Bernardo Carleial

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  1. "It is difficult for members of a modern individualistic society to imagine the extent to which the Canela(tribe) saw the group as more important than the individual. Generosity and sharing was the ideal, while withholding was a social evil. Sharing possessions brought esteem. Sharing one’s body was a direct corollary. Desiring control over one’s goods and self was a form of stinginess. In this context, it is easy to understand why women chose to please men and why men chose to please women who expressed strong sexual needs. No one was so self-important that satisfying a fellow tribesman was less gratifying than personal gain." Sex At Dawn - Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá
  2. @Leo Gura! DO YOU THINK I'M NOT AWARE OF THIS LEO!!!?? I was a pickup-artist myself!!!! Off course I know that I'm being needy!!! Do you think I'm doing this willingly!?!? I definitely wasn't expecting this!!! For years I thought that I got immune to this, because I haven't experienced that since I started doing pickup... But now it seems to have bitten me in the ass...
  3. I still can't believe this is happening (and I also cannot believe I'm writing this down) the reason why I'm sharing this with you guys it's because I feel myself in a very vulnerable state.... I live in Brazil, and I'm preparing myself for taking an exam called ENEM, which is the equivalent to a SAT test. As I was studying at my school, doing remote studying due to the pandemic, when I've met her(she's a vMEME Yellow Literature teacher), she was substituting another professor, who left the school, the moment I saw her, I immediately started to feel an intense connection, I considered myself in a vMEME ORANGE/Green , but I always had a very deep appreciation towards the vMEME Yellow independence and expertise, also the fact that they are a lone wolf. And she has all that characteristics that were previously mentioned (plus more) I started chatting with her, sharing her some ideas which I thought she might like, and she always replied me with a text expressing her views in a more broader manner, always leaving space for discussion. Until one day I couldn't resist anymore and declared myself to her, that I was in love, and that's when things get weird.... she replied me back, in a very direct and also neutral manner (that's pretty much the moment when I realized how Yellow thinks...) She said that her job is a very important pillar of her life and that she doesn't want to risk losing it , she also said that she could not intervene with my emotions in the sense that she wouldn't say how I should or shouldn't behave, that it is up to me to decide... she also said that if it isn't too much for me that we can continue having the same kind of discussions that we've had before, because she appreciates my point of view on things... I remember I felt devastated, but at the same time she was so honest and neutral that I couldn't blame her even if I wanted to... Until one day, I've had an emotional breakdown (things are getting tough for me these days...) and for some reason I reached out for her once more asking for help, and she was slowly being able to soothe me and to take me out from that terrible state that I was in... She find out I'm an artist... and that immediately sparkled her attention, she wanted to know more about how my creative process actually works. She eventually ended up calling me with a giant list of questions, wanting to know how the world looks like from the perspective of an artist. At that moment I didn't know how to react... but I decided to take her questions, but from time to time, I could resist and started to say how much I'm in love with her and how much joy it would be for me to get to know her better (I felt very vulnerable at that moment...) but again... she remained silent and neutral... and continued asking me questions . The only thing near to what I was hoping for was the moment she said that if it wasn't in that particular context (Professor- Student) she said that there might be a possibility for her to consider because she finds my worldview to be very interesting... and that was it. And every time I try to get her to say something more, she dodges the question, once more, in a very neutral way.... I need some help guys! I'm really desperate . I was always afraid of falling in love precisely because of that. I'm constantly thinking about her, but I don't whether I should talk to her more or try to avoid her for a while... Every answer she does seems more and more ambiguous to me.... and she is very self-sufficient she likes to do things by herself (even travel!) and I can imagine how turn off it might be for her having to deal with a needy guy the way I'm behaving these days... Please guys I need help! If you were able to go that far.... please give me a comment. I appreciate you guys thoughts on things!🙏🙏🙏
  4. "For the primitives, childbirth is surrounded by strict taboos; in particular, the placenta must be carefully burned or thrown into the sea, because whoever might get hold of it would hold the newborn’s fate in his hands; this envelope in which the fetus is formed is the sign of its dependence; in annihilating it, the individual is able to detach himself from the living magma and to realize himself as an autonomous being." An excerpt from the book "The Second Sex" by Simone de Beauvoir
  5. Now THAT is REAL Journalism!!!!
  6. The worldview that this girl has is very vMEME Orange
  7. This is gonna be one of those videos that talks about the notion o NOFAP. I would like to share my opinions towards it because I think not many people talk about that from this perspective. A couple years ago I was into nofap, and I was able to endure one year with very little relapse, until one day I realized that I was very worried about this notion and then I found that I became neurotic about it. Today I'm aware of the benefits of semen retention that he talks about. But I don't consider myself as a "follower " of the NOFAP group. And what ends up happening paradoxically is that it enhances more my sexuality. Because if I wanna watch porn, I watch porn, if I wanna jerk off, I do jerk off. But today I became so conscious of the toxicity and fakeness that porn can bring that I can even stand looking at it. I realized that there are more healthier ways to keep yourself aroused. Just watching a woman enjoying her own body might be sufficient. And if you think you can't do that, so yeah..., try a 6 month nofap and see how it goes, it can give all these benefits that this guys is talking about!🙃😉👍
  8. This video might be hard to watch, viewer discretion is advised
  9. @Hello from RussiaBecause I don't know enough about this particular stage(Turquoise) to make the case.😅 It is more due to my lack of knowledge other than anything I have written before in my last post on this mega-thread: my spiral wizardry goes until vMEME Yellow . However, I know for sure that he is solid vMEME Yellow because of his Integral Theory. P.S: I realized that I have omitted the word "not" in my last post. Making it seem like I understand vMEME Turquoise, which is definitely not the case... 😅I'm sorry for that.😅
  10. Yaron Brook: Ayn Rand and the philosophy of Objectivism | Lex Fridman Podcast #138 This interview is very good for understanding the vMEME Orange worldview. It contains a lot of the references that Leo has mentioned in his video "Why Libertarianism is Nonsense"
  11. A lot of members here put Ken Wilber at vMEME Turquoise. but because I'm not very familiar with that stage, I will put him at vMEME YELLOW/Turquoise. But in this topic in particular he touches on a lot of non-dual principles that is associated to vMEME Turquoise.
  12. @HusseinisdoingfineThere's a lot to unpack here.... I also read the Spiral Dynamics book myself, along with Ken Wilber's Integral Model. And I have to say that @Leo Gura actually does a decent job in explaining the model in its broadest terms, could have done it better? Maybe, I actually think that his explanations towards vMEME Yellow and Systems Thinking could have been better. But it's also important to take into account how much emphasis he puts in verifying everything he says in the viewer's direct experience! And to not take everything he says as dogma. He also makes it very clear how easy it is to misuse this model or to use that to appeal to their own biases... With regard to the mega-threads, I do agree that there are videos that shouldn't belong in the category of a particular MEME. I was also guilty of this in the beginning, before I read the book, today I'm much more careful about this, whenever I'm not 100% sure I write it down in advance. I think that ,maybe, if it becomes too far off the moderators could regulators to filter whether it belong to that particular stage or not. (I know this sugestion is highly unpopular, but it is not up to me to decide it, the whole forum should have to agree on that, or not)