flowboy

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  1. @Raptorsin7 Awesome!!! And thank you. I am indeed doing much better. And how about you?
  2. @Aeris Good point! I don't think of myself as ADD anymore, I've let go of that identification and it seems unreal now. But there's still many people who do! So I need to use the concept, if I want to speak their language. I believe I fixed the questionnaire! Or maybe try a different browser?
  3. @dimitri Yes, all is good, haha! Thank you I'm actually getting up at 7 this week, because I'm on another productivity retreat with a friend. So we get up at the same time, work out really hard, meditate, and do our hard work in synchronized blocks. It's great. After this week, I will switch back to getting up at 5!
  4. Hi all, I've always been inattentive. Listening to people and hearing their voice, but simply tuning out before they could finish their sentence. And then having to ask what they said. I used to blame it on my parents when I still lived at home, haha, because they kept repeating stuff to me that I already knew. I still have this habit of tuning out when my dad speaks to me, ha ha, that's probably never going away. But really he doesn't seem to know that he's repeating himself all the time. I've unknowingly compensated for it by using auditory memory. Now that I'm older, I've gotten better at keeping my attention on it when someone says something important, like a boss or coworker. And when I missed a part, I can play back the sound fragment in my head, and listen again. This is why it takes me longer to answer a question. But it works. Anyway, that's not what this topic was going to be about ;p I'm almost 27 now and have spent a lot of energy over the years meditating and learning to concentrate. That's made my life easier, because I can just 'decide' to do something boring now, and force myself to do it. Like emptying the hundreds, sometimes thousands of emails out of my inbox. (ADD hell to stay focused on that :P) Or do a boring work project. You know. The problem I'm still having, and have had all my life, is <strong>deciding what to do first</strong>. I always have between 10 and 60 things that must happen urgently at one time. I just don't know where to start, so I don't. Because none of the things I really look forward to, and once I pick something, it's very easy to change my mind and pick something else as the most important thing. Also I just don't believe anymore that I will ever get to the end of the list. I haven't gotten there in 10 years. So my mind saves me the trouble and doesn't start. I stay in overwhelm mode. Many days I have wished: "if I just had someone with me to tell me WHICH of these 40 things I should do first! That would help, because I change my mind all the time." But then I think that no, I should be able to do it alone. I'm tired of walking around my house for hours, changing my mind about what to do first, not doing anything. In college I came up with a formula: I could calculate for each task what its priority score was, and the one with the highest score I knew without doubt I must do first. But calculating that formula for every task became too much work and I didn't stick to it. I thought about turning it into an app or something, to sort my tasks for me so I only have to think about the top thing and can forget the rest. I've decided that I want to use my skills in programming to help people who struggle with this just like me. In my experience, every tool (like google calendar/task apps) is fine but doesn't quite do it for me, because it still requires massive effort to set reminders beforehand, and I still have to schedule everything myself, which is mentally draining for me. And then the reminders get snoozed... I'm envisioning a mobile app that does the prioritizing and scheduling for me. But according to what is important in my life. So I can go through my day, just emptying my mind into it, and it will tell me what would be the best thing to do right now. So it would free up mental space for all that decisionmaking. Would you use something like that? If yes, would would it have to do for you to be useful? If no, do you have any tools that work for you and didn't get annoying/too much work yet? If this idea speaks to you, please take a minute to do my quick 4-question feedback form! https://personalized.typeform.com/to/C1dvXJ Would be a great help Any input is appreciated. Thank you guys
  5. This is quality information. You seem to have a lot of experience with herbs and health.
  6. @Michael569 Great idea! I'll look up some and write it down to try. I remember some benefits from ginseng. Thank you
  7. In case someone reads this with the same question: - So far I've found that Spirulina seems to help. - Heavy exercise definitely helps. - I'm pretty sure that abstaining from ejaculation also is giving me extra energy to pull through. - I ended up taking a 30 minute nap, and that really helped! Enabled me to contribute my full presence to a meeting I had in the evening. I know that lack of sleep is supposed to feel terrible because it's terrible for your health, and in that sense it is not even wise to be looking for ways to make it bearable. But it's a legitimate question nonetheless. It does happen that people are jetlagged, can't sleep and still need to function at some meeting. It can also happen that someone needs to pull an all-nighter to deal with an urgent business problem or whatever. So far I haven't found anything natural that masks the effect as well as amphetamines do.
  8. I have some melatonin supplements lying around still, will try that! Thanks
  9. It's a temporary result of shifting my sleep schedule to 5am, and not being sleepy enough (yet) at 9pm
  10. @Viking What if you had to choose between having a life purpose, and identifying as lazy? If you had to pick one and let the other go, which one would you pick?
  11. If you're not a bit scared of it, it's no good
  12. @7thLetter I'd like to, but I will not do that because that wouldn't do it justice.
  13. [5am] Helloooo [6am] I've already lost an hour because I didn't schedule my day. I should remember that: not scheduling my day costs me at least an hour
  14. @d0ornokey Why does he want to work with you, if you are so full of doubt? Why do you want to work with him, if your values don't align?