Hardkill

How much do women get turned on by a man's looks?

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I am attracted to more traditionally dominant and masculine guys so male strippers are a complete no for me. 

 

 


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Honestly as a man, strippers don't really do it for me. Like a woman who is a stripper is obviously attractive, but the idea of going to a strip club doesn't really appeal to me. I don't really have a lot of hang-ups about any form of sexuality so I don't think it's something like that. I just have no desire to pay for sexual gratification and definitely have a visceral response to it. 

Now interestingly, watching it as a performance of sexuality seems much more appealing to me. Like a dancer conveying erotic energy. Different environment, different intention, and potentially a very similar style of dance, but I'd be much more interested in watching the latter. 

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4 hours ago, Hardkill said:

So, would you ladies not get turned on by male strippers?

Not really. That's not what's appealing about men from my perspective.


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4 hours ago, Roy said:

Don't sell yourself so short @Emerald. You are MUCH higher up there than a 5 or 6, are you kidding?!

Thank you. I appreciate the compliment.

I suppose it's all relative to the context. 

If I'm hanging out with a bunch of super-models, I'm a 2 in the looks department. But if I'm at Walmart at 3am in my hometown, I'm a solid 11. :D

But I think 5 or 6 is the most accurate in comparison to other women who are about my age. I'm pretty average or slightly above. But average is good. I can't complain.


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@Emerald You have an organic quality of beauty to you. It appears natural and effortless.

I'd take that over the rigid, heavy investment look that most girls unfortunately feel pressured to accomplish these days.

If someone has to try too hard to get or maintain a certain look, that might communicate a lot of other things that could questionable.

Also LOL @ the Walmart comment. Being funny just added another point ^_^


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10 minutes ago, Emerald said:

Thank you. I appreciate the compliment.

I suppose it's all relative to the context. 

If I'm hanging out with a bunch of super-models, I'm a 2 in the looks department. But if I'm at Walmart at 3am in my hometown, I'm a solid 11. :D

But I think 5 or 6 is the most accurate in comparison to other women who are about my age. I'm pretty average or slightly above. But average is good. I can't complain.

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Ha! I don't share my picture here because I know it will distort my image and therefore my message. I try to keep my message as clean & neutral as possible.

Looks are extremely important.

But here's the thing; Most women aren't aware of how they're attracted to looks because they tend to lump everything together. So, of course, they tell you that looks aren't their top priority, when in fact looks can be a game-changer. I think that attraction works the same for men and women, in the big picture.

One thing for sure is that attraction does not work in a rational manner where you can logically discuss priorities with yourself and sort them alphabetically, and then according to value, and then logically sort out exactly what you want and exclude some things, and compromise some things for others, etc... Attraction is extremely subtle and deeply unconscious that you'd have to have an eagle-eyed awareness to see what's really going on.

Good looking guys/girls have it easier, and there's no doubt about that. Being handsome is a gift, not even exclusively in the dating world, and being ugly is a handicap. Why? I would say because subconsciously, good looks translate into safety, prosperity, health, hygiene, good social circle, high status (or at least not low), etc... All of which translate into value, which is appealing to everyone, not only women, because humans are value-driven creatures. As opposed to bad looks, which translate into trouble, illness, poverty, danger, low status, low standards of living, etc...

But, of course, you can have good looks and not know how to use them. You can waste your value if you're not aware enough/if you have self-image problems. You can be handsome but stupid. And none of that is exclusive to men. I know some girls who have decent looks, but ruin them with their lack of self-esteem. I get turned off by low self-esteem girls, no matter how beautiful/attractive they are.

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12 hours ago, Hardkill said:

However, I am now starting to think maybe women in general are not turned on sexually to any significant degree by any male visual aesthetics. Sometimes I wonder if there was even any point in me working so hard to look fit and masculine. Do women even masturbate to guys who look hot to them?

Haha

Women are not sexually aroused in the same way as guys. They are not aroused by visuals alone. They are attracted to powerful personality and presence and leadership. They are attracted when the guy is good at pumping up her emotional state and making her feel like a girl. Women are emotional creatures. A photo of the biggest dick in the world will not make her excited. You must pump up her emotional state first. The silent James Bond approach will not get you laid. You must be chatty, playful, and extroverted. You need to play with her.

Your looks are a great advantage -- they get your foot in the door -- but getting your foot in the door is NOT closing. Learning to close makes or breaks your whole lay count. If you are good-looking but have no clue how to close, you'll get laid less then ugly guys who know how to close.

Right now it's like you own a Ferrari but have no clue how to drive. The Ferrari is a fast car that will beat a Toyota, but if I know how to drive my Toyota and you have no clue how to drive your Ferrari, I will beat you every time.

If you want to understand what turns on women, go to Walmart and buy a romance novel. Read it. That's is porn for women. Women are turned on mentally, not visually.

Also... attraction is also not seduction. You can get attraction pretty easy but then you must lay on the seduction until she's horny. A women does not get horny instantly like a guy. You need to guide her into it and manage all the logistics so sex can happen. You absolutely cannot count on women to handle the logistics. Learning to handle logistics like a champ is the #1 key to getting laid consistently.

It's the logistics, stupid ;)

All game boils down to two things: playful leading. Everything else is an unpacking of those two things. If you can't be playful and you can't lead, your game sucks, and so your chances of getting laid become extremely low.


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4 hours ago, Emerald said:

I'm a 2 in the looks department. But if I'm at Walmart at 3am in my hometown, I'm a solid 11. 

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7 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

A photo of the biggest dick in the world will not make her excited

Haha If only the dick pic crew would understand this 

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The dick pic can work as long as you already got her really turned on emotionally.

But a cold dick pic.... never.


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Just now, Leo Gura said:

The dick pic can work as long as you already got her really turned on emotionally.

Hmm yeah maybe to some, but it’s kinda cringe in my eyes.  But most would just send a dick pic and expect the woman to be turned on by it 

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2 minutes ago, intotheblack said:

Hmm yeah maybe to some, but it’s kinda cringe in my eyes.

It's cringe in your eyes right now because you're in a cold and logical state.

If you were turned on and connected, you'd change your mind.


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3 minutes ago, intotheblack said:

But most would just send a dick pic and expect the woman to be turned on by it

Because that's how we guys work. Guys expect girls to get turned on just like them.


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4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

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Reminds me of your Psychedelics Explained video, should have used that pic. :P 


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9 hours ago, Hardkill said:

So, would you ladies not get turned on by male strippers?

When women get turned on by male stripper shows, it's not just the body. It's the emotional state the entire show puts her in. When girls go to male strip shows it's usually a pack of girls and they all drink and dance and get have fun together. This pumps up their state and then they get horny from that and want dick.

Pumping up her emotional state is the magic key. No woman will ever fuck you logically. If you cannot get her out of logic-mode, she will say No.


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Never been to a male strip club. I don't think even if I got drunk, I'd get horny there. 

 


Create your own life system. 

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And then my dear, you can take a bath in suds. 

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