Joseph Maynor

IT'S A GOOD IDEA TO BALANCE SYSTEM BUILDING WITH 30-DAY CHALLENGES -- OTHERWISE THE EGO-MIND WILL TURN THE TABLE OVER ON ANY SYSTEM EASILY BY CALLING IT STUPID OR OVERLY-PAINFUL -- AND I WANNA TALK ABOUT THE TRAP OF BEING OVERLY-PERFECTIONISTIC AND IDEALISTIC WITH YOUR SYSTEMS AND HOW PARTIAL CREDIT IS SUPER IMPORTANT -- PARTIAL CREDIT OVER TIME IS ACTUALLY WHAT YOU HAVE REALLY HAVE AT THE END OF THE DAY -- SO, DON'T POOH POOH PARTIAL CREDIT, IT'S EVERYTHING -- SO, THIS MEANS YOU GOTTA GET OFF THE TIT WITH SYSTEM BUILDING AT A CERTAIN POINT IN DEVELOPMENT: WHAT YOU DO IS YOU PICK A SYSTEM, AND THEN YOU DO A 30-DAY CHALLENGE ON THAT SYSTEM WITHOUT CHANGING SHIT ABOUT THE SYSTEM -- GET YOUR HANDS OFF THE SYSTEM FOR 30-DAYS -- NO TOUCHIE TOUCHIE FOR 30 DAYS -- YOU JUST EXECUTE THAT SYSTEM FOR 30 DAYS, THAT'S IT -- THEN YOU CAN FIND YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES IN YOUR SYSTEM AND REPAIR THOSE [Writing in process]

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FOR MEN, BEING IN AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN ACTUALLY BRINGS OUT YOUR HEALTHY MASCULINITY BECAUSE YOU REALIZE YOUR FEMININE PARTNER NEEDS THAT HEALTHY MASCULINITY

I LET IN (ALLOW) AND MAKE USE OF MY RELIGIOUS AND MYSTICAL INSIGHTS I JUST DON'T WHITE-KNUCKLE CLING TO TRUTH -- I FOUND OUT THAT'S NOT NECESSARY -- BUT DON'T USE THAT AS AN EXCUSE TO FILTER OUT THINGS THAT ACTUALLY MAKE THEMSELVES KNOWN TO YOU -- YOU NEED TO OPEN YOURSELF UP TO ACKNOWLEDGING ALL YOUR INSIGHTS, INCLUDING BUT NOT LIMITED TO YOUR RELIGIOUS AND MYSTICAL THOUGHTS AND IDEAS -- I STILL HAVE RELIGIOUS AND MYSTICAL INSIGHTS AND I MAKE USE OF THEM AND AT A MINIMUM I'M INSPIRED BY THEM -- LIFE IS A TRIP; ENJOY IT -- STAY OPEN AND LOOK FOR CONNECTIONS -- I STILL FEEL SOMETIMES LIKE THE UNIVERSE IS GIVING ME WHAT I NEED IN ORDER TO DO WHAT IT WANTS ME TO DO -- AND THAT THIS IS A GOOD PLACE, A PLACE OF OPTIMISM -- LIKE EVERYTHING IS CONVERGING INTO A POINT -- SO, I RECOGNIZE RELIGIOUS AND MYSTICAL THOUGHTS, I JUST DON'T WHITE-KNUCKLE CLING TO THEM OR ANY KIND OF TRUTH

LAW OF ATTRACTION IS VERY FUNDAMENTAL IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT WORK [Writing in process]

THE NICE GUY THINKS HE’S GETTING FRIEND-ZONED, BUT HE’S ACTUALLY FRIEND-ZONING THE GIRL — THIS IS A PROFOUND INSIGHT [Writing in process]

PASSION IS LIKE A SEPARATION AND INTIMACY IS LIKE A UNIFICATION -- BOTH ENDS OF THIS PARADOX OF INTIMACY VS. PASSION NEED TO BE WORKED IN THE INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP -- YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE EITHER SIDE BLOCKED ESPECIALLY BY THE OTHER SIDE -- YOU CAN CLING TO ONE SIDE OF THE PARADOX TO THE EXPENSE OF THE OTHER -- THERE'S A YIN/YANG QUALITY TO INTIMACY VS. PASSION -- FOR EXAMPLE YOU MIGHT BE HOARDING BONDING AND LOVE WHICH MIGHT CAUSE A WHITE-KNUCKLE CLINGING TO INTIMACY WHICH MIGHT BLOCK PASSION [Writing in process]

TRAUMAS CAN MAKE YOU PARTICULARLY UNCONSCIOUS TO THINGS IN YOURSELF THAT YOU WOULD OTHERWISE BE CONSCIOUS OF -- LEMME TALK ABOUT TRAUMAS AND THE PROCESS OF UNWIRING TRAUMAS [Writing in process]

MY MASCULINE SHADOW KINDA MAKES ME D*CKISH ABOUT HOW I SAY THINGS SOMETIMES AND I GOTTA CORRECT FOR IT AFTER THE FACT [Writing in process]

MEN NEED TO LEARN HOW TO BUILD PASSION IN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN BY LETTING THEIR MASCULINITY OUT OF THEIR SHADOW -- THIS IS SOMETHING THAT WE MEN NEED TO WORK ON IN OUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP BUILDING WORK -- WHEN YOU HAVE HIGH COMMITMENT AND INTIMACY AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS CHUGGING ALONG BUT NOT AMAZING, THAT MIGHT MEAN THAT THE TWO OF YOU'S PASSION MIGHT BE BLOCKED [Writing in process]

FOR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP BUILDING WORK: DON'T TRY TO REV UP PASSION AT IF THERE'S NO INTIMACY -- THAT DOESN'T WORK -- YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON ALL 3 ELEMENTS OF AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP: COMMITMENT, INTIMACY, AND PASSION -- IF YOU HAVE 2 OUT OF THE 3, JUST WORK ON THE THIRD ONE -- IF YOUR COMMITMENT AND INTIMACY ARE OFF THE SCALE, ANY AMOUNT OF PASSION IS GONNA BE AMAZING [Writing in process]

THE PARADOX BETWEEN PLANNING AND ACCEPTANCE AND HOW YOU WANNA WORK BOTH ENDS OF THIS PARADOX -- DON'T WHITE KNUCKLE-CLING TO EITHER END OF THIS PARADOX AS OPPOSED TO THE OTHER [Writing in process]

A WOMEN'S BITCHY SIDE MIGHT COME OUT WITH NICE GUYS IN AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE THE GUY'S GETTING EVERYTHING IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND THE GIRL'S NOT GETTING ANYTHING -- THIS IS KINDA COUNTER-INTUITIVE AND FASCINATING [Writing in process]

HOW TO BALANCE BEING BEST FRIENDS WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND WHILE ALSO STOKING PASSION IN THE RELATIONSHIP -- THIS IS SOMETHING TO STAY MINDFUL OF IN YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP BUILDING WORK [Writing in process]

"NICE GUY SYNDROME" IS HAVING THE D*CKISH MASCULINE SIDE SOMEWHAT IN YOUR SHADOW -- THE NICE GUY NEEDS TO INTEGRATE THAT SIDE MORE -- THIS IS TYPICALLY CAUSED BY DISIDENTIFYING WITH THE D*CKISH MASCULINE SIDE BY DEFINING YOURSELF IN CONTRAST TO SOME MALE FIGURE THAT YOU DIDN'T WANT TO BE LIKE IN YOUR CHILDHOOD -- I'M GONNA TALK ABOUT THIS IN RELATION TO THE ELEMENT OF PASSION IN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN -- NICE GUY SYNDROME CAN DIMINISH THE PASSION IN YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP -- I'LL DISCUSS THIS ISSUE MUCH MORE AS I WORK THROUGH THIS MYSELF -- THIS IS ONE OF THOSE COUNTER-INTUITIVE THINGS THAT MEN HAVE TO LEARN -- THIS IS RIGHT IN LINE WITH SOME OF THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT WORK THAT I'M DOING RIGHT NOW IN MY OWN LIFE -- THIS IS TRICKY BECAUSE IT INTRODUCES THE ACCEPTANCE VS. CHANGE PARADOX AND HOW YOU GOTTA WORK BOTH ENDS OF THIS PARADOX -- LEMME DISCUSS ALL THIS HERE [Writing in process]