbie is that he trusts he own mind a lot and he doesn’t realize the self-deceptive characteristics of the mind; this creates neurosis.

You should doubt (question):

-          You (your ego)/ The entire structure of your mind / The notion of a separate self

-          Your self-biases

-          Your defense mechanisms

o   Excuses

-          Beliefs and ideologies (you need to be free of your beliefs)

-          Your mind and thoughts (logic and rationality)

-          All the reasons/justifications of your beliefs (Why do you believe …?)

-          Your emotions: Good or Bad (Ask yourself why are you feeling …?)

-          Your criticism of other people (they are a reflection of yourself)

-          Cultural preferences

-          Moralizations and should’s

-          Your motivations (they are usually based on a sense of duty and obligation)

-          When you beat yourself up

-          Your web of beliefs and the model you have of reality

-          Your identity and your existential nature

You should trust:

-          Your intuition and Higher Self: It is about being in the present moment, spontaneous, playful and free. Remember your child self and try to think what were the things that inspired you and moved you.

-          The Drive for Truth (direct experience of reality)

-          Love, compassion and gratitude

-          Silence and Solitude

-          Your deep emotions (yes, it is paradoxical). They are accurate signals about your inner being.

o   Connection with other people

o   Experiencing nature

o   Beauty

o   Justice

o   Contribution

o   Love

o   Truth

-          Your creative muse (ideas and inspirations)

-          Awareness and direct experience

-          Natural powers as a human being (to survive and thrive): Your self confidence

When you have to make decisions about who you are gonna marry, where are you gonna live, which business are you going to start, you need to surrender your logical mind to these things and have faith in your intuition!

If you doubt everything, the only things that remain are the things you can actually trust. You need to go to your doubting process to realize which things you can trust and have faith in. At first it will be a really hard emotional process but when you don’t have anything left to doubt you will start realizing that you have an intuition and a heart (you will need 5 years of deep inner work)