The issue is you're too mature.
Most women we sleep with are not as mature as you.

Corruption is such a deep force that most high IQ people are still very corrupt.
High IQ cannot save you from corruption and bias.
The reason people support Trump is because they are corrupt. So corrupt they don't even know what corruption is.
Corruption gravitates towards corruption regardless of all other factors. Corruption is the real master.
Having an Awakening is not enough to understand corruption.

I've never said I quit weed because I was never a chronic weed user. I done weed like 5 times.
I support your decision to quit. Go for it!
 

Yes, I trade because the situation is just too crazy for simplistic long-term buy and hold. I'm not losing half my money to Trump's epic stupidity.
Once the stupidity shakes out, then I will do long-term buy and hold. But you don't buy and hold at the top of an obvious bubble unless you're a masochist.
Long-term I like Bitcoin, gold, and various tech stocks. But not at crazy inflated prices.

Hardcore meditation retreats.
You need to transition away from the psychedelic crutch eventually anyway. You don't want your connection to God so dependent on an external force.
What's also very helpful is just replaying those memories in your mind. The memories alone can be a powerful way to get you in touch with God right now. It's better than reading scripture or listening to humans.

You guys need to understand how much deeper this work is than merely having an awakening experience. You have to rework your whole understanding of reality, society, mankind, and your relationship to all that.
It's not going to be this simple process of having a few awakening experiences and being done. We are talking about a decade of serious inner work at least to integrate and develop.

Of course. It's all survival.
Man. Woman. Crocodile.
Same force.
You learn this when you do a lot of pickup. The fantasy is stripped bare.
Human love, like all human activity, is corrupt.
Nothing humans do is ever about truth.
If you dare to tell women the truth, kiss your relationship goodbye. Only a fool or a madman would tell a woman the truth.
Note: This is not a license to lie to women. There is a difference between outright lying and just not verbalizing hard truths.

Women are fooling themselves a lot too. Since women date and mate unconsciously, they suffer plenty for it.
What you're describing here is basically Red Pill, not blackpill.
When you enter pickup you go through a phase where you realize how brutal and ruthless mating is. You go through a feeling sorry phase, then you get over it.

I think some travel would be good for you to flush your system with new experiences. You could use that to make some new friends if you travel to the right places.
Investing in some coaching or therapy would be good.
Any other activities that feed your soul and your top values.
But also, don't feel you have to spend it all. Having a large savings is very good for security.
The best investment would be to use that money to transition yourself into a career/biz that could sustain you in the future so you don't have to grind away at a job you dislike.

Look. I'm extremely careful with how I spend the little money I have! To me is common sense to buy a book recommended by someone like you who I look up to, than to buy a book which was marketed the hell out of. Example Jordan Peterson's books which all have flashy covers. And until I finish every book from your book list, why care about buying books I know nothing about?

The issue isn't profit per se.
The issue is that over the last 20 years marketing gurus have taught everyone the idea that to become a respected expert in any field you must publish a book. So now everyone with any degree of fame writes a book just because they need to in order to establish that they are somebody important. So we have millions of people writing shitty books with very low substance just as part of self-promotion. This has diluted and corrupted the whole book industry. Books have been corrupted into self-promotion vehicles.
Book buyers are not aware this corruption has happened. They just assume a book is a book.

It would be interesting to run a test where people eat nothing but pure glucose for 10 years.
Who knows, maybe they would come out healthier? Think of how many toxins and chemicals and pesticides and heavy metals they would avoid.
Compared to a SAD diet it would probably come out on top. But SAD diet is such a low bar.
And eating glucose for 10 years is no fun.

@OBEler Spirituality cannot be learned through a book. That's the bottom line.
Stop reading spiritual books and invest that time into your own serious philosophical inquiry, from scratch. You need to transition to generating your own insight. The insight in books is dead to you. It's like buying dead fish to stock your aquarium. You need live fish that you catch yourself.
Selling dead fish by the ocean.

Yes they are.
This does not contradict having good starting conditions.
Many people had computers and did nothing with them. Still the case today.
You could start a $1B AI company today. But you won't. Because you have neither the vision, nor the skill, nor the intelligence, nor the work ethic.

People get into this work, do it for a while, it becomes a kind of echochamber, and they forget that the rest of mankind is a century out from doing this kind of work.
Never forget how rare what we're doing here is.
It only seems obvious once you're neck deep in it. But most people will never even know this work exists.

I do daily meditation on and off just because I like to retreat into stillness. I often combine meditation with contemplation. The stillness helps me focus and get into a contemplative flow, away from the noise of the day.
For some people a bit of daily mediation is effective. Personally for me it does not produce progress. People's brains work different. Find what works on you.
The ultimate goal is to unlock new permanent baseline shifts. But this requires hardcore effort. It won't happen easily.
I will do whatever I need to to raise my baseline state.
There's definitely changes in me. The changes are subtle but significant. The change is not as radical as being on a psychedelic 24/7. That's a wrong expectation.

Yes, yes. That's how group-think works. Nothing new here. Remember, just 80 years ago people were following Hitler and Stalin into utter madness.
Humans are zombies running on group-think.
What you found with Actualized.org is so cutting edge, so advanced, that it's a century ahead of mankind.

@Daniel Balan You have to accept their level of development. You cannot logick anyone out of their level of development any more than you logick a cat into being a dog.
It takes 5 years of serious inner work to move up one development level, from Blue to Orange. And that assumes the person wants it and is proactive about it, which almost no one is.
You have to accept that Romania will not be Green in your lifetime. This stuff requires 50 years.
Work with what is -- reality -- not fantasies.

I am exaggerating a bit, but sorry, I have to set a high standard for young people. There's no time for games.
If you are behind, do your best to catch up. Do not wallow in dispair. No matter what you must make the best of wherever you are.

XS is the best club in Vegas with the hottest girls. It's worth the $100 if you want the classyist girls. Lesser clubs have trashier girls. The girls at XS are just stunning.
You get what you pay for. Quality costs $$$ in life.
But the DJ also matters a lot. It needs to be a top DJ. Which is usually the case on Fri/Sat. The best DJs pull in the hottest girls.
I knew the DJs so well I knew which kind of girls they would pull in.

It's not about the country, it's about the specific locations within. There are crap and great locations in most countries.
Country is too broad of a measure for lifestyle. You gotta look for pockets of awesomeness. Even within a city there are crap and great parts.

Just because your parents had it doesn't mean you have it.
Whether you have it depends on if you actually have the talents when you practice. Only you can know that.
I can't tell you what to do.
The most powerful practices are:
Psychedelics Hardcore meditation retreats Kriya yoga Do them all if you are serious.
But since you have mental illness be extra careful with psychedelics. Small doses.

Very true.
I learned the most from watching my wingmen, not from cramming theory.
Having one good wingman is worth $10,000 easily.

Hell is other people

Here are the full notes. In my opinion it is the best program he released because it is so structured and based on social principles that he coined.
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### **Program Overview**  
The **Hot Seat at Home Mastermind** is a 12-week immersive course designed by Owen Cook (RSD Tyler) to transform social and dating skills through **inner game mastery**, **practical exercises**, and **advanced psychological frameworks**. The program emphasizes **self-amusement**, **non-neediness**, and **sociocentric consciousness** over scripted routines, focusing on authenticity and emotional resonance. Below is a structured breakdown of the curriculum, principles, and key takeaways.  
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### **Core Philosophy**  
1. **Cause vs. Effect**:  
   - Be the **"white ball"** (cause) directing energy, not the "colored ball" (effect) reacting to external forces.  
   - Rooted in **Stoic principles** : Control your mindset, not outcomes.  
   - *“Wisdom is knowing the difference between what you can control (intent) and what you cannot (her response).”*  
2. **Inner Game Foundations**:  
   - **Self-entertainment**: Prioritize your joy over seeking validation.  
   - **Entitlement**: Act from self-worth, not desperation.  
   - **Freedom of outcome**: Detach from results while pursuing intent.  
---
### **Weekly Breakdown**  
#### **Week 1: Core Principles & Transformational Mindset**  
- **Objective**: Shift from reactive (effect) to proactive (cause) mindset.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Sequencing**: Principles → Practice → Integration.  
  - **Upward spiral**: Small actions compound into confidence.  
  - **LOC (Level of Consciousness)**: Operate from  (neutrality) to avoid neediness.  
- **Exercise**: Journaling to identify “effect” behaviors (e.g., seeking approval).  
#### **Week 2: Mission 1 – Certainty & Emotion**  
- **Objective**: Speak with **authoritativeness** (leadership) and **emotion** (transcendence).  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - Women respond to **emotional spikes**, not logic.  
  - *“A boring handsome guy loses to an average exciting one.”*  
- **Exercise**: Approach 5–10 groups daily, improvising stories on unfamiliar topics with conviction.  
#### **Week 3: Mission 2 – Free Association**  
- **Objective**: Break linear thinking to create **emotional trance**.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Informal > Formal**: Sex and attraction thrive in chaos, not order.  
  - **Law of state transference**: Your energy dictates hers.  
- **Exercise**: Talk for 1–2 minutes without logical connections (e.g., “pineapple, astronauts, disco”).  
#### **Week 4: Mission 3 – Polite Collaboration**  
- **Objective**: Master **subcommunication** through neutrality and friendliness.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Collaborative frame**: Assume everyone is a friend; avoid arrogance/submission.  
  - *“Friendliness is dominance when paired with intent.”*  
- **Exercise**: Approach 10–12 women daily with questions like, “What’s your story?” while staying relaxed.  
#### **Week 5: Mission 4 – Storytelling Without Compliance**  
- **Objective**: Lead interactions by **giving value** (stories) vs. seeking compliance.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Freebies**: Offer anecdotes without expecting investment (e.g., “I saw a kid flip me off today!”).  
  - Avoid “interview mode” (asking too many questions).  
- **Exercise**: Spend 4 days telling stories, 3 days asking questions.  
#### **Week 6: Mission 5 – Sexual Energy & Calibration**  
- **Objective**: Normalize sexuality through **subcommunication**.  
- **Key Concepts**:  
  - **Triangle gazing**: Shift eye contact between eyes and lips.  
  - **Assume familiarity**: Mentally rehearse intimacy to project confidence.  
- **Exercise**: Approach older women to practice flirty banter (e.g., “You’re trouble, aren’t you?”).  
#### **Week 7: Advanced Principles – The 5 Pillars**  
1. **Freedom of Outcome**: Authenticity over neediness.  
2. **Clarity of Intent**: Pursue inspiration, not validation.  
3. **Entitlement**: Command space without apology.  
4. **Self-Amusement**: Prioritize your joy (LOC 540+).  
5. **Sociocentric Frame**: Merge with the group; avoid ego-driven agendas.  
#### **Weeks 8–12: Integration & Mastery**  
- **Missions 6–10**: Focus on persistence, identity refinement, and logistics (e.g., isolating women, seeding pulls).  
- **Key Themes**:  
  - **Decision fatigue**: Act without overthinking.  
  - **Persona fatigue**: Drop “game” and embrace authenticity.  
  - **Vulnerability**: Share freely without filters (e.g., “I’m nervous, but I had to meet you”).  
---
### **Critical Infield Techniques**  
1. **Bambi Eyes**: Look for dilated pupils and soft focus to gauge attraction.  
2. **Kino Escalation**: Touch upper back early; if resisted, joke (“I’m shy, promise I won’t bite!”).  
3. **Free Association in Bed**: Use playful, illogical chatter to disarm logic (e.g., “If you were a pizza topping…”).  
4. **Collaborative Frame**: Reframe rejection as feedback (e.g., “You’re saving me from my future ex-wife!”).  
---
### **Transformational Takeaways**  
1. **Energy > Content**: Women mirror your vibe, not your words.  
2. **Non-Linear Attraction**: Silly/absurd interactions often outperform “logical” game.  
3. **Power vs. Force**: Letting go (sociocentric) creates magnetism; forcing (egocentric) repels.  
4. **Abbundance Mindset**: Approach all women (not just “10s”) to build momentum.  
---
### **Bonus Material Highlights**  
- **Webinars**: Emphasize **win-win energy** and **vulnerability** as aphrodisiacs.  
- **Infield Breakdowns**:  
  - **San Francisco Rampage**: Use humor to normalize sexuality (e.g., “Are you Italian or trouble?”).  
  - **LA Silent Sets**: Lead with presence, not words.  
- **Momentum**: Treat each interaction as a “micro-win,” regardless of outcome.  
---
### **Conclusion**  
The **Hot Seat at Home** program is less about “pickup” and more about **personal alchemy**—transmuting fear into freedom, ego into empathy, and neediness into magnetism. By mastering **cause-driven intent**, **free association**, and **sociocentric flow**, students learn to navigate social dynamics with the ease of a “river” (Owen’s metaphor for effortless influence). The ultimate goal? To **“be the party”** rather than chase it—a lesson applicable far beyond dating.  
**Key Quote**:  
*“Your metric of success isn’t lays or numbers—it’s how much fun you had becoming unapologetically yourself.”*