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  1. Regarding empath : narcissist dynamics. . . both can be manipulative and controlling - yet in very different ways. The energetics within the empath and narcissist are very different and there can be an attraction that leads to very unhealthy relationship dynamics. For example, really bad gaslighting. I read a lot about the empath : narcissist dynamics and how an empath can establish boundaries and a shield to protect themselves. What I'm finding is that when the inter-personal manipulative dynamics are removed, the empath show goes on. It seems that new healthy empathic phenomena can arise that is pretty cool. I think this is one of the keys - setting up personal boundaries. Yet ime there seems to be more going on. Once those boundaries were established, the empath show goes on. The empath is now liberated to develop their "abilities" and develop along the empathic line of development. A year ago, I thought this was "airy fairy" stuff from woo-woo Green people. Yet I'm starting to see that there is something to this - some type of higher mature level in this area. Similar to the intuitive line of development.
  2. @DrewNows I’m still new to exploring this and I actually don’t know that much at this point.
  3. I didn’t realize that was your focus. I don’t mean to pull it out of context into another area. My apologies. I certainly see a lot of value in the context you describe above 🙏
  4. I’m not sure what you mean by identification trait. Regarding the war veteran, I don’t know. I don’t have experience in war or with war veterans. When free of emotional distortion, it seems more like another sense. Like you can’t smell and then suddenly you can. That would be really hard to explain. I’m not sure about the coping mechanism idea. I can see it related to emotional empaths, yet I can’t see how various forms, line geomantic empath, relates to a coping mechanism.
  5. Yes. I know. It’s great stuff. I love it. Yet go into actual domestic violence situations and see how far it gets you. There is more to it.
  6. @DrewNows Curse and gift ate probably not the best terms for me to use - yet I think most empaths would catch my drift. It can certainly feel like a curse or gift, yet that’s probably not the best way to describe it. I can see it as a coping mechanism in some contexts - yet it goes way beyond that. I would call it a developmental line such as the cognitive, emotional and intuitive lines. There is an ability component to it. . . . Calling empathic a coping mechanism is like calling hearing a coping mechanism. When liberated from emotional turmoil - emath can become abilities - a sense - similar to hearing or smelling. It’s not just emotions. I’ve sensed things so obvious that I’m looking around amazed noone else can “hear” it. I’ve learned they really can’t sense it and I just need to act normal - as if I’m not sensing it either. I’m currently observing wether people can subconsciously sense it and are affected subconsciously.
  7. @DrewNows I think that is great for understanding psychological dynamics of violence/nonviolence and it could help a practitioner. I think there is also more to it. When one actually gets into domestically violent homes and is working with actual abusers, victims, psychosis, alcohol/drug abuse, DTs, blood and bruises - one needs a lot more than theory. It’s tough and tumble.,Frankly, theory often goes out the window, I’ve been in situations in which it looks like someone is gonna get hurt bad and I fear for my safety. Diffusing these situations takes a huge amount of social and intuitive skills.
  8. Ime, domestically violent homes generally involve alcohol and drugs issue. It is fuel to the fire. There are cases in which alcohol/drugs are not an issue - yet I’d say it’s the norm. I think state-sponsored social programs can be great. Yet any domestic violence program that does not put alcohol/drug as high priorities areas will be ineffective imo.
  9. From what I’ve seen, domestic violence is commonly associated with alcohol and drug abuse and psychiatric issues. More than being simply being overwhelmed with life. Starting a program of meditation, yoga and stress reduction would be a hard sell. As well, I think it would be insufficient.,Therapy and life skills teaching is needed as well. I tried to start initiatives in this area to no avail. I tried to start a free meditation and life skills meeting for those in abusive environments in my town. It got zero interest. The only way people would attend is if it was mandated by the courts to stay out of jail, to get their kids back, or if they were payed to attend. I didn’t want to go that route. I wanted it to be voluntary - it didn’t fly.
  10. @playdoh Higher consciousness can allow for subtle and sneaky lying. The mind might not even be aware of it.
  11. No it’s not simple. Mind-body conditioning is complex and involves many genetic and environmental components. Prior abuse is a major risk factor, yet it’s not necessary. It just makes showing a different perspective easier. But yea, it’s more nuanced.
  12. The horse shitting metaphor pretty much cuts to the chase.
  13. 😂. Sure. And smoke a little Green while we’re at it. 😌 @kieranperez Yes!!! I love it!!!
  14. Yes, it is now my gut reaction. The big changes for me occurred when I did volunteer work with alcoholics, drug addicts, criminals and psychiatric patients. People that were suffering immensely. They had been abused and now harming others. I had never seen this side of abuse and trauma before. It was gut-wrenching. I’m quite empathic and I internalized a lot of it. After this, I saw it very differently. As a cycle of abuse. A cycle of suffering. One movie that had a big impact on me was “Little Children”. Yet it was really intense for me. It’s a story of a cycle of abuse in which most of the characters are both abused and abusing.