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@LordFall I have heard of it but I find self-help/philosophy books more interesting .

@enchanted Yup bro great share. What I have realized that in career or dating that taking action never betrays you .I you take action and fail - you will fail better. If you take action and succeed - that's great. If you take no action at all even if luck hands you the lottery of your goals it won't be worth it and would be more miserable than taking action and failing. Recognized this before my matriculation ( class 10 th exam ). Procrastination is a stagnation engine .

@Natasha Tori Maru ❤️ . As per at the 3 different stages of reading the book I remember that first I used not giving a F--- while reading the book 1st time , then 2nd time I learned that acceptance of suffering is better than avoiding suffering ( this was a life changer for me as around the same time I discovered Acceptance and Commitment therapy ) - basically I was jealous of a beautiful girl at my college dating one of my friends who mistreated me. Anyways now she is married to someone else. The 3rd time I learned that caring about something important is necessary and it must be healthy or as per the book internally controllable and not only that it must be acted on rather than sitting and thinking ,talking about that I care about this ,that. Now I have made a values alignment tracker based on the book using Claude ai. Here is my track record. I update it almost daily after noticing my actions. Appreciate you too.

I have read it over and over again and loved every bit of it. ( more than 3 times) And I can proudly say that it improved my life. Looking back at my life even though I am still young now , I think that my choice of value was good but my measurement of self-assesment was wrong and it made me suffer. I used to compare myself with people who dated,had a relationship,posted on this forum that girls rejected me and then dated other guys( which happened for real ) , but those rejections were not due to the fact that I was less attractive than other guys but rather I was vulnerable. I misunderstood myself to be inferior to other people who had relationship experience ( which is victimhood narcissism per say according to the book ). Now I realized where my un-confident feelings were coming from - it was not behavioural ,it was thought oriented which I challenged later on. Now a these days rejection stings me but it doesn't stop me . Sort of like - The desire for a positive experience is itself a negative experience and the acceptance of a negative experience is itself a positive experience . I saw a recent example of this in my life recently and many others in the past.

@Miguel1 I think that the marker of authenticity, vulnerability is initial nervousness and expressing yourself despite it as compared to performative authenticity which doesn't involves actual risk or nervousness .

Yup it happened to me and I saw majority of people doing it instead of practicing truth or honesty or vulnerability .

@Natasha Tori Maru I don't understand frame control but I appreciate last lines of your post.

Posting here indicating that I'm good. And yes rejection is a win not a failure or loss.

@Olaf Carry forward this same vulnerability to real life social interactions.You will progress. The post on this forum is itself evidence of your vulnerability. You're further than you think. This isn't just feel good advice it's practical reality.

@Zenterus What you said was wise.

Yup .

@BlessedLion Great post. I think vulnerability - expressing oneself honestly to others must act as a compass in dating. In the past I have consumed pick up material but it's bunch of surface level tactics as compared to Dr. Robert Glover or Manson's wisdom. Yup pickup is performance compared to honest vulnerability. The outcome of 1st is that even if you grind the nail and succeed it will still be unfulfilling and leave you empty whereas if you practice the later (vulnerability) then even you get rejected or end up dateless you will be fulfilled . Thanks for sharing.

@Ramanujan Man what are you talking about. Anyways @krockerman great that you grew out of it. I personally purchased ToddV's winner game ,read Mark Manson's Models and Dating essentials for Men by Dr.Robert Glover . Attracted many girls throughout my life but none of them culminated in a date or relationship. What I can see that I have made huge progress. I made a post few days earlier titled - Rejection on the forum. I can proudly say that I have moved on from it. Earlier rejection used to consume me for months but now even less than 5 days .

@Olaf Man , you found a receptive girl. It has also happened with me in the past a couple of times. I think it's wise to communicate your honest intentions to her beforehand .

@Olaf Yup ,action leads to confidence. Waiting for confidence before taking action makes you un-confident.