Rishabh R

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

@Dauntment is reframing negative situations positively to overcome them a kind of growth ?

Ya @Leo Gura can we get a time frame ?

@Leo Gura happened with me once and I was kicked out of a campus beside mine campus.

@Leo Gura ok thank you and there I must approach. And also before approaching a girl I must see around if she is there alone or not?

@Raze yeah you are right. I am in India and cold approach here is seen like stalking.

@Leo Gura Is there any other option since I remain in my campus after coming from the classes to study in my hostel. By the way sorry for making excuses.

@Leo Gura I have approached girls but when I approach a random girl then that girl becomes insecure and their boyfriends become angry. I fear that will I land in trouble if I approach a senior girl. I now approach known girls.

@Schizophonia how ?

I am single, 23 year old studying in college . Whenever I see any couple it hurts me a lot and makes me jealous. How to deal with it ? I have cold approached many girls and girls of my batch are insecure( I am also an insecure person ). Will this phase of my life pass ? Cause girls of my batch prefer other guys over me . How do I deal with resentment , anger , a feeling of taking revenge towards them . Even tough I have not abused or beaten any girls and I don't want to ask I am doing self directed CBT and recently ordered a book meditations by Marcus Aurelius .

@mr_engineer I am already working to improve my life by studying for exams, reading philosophy or self help books,doing therapy etc.

@NoSelfSelf hope is the key which inspires action.

@NoSelfSelf the solution is to stop caring and move forward. You could also talk about that in a respectful manner and also hope to find a better person is one of the key aspects of inner game. So don't demotivate me.

So, guys are these experiences valuable ? Will they contribute to something good in the future like finding a good relationship / girl who doesn't treat me badly and loves me for who I am ?

@bebotalk Nobody is inherently evil or an enemy. Even tough I feel the same way but I don't go around hurting women like this. @Thought Art as for this guy forgive me if I am being a hypocrite but I hurt women who have hurt me in the past and generally don't hurt women I need to stop demonizing beautiful women which I need to work on. And also there is an avoidance of truth mechanism going on. You did excellent job by posting that video. The truth being avoided here is: Beautiful women are also human, beutiful women suffer in their life too.