I consider smooth physical escalation a cornerstone of good dating technique. You can get ridiculously good at it and girls love it.
Entire manuals have been written on it. Search for "kino escalation". This is one part of the Mystery Method which was actually quite good and practical.
The rule of thumb is, you start to physically touch her within seconds of meeting her. During the day time physical escalation needs to be very mild. But during night time, like at bars and clubs, it can be very heavy.
It needs to be very natural, which means you need to feel that it's natural for her to feel that it's natural.
Start with non-erotic areas like hand, arm, shoulder. Then move to hug. Then holding hands. Then playing with and rubbing various parts of her body. Make it as casual and playful as possible.
So typically you shake her hand as soon as you meet her. Then you might pat her on the shoulder. Then you might take her hand in your hand and immediately throw it away. Then you might get real close to her body and immediately step back. Then you might take her hand and examine her bracelet, ring, or watch. Then you might tell her to give you a hug. Then you might hold her hand as she walks with you. Then you might put your hands around her waist as you square up to her. Then you might gently run your finger along her jaw line. Then a very short kiss, no tongue. Then you might rub her hips. Then you might pull her into your chest. Then you might squeeze or spank her butt in a playful way. Then you might fondle her tits over her clothes. Then you might breathe on her neck. Then you might gently bite her neck. Then you might run your hands through her hair, gently grabbing and pulling it. And by this point you need to isolate her to a private location for heavy makeout, foreplay, and sex.
The best way to get comfortable doing all this is to go out to rowdy nightclubs and open every girl with physical openers and practice escalating as quickly as possible until she pushes you way. You'll be amazing how far you can get how quickly. Try even going for an instant makeout. All of this builds your comfort level and confidence such that later you can escalate smoothly on any girl in any situation and it will feel natural to her.
She does not have to be drunk for any of this. But obviously if alcohol is involved you can get away with a lot more a lot faster. Mostly she doesn't even need to drink the alcohol. All that's required is that you're in a social space where such things are seen as normal. Whatever you do needs to fit the social situation you're in. At bars and clubs this kind of heavy physicality is totally normal. Obviously not at the mall during day time. There you play it more chill. Although I've met a guy who would hit on women at the mall and have sex with them in that very same mall! LOL! You'll be amazed at what you can get away with when you're smooth and confident.
Obviously for any of this to work she has to show some attraction to you. Although the initial few steps of physical escalation require no attraction. Touching any erotic areas requires a degree of attraction.
The best way to tell if a girl is attracted to you is by looking in her eyes. Does she look into your eyes and hold contact? Does she follow your lead and listen to your words? Then she's attracted. If she's looking away from you a lot, she's not attracted. You need to capture her attention with charm, humor, and confidence.

Pickup leads to that if you want. Most guys who get into pickup just want to get a nice girlfriend. They are not going to bang 100 girls.
In practice you sleep with 10-20 girls, you get that out of your system, and you settle down with one who's right for you. Not much different than normal social people do.
Don't forget, people who are social can easily have 10-20 sexual partners, simply because they are so social and have ample opportunities. A hot girl will easily have 10-20 sexual partners in her lifetime. She is fucking around. She just keeps it secret.
LOL, you haven't read about how many gurus sleep with their students?
Gurus have optimized pickup so much that they don't even need to go to the club/bar, the girls flock to them. This is the ultimate form of pickup. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. Getting laid as a guru is the easiest thing in the world. Which is a big reason why spiritual communities are formed. If you start a spiritual community you are automatically guaranteed sex. Of course it all turns into a toxic mess soon enough.
LOL, how naive.
The "very specific religious purpose" is to bust some nuts.
The people participating are carefully selected to be as hot as possible.
You must appreciate how sneaky the sex drive is. It will not simply lay down and die, even after awakening. It will get crafty.

@AdeptusPsychonautica It is amusing that you took my lastest dangers of psychedelics video as my acknowledging any delusion on my part. I said no such thing. All my spiritual and existential claims still stand. The delusional one is you who is so lost on your own stories and projections about my work that you read into my video something connected to you. This is ego 101. I don't make reactionary videos like you. I know this will sound crazy to you, but some people on YT are actually too busy making original content to care about what some reactionary is raving about.
If you actually bothered to study my full body of work you would know that I have warned about the dangers of psychedelics from day 1. See my video: How To Use Psychedelics For Personal Develop. The reason for this latest video was to lay further safety guidelines for when I reveal the powerful new psychedelic I discovered. You got this silly idea that somehow I have not be safety conscious about psychedelics or spirituality, as if you have some monopoly on safety. But in fact the public record shows that I have always been extremely careful and responsible and urged safe of my audience. Just because you overlooked that to feed your cult leader narrative is not my problem. That's just bad reporting from you, as your vision has been clouded by your YT ego.
I have never claimed to be a messiah. All I have claimed is that I am God and you are too. And of course that is the case. The only problem is that you aren't conscious of what you are.
P.S. You have an unhealthy fixation with me. My work has nothing to do with me. If you were less focused on being a troll you might realize that. It is ironic that you rave about my delusions when your whole channel is an textbook of projection and ego-reaction. You are like a child throwing a tamper tantrum at the gates of Disneyland, too busy raving and whining to actually walk through the Gateless Gate.
The reason I don't like corresponding with you is because I don't want to reward troll behavior and you show little interest in geuinely pursuing Truth. You are more interested in trolling for views or playing the psychonaut policeman. Play whatever games you want, I will just focus on doing my work, as I have for 8 years. My work speaks for itself, and so does yours. You deeply misunderstand spirituality, God, yourself, and the paranormal. Nothing more needs to be said.

A relationship can only last among parties of like values. Each Spiral stage is a different values set. The most important factor in a relationship is alignment of core values. If your values are not aligned, forget about it. Relationships are nearly impossible even when your values align, nevermind when they don't.
Blue and Green would quickly devolve into a toxic clusterfuck.
Spiral Dynamics is very useful for screening out incompatible partners.

Absolute Love isn't fluffy at all. It is as serious as bullet to your skull.
You only consider it fluffy because you don't understand how serious Love is.
Because that's survival.
And survival is Love.
If you are a man and your woman cheats on you, it's definitely a you problem. I side on taking extreme ownership of such things.
While you guys are a busy pointing fingers, my attitude is to take extreme ownership of such things rathet than playing the victim. The bottom line is that most women are loyal to a fault when they find a good man. If that isn't your experience then maybe look in the mirror and see that you ain't a good man. Or you are poor at selecting women, which also means you ain't a good man.
Bottom line is: if people are cheating on you, look in the mirror.

Be more of a leader, socialize more, be with more women, do challenging things in life, start visualizing yourself as a man.
Or, better yet, start visualizing yourself as God. Being a man is overrated
You shouldn't feel like a man, you should feel like a God.

Actually, Vegas is a super affordable place to live. If you are a local here, every club has free entry for locals on Sundays-Thursdays. Parking used to be free, now it's like $10. Drinks are $18 here, but I have never bought a girl a drink in my life and have no intention of starting. Dates can be super cheap. A date for me is a $5 coffee or ice cream.
If you want to hit up the hottest clubs in the world on Fri/Sat, that will cost you $40/night. But the clubs in Vegas are off the hook amazing. You've never seen so many hot girls in your life. $40/night is worth it if you're serious about developing your skills and you have a decent salary.
If you are clever, you can do pickup very cheap or even free. Depends a lot on location. Drinks in Austin, TX are like $3 and none of the bars have cover. Over my entire time in pickup I spent little money. Most of my money was spent simply on traveling to the best cities. And once I paid $2000 for a bootcamp.
You don't need total financial freedom to do pickup. Most of the guys who I met in pickup were not financially free. They had normal 9-5 jobs and gamed at night or on the weekends.
The biggest challenge is not money, it's time and energy. Pickup eats up a ton of time and energy. But still guys are able to do it while holding down regular jobs. I have met accountants, pilots, engineers, doctors, dentists, salesmen, etc. who did serious pickup.
Personally, I took a lot of time off work/biz to invest into pickup, and it was worth it. Of course I could only do that because I already was financially independent. But don't let this be a limiting belief. You don't have to be. But also, why not do both?!

It's simple, really: pursuing women can be turned into a larger healthy self-actualization journey or it can devolve into ideology, toxic masculinity, ego-aggrandizement, and mindless pleasure seeking.
Similar to business. Similar to psychedelics.
These things can go really well or really sour depending on what intentions you're doing them with.
For me, pickup led to the creation of Actualized.org. For other guys it can lead to rapey type of behavior. Pickup very much magnifies your true intentions and character. If you're a scummy guy deep down, then pickup will magnify that. Much like how if you give a evil person a $10 million dollars, he will use it to do evil things. But if you give a good guy $10 million dollars, he will use it to advance mankind in some way.

You are looking at this in terms of sex.
The proper way to look at it is in terms of growth.
He's not doing those 1000 approaches to get 1 hot girl. He's doing it to overcome his fears and to develop strength as a man. That development will pay dividends for a lifetime. So it's worth doing even if you only get 1 or 2 lays out of it.
And like I said, result grow exponentally. So the next 1000 appraoches after that could produce 2-4 lays. And the next 1000, 4-8 lays, and the next 1000, 8-16 lays. And by that point you are getting more pussy than most guys can dream of.
Business works the same way. The first few years of starting a biz, you work non-stop but earn nothing.

That $8000 would have been better spent traveling to Vegas and living here for 3 months of non-stop club action.
You gotta be smart with how you invest your money.

Actually it speaks a lot to this character. Especially the intellect.
When I think back to kids in school who got straight F's. These are not people I would trust my information intake to. You are going to trust your worldview and understanding of politics to that kid? A kid who couldn't complete a homework assignment? How absurd. No wonder his work has no journalistic integrity. Journalism requires research and study, not just ranting one's mind.
I got straight A's in school. And you can see that in my work.

It's so hilarious how guys use "unless you're rich" as an excuse.
If you truly believe that being rich gets you hot girls, then your path is so easy: go get rich!
The excuses are endless with you guys.
You expect hot girls but zero work to get them. This is fundamentally why you're miserable.
You will get from life exactly what you put into it.

The whole point of business is creating your own market. This means you have to work your ass off to invent a new market, you cannot just do business as usual if your goal is to advance mankind.
It's like you want to advance mankind but you don't want to do the work at the systems level. You expect someone else to do that work for you. Well, that's not how a businessman thinks. As a businessman you gotta take ownership of the problem. If a market doesn't exist, you brainstorm ways to create the market you want. Or find alternatives. You can't just do what everyone else is doing.
There is no business without marketing.
My website doesn't generate traffic. I drive traffic to the website from massive success elsewhere.
And don't compare yourself to me. I have the luxury to not specialize so much because I've figured out other areas of marketing and I am coasting on success from entirely different industries which have nothing to do with my current work. Actualized.org is not my first biz. I had to succeed in other kinds of biz before Actualized.org was possible.
Marketing high consciousness content is very challenging. It's much more challenging than an ordinary meat and potatoes business. The more conscious your material the harder it gets because your audience shrinks and they are harder to find.
Start with 1 specific thing and do it well. Succeed with 1 thing before you branch out into other things. If you can't make 1 thing work, you will not be able to make 5 things work. You need to establish a core competency.

I have very hard time opening up and talking about myself with basicly everybody, even the close people that i have in my life.
I can talk with somebody but about himself just asking questions and making comments. Its very hard for me to share my stories, express my feelings or  talk about my personal life.  
Its quite difficult to connect with new people, once we had our conversation they end up knowing very little about me or nothing. 
I think that is self esteem issue? What do you think.

You don't need a degree if you have a strong portfolio.
Employers don't care about degrees, what they care about is your track record of results. If you can show them amazing results, they will hire you.
Put all your effort into building an amazing portfolio.
Nothing beats an amazing portfolio of work. If your portfolio is good enough you will be hired immediately.

The skill of coaching is distinct from business experience, dating experience, and other such things.
Coaching is not about giving people advice. What you see in my videos is NOT coaching. Coaching is the skill set of asking powerful questions that get the client to contemplate for themselves out loud. So the funny thing is that it's possible to coach someone about business without knowing much about business. Although of course in practice most biz people will simply not hire you unless they have confidence in you -- so for that purpose having life experience is good for marketing.
You need to distinguish two things:
1) Being a good coach
2) Convincing people to hire you
These are independent things. Becoming a good coach is easier than convincing people to hire you.
Furthermore, as a coach you will select a specialty and tend to work with clients within that specialty. So you don't need to have experience in all areas, just that specialty. For example, if you are a life purpose or spiritual coach, you don't need much experience in dating, marriage, relationships, or biz. But if you're going to a relationship coach or a biz coach, obviously you'll want to develop some personal experience in those fields. You can be a self-esteem coach without any biz experience.
The bottom line is that I wouldn't worry to much about this. If you like coaching, get trained and practice your coaching skills and then develop some kind of marketing strategy for getting clients. You will gain life experience naturally anyway as you age. You can be a great self-esteem coach without any biz experience.

Stop associating enlightenment with behavior. It has nothing to do with that. You can be an enlightened axe murder.
EVERY behavior, without exception, is God. You could destroy the entire planet with a nuclear holocaust, and it would still be love.
True story. Happened not too long ago with the dinosaurs.

@Sagar Gopalani 
Watch all of these for pretty much all the theory you need. Then go actually meet women.
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1UgnEo0cnySuJZOOICaGUi0sMEdAJbNum?usp=sharing
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1iEmq4uiNAUFGaPoJhMr1Gc0Jodr2DqGx?usp=sharing

RSD videos is what you need.
Someone give him some links.

What do you all think about Chomsky's analysis of the education system, that it's broadly a system that maximizes for obedience? Not to say that no education system is better than the current system, but that the way the system is designed is not to create human beings who will innovate and progress humanity, but to create humans who will conform and fit in place with the current hegemony. I'm interested in hearing your takes on the education system, and if Chomsky is on to anything here.
 
 

Like an anteater to ants.
Why are you setting up this ridiculous straw man?
You might as well frame things like this: Are women attracted to Brad Pitt? But what if he's got the plague? Would they not be repulsed?
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The most powerful and effective form of game is simply high status.

No
A bit of playfulness, cuteness, humor.
Then date.

That will kill your results with women.
No sexy for you until you learn to dislodge the stick from your ass.
I have a video which tells you how to fix this: How To Be Funny

You have train yourself to not be logical with women.
The words coming out of your mouth should not conform to any kind of logic or make much sense.
Basically, be stupid and fun.
It requires lots of practice, so stop sitting around and hit the field.

One of my best wings was a 5'4" Pakistani guy.
He got laid way more than me at 6'2".
What attracts girls is personality and boldness.
My wing would walk up to a group of girls having a birthday and make out with every girl in the group, one after another. Sometimes he would get slapped, but he also got a bunch of make outs, numbers, and dates. He would wrestle girls like a fearless mongoose does a cobra.