aurum
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I don’t need someone who is outwardly spiritual. That can just be another form of ego. I myself might not even seem like someone who would be into these kind of ideas.
What I care about more is emotional maturity, aligned goals / lifestyle, personal chemistry and her willingness to grow. Which could mean she is into spiritual topics, but not necessarily.
I dated one girl a couple years ago who didn’t know a thing about meditation or any of this. But she more mature than many of the girls I’ve met. We got along really well.
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@Tristan12 if you’re going to eat pasta and bread for calories, why not meat? Meat will be healthier than either of those.
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You’re most likely fine. People may even want to repost.
If you have their contact info you could just ask for permission.
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The bigger thing I see here is that you’re implicitly assuming there’s one “right answer” to what you’re asking. Like a math question. But the reality is that human interaction is way more complex and chaotic than that.
Sometimes you should tease. Sometimes you shouldn’t. Sometimes you should double down. Sometimes you shouldn’t. Sometimes what you do goes well. And sometimes it doesn’t.
Of course if you’re new to game, then these kind of questions are natural. You’re trying to learn and I’m not really being helpful by just saying “there’s no answer”. When you’re new, you want an answer to grab onto. You want/need clear instructions on what to do. And that can be helpful. But it’s also limiting and not real life.
Next time you’re out, see instead if you can “feel” into what the right answer will be in any given situation. You will be wrong sometimes. Contemplate about it afterwards.
If you can develop that inner radar, you won’t need to post on forums or ask dating gurus about what to do any longer. Use these tools if you want temporarily, but also keep in the back of your mind that you are going to outgrow them. Make us obsolete. If any dating guru you have is not doing that, you have a false guru.
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13 hours ago, Michael569 said:it can be temporarily effective for people who suffer from acid reflux or too much acid buildup but drinking it for that purpose does not fix the root cause of the reflux, it just manipulates the PH. Most antacids work this way. However, you don't want to be pouring down too much-alkalised liquid on empty stomach as it temporarily brings up the PH of the stomach from PH 1 potentially up several grades if you drink too much which can lead to things like transmigration of bacteria that would have otherwise been killed by the acidity as well as reducing the efficiency of the stomach as the second line of digestion. Constantly altering the PH of the stomach could (theoretically) lead to a buildup of bacteria in the small intestine and something like SIBO over a very long term - but that's just speculation at this point.
It's probably ok taking a sip here and there but I definitely wouldn't;t rely on alkaline water as my main source of hydration of minerals. Most minerals should come from the food we eat and as long as the diet is well balanced, you shouldn't;t have issues with missing any essential mienrals especially not the aliaklisers (magnesium, potassium) which are very easy to get from diet.
It would also be interesting to know how efficient the body is extracting nutrients from liquids compared to food. But if you feel you are undernourished, suffer from lots of cramps etc potentially mineralised water can help but I wouldn't drink it continually throughout the day. ALternatively you could blend bunch of fruits and mix those with a bottle of water and drink that instead for extra electrolyte bomb.
Do you generally advise people to drink reverse osmosis? And then adjust the diet to ensure proper minerals for hydration?
In my personal experience, it’s far, far easier for me to “eat my water” than drink it. But it seems like even this has a limit as my lifestyle is very active right now and so I lose a ton of fluids / electrolytes naturally. So mineral water, sometimes even with some sea salt, seems to do the trick.
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@Luna Eating can be a deep pattern for a lot of people.
What are you eating typically? And how often?
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@tsuki I’m more interested in the minerals that alkaline water has than the PH value. Minerals are important for hydration and really just your overall health. So I think it’s definitely worth drinking for most people, especially if you’re concerned you might be low in essential minerals or suffer from dehydration.
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Glad to see you included Jordan Hall on there. He doesn’t get the same amount of attention on here as Daniel but he seems just as intellectually brilliant and a good dude overall. I think you could also add Buckminster Fuller to the Game B category, as he was talking Game B before it was called Game B.
I think you could also make a category for certain economists as they tend to think systemically. People like Herman Daly, Nicholas Georgescu-Roegen and EF Schumacher inspired a whole generation of ecological and degrowth economists. Irving Fisher, Marx and Keynes of course also come to mind. There’s a ton that could be added to that list.
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@Rasheed Why do you want that? What’s the goal?
It shouldn’t be a problem as long as you have a big enough meal with calorie dense foods. Some people say it’s hard to eat that much food in one sitting, but if you eat slow enough you can likely do it. I’ve been doing OMAD for several years now and my weight barely fluctuates at all.
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@Lyubov Cold showers. Or hell, just go stand outside with your shirt off in that temperature. That’ll wake you right up.
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The problem I find with these tests is that once you study SD, you know all the “right” answers. And it becomes easy to distinguish what color the researchers are testing you on due to obvious key words, e.g higher authority, consensus, competition, etc.
So really, someone could score Yellow or above easily even if they are not at that stage of the spiral through intellectual agreement vs embodiment.
If you really want to know your SD color, look towards your actions and behaviors. That will give you a better clue of what you truly value versus what you think you should value because your ego wants to be “highly developed”.
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11 hours ago, rnd said:If I have some fruits before coffee, then that'll break my fasting window of time restrictive eating, by several hours, right?
Most definitely.
11 hours ago, rnd said:And there's always a dilema:
(1) have some fruits at home before drinking coffee
(2) have nothing and only drink coffee
What about just do nothing?
No coffee, no fruit.
I know some people really love their coffee, but from a health perspective, I don’t see it as necessary. If your concern in energy, there are better ways to get energy IMO.
Alternatively, you could start swapping coffee for tea that has no calories. This way you still get something warm to drink and possibly caffeine, but does not break your fast.
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@Mada_ I wouldn’t bother counting calories. I got obsessed with doing that in college, really just isn’t necessary.
There are far, far better ways to lose weight.
For instance, what’s your eating window? Are you regularly fasting and eating low glycemic foods? How about practicing heat / cold exposure? Functional breathing patterns?
If you’ve got all that down, you’ll never have to worry about counting calories or your weight again.
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@rnd That is how it works.
I don’t know about your recommended time of 8-10 hours though. I’d say that’s a hotly debated topic with a lot of nuance. David Sinclair, for instance, usually does a 2 hour window.
I’ve personally been on somewhere around a 2-6 hour window for the past couple of years, seems to work amazingly well for me.
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Loud night clubs are just always a variable when it comes to game. You can improve how you handle them but they’re part of the terrain. You have to adapt.
Speak closer, even directly into her ear if you have to. This can also build intimacy and could be considered a mild form of physical escalation, which is good. But you also have to be aware of her reaction to you getting close and see how she responds.
Speaking in a higher pitch also helps a lot. The higher frequencies cut through the noise easier. And you want to practice projecting without letting your voice get caught in the back of the throat or feeling like you’re straining. If you strain, you’ll blow out your voice in no time at all, especially if you’re new to night clubs.
Last thing you can do is use your body. If the night club is super loud, most people won’t be talking much anyway. And using your body can be more powerful than verbals. So communicate with your whole being, not just one narrow channel (mouth).
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18 hours ago, The Buddha said:You will see Nithyanada is in fact the sucesor of almost all hindu traditions and is the supreme pontif of hinduism
No I won’t.
Maybe respecting gurus has more of a tradition in India, but to me it looks like you’re in a cult.
18 hours ago, The Buddha said:all the non-dual teachings that you praise here come from india.
No they don’t.
Non-duality predates India, hate to break it to you. You can find non-duality in every major religion and culture.
18 hours ago, The Buddha said:Literally you have to understand that if it's not india, who is going to make such a country?
That’s the exact same logic the west would have used to colonize India.
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This dude sets off my fake guru alarm like crazy.
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13 hours ago, How to be wise said:@Leo Gura Just keep in mind that if you get a girlfriend from the nightclub, she will be somebody that likes going to nightclubs since she was there before you met. That means she will continue going to the nightclub even after you two are together. Now you have two options: Go to the nightclub with her every time, where you don’t like going to, or have her go by herself. She will be hit on by guys continuously, so you better hope she is the type of girl that will reject all of them.
Not true at all.
All kinds of girls go to night clubs. It’s extremely common. Especially in Vegas, she could just be there for a friend’s birthday or bachelorette party. Maybe she doesn’t even like clubbing but she’s there for the same reason Leo is there: clubs are where people go.
So the fact that she’s at a night club, especially at a young age, says little about her. You really can’t make the assumption she’s some sort of low conscious club rat that will never grow out of it. That may be the case sometimes, but most times it will not.
Speaking from experience, I met my last LTR at a bar/night club setting. I think we only visited a bar twice the entire time we were together.
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39 minutes ago, Spiral Wizard said:How do I develop enough integrity to not be intrigued by selfishness?
I wouldn’t necessarily seek integrity. That can backfire and turn into you moralizing yourself and creating a shadow for not being more selfless. That’s sort of the stage Blue “pious” trap.
Integrity and selflessness are really just the product of spiritual development.
I would commit to awareness, healing, contemplation, authenticity and discovering your “true self” instead.
From there, integrity naturally arises because you’ll be in alignment. You’ll no longer be in conflict with yourself.
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1 hour ago, Derek White said:Since you are the Universe/God, I think you should be able to control reality
You already do, in a sense.
1 hour ago, Derek White said:Why would anything not be possible?
“Everything is possible” includes that it’s possible that somethings are not possible.
50 minutes ago, Derek White said:Okay, how do I "unwill" that? Lol
You don’t. This is how it should be. You want limitations.
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1 hour ago, Hardkill said:So, my response was "Well, I am looking for some kind of friends with benefits?."
That’s not a joke.
Your first example was a joke.
This is just you coming across as too forward / direct.
A statement like that can work sometimes with the right girl at the right time. But obviously that wasn’t it.
In general, different social contexts mean different kinds of humor are more appropriate. In some settings, you might be able to get away with more crass, dirty humor. In others, not so much.
You have to always read the room and the person you’re talking to. Ask yourself: what is “normal” right now? And allow “normal” to be fluid and change at any moment.
You can sometimes dictate what is “normal” in a group if you have a strong enough frame and people see you as a leader. But even that I find usually only goes so far. So pay attention to how people act in different contexts and get a feel for what is appropriate.
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1 hour ago, The Caretaker said:Let's just say that after one boiling, it was all white from the salts
That doesn’t sound right to me. No reason boiled water should be turning white unless it’s just bubbles. You don’t need or want kilograms of minerals, just some. I’d definitely look into that.
1 hour ago, The Caretaker said:Also, as far as I know, cold showers/baths help a lot with recovery but slightly inhibit muscle growth. Idk, I've tried to cold shower for a few months in the past and haven't noticed any substantial benefit.
Couple of points here.
First, don’t do it directly after working out if you’re interested in hypotrophy. There is some research saying a cold water immersion will essentially blunt hypotrophy due to the decrease in inflammation, which is probably what you’re referring. Keep in mind hypotrophy is not equivalent to strength, it’s more about muscle size. So it might be a concern if you’re seriously interested in bodybuilding. Either way, just wait a couple hours. Hit the sauna instead, that will actually stimulate HGH (growth hormone).
Second, you’re not going to be building muscle if your cortisol is high and you’re stressed. The cold helps with that. That same reduction of inflammation in the right context is incredibly good for you, as just about all ill-health can be boiled down to some form of excessive inflammation. It’s also going to train your vascular system and challenge a lot of important processes in your body. So indirectly, it definitely can help you build muscle.
With regards to your personal experiment, how long were you in the shower and how cold was it? There is sort of a minimum effective dose, and if you don’t cross it, you’re not going to see much effect. Likewise, if you go too cold or rewarm too fast, that can also reduce the benefits.
Either way, cold showers are not the equivalent of shooting steroids. It’s not like you take them and then suddenly your biceps get a 1/3 bigger. Most of the benefits are less superficial than that. You can’t necessarily see how strong someone’s vascular system is just by looking at them. And the psychological / spiritual benefits can be subtle as well. You got to stick with it consistently over time to really get it.
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Yeah JPs trajectory has been rough to watch. He went from making pretty funny and insightful satire on the spiritual community to full right-winger. Reminds me of Elliot Hulse. Not coincidentally, they’ve done some content together recently.
I think we like to think of people moving up in consciousness in a linear way, always becoming more aware / spiritual. But it seems that is not the case. People backslide hard and regress as well at times.
The scariest part of course is that these same people always believe they are right. And I also believe I am right, so what if I’m just as delusional? What if all the work I’ve put in has pulled me away from God/consciousness instead of towards it? I don’t think that’s the case, but I do feel it can be useful to consider as long as you don’t go into chronic, crippling self-doubt.
To answer your question, five years ago I was in many ways a completely different person. I was just getting my feet wet with spirituality and having some of my first mystical experiences. I spent a ton of my time doing pickup. In general I feel way happier with my life and feel like my understanding has grown by leaps and bounds in the those five years. Extremely excited to see how the next five will play out.
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Love this thread, you look like you’re having a great time. I’ve been doing cold therapy for years but inconsistent about it. I’ve finally moved to a colder climate and now the consistency has started to come as well.
I live in the city so getting to a natural body of water every morning is difficult. More convenient for me is the daily cold showers. Although it’s not quite the same as a full body submersion, I find it’s still more than enough to create environmental hormesis, which is the main goal.
I’ve really started to love the cold. It has a sort of hypnotic, seductive element to it even though the discomfort is there. I can’t help but want to go in.
The breathing is also lovely. I find it can totally reset me in just a matter of minutes if I’m feeling “off” or stressed.
Really looking forward to seeing how this practice may deepen for me over the years.
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You could eat nuts, that’s what I did when I was vegan. Definitely a calorie dense food. But I’d argue meat is going to be way healthier than eating a bunch of nuts everyday for many people.