Serotoninluv

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  1. @purerogue I’m not saying that you are wrong. I’m saying that you are missing something. Not missing a fact or thought. Rather missing something much more radical and beyond one’s current paradigm. Yet it's not resonating with you.
  2. Have you tried synthetic mescaline? I’m curious about going a synthetic route.
  3. To me, this seems to be conflating relative happiness and absolute happiness. Phrases like “lasting happiness” and “complete satisfaction with what you have” points toward unconditional happiness, yet when perceived through a relative filter seeking desire and suffering arises. One way to look at relative happiness is that it arises when seeking energy is relieved. Yet this is a temporary relative happiness. There was something I didn’t have that I was seeking, then I got it and now I’m happy. For example, imagine I have been seeking to get a new car. I save my money for years and buy a new car. Part of the happiness I feel is because the seeking energy is gone. There is relief. The same goes for seeking knowledge, sex, a home, a travel destination etc. When one attains the object sought, the seeking vanishes and there is a sense of happiness. This form of happiness is conditional - if I don’t get the thing I am seeking, I am not happy. The seeking of relative happiness is always for a thing that is not Here and Now. Now imagine that what you seek is whatever is Here and Now. That is the ultimate seeking. The seeking relief comes from “finding” Here and Now. This is unconditional happiness - the happiness is free of any conditions. In a relative context, there is no permanent happiness because it is relative to not happy. For one to hold relative happiness they must also hold relative unhappiness for contrast.
  4. I talk about subconscious biases with other races every week, it’s part of my job. At my institution, I work on a committee that includes several races - part of our work includes discussing subconscious biases at both the individual and institutional levels. As well, I interview job candidates of many races regarding diversity. One of the topics we discuss is subconscious biases. I also teach about subconscious biases in my courses and have discussions with students of a wide range of races. I’ve also been in relationships with women of other races and we discussed subconscious biases. And also my friends of other races, and psychologists of other races - the list goes on and on. It’s a topic I am curious about and desire to explore from different perspectives, including perspectives of other races. I’ve spent hundreds of hours looking at my own subconscious racial biases. I’ve taken various tests to identify my subconscious biases. I’ve attended professional workshops. I’ve lived immersed in communities of color in my own country and foreign countries. I’ve been in relationships with women of color and have had many conversations on this topic with a wide range of people, including poc, people living in poverty, people in the prison system, psychologists, neuroscientists and sociologists. I’ve found that there is a mental dynamic of “to be of blame for all of societies problems”. Blame and guilt are mechanisms that keep a person contracted. It prevents a person from going deeper. Blame is an external orientation and guilt is an internal orientation. Both are contractions that prevent space and openness for realizations and growth. This is a common defensive posture laced with sarcasm. This orientation allows a mind to protect and maintain a particular personal perception of their reality. Mindset is essential to allow space and openness for realizations that enlighten, deepen and expand. A mindset of “tell me about my privileges that I don’t have - privileges that you are just making up because you believe you are to blame for all of society’s problems” . . . is not a genuine, humble, open orientation that allows space. If you could transition into a black transgender woman, your personal relationship with reality would be altered. How you navigate through life would be very different. Your experience, perceptions and interpretations toward your wellbeing and survival would be very different. Your current white, straight are not relative through the lens of a white, straight male oriented toward it’s well-being and survival. Those privileges would be revealed if you could transition to being a black transgender woman. Yet white, straight, males don’t have to acknowledge their own privilege or work through it, because they don’t have to bear the burden of not having those privileges. This itself is a privilege.
  5. “Everybody is. . . “, “They do it too” , “Both sides-ism” and “Why should I have to work on this issue if they don’t have to?” are common ways for a white person and people to avoid taking looking at their own subconscious biases and privilege. This also clouds seeing disproportionate biases at the population level. . . . Similar to “Reverse racism” mentality. It’s one of the challenges I face when trying to discuss the issue with white people. One thing to keep in mind is disproportionate impact. Black/brown people are impacted much more by white subconscious biases than white people are impacted by black/brown subconscious biases because white. has more power and leverage. This is just my pov, others have different povs
  6. @RevoCulture It’s not something that can be figured out.
  7. @RevoCulture I’m unable to connect with you. We have different orientations. It happens sometimes.
  8. I can see something you don’t see and don’t want to see. We aren’t on the same frequency. Have a nice night.
  9. As I see it, there is seeking that is fundamentally human. There are many different forms and some can be sneaky and subtle. Seeking happiness and seeking relief from suffering are the two most common dynamics on the forum - to various degrees, imo. There are other seeking orientations, yet less common. Be aware that there is a personal edge to your energetic orientation that can create personal conflicts.
  10. @Zigzag Idiot I had similar issues when I was young. One the hardest things for me to work through was not being present for those I loved. I never physically or verbally abused anyone, yet I missed important events and said some hurtful things due to my excessive drinking. Those were my biggest regrets and I spent years beating myself up over them.
  11. Well said. I work at a University and think a required study abroad is a good idea. I would add an extra component: the study abroad environment must be significantly different than their counterparts conditioned environment. A white student that grew up in an affluent white community in the suburbs of Boston doesn’t get to study abroad in in an affluent white community in the suburbs of London. At institution, all language majors must study abroad one semester and must live in the “International House” on campus for one semester. I’d like to see this expanded to all students, yet it can be challenging with logistics and finances. It could be done, yet would take a coordinated effort by a lot of people. Hopefully, an academic institution does this as their “brand” and it attracts enrollment. Then other schools will follow to stay competitive in the market for students. There is also a business side to academic institutions.
  12. @seeking_brilliance In a sense, I like the idea that bronze age people may have had awakenings and contemporary people are trying to see higher wisdom in ancient scripture. Yet this type of thing is way too indirect for me - there are too many interpretive steps and filters. It’s like driving hours in a storm on icy roads to reach a destination when the destination is across the street.
  13. You are on to something juicy. . .
  14. @Raze I would make distinctions on clarity and identity politics. Those that have embodied Green know Bernie does not believe a woman can't be president. He has had a completely different orientation his entire life. It would be like someone saying that in a private conversation Trump said that Mexicans and middle-eastern Muslims are superior to white Americans. We would all know that this could not be true because it is not consistent with Trump's orientation. Those that are upset are conflating principles and personalities. They are upset with misogyny and sexism. They are upset with the notion that a woman cannot become president. This is the emotional trigger for green. A green person without embodiment may not be able to distinguish between the principle of gender equality and the energetic orientation of Bernie Sanders. This conflation will cloudy their view. Orange have even less understanding. They will not be triggered by the notion that a woman cannot become president, because their higher value is self-centered gains. They have an aversion to Bernie and will gladly use this situation as a way to harm the Green values he embodies. There motivation is Green resistance, not to promote gender equality.
  15. The energy of the movement spreading and getting stronger. People are taking notice and not everyone is happy about it.