Yali

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  1. Cold Approach Therapy
    Cold Approach Therapy
    Most of my nights out were with wingmen. Maybe 90-95%.
    Solo gaming is real hard when you start. But it grows you the most if you can muster the balls to do it.
    If you want to seriously learn game, you must look for experienced wingmen who you can learn from.

  2. How long for pickup results if naturally already decent with girls
    How long for pickup results if naturally already decent with girls
    What do you mean by results? Sleeping with one girl? That is so random it could happen anywhere from 1 to 500 approaches.
    The only result you should be interested in is building a solid skillset. Which takes 2-5 years of constant approaching.
    If you're not gonna do 1000 approaches you shouldn't even start pickup.

  3. Cold Approach Therapy
    Cold Approach Therapy
    Stop comparing yourself to others. They are not you.
    If your looks are really good or you are highly extroverted then getting girls is much much easier.
    You have to work with the cards you've been dealt.
    You just have to accept that some guys will get girls way easier than you, and such guys will never understand your struggles. So don't listen to them.

  4. Cold Approach Therapy
    Cold Approach Therapy
    Stop thinking about it, stop worrying about it, and just commit to going out and approaching people. Their reactions are irrelevant.
    There is no mental trick here. The only trick is to force yourself to go out and approach every week, whether you want to or not. If you try to be too clever here, you will end up not taking any action. So the solution is not more thinking, it's action.
    YOU CANNOT THINK YOUR WAY INTO SKILLS WITH GIRLS. You must go in the field and take the blows. All the shit that will arise, you will deal with as it arises.
    Pickup requires courage.

  5. Cold Approach Therapy
    Cold Approach Therapy
    @Rishabh R Just the discipline you will need to go out every weekend for 2 years straight will grow hair on your balls.
    And much more will come along the way.
    For example, most of guys have zero sense of humor. You don't know how to crack to hilarious joke. That will take you 2 years to learn.

  6. I am losing all my interests and passions and i am scared
    I am losing all my interests and passions and i am scared
    I'm not. Because I already went through that.
    I spent 2 decades building my life. Many of you guys haven't.
    If you are 18, you need to spend at least 10 years grinding to build up a decent life. But realistically more like 20 years.

  7. I am losing all my interests and passions and i am scared
    I am losing all my interests and passions and i am scared
    @Asia P You must be careful not to turn spirituality into a bypass or form of escape from managing your survival and life.
    If you struggle to get dressed, what good is your spirituality?
    Spirituality is good, but at your age you need to put a lot of time and energy into just mastering survival. Build a decent life for yourself. Don't just sit around hoping that your life will get great all by itself. It won't. You have to put work into it.
    Be careful about neglecting core areas of your life like family, relationships, career, building skills, sex, friendship, finances, diet, fitness, health, etc. You have to invest energy into all these in addition to whatever spiritual work you do.
    It's very hard to be happy if you neglect all those areas and only do spirituality. You can get yourself trapped that way.

  8. Sadhu smokes 5meo dmt
    Sadhu smokes 5meo dmt
    Means nothing.
    Smoke it yourself and that's all you need to know.
    Why are you asking some naked man in the jungle to validate God for you? That's the mistake.
    Also, comparing yourself to full time yogis is foolish. You are not that guy and probably never will be.

  9. Cold Approach Therapy
    Cold Approach Therapy
    There is no substitute to cold approaching and interacting with 1000s of women. This process will grow you in so many ways.
    You don't even understand what you're missing.

  10. Cold Approach Therapy
    Cold Approach Therapy
    @IronFoot You are looking at this the wrong way.
    Learning game is not about chasing for sex. It's about growing yourself into a powerful man and an adventure.
    The main benefit is not the sex you have but how strong you become.

  11. Cold Approach Therapy
    Cold Approach Therapy
    Once you develop a lot of experience and skill, you won't need to start from scratch every time.
    You should plan to invest at least 2-5 years into learning game. Then you will have the skill set.
    You should also seriously consider moving to a city with a good nightlife and day game opportunities.

  12. Is nn DMT good for consciousness work
    Is nn DMT good for consciousness work
    yeah it’s actually a little insane how good it is at that. usually it doesn’t even really set in until a day or two later, I’ll just be walking around, looking at people and think “holy shit this is all my imagination”

  13. RSD free tour LA December 8-10th Owen and Julien
    RSD free tour LA December 8-10th Owen and Julien
    If only you guys knew how sloppy and lazy these bootcamp instructors are. The amount of correction they give is minimal. If you wanna learn game you will have to learn to diagnose and solve your own problems. Don't expect anyone to solve them for you. You can't buy your way out of this problem. Learn the theory and then you can diagnose yourself.

  14. RSD julien
    RSD julien
    Dude, it took me 450 approaches to get laid.
    No bootcamp can promise you to get laid.
    I've met all the RSD coaches. They all got good game.

  15. Be Unique Inside Your Own Frame - Owen Cook
    Be Unique Inside Your Own Frame - Owen Cook
    Most philosophers just mentally-masturbate until they die.

  16. Is nn DMT good for consciousness work
    Is nn DMT good for consciousness work
    DMT will make you so conscious that your pathetic life will melt like cotton candy in the ocean.

  17. Are psychedelics ULTIMATELY a distraction?
    Are psychedelics ULTIMATELY a distraction?
    Haha
    Nothing beats DMT. It's impossible to communicate how profound it is. Infinite profundity. If things got any more profound you'd be dead.
    If I took any more I would die of Love and never return.

  18. Are psychedelics ULTIMATELY a distraction?
    Are psychedelics ULTIMATELY a distraction?
    I have not found any methods that work well for me other than long and tedious-as-fuck full-time meditation retreats.
    Realistically you need 100 hours straight of uninterrupted mindfulness concentration.
    But even then, you will fall out of that state once you stop the retreat. Changing one's baseline is the hardest thing.

  19. Getting into Spirituality Too Early (A trap I fell into)
    Getting into Spirituality Too Early (A trap I fell into)
    I would like to share with you guys a trap that I fell into in my life; getting into spirituality too early. 
    When I was 23 years old, I graduated college and had an existential crisis. I didn't know who I was outside of my college self and didn't know what to do with my life. I started to dabble in the self help field, watching lots of Leo's videos and reading some self help books. I also got a job at a Telecommunications company (which my mom basically handed to me I might add) and I started working long, stressful hours. The first couple of years flew by. 
    When I was 25, I decided to quit and spend all of my money on traveling and self help books, I coasted by for a couple of years, living off of COVID unemployment money, money that I had saved up, and some odd jobs. This is when I started to get into spirituality. I read all of Jed Mckenna's books, The Book of Not Knowing, Conversations with God and I listened to every one of Leo's videos on Spiritual Enlightenment. I was blown away by the material and am still fascinated as to what this state of consciousness is and how I can get there. 
    This seems like a nice trajectory that I've taken, but there are a couple of major problems with it. I know now that I was using spirituality as a distraction from the authentic desires that I held for creating a successful dating life and also finding my life purpose. These spiritual pursuits were not  an authentic desire of mine, they were merely being used to avoid the emotional labor that it would take to tackle my dating needs and to find my life purpose. Sure, I now have a nice baseline understanding of what enlightenment is and what techniques can be used to get there, but now at 28 I am basically starting from ground zero in the dating world and I have found my life purpose, but am at ground zero in terms of building this life purpose into a successful career that can earn a sustainable income. As an adult, the evolution of a man's desires should go more or less like this:
    1. Get success in the dating world
    2. Find your life purpose and create success within it
    3. Pursue spirituality / enlightenment
    Can you pursue all three at once? Yeah sure, probably.. just be careful that you are not half assing the pursuit of them. If you are going to pursue something, then fully lean into it. That is why it is more ideal to pursue one fully and then move onto the next. 
     
    Unenlightened people can be described as living in the dream state, enlightened people have exited the dream state and couldn't go back in if they tried. 
    Yes, I admit it, I am dreaming, but I am enjoying every delicious, juicy, painful, anxious moment within this dream... and until it is an authentic desire of mine to leave this dream state, I will not pursue it... and neither should you. 
     
    I hope someone gets something out of this and best of luck to you all.  

  20. Getting into Spirituality Too Early (A trap I fell into)
    Getting into Spirituality Too Early (A trap I fell into)
    Yes, Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs.
    Serious spiritual pursuits will derail your normal life.

  21. The difference between dating in Western countries vs India
    The difference between dating in Western countries vs India
    Well, that's why I would never date nevermind marry a stage Blue girl. Too much dogma. Not worth dealing with.
    But also I think you are overstating it. There must be Orange and Green girls in India.

  22. The difference between dating in Western countries vs India
    The difference between dating in Western countries vs India
    1) Big cities in India must have nightclubs, bars, and a liberal social scene.
    2) Yes, dating in deeply stage Blue societies is more formal and challenging. Casual dating isn't so acceptable there. You need a stage Orange society to do dating effectively. Dating is a stage Orange notion. Pickup advice is not geared towards places like India, it's geared towards Western parts of the world. Obviously you cannot go to a tribe in the Amazon and start running game or setting up coffee dates. When in Rome you must do as the Romans or they might kill you.
    3) Move to where dating is socially acceptable.

  23. The spiral dynamics framework seems flawed
    The spiral dynamics framework seems flawed
    The spiral dynamics framework has never really resonated that strongly with me, but maybe I'm missing something. I struggle to wrap my head around how stage orange is above blue for example... I've read many near death experiences, probably well over a thousand now, involving people who die, experience the afterlife and then come back. These people often talk with highly advanced beings and get downloads of universal truths, have life reviews etc. In none of them did I ever hear that stage orange characteristics are considered more developed than stage blue type characteristics. On the contrary, stage blue people were generally held as much more developed than stage orange people. This came as a surprise to a few atheists who had NDE's who then discovered that these beings considered their quaint religious  neighbours as much more developed than them, even though the atheists thought these people to be pretty dumb. 

    This one guy was a materialistic atheist and used to make fun of some Christian group on his campus that would go around trying to convert people to Christianity. And there was this one guy who he thought was crazy who was into Yoga and stuff. This atheist died for a few minutes while under surgery, was in shock that there was an afterlife, and beings of light showed him that the bible thumping Christians were miles ahead of him in terms of development... they also showed him that this crazy yoga guy was even higher than them in development which shocked him more... but the point is that I see this repeated a lot in NDE's, that stage blue seems to be held as higher than stage orange.

  24. sharing my chat up line
    sharing my chat up line
    You can't verbally trick a girl into getting her number. That's not how game works. You have to actually talk to her and establish an emotional connection so she wants to actually talk to you again.
    Learn to have a proper conversation, not childish gimmickery.

  25. Conscious date vs Unconcious date
    Conscious date vs Unconcious date
    @ambrojohn Lol, you're not going to become confident with women without massive experience with women.
    The most direct, efficient, and precise way to get comfortable with dating is by going on tons of dates.
    Your inner game will self-correct as you become proficient at outer game. Each successful date will make you more and more comfortable doing future dates to the point where dating will be as easy as driving your car. You won't even think about it.