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Learning to have sex without getting attached as a woman
Learning to have sex without getting attached as a womanEmotions trump reason. Welcome to being human.
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The 5-MeO-DMT Mega-Thread
The 5-MeO-DMT Mega-ThreadCause I'm not interested in an intimate connection with a shaman.
The shaman adds nothing to the experience. The partner does.
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Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator
Myers-Briggs Personality Type IndicatorIt's shocking how dead-on this description fits me: http://personalityjunkie.com/the-intp/
Lol, check!
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Zodiac Signs
Zodiac SignsThe idea that astrology is a mass cultural delusion is itself a mass cultural delusion.
Oh the irony...
Also, don't conflate pop online horoscopes with serious astrology. If you're gonna do astrology, go to a real astrologist.
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Learning to have sex without getting attached as a woman
Learning to have sex without getting attached as a womanThat's a tall order. That's hard even for guys if they like the girl.
I can't do that if I really like the girl. I will experience heartbreak. It stings like a bitch.
If you find a really awesome person losing them will sting like a bitch. The person who you can break up with easily is gonna be some scrub who isn't worth dating.
It's a value game. Your mind is hunting to maximize value for yourself. And once you find the motherlode, you will want to hoard it. The bigger the diamond the harder you will attach to it.
Guys who easily give up girls can only do so because they have 5 other girls they're seeing who are hotter so they don't give a shit. It's like taking out a full load of laundry and dropping one sock. You don't care because you got 20 other socks. But if that was your only pair, you would care.
Girls who tend to be very promiscuous also tend to be so attractive that they got dozens of guys hitting them up all the time, so to them "things just happen" a lot more frequently.
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Learning to have sex without getting attached as a woman
Learning to have sex without getting attached as a womanYou can go to a bar and have sex with a new guy each night. Is that what you want? If so, then do it. But my guess is you don't want that.
Like I said, most women who have casual sex do it because they go party and are just in that kind of mood and "things happen". They are not planning it.
Although some do.
My friend and I once picked up two chicks in Vegas who flew in from Chicago and their goal was to bang new guys each night of the week they were here. Just for fun. I only learned of their plan when they went off to sleep with my 3rd friend the next night and he told me about it the next morning when I was upset that she didn't call me back.
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Learning to have sex without getting attached as a woman
Learning to have sex without getting attached as a womanWhy would you want this? Women get attached after sex. That's how your psychology works.
A ONS for most women does not happen via deliberate planning. Women rarely have sex deliberately. It happens in the moment when her emotions are pumped up or she's just horny.
Sex works a bit differently for guys.
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A few problems with the Clare Graves / Spiral Dynamics model
A few problems with the Clare Graves / Spiral Dynamics modelSD is a complex model which requires serious study and contemplation to understand fully.
All of these issues you brought are up only apparent issue because you haven't fully understood the model yet and you are not quite properly interpreting history. For example America was not more Green in the 60's than today. That is confusing the hippie movement with the average level of the entire country. In the 60's America was heavy Blue/Orange.
Atheists are not Blue, they are just stubbornly Orange.
Each stage builds on all the prior ones, so there is no contradiction in a Green or even Turquoise person starting a business. Business takes place at every stage, just following different values.
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How to look at girls in night clubs
How to look at girls in night clubsLaser eyes
Eye contact is 50% of game.
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Growing Movement in Canada To De-criminalize drugs
Growing Movement in Canada To De-criminalize drugsSomething like 1 in 5 people have some mental illness and like 1 in 20 have a serious mental illness.
Think about those numbers.
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How long do you wait to have sex?
How long do you wait to have sex?Because it’s not the phase of life they are in.
Most guys here are young and feel like they lack options when it comes to dating. So their main concern is maximizing optionality. That’s also what PUA instructors tend to teach.
Then they conflate optionality with abundance.
I believe it’s also a product of our larger stage Orange society. Everything is about maximizing options and freedom of choice.
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Meditating 2 Hours Every Day - 1 Year Later (& Psychedelics vs. Meditation)
Meditating 2 Hours Every Day - 1 Year Later (& Psychedelics vs. Meditation)Really appreciate that. Yes I do agree so much time is wasted with mental masturbation. Actually, finding the time for 2 hours of formal practice is a lot easier than it may seem when we realize how much time is needlessly thrown away through distraction.
As far as the quote, yes that is very true but it’s one of those quotes that can very easily be coopted by the ego, turned into a belief that living life as we are and formally meditating are equivalent. While this is actually true, essentially, it’s not something we’ll actually live as experience without a shitload of consistency, intensity, and experience with formal practice.
What comes to mind for me is the 10 ox herding pictures, just how profound the depths of this path really go, diligent practice being necessary every step along the way until the very end. But also, I think this has to be balanced with the quote you bring up from Rupert. When both are held in simultaneous balance, magic.
Thank you again brother.
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Spiral Dynamics Stage Blue Examples Mega-Thread
Spiral Dynamics Stage Blue Examples Mega-ThreadThe first 2.5 minutes is classic stage Blue:
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Meditating 2 Hours Every Day - 1 Year Later (& Psychedelics vs. Meditation)
Meditating 2 Hours Every Day - 1 Year Later (& Psychedelics vs. Meditation)I have done over 150 trips and my depth of understanding of God has not plateaued. It keeps going deeper.
This stuff is way deeper than any teacher or school leads on.
If I had stopped after 50 trips, I would have been a fool.
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How to get laid?
How to get laid?@Vivaldo You need to watch like 100 hours of RSD videos.
All of attraction theory is fully known and articulated. That's what pickup is. It teaches you the fundamentals of how to talk to a woman with sexual intent.
Once you study the theory then you go out and practice a lot.
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How long do you wait to have sex?
How long do you wait to have sex?I think it’s even deeper than that.
If you truly had a level of self-worth close to that high, it’s highly unlikely you’d be interested in doing pick up at all. Or at the very least, you’d be uninterested in the more ego-based parts of pickup, like cranking your lay count as high as possible to feel good about yourself.
Most guys I see who are actually “in sexual abundance” with women are quite content to just be in a relationship with one woman. It’s actually scarcity that drives a “I need more” attitude and that you need four girls on rotation. In the same way that it’s sometimes someone with the MOST money that feels the most scarcity.
Abundance does not equal optionality. A cutting down of options can actually signify abundance, because you feel that choice is enough.
Which is not to say I’m against guys going through a PUA phase. I’ve been very critical of PUA lately, but any guys reading this should understand my bias is that I’ve already been there. I’ve done my 1,000+ approaches. If you haven’t done that, PUA might be temporarily valuable for you.
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Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?
Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?As I already said in this thread, hit the online forums.
This is where a sizeable number of pua guys still congregate.
And go to local pua events. Like if RSD does a free tour or event in your city, 100% go to that.
Otherwise, I would make friends with some of those party animals who you don’t resonate with. I know it’s not ideal, but if your intention is to get good at pickup, those guys can help you with that.
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Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?
Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?I know you get this already, but I’ll just reiterate my POV for other guys reading this. Having good wings is arguably the most important part of learning pickup.
And by “good”, I just mean guys who are willing to go out a lot and approach.
You cannot do this alone.
Even if you want to go out solo to push your comfort zone and strengthen your independence, that should still be a minority of your nights out.
The vast majority should involve other people you know. Which can also include female friends who are maybe not formal “wings”.
In you’re in a major city, hit the online forums. There will be other guys who are into this. Message them or post an ad.
If you don’t live in a major city, then your goal should be to move to one. Trying to learn pickup in a small town doesn’t work, you need lots of people.
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Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?
Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?Seddit (r/seduction on Reddit) was decent back in the day. I have no idea how it is now, I haven’t used it in years.
RSD forums were also decent. But they’ve been shut down last I heard.
You’ll just have to google around. As long as you’re in a major city, you should have no problem finding at least one or two guys. Don’t be picky at first, if they’re willing to go out, that’s good enough.
I would give this narrative up.
You are spending even more dozens of hours trying to learn something that isn’t meant to be achieved alone.
It’s not about kissing ass. I never once kissed ass and I had literally dozens of wingmen when I was going out regularly.
When guys see that you approach hard and get results, they will be begging to go out with you.
And if you’re not going out with “wingmen”, then at the very least you need to be going out with normal friends.
Nothing else will sky rocket your results like this. Nothing.
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Jordan Peterson: Why it's SO Hard to Sit Down and Study/Work
Jordan Peterson: Why it's SO Hard to Sit Down and Study/WorkRadically changing my diet, cutting out junk food Gym, exercise, losing weight Pickup, learning how to attract women, learning to socialize, developing a sense of humor Starting a biz, becoming financially independent. Learning marketing and sales. Figuring out my life purpose Reading basic self-help books and taking basic self-help and business/marketing courses Education in science, history, philosophy, psychology, etc. The core pillars for my Orange were:
Biz, pickup, gym, nutrition, education
Success in all the above will create a solid foundation for a good life.
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Starting my Nofap & Attraction journey
Starting my Nofap & Attraction journeyJohn Anthony Lifestyle's free videos on YT are better than RSDTyler (Occam's Razor is also great), just don't look up to John as some morally sound person, but he has a very logical system for game without the RSD bullshit. The System by Todd is also a great course, but it is very theory-base and requires more verbal training. But, it's great for what it offers.
After coronavirus, I'll be doing a similar journey.
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Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?
Should you still go out & do pick up (solo) even when you feel sad & tired?Going out solo consistently for a newbie is honestly, next to an impossible task.
Invest time to find wings and friends who will give you a morale boost when you feel like quitting.
Wings are CRUCIAL!
You need to build up a decent experience base before you are ready to handle serious solo excursions.
Even when you are experienced, solo is HARD.
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Is having children immoral?
Is having children immoral?My notion of devilry is not based on immorality. Devilry is just a corruption of Truth into falsehood for selfish purposes.
Selfishness is not immoral.
In fact, calling things "immoral" is a form of devilry.
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Was this awakening?
Was this awakening?No
But it was a minor positive spiritual experience.
Awakening is so shocking it's like you've woken up from the dream of your life. Like you realize your entire life was just a hallucination and that you were never born and will never die.
No words can describe how radical it is. It is the most radical thing that can possible happen to you. More radical than getting shot in the head. You will be stunned speechless.
Don't worry, you won't miss it if it happens to you.
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Leo is Wrong About Trump - Accountability Predictions
Leo is Wrong About Trump - Accountability PredictionsThat's a serious misunderstanding of Spiral Dynamics. SD stages are not good or evil. It's just relative degrees of awareness and development.
The reason some people don't like SD is if they find themselves low on the scale and then judge themselves that that is bad and unacceptable. But SD never said you are bad for being at a lower level.
There's nothing evil about saying that person X is in 3rd grade while person Y is in 12th grade.
Development Psychology and Spiral Dynamics help us understand one another better. It's the exactly opposite of calling people evil.