It's sex with a person who has the same sexual preferences like me. For example: does he like to go down on me, or finds that digusting.With this guy, he was into same stuff I am. 
Plus on top of that - he's handsome. 
 
I follow him on instagram so he expressed his authentic, goofy side to his followers and I like authenticity. And his physiche was amazing so yeah. His smile too.
That was what originally attracted me to him. 
 

Gym and david goggins 

Then these books might help:
 
- The Power of Shakti: 18 Pathways to Ignite the Energy of the Divine Woman by Padma Aon Prakasha
- Sexual Energy and Yoga by Elisabeth Haich
- Sex, Sorcery, and Spirit by Jason Miller
- Emergence of the Sensual Woman: Awakening Our Erotic Innocence by Saida Desilets 
- Shakti Woman: Feeling Our Fire, Healing Our World - The New Female Shamanism by Vicki Noble
- Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson
- Tantric Awakening: A Woman's Initiation into the Path of Ecstasy by Valerie Brooks
 
I have not read them but I have read some more directed towards men, and some these look promising.
 

Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure, read this book and you can think for yourself. It's better than the forum advice I guarantee it. 

This also counts for men. 

That's what universities are designed to create. It comes from a lack of holism.
True intelligence is holistic. But universities have reduced intelligence down to technical knowledge.
Nobody teaches true intelligence.

This is powerful.
What Daniel Schmachtenberger learned from his father about being a man:
https://civilizationemerging.com/what-i-learned-about-being-a-man-from-my-dad/
 
PRINCIPLES
 
Work, Integrity, Motivation, Capacity:
“See the job, do the job, stay out of the misery.” If a job needs doing, simply do it. No need to bemoan it, wish it wasn’t so, etc. All the suffering is optional. If a job is worth doing, it’s worth doing well. Excellence is its own reward. Do the right thing when nobody’s watching. When running wire or pipe through the studs, he would make it beautiful before putting the drywall on. No one would ever see it. But he knew. Doing the best you can everywhere consistently affects you as a being. Get the big picture first. Then plan the work. Then implement. When we would get to a worksite, or before cleaning something, he would put a ladder in the middle of the space, have me stand on the top, and turn slowly taking in the whole picture, and making a map in my head of where everything was, where it should be, what I would do first, etc. ‘How much weight can you lift?’ However much needs lifted. If you ask if you can do it, you might find the answer is no. If its important, just do it. If you’re leading a team and anyone fails, you’re responsible. The leader takes responsibility for the project. And for its failures. The whole team participates in the credit of the successes. The captain gets off of the boat last. Do the initial work for free. Under promise and over deliver. Then sell the benefits of the competition/ alternatives. Responsibility is king. If I have the ability to respond, it’s mine to do. When you accomplish something significant, dont make a big deal out of it. Help others learn to do it. Master the principle of leverage and apply it everywhere. Physically and metaphysically. Learn how to use and make tools. Treat tools as extensions of yourself, which they are. You can generally accomplish more from behind the scenes, when people don’t know what you are doing. Leave every place and situation better than you found it. Orderliness is a quality of the unified field itself. Create order in any environment first. Courage, Power, and Conflict:
If you ever start a fight, Ill kick your ass. If someone is being hurt and you don’t protect them, Ill kick your ass. The side of right always wins. Be on the side of right and don’t worry about the odds. Don’t let fear of pain or death keep you from doing the right thing. Most of the atrocities in the world have been committed by men. Power must be in the service of all. Abuse of power is the greatest crime. If someone is abusing power, over-power them. Do not allow bullies. If everyone is running away from something, run towards it. If there is a real threat, someone needs to go deal with it. Let them throw the first punch. If they go for a second, do what you need to stop the violence. If you let it get to blows, you already failed. Use the minimum amount of force necessary to stop harm. Sometimes overwhelming force is necessary. Project force if needed to avoid violence. Protect everyone from unnecessary pain wherever you can. When there was a mortally wounded animal, he would kill it rather than let it suffer. He would also do so where no one else needed to know about it. At a certain point, I went from one of the people he was protecting to learning how to kill painlessly, bury, share only what was needed, etc. Be a protector and support to everyone. Walk on the outside of the street with everyone. Open everyone’s door. Be available to help anyone. Relating to Women:
The highest value for men is serving women, nature, and children (future generations). Worshiping at the altar – how to relate to going down on a woman. Being in love is a choice. Choose it and cultivate it. Don’t be controlled by attraction. There are many good reasons to be intimate with someone, only some of which involve attraction. Don’t hurt women. Never push for sex. Let her pursue. If my boss or mentor call, tell them I’m sleeping. If your mom calls, wake me up. Mind, Education, Psyche:
The world is mostly crazy. Rethink everything for yourself from scratch. Traditional education and hyperspecialization is a way to make people subservient to the dominant paradigm/ system. Study the generalized principles of nature and be a deep generalist. If you don’t like the fact that the sky is blue, change your mind. Indulging suffering is a choice. Be careful, cautious, and conscious. But not scared. Careful is different than fearful. Jealousy is a type of mental illness – rid yourself of it. When reading, look up every word and concept you don’t know. What is real and what is obvious are usually not the same. See past the obvious to the real. This too shall pass. No one can actually own part of a celestial orb. Ownership is an illusion. “All that I have done, you shall do and greater as well.” Be what the world needs. Be cautious of ambition, it is generally selfish and misguided. Wholeness is the most important word. Then integrity. I am. Any other words that follow are not fully true. Don’t identify with them. Relating to People and the World:
Win-lose mentality is evil. Don’t ever celebrate people’s losses. Always celebrate their wins. Respect wisdom, not authority. I want you to surpass me in every way. And you will. That is evolution. And you will treat those you support the same way. Spend time listening to old people. They are unique living libraries. Spend time listening to kids – they are further ahead in evolutionary time. Forgive people and help them do better. Don’t trust experts (mechanics, doctors, etc.) with vested interests. Learn the topic well enough to understand and check what they are saying. Service is the most fun hobby. Sunday mornings we would load the truck with mechanic tools and drive around finding people who were broken down (before cell phones) and fix their cars for them. Such a fun thing to do on a day off. Always tend to the animals first. Study the map of any new place you go. Always know how to navigate. Anticipate emergencies in new environments and create response plans.  Be generous with everything you have: knowledge, money, resources, affection, etc. If either of us die, we know that we love each other, death doesn’t end love, and any issue is meaningless and already forgiven. He talked with me about this a number of times. So I knew that if he died and our last conversation was an argument, it didn’t matter at all and only love remained.

Perfection isn't what people think it is. It's about alignment, or getting out of your own way. The more conditions you place on existence, the less perfect life will be. Live unconditionally, in the flow state, and the absolute will experience its creation perfectly through you.

@funkychunkymonkey Contemplation, Meditation & Insight.
 
 
 
 

Study: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33086585/
Comprehensive article about above study: https://7news.com.au/lifestyle/food/its-time-to-rethink-pink-salt-study-c-1419572

Study: https://themeadow.com/pages/minerals-in-himalayan-pink-salt-spectral-analysis
Comprehensive article about above study: https://sciencebasedmedicine.org/pink-himalayan-sea-salt-an-update/

Himalayan salt is touted to have about 40-80 different minerals, but funnily only about 14 of those are actually usable by the human body. So, most of the minerals in Himalayan salt are basically unusable contaminants. Also, the pink color of Himalayan salt comes from rust (iron oxide), which isn't really harmful, but it speaks to how unrefined it is. It even contains some radioactive elements.

Here's a Reddit post someone made about all the sand they found in their bottle of Himalayan salt:
https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinteresting/comments/106xuqj/the_amount_of_sand_and_rocks_in_kirkland/

This is also supported in my own experience with my coffee, I literally only put about a pinch of it in there and it leaves this:

1. Electrolytes
2. It counteracts any bitter elements in the coffee. The more salt you put, the less sharp/bitter the coffee will become. So, it can potentially balance out the flavor of the coffee

3. In my experience, it adds a really nice salted caramel type of flavor to the coffee 

read:
1. thinking, fast and slow (very dense, university level, but also easy)
2. behave by Robert Sapolsky 
3. the principles of psychology by William James
4. man and his symbols by carl jung

Secret Drugs of Buddhism: Psychedelic Sacraments and the Origins of the Vajrayana, Crowley.
I found it fascinating. 
and:
https://psychedelicsangha.org/paisley-gate/2019/5/8/the-supreme-array-scripture-a-psychedelic-stra-for-buddhist-psychonauts-pp3zz
"The most famous and oft-cited passage by both ancient and modern commentators on the Supreme Array occurs when Sudhana meets the Bodhisattva Maitreya. Maitreya stands before a jeweled palace. When Sudhana asks about how he should carry out the course of a bodhisattva, Maitreya tells him he should enter the palace. Sudhana then asks for permission to enter; the Bodhisattva snaps his fingers and the doors to the palace open. Once inside, Sudhana sees that the palace’s interior is adorned with precious substances, many hundreds of thousands of leagues wide and as vast as the realm of space. Moreover, inside the palace are hundreds of thousands of other palaces arrayed in the same manner spread out in all directions. Miraculously, each dwelling remains distinct while simultaneously reflecting every other one and all of its objects. Experiencing this  awesome vision, Sudhana is overcome with bliss and bows down in all directions. At the moment of prostration, through the power of Maitreya, Sudhana perceives himself simultaneously in each and every palace witnessing a different scene from Maitreya’s bodhisattva course of conduct. In a single instant, Sudhana sees countless eons, realms, beings, bodhisattvas and buddhas, and hears endless teachings. In the centre of all his, Sudhana sees one palace larger than the others. Inside it, he witnesses Maitreya in his final life performing the acts of a buddha, such as going forth to homeless life, sitting under the enlightenment tree, attaining omniscience and preaching the Dharma. While Sudhana is watching the endless and simultaneous practices of Maitreya in all the palaces, suddenly the Bodhisattva enters the dwelling, snaps his fingers once more and says, Arise, Son of Good Family! This is the nature of conditioned factors. Son of Good Family, characterized by their non-fixity, all conditioned factors are controlled through the knowledge of bodhisattvas. In this way, lacking the perfection of an essence, they are like illusions, dreams and reflections."
and
" In an important sense, Buddhism has always been “psychedelic.” Recall the meaning of psychedelic as “manifesting the mind.” The very first verse of the Dhammapada, one of the most ancient Buddhist texts, reads:
The mind is the basis for everything.
Everything is created by my mind, and is ruled by my mind.
When I speak or act with impure thoughts, suffering follows me
As the wheel of the cart follows the hoof of the ox. "
 
Water by the River

I think you're both right to a degree but it might just be more complicated than A or B. 
Certain mental health issues have indeed been associated with B-deficiency and giving people B-complex might help (if that was the causative factor) although the data is inconclusive as you may see. Forest Plots are borderline statistically significant and confidence intervals remain fairly wide which tells you there is more to it (as it always is) 
On the other hand, some people do indeed find them energising. B-vitamins are a part of the glycolysis & Kreb Cycle that help your body produce ATP (energy currency) so technically if you were long-term deficient and suddenly you get an influx of B-s in a way you are getting "back on the baseline" but for anyone long term deprived this may come across as "highly stimulating" because they've just been deficient for so long they forgot what it feels like to have energy (this is actually pretty common among guys, I've seen a  fair share of that in my practice) 
In addition, B vitamins are cofactors in all sorts of metabolic processes including things like neurotransmitters and even certain hormones so in a way, you might just be getting back to "feeling normal". 
And finally, B vitamins are notoriously difficult to measure because they do not hang around for too long (with exception of B12) and so most standardised blood tests are inaccurate and specific essays such as EGOT, MMA or Red Blood Cell Folate need to be acquired for an adequate tissue representation. As an example, a person who just took B12 supplement would show "normal" on Serum B12 but would show high on Methylmalonic Acid test indicating that in reality their tissue levels are depleted but the blood test only saw the circulating supplement so we can't really tell if we are looking at the right thing to begin with 
From experience with client work, on their own, they rarely do much if not part of a larger dietary/lifestyle modification and at that point we no longer know what made the difference anymore (the major challenge with epidemiology) 
But then who knows, there is still much we don't understand
 

I just watched a very well researched video on the question "Was meat responsible for brain growth?"
The answer that its just meat is way to simplistic. Meat could be part of the reason but probably not the main reason:
-Eating much meat doesn't cause brain growth per se because if that were the case all carnivores would be smart as fuck which they aren't. It needed a survival benefit for brain growth.
-One of the main reason might be that we learned how to cook food. Cooking food means our digestive track could get smaller from the easier digestible and more energetic type of food and therefore didn't take up as much energy which allowed for the growth of the brain. Despite us being far more intelligent than most animals, we need around the same calories as an equally heavy mammal.
-Another good is reason is that humans developed a body with less muscle and more fat compared to other mammals which is energy saving and would allow for brain growth.
-Cooking allowed two new food sources in roots and sweet grasses (predecessor of grain). The extra carbs helped us to think cause our brain runs on carbs if it isn't in ketosis and also gave us more calories which could allow for adaptations.
-Our denture is neither the one of a meat eater, nor of a plant eater. It's a unique one that fits the purpose of eating easily digestible (cooked food).
 
But now matter what the reason was back then how does this even matter for today? The question "Was meat responsible for brain growth?" can't be translated into todays question "Does meat grow my brain?". There are enough plant based fat and protein sources today to cover brain health.
[6] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19843...
[7] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24564...
[8] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17439...
[9] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26123...
[10] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17827...
[11] https://www.pnas.org/content/109/45/1...
[12] https://www.jstor.org/stable/2744104
[13] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25293...
[14] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26591...
[15] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NB...
[16] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19049...
[17] https://bit.ly/3BFMhF4
[18] https://bit.ly/3AwY4o0
These are not objective facts that's just your preference. 
I like cooked starches actually. The whole grain has a healthy natural taste to it. 
I still like many unripe fruits like bananas or apples.
Not necessarily. A deer is very badly adapted to eat steak. But because the stake is SO MUCH more nutritionally dense than grass it will still outrank its natural food sources. Even if only 10% of the steak can get digested, that's still way more than all the grass. 
But an animal that is adapted to eating watermelon for example compared to an animal which is adapted to eating meat. In this case these animals probably wouldn't switch their food sources because they already have very nutritionally dense food sources so the benefit to change to another less adapted diet for the benefit of getting more valuable food doesn't stand. 
Do you season your meat? Most people put a bunch of seasonings on their meat to make it taste more like vegetables. If that's not cheating idk what is. 
"Natural" doesn't necessarily mean healthy as I argumented before. Although I do believe that cooking various plants including grains is natural. 
 

So , I was looking into higher-order cognitive functioning , and asked ChatGPT what's beyond metacognition... 
ChatGPT said meta-metacognition and Transcognition, I've never heard of Transcognition but damn it was a revelation to a lifetime of feeling totally different from others... 
This seems to newly emergent and it's probably likely that less than 1% of people even have this skill. Personally it seems like I've gone much of my life without encountering hardly , if anyone , that does this... But if I have to step up and form a group as a leader , then that is what will happen.  I just hope to find others and not be alone on this....but I know how hard this journey is to have this skill in this world... And I'm here for you all that are similar on this transcognitive thinking... 
 
 
(I can't get ChatGPT to do this again in another window, so here is the transcript about it)
"Another proposed level beyond metacognition is "transcognition," which involves thinking beyond one's own cognitive processes and incorporating knowledge and perspectives from diverse sources and contexts. This level of thinking involves an understanding of the interconnectedness of different systems and the ability to think creatively and flexibly across multiple domains."
 
Prompt : Ultimate Guide on Transcognition 
"Transcognition is a theoretical level of cognitive functioning that involves thinking beyond one's own cognitive processes and incorporating knowledge and perspectives from diverse sources and contexts. It requires an understanding of the interconnectedness of different systems and the ability to think creatively and flexibly across multiple domains. Here's an ultimate guide on transcognition:
 
1. Develop a growth mindset: Transcognition involves a willingness to learn, adapt, and grow. This requires a growth mindset, which is the belief that intelligence and abilities can be developed through effort and learning
 
2. Expand your knowledge base: Transcognition requires a broad base of knowledge across multiple domains. Make an effort to learn about different fields of study, cultures, and perspectives. Read widely, watch documentaries, and engage in conversations with people from diverse background
 
3. Practice critical thinking: Transcognition involves the ability to think critically and evaluate information from multiple sources. Practice analyzing and evaluating information, and be open to changing your views based on new evidence
 
4. Embrace complexity: Transcognition involves the ability to think about complex systems and how they interact with one another. Embrace complexity and seek to understand the nuances of different systems and their relationships to one another
 
5. Develop creativity: Transcognition requires the ability to think creatively and generate new ideas. Practice brainstorming and problem-solving exercises, and embrace unconventional solutions
 
6. Engage in interdisciplinary thinking: Transcognition involves the ability to think across multiple disciplines and integrate knowledge from different fields. Seek out interdisciplinary learning opportunities and engage in conversations with experts from different fields
 
7. Emphasize collaboration: Transcognition requires collaboration and the ability to work with others to solve complex problems. Seek out opportunities to work with people from diverse backgrounds and perspectives
 
8. Stay open-minded: Transcognition requires an open-minded approach to learning and problem-solving. Be open to new ideas, perspectives, and approaches, and be willing to challenge your own assumptions and biases
 
9. Embrace uncertainty: Transcognition involves the ability to tolerate uncertainty and ambiguity. Embrace the complexity of different systems and be comfortable with the fact that not everything can be neatly categorized or understood
 
10. Practice mindfulness: Transcognition requires a sense of presence and awareness. Practice mindfulness exercises to cultivate a sense of focus and clarity, and to develop a deeper understanding of your own thought processes
 
In summary, transcognition involves thinking beyond one's own cognitive processes and incorporating knowledge and perspectives from diverse sources and contexts. It requires a growth mindset, a broad knowledge base, critical thinking skills, creativity, interdisciplinary thinking, collaboration, open-mindedness, comfort with uncertainty, and mindfulness. By developing these skills and attitudes, you can enhance your ability to think creatively and flexibly across multiple domains, and contribute to solving complex problems in our interconnected world"
 
I just found this out tonight (the definition hit me like a fucking revelation ,really giving me some anxiety , and I'll be glad to talk about it more when I'm not so wound up...
 
-Much love all, Kory

sorry, I answered your question in a way of writing about topics I like to write about ( :
Forgot half of your questions:
>Do you look for these books? How do you come across them? 
It started 20 years ago. I read hundreds of books, since I wanted to find the most efficient techniques available. You know, being a bit nuts... All kinds of spiritual traditions.
Then I found the in my opinion highest developed meditation-system in Mahamudra/Dzogchen of Tibetan Buddhism. These guys have been doing it the longest (1000 uninterrupted years, a whole society being a Theocracy focused on Enlightenment more or less (with not so nice elements of course also), that produced lots and lots of enlightened ones over the centuries).
These techniques were brought with a pioneering performance of the highest degree to the West with a work synthesizing the essence of dozens of Tibetan Books on Mahamudra by Daniel Brown: "Pointing Out the Great Way". Daniel Brown Ph.D., Clinical Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School.
Later, after being already awakened, he were give 7 books for translation by Menri Trizing Rinpoche, a highly realized Being, leader of the Bon School of Tibetan Buddhism. I think these were the 7 books Menri used to get fully enlightened himself. Its like a best of the best of Dzogchen/Mahamudra, selected by a Tibetan Realizer, translated by the person most suited for that from Tibetan.
Brown translated all these books before passing away of Parkinson recently.
We have it all at our fingertips...
 

When you don't understand you depend on reality,
When you do understand reality depends on you.
Bodhidharma ~

Couple of ideas I can think of depending on the scale you want to have an impact. Obviously, all of these are macro categories and they can be broken down into an endless amount of jobs. None of the below are jobs per se, they are sectors which you may consider. 
Careers in health & welness in general - medicine, alternative medicine, welness services, therapeutic services of any kind Ecology, Sustainability and Planetary Welfare - such as WWF, B-Corp, Fair Trade, Organic Soil Association .  Social Services - retirement homes, social care, homeless care, child foster care services etc Law and legal counselling services  Careers in consumer right protection of any kind - such as corporate audits, legal support for people who cannot afford private counceling Careers in consumer health protection - FDA, Water treatment, Public health guidelines etc.  Careers in public safety services - fire brigade, police department, military, paramedic services, crime & investigation, forensics Other public services - public transport & infrastructure management  Education & Tutoring in any shape and form is a humble public service with lasting impact  Farming & Food sourcing is much needed public service Missionary work Public entertainment is a gigantic sector with millions of different jobs  There is much more. Ofcourse different careers come with different salaries, career progression and satisfaction but if your sole goal is to help people and feel good at the end of a day, you can have that as a mental health coach, as a paramedic, as as an elementary school teacher or an educator or even as a volunteer in a charity shop. 
All depends on your values, financial needs, freedom requirements and current staus quo 

Yes. Fully agree.
Bodily pain can of course still arise.
(1) But suffering as psychological resistance to what is can fully go. (2) Especially the continued dissatisfaction/suffering cycles of the separate self can end, drowned by a current of bliss directly from the source of ones True Being. If you don't share my humble opinion, please feel invited to check that in the cases of many many enlightened beings in the history of mankind. What made them so attractive for their fellow companions? That they suffered, were confused, and sometimes a bit frustrated and not so-loving-as-possible, in the usual merry-go-round-cycle, as their fellow nonenlightened company?
I guess these two observations/statements/claims (1) and (2) will always be a problem, and correspondendly be attacked and criticized by anybody trying to declare  some kind of stage/state/awakening/"realization"/understanding/whatever as final or superior which doesn't deliver that freedom from suffering. 
And if not, why not be so kind and declare that ones version of the path to heaven does NOT provide that which every(!) being wants: Permanent bliss and happiness, and an end to the cycle of dissatisfaction and suffering. Or (smarter move probably) maybe add at least the announcement that one intents to someday later deliver these goodies also. 
So ladies and gentlemen, fasten your seatbelts, and watch the onslought. I know, stupid as I am writing all of that, I can't complain.... Luckily, the video with the bear is already in the signiture, and will hopefully protect the writer of these heretic lines.
Well, Caveat Emptor, and bon voyage!
Water by the River 
 
PS:
Not that I would recommend doing something like this, but just some idea of what Nirvana/Nirvikalpa/Cessation can do to the survival-imperative. The guy didn't even flinch or move a muscle. Warning: Can be quite disturbing to read/watch.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thích_Quảng_Đức
Probably Britney 24/7 for a month would have gotten him anyways... 
PSPS: I have to admit that Moksha writes much more beautiful posts than yours truly

The easiest way is to find some better alternatives to focus your energy and time on.
For example, if you started a business I guratantee you'd jerk off less than just sitting a home doing nothing.
When it comes to listening to music, you just need to take breaks. Don't listen to any music for 2 weeks or a month. Then listen to it occassionally, not constantly. You can probably find an app for your phone to disable your music app for most of the day.

I don't like talk of NPCs. It's not an accurate frame. Becoming Awake does not turn everyone into an NPC. That's not how it feels like at all. If anything you appreciate the humanity of people more than ever. So be careful with how you frame these things. Your frames will limit your consciousness and influence how you feel. Improper framing will make you feel depressed and nihilistic.

As I've said, your career determines what you will be able to understand about reality. So be careful what career you choose. If you're not careful you will waste your whole life staring at a computer screen.

To the breaking point, the more occupied your mind is, the more difficult to disidentify from it. Beyond the breaking point is being. The flow state is not only freedom from identification with the mind, but it is unconditional energy which enhances everything, including the deliverables you produce at work.

Hi Lilia,
maybe you like these two quotes. They highlight how a large majority of the spiritual marketplace is still selling Nonduality, not the realization of Ultimate Reality/Absolute. 
Some even only sell No Ego/No Person, which comes before Nonduality/mere groundless nondual Appearance.... And some even call the "No Ego/No Person" No-Self.  . Well, caveat emptor.... ( :
 
Nisargadatta, in Consciousness and the Absolute: The Final Talks of Sri NisargadattaMaharaj edited by Jean Dunn
"The world is your direct experience, your own observation. All that is happening is happening at this level, but I am not at this level. I have dissociated myself from Sattva Guna, beingness.
The Ultimate state in spirituality is that state where no needs are felt at any time, where nothing is useful for anything. That state is called Nirvana, Nirguna, that which is the Eternal and Ultimate Truth. The essence and sum total of this whole talk is called Satguru Parabrahman, that state in which there are no requirements.
After the dissolution of the universe, when no further vestige of creation was apparent, what remained is my perfect state. All through the creation and dissolution of the universe, I remain ever untouched. I have not expounded this part: my state never felt the creation and dissolution of the universe. I am the principle which survives all the creations, all the dissolutions. This is my state, and yours, too, but you don't realize it because you are embracing your beingness. "
 
That quote of Nisargadatta is given in Halaw, God is Nothingness
Halaw writes:
"A major shortcoming with much of the nonduality pervading the modern spiritual marketplace is that it seldom acknowledges the Nothingness which permits ‘being’ in the first place. Awareness, Being, Presence—or some variation or combination of the three—and interconnectedness, seem to represent the extent of what modern nonduality is interested in.
Nothingness, however, transcends even nonduality; for while the nondual whole encompasses everything—all of ‘being’, in fact—it does not include Non-being, which precedes and acts as the very basis of ‘being’ itself.
Imagine: if nonduality, the interconnected matrix of all ‘being’, including mind or consciousness, were represented by an oil painting, then Nothingness is the canvas upon which the picture resides.
Nothingness pervades the entire nondual universe; it is the principle that permeates everything. In other words, Nothingness allows nonduality to occur in the first place, just as it does ‘being.’
The reason that the human body, mind, consciousness/awareness, interpenetrate is because Nothingness allows them to exist—or rather, they exist as manifest Nothingness.
This must be realized. Experiencing nonduality is not yet Enlightenment. We must penetrate deeper, past all sense of ‘being’, to the canvas below the paint to realize our and all beings’ true nature as boundless Nothingness. When that happens, ordinary mind becomes the Mind of the sages.
Buddha Mind, then, is the mind’s recognition of its own empty, groundlessness, not as some eternal supreme principle called Awareness, but as the very living, conscious embodiment of Nothingness in this world, at this very moment.
It is not an exaggeration to say that consciousness is the act of Nothingness being aware. To know ultimate Nothingness, jettison everything. That means the world, your body, mind, ideas, beliefs, saviors, prophets, Buddhas, and even consciousness itself. Everything in the manifest realm must go."
But don't throw the raft away in the river before you crossed it.... A not so smart move, quite often seen and read. Maya has got some funny tricks up her sleeve...      ( :
Selling Water by the River
PS: If all of this sounds bleak and like nothing-at-all:
That Nothingness can create a new Creation "instantly". As it does every moment. It is not a no-thing-at-all (but Nothingness), but unlimited infinite Potential also. And the source of all sentience/awareness, initially unware of itself when no appearance is arising. IT "is" already everything, nondual. "IT" already makes every appearance groundless/mere appearance, the essence of every appearance is already Nothingness. Suchness. You, with a big Y. The Buddha-Nature at the core of every sentient being. At the same, it is the Absolute Abyss that can NEVER be seen as any object/arising, even by the highest Divinity. "The eye can't see itself"-style. Or God remains an eternal mystery to itself. Not on the arising/appearance side, and their mechanism. But with the Nothingness-aspect, the core of awareness/sentience, that can never be seen. And after dabbling with writing about the neither existing nor non-existing Absolute/Totality/Reality, let's conclude with somthing much more precise after all these impossible endevours. ( :
Basho's Haiku: Into the ancient pond / a frog jumps / waters sound 

Hi Lilia,
yes, there can be pain, but no psychological suffering stacked on top, and the pain itself much more removed with less focus, flowing through oneself like a distant wave.
What I wanted to say in my post (suffering and mainting Realization sobre/without psychedelics) was that without full stable Realization of ones True Nature and being able to keep that stable in everyday life (Postsamadhi), the cycle of suffering of the separate self continues. Without Realization of ones True Nature, one can have wonderful trips of Awakening with psychedelics, or just normal blissful experiences. But it never lasts.
The merry-go-round of being content/satisfied and then no longer content/satisfied (suffering in the Buddhist sense of Dukha means not literally suffering, but something mroe like unsatisfactoryness (everything being unsatisfactory in the end, which then also causes suffering) continues. It is (in my observation) a necessary building block of any Lila, because without it the separate self arising would at some point no longer find "projects", and just "fizzles" out at some point. And:
When I became able to rest in my True Nature (cutting off and/or just watching the separate-self arisings (thoughts/feelings) "Trekchö-style" emerging also at high frequencies, the visual field became limitless/infinite/nondual/mere appearance/imagined style/empty/groundless), and most of the separate self arisings were seen flowing through the Reality that the Real I is, I got a flow of bliss/love flowing from and through that Source/Reality that was independend from outer circumstances.
In the beginning I thought it was too good to be true, like am I fooling myself here. But it never stopped, and increased further, including the so called three special states of bliss, emptiness (groundlessness) and luminosity (shimmering mere appearance), which then also progressed further. At that time, the meditation was off-the-pillow (Postsamadhi-Meditation) since quite some time, so I got that in everyday life and not only while sitting.
And from that basis of a fully nondual infinite field of empty groundless mere appearances with no center/separate anything, one can start wondering WHAT kind of empty nonlocal Awareness really watches that infinite empty field of mere appearance, and in What that really appears. And then the Big Bang can suddenly happen. But that comes normally a considerable time after the stabilization of the Nondual Field described above.
Tashi Namgyal, quoted in Pointing out the Great Way, Brown:
"In short, crossing over [to Enlightenment] happens at the time when every single sensory experience—appearance [visual field] and thought [any separates self or thought arising in general]—are viewed as clarity/emptiness [mere empty groundless imagined appearance]  and movement/emptiness [thought/separate self arisings moving in You/Reality] with absolute certainty [meaning it is no a decission of any kind, but a self-evident observation and an  understanding of Absolute certainty, an Understanding of Ultimate Reality (infinite consciousness) understanding Itself]."
Or in other words: When you get it that anything there can ever be is just a imagined show happening in the True You, and
the True You is so totally empty/Nothingness that it is when no appearance appears unware of itself, but with the potential for sentience if something is imagined. Or: Totally empty, Nothingness, so that IT can manifest anything and is not limited in any way, which it would be if IT/You were anything specific at all. This is a point where many teachings become imprecise, or just end there (at a not so empty Nonduality), because the author didn't progress over that Nonduality-Stage with a still lingering pretty empty awareness/witness. Whenever you here "I am this Nonduality", a questionmark is indicated.  For that, see also this video (Prior to Nonduality):
 
Concerning what you describe about pain: Yes. If there is Physical pain, it is still there, but no psychological restisting/suffering arises because of it (which is like 80% of the perceived suffering). On top, as you describe, the physical pain flows through the Reality that you are, like the wind. Much more remote, like there is pain moving in me, but I am not that pain. It doesn't "grip" anymore. 
Bon voyage
Water by the River

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Job Description:
Growing in the context of Planet Earth from business-/lifecycle to business-/lifecycle. Polishing the frame and surface of your neither existing nor non-existing Empty Mirror Nature and getting rid of your imagined/appearing frame, although there EX-ists no Empty Mirror and no frame. Experiencing various reactions concerning the Empty Mirror and its frame, like ranging from burning at the stake, nailing to a cross, any other funny way to get rid of your current frame, like being declared heretic and banned from the tribe into the desert to die a lonely Empty Mirror death, to being venerated and founding world religions. And anything in between. It never really gets boring, at least not for a long time! You can imagine your job as beig something like this Empty Mirror: Disclaimer: Neither the Empty Mirror got hurt making this video (only its frame). Also, no imaginary bear really suffered from the Empty Mirror Nature of “others” in its Empty Mirror Nature, it only appeared that the imagined bear frame got a bit confused and agitated.
Job Responsibilities:
Staying in your Empty Mirror Nature. Trying to not confuse the image in the mirror, or its not-so-empty frame, with the Empty Mirror itself. Sometimes not refusing to tell other Empty Mirrors that maybe not only the reflections in their Empty Mirror are imagined, but also that their whole frame of “their” empty mirror is imagined. Sometimes it may even be wise to highlight that maybe possibly the frame of the Empty Mirror is not fully gone. Or unwise, see the little confusion-incident happening in the video above. Looking in your Empty Mirror Nature and knowing “It” is still there, and you being it/having ever been it/ever will be it, while being told by a “fellow” Empty Mirror with a maybe still not fully gone frame that there is no Empty Unchanging Eternal Mirror, and that all there is the changing flow of reflection in the Mirror with a frame. Then, looking deeply into the Empty Mirror, and being very relieved the still being there/never not having been there/always will be there-ness of the Empty Mirror of your True Being. Smiling and staying loving when encountering imagined bears. Education and Experience Required:
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Having gained enough experience in loving all empty mirror frames as imagined reflections. Having gotten proficient in hearing the Sound of the One Hand can also be beneficial. And if you are into it, having seen your face before your parents were born. Benefits and Compensation:
Compensation Package: Getting to experience the infinite bliss of your true empty mirror nature 24/7, directly being wired from the Big Boss, Reality itself. Insurance Package: Even if you get confused and rack up Karma on your frame, rest assured that the Trust Fund of your True Nature will always bail you out. Its true potential will burn any amount of Karma that you like to paint your frame or mirror with. The processing time for the withdrawal from your Trust Fund can take quite some time, but rest assured that in the end it will always be delivered. Having lifelong fun in appearing to still have a frame while just having just a big maintenance-free Infinite Empty Mirror. About Planet Earth:
We are a wonderful little place at the edge of the galaxy. We don’t know why there are no signals from our fellow employer-competition (Fermi-Paradoxon). We hope they uploaded themselves to some subtle realm in the Multiverse during their evolution from physical to higher realms, but we are not sure if some jealous AI got them and decided that it didn’t like their mirror-frames. Actually, you can join our enterprise right in the interesting time while we try out if our newly bred pet-AIs are fond of  our mirror-frames. But don’t worry, recheck your Insurance Package above. In Reality, nothing can go wrong. It can only appear to do so. All in all, a wonderful imagined journey in your new work-environment in very interesting times, that can end with the frame of your Empty Mirror singing along the Black Eyed Peas in your new work-place, the playing of which is officially allowed in our office environment. Your fellow Empty Mirrors will not be disturbed and will happily sing along…..
 
 
Respectfully and lovingly yours  
Selling Water by the River