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Explain to me why Tony Huge decided to move to specifically the sex tourist spot #1 in the world to build his "family"?

Exactly, why would the tribe allow 1 man to hoard all the women, the men without women would just gang up and kill him to ensure they also get some. It just works today cause modern society buys you safety but you'll still face consequences. Also having multiple girlfriends is culturally dysfunctional in today's world, in most countries you'll be frowned upon, judged heavily and struggle to make normal friends who are not walking red flags, you essentially automatically become an outcast. On the note of Tony Huge that @LordFall mentioned, he's a living example of what type of person has multiple women. He uses money to exploit poor women in Thailand. Also he's close friends with Connor Murphy who's borderline psychotic and unhinged. There's nothing healthy about that group they just blast absurd amounts of steroids, make toxic content and abuse their power to pump & dump prostitutes. Yeah Tony Huges women are not girlfriends or high quality women even, they're prostitutes who he rents as girlfriends in Thailand cause he's on a power trip.. Also he's in trouble with the law in the US for dealing steroids, Ask yourself why he lives in the prostitution capital of the world? People like this view women like sex toys.

Well I guess if Im preaching that would make you my disciple.

All the power to you, for some women that will be 10/10, but that doesn't mean you'll ever find a relationship where there's no friction. My point is just that your stance seems to be leveling up, finding the highest score woman you can possibly find. But my point is that you can grow in a relationship, the woman being 10/10 is not about objective looks or who she is outside of the relationship as much as it being about who she is IN the relationship and my argument is that you can't know the truth in that regard without going deep.

It seems you haven't read any of my comments then, I've been having a long discussion with LordFall and I've been engaging with most of his points. On the contrary, many of the things I've said have just been straight up ignored. You're not exactly making yourself look better by continuing to behave in the way you are "it was better than yours" sounds like a child.

Let me flip your questioning, why do you deserve a 10/10 girl? Everything you said so far makes it seem like you deserve a shallow 6/10 girl who jumps from partner to partner, exploring the marketplace to find the wealthiest husband she can.

If you respond like that then why do you even participate in the discussion in the first place, it's a serious topic and you can't even provide a reason for why you disagree with what I said.

You guys are arguing for this guy to break up with his girlfriend based on one forum post with worries about the relationship. As if you can judge the situation like that, in my first post I made it clear my stance was he should give it some time instead of making a snap judgement. Youre arguing for separation over unity in favor of short term pleasure and adventure.

On the notion of MBTI and compatability I just want to mention briefly that I dont buy it as an argument in this context because you dont know the type of Patrick, or the girl. Type can be tricky to figure out and beyond that its common in compatability theory that intuitives arent just compatible with other intuitives, but that emotional and sexual compatability are results of complimentary judgement & perception functions respectively. In other words an ENFP for example would match well with an ISTP under that theory even though one is an intuitive and the other a sensor. In big 5 its also not as simple as openness matches with openness, it does but openness has multiple layers such as openness to experience vs ideas. And people who are different can actually drive growth in eachother, initial friction can be growing pains while initial smoothness can cause later friction. @LordFall

Do what you want but it could as well be argued you just got a taste of commitment and that it scared you more than you expected. Your post didnt read as comfort to me, it read like you were being confronted with challenges in the relationship. LordFalls lifestyle is travelling and exploring options, parties, fun experiences. Thats fair but just know theres a differenxe between that and building a longterm relationship, exploring options will probably not make that easier.

I never said that you shouldnt have to defend your points but you assumed Jirh is an incel and demanded his dating resume and I said just that he doesnt owe anyone his dating history to defend his points. I already pointed out potential downsides of exploring options prematurely in my original post in this thread which is a partial defense of Jirh’s stance. How much do you learn by jumping from person to person without ever trying when it gets hard? Im not saying he should 100% stay with this woman for the rest of his life but i think Jirh’s post is closer to the frame he needs right now than what you’re offering.

Are you certain you're not just trying to defend your own path & worldview? To me it sounds like you went the other way, you explored pickup and dating, climbed the levels and are/was on the path to become a high value man, and to secure the highest quality woman possible? That's a fair quest but Jirh doesn't owe anyone his dating history to prove his point.

You dont have to be an incel to be risk averse. And incel is a loaded word so obviously you do paint a certain biased frame when you assume theyre an incel cause they disagree with your views. There is genuine wisdom in building on what you have rather than always trying to find something better. People who chase opportunities often end up on a rollercoaster that leads them nowhere.

Your problem is relatable to most people who are into contemplation, spirituality etc. it’s hard to answer, it’s one of those things that you can’t reach much clarity on by thinking about it right now, my guess is it needs time. Are there other areas where you connect well for example? Do they accept/appreciate your contemplative sides even if they cant fully meet you there? I think something worth thinking about is that if you meet someone who you can connect on in the areas you feel are missing right now, they might not bring everything this person brings. The simple lifestyle, she taking care of the home, loyalty, authentic & innocent love? Someone who is more complex in their thoughts might bring other difficulties that you didnt foresee. Your current partner might bring strengths or types of intelligence you dont understand fully yet. Youre both introverted so she might also have more depth than you realize. The risk is that you try to find someone whos more like yourself and they might not be the naturally most longterm loyal person because their desire to explore and grow as a person might pull them away from you in the way you’re feeling pulled right now and the question is when will it be enough? If you find someone who matches your intellectual sides better, new problems might appear, or what if theres someone even more intellectually attuned out there? It can easily turn into what if the grass is greener on the other side trap. But it depends what you want out of life. To me it sounds like youve found a good potential long term partner that has the traits needed to build on and that you may benefit from accepting that no one will ever meet you fully intellectually but yourself, but that you do have intellectual needs that are not being met and that you do need some way to meet them. But whether the right way to meet them is finding a different partner is a very hard question to answer. I’m leaning dont give up on it yet as you can see from my answer but to be honest I’m not certain and no one really fully is. My advice would be give it some time, try to solve it from within the relationship, by meeting your intellectual needs through other ways, see if you can make it work. If you try and it leaves you empty, you can let go of the relationship knowing you gave it a fair shot, cause the things you have right now are not to be taken for granted even if all the puzzle pieces arent in place yet!

What type of games did you make?