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  1. @Alex bAlex I just saw your post and tried to change the nickname, cause it was such a good idea apparently not an option... @ValiantSalvatore Thank you for the supportive words. I do want to end it forever... thank you for the tip!
  2. Final score of this week: 44%. I did a thorough cleaning of the rest of my schedule, so I was able to have productive days for the rest of the week. Even though I am totally flaking on my routines (I even go out for coffee before I have showered, stuff like that), it's very nice to just know which 3 things have to be accomplished today. I feel so much more relaxed and positive. Thanks to the week schedule, I packed my suitcase two days in advance!! For all other recent trips I've postponed it until the night before my flight. I would get no sleep and have a night of stressed-out packing. This is just so much better. Well, off to Primal Childhood Deconditioning Intensive! No coffee, tea, alcohol, smoking, meat for a week No phone or other internet access for a week No TALKING for a week!! It will be tough. See you on the other side
  3. @Sauvik If this is your true passion then there's no reason to wait on coaching people. You can start right away. And see how that goes: maybe your students get laid a lot when they go out with you! That's real results. Then you can start charging money. If you can do that without pretending to have more experience than you actually do, seems like a good path
  4. I vote YES for starting your company versus waiting. But, I would not want to learn from you. You're not a badass at the level that I expect from a pickup teacher. 4 girls you slept with in 1.5 years? That's nothing bro. Average Chump style. You seem to be good looking so I'd expect more results from you even without learning any game. I pull more ass than that being my autistic self. I'm not trying to put you down, by the way. More sex is definitely not always better, and I believe that you are doing great. BUT... your prospective customers are NOT going to think so. They will only pay to learn from someone with the ability to be a full-on gangster (in their eyes) and you aren't there yet. Personally I wouldn't feel good teaching something I don't master. But it's your call. You could start pickup groups/lairs and start wingmanning/coaching people like crazy. Then if at some point they want to pay you for it, you'll know you have something. Pickup coaches here make offers like: "Go out one night with me and you'll get laid, guaranteed or your money back." That's pretty compelling. Can you offer that quality of coaching?
  5. @Jed Vassallo Sounds like you had that figured out even if it turned out not to be fulfilling. Care to share what I need to wear, where I should live, and what I should do for a living for an optimal sex life?
  6. It may not have occurred to you, but if you FULLY believed that you are AWESOME, getting ignored or rejected would not hurt ONE bit. It would just be funny. So, you have to investigate. What is it that needs to happen for you to believe that you are awesome? If you don't know this, start working on it. Action is needed. A man on his path, on track with his purpose doesn't have self esteem issues. Have you figured out your purpose yet, and are you actively working on it? Are you happy with your friends and relationships? Are you happy with the way you spend your time, or do you secretly hate yourself for being lazy? Are you happy with the actions you take/don't take? These are just examples of things you can investigate. And then, solve the root of the problem! Take action until you feel good about yourself. It's not just about meditation and introspection. You need to actually go get your shit together. By your OWN standards.
  7. I can clearly notice the "I tried" way of thinking that I've been made aware of. I planned to pack my bag today, but if it gets too hard, I would normally just say that "at least I made a start" and postpone it till tomorrow. That shit needs to go. It enables unrealistic planning habits and living in a fantasy. If I said I was going to do something today, I will do it today. Today my score was 5/5. I spent the entire evening packing my bag, the 3d item on my list for today. I also got done two of the optional items! My score for this week so far is 40% of things accomplished, but if tomorrow goes right I can achieve 50%. That's higher than I have had since I started measuring. I'm aiming to learn to shrink my lists and accomplish more, so I close the gap from both sides and become a person that does what they say they will do. To myself as well as to others.
  8. Okay, if this is your reasoning then your reaction makes sense, kind of. I'm here to tell you, it's wrong. That "few second decision" bullshit is a myth that mainstream society indoctrinates you with. It's wrong. So you would really help yourself by letting go of that belief. The real reason that women don't respond well (may even roll their eyes) the first minutes of an interaction, is because hot girls are harassed by guys ALL DAY LONG. From the moment they wake up to when they go to sleep, guys will be trying to get their attention with lame pickup lines and excuses like asking what time it is. Wouldn't you get tired of that shit? It's like being called by telemarketers all day, every day. The problem is that 99% of those guys that approach them don't have the balls to show their real personality. They utter a lame pickup line and then they have nothing to say. So what you're experiencing is a defense mechanism against the constant stream of lame guys trying to steal her time. It's a filter. You can get past it by not taking it personally and just keep talking and show some personality. Then she will see that maybe you're not as lame as the 99%.
  9. You missed my point there, hah. Why should she be, if she doesn't even fucking know you? Until she understands that you are cool, you're just as interesting as a telemarketer or a hobo on the street to her.
  10. Doctor, it hurts if I do this! Don't do that then.
  11. So you don't feel entitled to be with someone on her level of attractiveness. I can relate. It is wasted time to try to convince yourself otherwise mentally. The proof is in the pudding. There is no shortcut for experience. When you do get another partner at that level, you will believe it. There is no "convincing yourself" to be done. What you are to do is FTOW.
  12. How is that rejection? Without you even talking to her? Pretty narcissistic to expect everyone to stop and look at you. Remember, girls are people. They have busy schedules and to-do lists in their mind just like you. It is not rejection unless someone knows who you are as a person and then tells you they want nothing to do with you. So unless you spent time talking and getting to know each other, it means nothing. My guess is that you incorrectly assume that looking/not looking means something (it doesn't). So you think that it means that they don't want you (while in reality they don't fucking know you), and you get annoyed so much because you're scared that they're right. That you're not good enough for her.
  13. Someone explain this 🍌 thing to me 🤣
  14. It could be a temporary drop in motivation. How long have you felt this way? For your purpose you will have to be able to grind through the boring parts, no matter what path you choose. I recommend staying fully engaged with music WHILE doing the Life Purpose Course. Can you pull that off? Are you living at home/on your own? Have to work/study a lot or no?
  15. @Mikael89 I'm assuming there's a side to you that wants to actually fight and push forward. You've tried the direct way. It seems no women like you right now. Which makes sense in your current state of mind. What you can do is improve your male friendships! I'm not kidding. Close friendships with men who reasonably have their shit together will do SO MUCH to grow you. And you don't have to do it all on your own anymore. You will absorb better attitudes by being around your friends They can help course-correct you when you're stuck in negativity They will push you to become a man on his own path It will make you more grounded You're the average of the 5 people you see the most. Forget about girls for awhile and focus on friendships with mentally healthy men who don't have problems with women. Stop hanging out with the other ones who drag you down. Do that and in 6 months you will be a more attractive person. Because getting girls shouldn't be something you have to fight hard for. It should happen naturally. The nuanced truth is that it comes naturally to those who have their life together, with healthy friendships and a purpose. (Or can we expect a "I haven't had friends for 30 years" thread next? )