Danioover9000
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Nice share. It seems like it is the case with purpose, anyone can literally make a purpose for anything they want to manifest in the future.
Taking action, and training towards getting that into the real world, is where it starts to differ.
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In fact, there's no such thing as wasted time at all.
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22 hours ago, somegirl said:I feel like, since this pandemic started, I don't get to live my early 20s the way I want. I wanted to have interesting life experiences, love, live life to the fullest, travel with friends/a bf. This pandemic started when I was 20. I am freaking 22 now. I am annoyed quite frankly that this is happening.
This has also lowered (my already low) chances of meeting potential bf. (I say "already low" because I live in a city of 200,000 people, where more than half are older people).
And the guys I do manage to meet, it seems like we are not a a match, which is starting to frustrate me quite a bit because, when are they gonna find me more attractive than now? And when am I gonna have these beautiful romantic experiences? In my freaking 50s and 60s? It's ridiculous. This was supposed to be my best years lol.
It's easier for guys, they can settle later in life, but for a girl, I feel like young years are their best time to find their partner. It's freaking depressing and this is stressing me out to no end.
I feel like I'm not using all my potentials too and I'm spending my best years at home most of the time. I do go out, but the amount of people I see out is quite depressing. Almost noone is going out because of sudden peak of new corona cases here. And what is funny is that, rarely does it happen that I meet new guys through my social circle (that consists of mostly girls). I don't know if this is universe playing tricks on me lol.
What is even a solution to this? What can one do about it?
The good news is, this is way too young an age to be complaining about dating and sexuality. Don't worry, you'll get enough life experiences to be able to date and find the right partner for you, you literally have too much time and energy to not screw this up. The bad news, you have to learn to discipline yourself about getting what you want.
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On 1/15/2022 at 4:19 PM, mmKay said:Red has allways been my favorite color. I love it, but hear me out:
Once I was falling asleep on my couch looking at a red shirt that was hanging across the room.
From my experience, sometimes when you're in that half asleep - half awake state you access a different state of consciousness, and then it was extremely clear for me that looking at something red triggers you , provoking constant restlessness and unease.
It is the color of blood afterall.
I may be wrong or deluded so I'm asking for second opinions here.
The reason for this post is that I want to purchase a cool colorful carpet for the floor of my campervan since its all dark grey inside ( to make some contrast ) and I'd love it to be all red or with some red here and there, but since I'll be spending so much time there i obviously don't want to be subconsciously triggered all the time.
Thoughts, or cool 2x3 m floor carpets? ?
Yes, there is a psychology about how colours effect people.
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Great that they are finally pursuing sedition charges against those involved in the insurrection attempt, except that it technically isn't a proper insurrection, more a bunch of angry alt right mobs, because if it really was a well planned insurrection attempt, then thousands of lives would've been killed in that day, So, if they charge everybody involved, from the ones who were at the site damaging property, to the ones premeditating the whole thing from behind the scenes, then it's going to be difficult because they can only really go after the ones who've actually on site, damaging stuff first. The best they can hope for is charging everybody involved, directly and indirectly, but is a lesser charge to Donald Trump and others who were hanging back for inciting the mob.
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9 hours ago, Tristan12 said:Over the past few years I have become so passionate about spirituality, psychology and personal development, and at this point that is all I want to pursue and spend my time doing. Because of this I have lost interest in a lot of the other areas of life, including dating and relationships. I try to keep the other areas of my life balanced (I still exercise and take care of my health, I have friendships I maintain, I am working on my career, etc.) but dating and relationships is something that is not a part of my life and I don't have much interest in it becoming one.
I can see the appeal in a deep romantic relationship, but still it's not something that I really want. For sex, if it fell in my lap I would take it but i'm not interested in it enough to go out and pursue it. I would rather focus on my work and the things i'm passionate about.
The thing I am concerned about is that I have basically no experience in this area and I am wondering if it would be a hinderance to my development if it stayed that way. I'm 21 and I am a virgin and i've never been in a relationship. I know because I am young that I could definitely change my mind in the future, but i've already been this way for a few years and I'm just wondering if it would be a problem if I stayed this way.
Even if I ended up having sex and getting into a relationship in the future, that still doesn't mean that i'd necessarily put in the time and effort to develop skills in that area, and i'd probably still be pretty underdeveloped. Do you think that the area of dating and relationships is something that is necessary for everyone to develop skill in whether they are interested in it or not? I'm curious to hear about this from people also deeply into spirituality who would understand why someone wouldn't be interested in this.
I see no problem here, other than you potentially lying to yourself and avoiding improving the dating and relationship lines of development in your life. It depends on the stage of development(cultural value system of the individual), morality, cognition, personality types and lines of development(other domains of life, other life experiences) of the person, so if you're contemplated deep enough about what dating and relationships are to you, and whether it's worth your time to develop those lines, then your decision of putting dating and relationship development later in favor of pursuing career, health, fitness, home environment, entertainment/hobby, and spiritual development is ok.
I'm 28 and a virgin too, and to me my development in dating and relationship is close to a non issue, for various factors to me.
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15 hours ago, SaWaSaurus said:I don't understand the technicals of the article, but the OP made some sus posts in the comment section that seems off for the character he's portraying..
Are you sure the OP and the commenter are the same people?
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My question to some who follow attachment style, what do you do to develop yourself towards secure attachment style?
Is it personal development, and which theory?
Is it spirituality, and which practice?
For me, I've done enough spiritual practices and personal development years back, to be able to score a secure attachment style.
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This is getting very interesting. I've always had a feeling that this virus is some type of biological weapon due to how it is so infectious and the severe effects it has on the lungs, and the rate of variants that keep on popping up. However, I don't see a way in which China would be held responsible for this.
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19 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:You are onto something. But I think it's not just about alleviation of pain, but good humor also has to have a tint of realism within it. So it's more about pointing out painfull truths, or at least what you/collective considers to be true, in a lighthearted and funny way. Notice how jokes that you cannot really relate with, are not that funny. And the reason you cannot relate with them, is that you don't consider the story to be true.
For example, for a anti-feminist right winger, feminist jokes that are bashing white men may not be funny, and vice versa what right winger considers to be funny, would never be funny to SJW types.
The OP claims that all humour is rooted in pain. Now that I think about it more, that's not quite right, because pain is nervous system signals in the human body. It's probably more accurate to say all humour stems from mental suffering, from how one's mind interprets the situation and subverts the not ideal outcome, plus a disarming mechanism in social groups as part of survival.
16 hours ago, Yarco said:No, most humor is subverted expectations. When you think one thing is going to be said or done, and they do another. No pain or putting down required.
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16 hours ago, vizual said:I see humor as the little strings that keep us attached to the divine. Without it we will become lost in the material world, by taking it too seriously, and giving it too much weight.
You mean all types of humour? In this case, if you mean all humour, where does dark humour fit in with linking one to the divine?
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10 hours ago, integral said:Thanks for the video, good introduction to attachment theory.
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On 1/12/2022 at 6:14 PM, Danioover9000 said:Has anyone here found any value in taking this test in terms of cognitive line, moral frame work, values, and psychological value like discovering more of your personality? I'm assuming besides the obvious like relationship development, have any of you found other benefits to this test?
On 1/13/2022 at 8:25 AM, bejapuskas said:@spiritual memes google some possible solutions
Its an underused tool
@Danioover9000 I find value after reflecting, not only after taking.
I meant after taking the test and reflecting, and even while taking the test obviously.
However, I have yet to find any value in the theory of attachment styles other than describing simple types of attachment styles to intimate partners based on one's relationship with the father and mother. Like how one is treated by the parents, is how one is informed of how to treat every other male or female figure out in the world is the gist I'm getting.
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On 1/12/2022 at 3:11 AM, Zion said:As I've slowly matured over the years through means of self-development & continue to do so, I have struggled to see what humor is & why it exists.
I understand the feeling that humor gives, though not its purpose(s).
My current loosely-based hypothesis is that it is rooted in pain. It seems to me, if you go deep enough into your own emotions & overall ego, you'll find pain as the culprit. What I'm getting at, is that I haven't seen or understood humor to be anything other than something that puts something/someone down. At least, that's the way society teaches humor through sub-communication. Though you could say simply that a sound such as a fart could be funny without any reasoning for anything to be put down or degraded. So I'm left with the question still of; what is humor? Why does humor exist?
Is humor only what we want to be funny? If so, why do we crave things to be funny? For comfort? Is humor a phase of humanity's evolution?
Values of humor:
- Alleves insecurities and emotional struggles temporarily.
- Laughing relieves stress in the body temporarily
- Entertainment
- A good common-ground for effective communication whilst building relationships
What's your perspective? What do you think humor is? Why do you think it exists?
My perspective on humour, is that in the relative domain, it's a set of powerful manipulation tendencies to put the other person on their place if they step out of line, and/or a way of disarming and de-escalating a situation, this of course is mostly within how human beings treat each other and not so much with other creatures with some exceptions of monkeys, maybe other animals in social groups or lone types. I think, based on my cognitive development, that humour is mostly manipulative and comfort generating, sometimes for other people, but mostly for your benefit. The reason why humour exists, is because we are social in nature, and we have evolved many ways of communications, and be able to abstract at higher levels.
What you listed about the values of humour are correct, and there's many more.
I believe your hypothesis is close, because when I sometimes am in pain, or survived past a stressful situation, my mind tend to make fun of the people and the situation, even the pain, as a form of coping mechanism to handle the suffering. Sometimes I make fun of myself, to cheer myself up. I think you are close with your hypothesis. I sometimes try to resist laughing or chuckling when I see in my field of awareness, somebody slipping when the floor was wet or icy, or having some kind of strange accident, or when a person behaves in a silly way that's too weird to me.
Because humour is mostly relativistic, it can depend on the value system, cognitive development, morality, personality types, other life experiences and social intelligence of the person and/or group and which culture they come from. I can definitely tell you, this is true, because from my life experiences in the USA when I was an adolescent, interactions with people from Washington, their communication styles and use of humour is different from my experiences in social interactions with people from Canada, which is different from my interactions with people from the UK where I reside in, which has vast differences with people from Asian cultures like Indonesia, China, Japan ect.
At the absolute level, I'm not sure, it might be not true that all humour is rooted in pain, and Leo's reply was from his experiences with psychedelics and other mystical experiences he has had, so that's that from his perspective. But some types of humour stems from pain and suffering, like dark humour. What is dark humour but making fun of horrors, darkness and tragedies of humanity?
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Has anyone here found any value in taking this test in terms of cognitive line, moral frame work, values, and psychological value like discovering more of your personality? I'm assuming besides the obvious like relationship development, have any of you found other benefits to this test?
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Update: I've done some drawings, and Crysty went crazy with my left hand while I'm trying out a set of artist's fine liner pens and does fast gestural drawings of flowers.
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The definition of an anti vaxxer from google online def:
anti-vaxxer
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noun
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a person who is opposed to vaccination, typically a parent who does not wish to vaccinate their child.
"experts say several diseases that are avoidable are making a comeback due to anti-vaxxers who refuse to vaccinate their kids"
Another definition from Merriam-Webster:
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an·ti-vax·xer | \ ˌan-tē-ˈvak-sər , ˌan-ˌtī- \
plural anti-vaxxers
Definition of anti-vaxxer
: a person who opposes the use of vaccines or regulations mandating vaccinationSome self-identified anti-vaxxers are vehemently against all vaccines. Some are skeptical of specific vaccines …— Kelly McLaughlin and Yelena DzhanovaHe said, while he will not get the COVID-19 vaccine, he is not an "anti-vaxxer" against all vaccinations.— Steven Mitchellespecially : a parent who opposes having his or her child vaccinatedBefore the 2016-17 school year, parents who opposed vaccination, or anti-vaxxers as they are often called, could enroll their unvaccinated children in school citing the personal belief exemption, based on religious or philosophical convictions, for example.— Ana B. Ibarra and Barbara Feder OstrovShe said she's not a staunch anti-vaxxer and has her two children get routine vaccines except flu shots.— Scott WylandAs anti-vaxxers launch a campaign against a bill that would eliminate their ability to opt out of required shots, supporters of the proposal are delivering more than 21,000 petition signatures to the office of state Sen. Ben Allen …— Alexei Koseff—often used before another nounanti-vaxxer sentimentanti-vaxxer parentsIronically, probably one reason the anti-vaxxer movement has swayed so many people is because the vaccines for childhood diseases have been so successful. Most of today's parents have never experienced the damage they can do.— The San Mateo (California) Daily Journal
So, after reading the definitions, what do you guys find similar or different from your own definitions of an anti vaxxer? What do you guys agree?disagree with?
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The link above is from CNBC on the Kazakhstan situation. The one below is from another source:
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2 hours ago, Khr said:Unless you show me exactly where in the Guidelines it says that I can’t discuss things that I think are related, I suggest you leave me alone. You are English, what makes you qualified to know that it has “nothing to do with Kazakhstan current situation”? You’re not even from the regions, how is it smart of you to make such statements? Where is the open mind here? Instead of constantly complaining about what I write, and actually derailing the thread, how about you write something of value instead?
FYI, the reason why I even started talking about how all of this is related to Russia, is because of the third comment on this post being about how the KZ protest was funded by CIA, just like Ukraine and Hong Kong protests were, and then some other conspiracy theory about russophobia and how russia is the victim in all of this. I thought this was a toxic, ideological, dogmatic, dismissive, and dangerous misinformation.Mods can you tell this person to leave me alone already? Who is he to be so condescending and judge what I can and can’t post and what is a thin line?
I'm happy to point out where your blinds pots are. Here's some of the guidelines you crossed over.
" #1 Rule: Don't Be A Jerk
No "debunking" and debating.
Show a level of respect & humility. Demonstrate kindness, friendliness, and compassion towards fellow members.
Show a willingness to learn and consider multiple points of view, rather than only pushing your own. Restrain your projections and egoic reactions. If we see you projecting your biases, judgments, misunderstandings, grudges, ignorance, and other egoic issues onto forum members, you will be banned."
Read the below carefully before posting anything or pming anything to other users:
"These are just the bare minimum quality standards expected of everyone on this forum. There are other implicit quality standards which are too numerous and subtle to enumerate, but our Mods will be watching you. So watch what you post.
This is not a free-speech zone and we will definitely "censor" you and ban you if your presence here drags down the overall quality of the forum.
If we see you repeatedly acting from ego with no self-awareness or ability to restrain yourself, you will be banned."
If you think this whole thread is trolling, toxic, dangerous, misinformation and conspiracy theory because the whole thing is CIA funded, then report the thread and try not to be as toxic, trollist and dogmatic as the users you think are? Food for retrospection of your input here @Khr .
Here's a video on Kazakhstan situation:
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13 hours ago, Khr said:For me it is also a sensitive subject, and I don't see any issues/disrespect with posting footage from what was happening in Ukraine or Belarus. If anything I think you are being very selfish and extremely disrespectful by telling me what I can and can't post. If you feel traumatized by watching the footage it is your responsibility not to watch it. You are not the only person on the forum, the things that are happening are not only difficult for you, and this forum is not only about you expressing how you feel.
Watch what you say. You are treading a very thin line here. What ever happened in Ukraine and Belarus, has nothing to do with Kazakhstan's current political situation. If you feel the need to talk about Russia and Ukraine and Belarus, make another thread about that, but don't derail the thread when it's mainly about Kazakhstan.
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24 minutes ago, Fleetinglife said:How about you take some action and join an org, group, movement, or action calling into the independent investigation of actions of ''Tony Blair and Associates'' consultancy groups receiving millions of pounds (pardon dollars) from the former Kazakh autocratic president and his family that fled the country now into Dubai and joined with the former Afghan US puppet president, into the PR for covering the state crackdown and police brutality and massacres of Kazakh oil workers in the Zhaonzen massacre, the same workers that were now first on the firing lines to protest a sudden increase in the spike of not just gas prices but also other crucial living commodities prices because the government lift price control mechanism and state subsidies for domestic gas prices for regular Kazakh citizens and workers in order to leave it to the prices determined by the international market and because of the easing of electronic bidding reasons conducted mostly by Western oil companies who have large stakes and shares in the Kazakh state oil industries and have a large private oil industry there
or for the Tory MPs to disclose from who have they received funds for book deals and PR firms writing favorably on the previous and ousted Kazakh autocratic government and president and what did they do with that money they received and they then stashed on their tax havens on the British Virgin Islands and later spent on what?
or call on them to investigate and pressure by joining or donating to some group or org. pressuring the UK government into the investigation of the origin of the vast sum of money and funds of former president Nazarbayev's and families real estate empire worth 80 million pounds sitting in the UK
I think you should stake into consideration what actions, education, and information you yourself can take but are not doing so and not going to immediately blame and moral grandstand to others who are suffering through this now for infecting everyone with their victim mindset in this thread when their own government's officials sources of economic power and wealth were propped up and protected by your own government officials
I'm a wierdo free lancer, whose job isn't related to politics, MPs and Tony Blair as you make me out to be lol. I contribute my own way to the world, don't care about unsubstantiated criticisms against me, and part of my free time is spent in this forum, learning different resources, and personal development. My limited role in this thread, was learning about the situation, and pointing out to the few who're too passionate, maybe look at the forum guidelines again, tone yourselves down, and come back when you're not too heated up. Probably should have said that first then leave and take some action, but that's my sense of the situation, that to the few who are riled up, are only complaining and making this mostly about Russia and the USA, instead of mostly about KazaKhstan, it's society, it's culture, it's people.
My role here in participating is done, so hopefully here's to a healthy thread discourse, or not.
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@Leo Gura , @Roy and @Carl-Richard , are you following what's going on in this thread? Isn't this a good example of derailing, name calling and dogmatism? I think you might want to remind everyone here involved that this is a personal development forum, and not some other forum where freedom of speech and individual rights applies. This forum, ya all are not free in some freedom of speech zone where you fully start demonizing the other. If you truly are too triggered, maybe go out into the world you are in and maybe consider taking some action out there, rather than complaining and infecting everyone here with your victim mindset.
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8 minutes ago, K Ghoul said:Raised and born in Kazakhstan, and would like to comment on the “Russian-led” sentiments - president Tokayev gave speech today where he informed that it’s him who asked Russia, as well as Armenia, Belarus, Kyrgyzstan and Tajikistan for help, and expressed gratitude to ALL of them for their prompt response, sorry to pea on your “Russia quickly jumped in to help because is probably already plotting how to invade Kazakhstan” party, for those who were quick to think that.
Such assistance was requested because Tokayev believes it was a terrorist attack as 20 000 people came out to protest and many were armed, which led him to believe the attacks was planned. Kazakhstan made it clear that they deemed this situation as a terrorist act, and that’s why asked for help, and this should address statements like “Russia should mind their own business etc” as at the moment this is not considered to be a regular civil unrest and no, Russian was not passing by, saw the commotion and decided to jump in - it’s simply not what happened.
The Internet was shut down across the country, and apparently still is, at least in the region where my hometown is. Phone lines too, probably, as I haven’t been able to get in touch with my mom for 3 days now.
President’s speech, in Russian, starts at 27:00
Thanks for sharing what's happening in Kazakhstan from the inside. It gives more info to the unfolding situation.
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This a good analysis by Destiny about the mrgirl and vaush debate. Some of his points remind me of this place:
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I think what he meant with regret being a 'good thing' in motivating one towards changing some aspect of life, is it's like negative motivation. Eventually, sooner or later the regret generates so much suffering, that the person has to release that psychic tension in the mind/body at some point and start taking corrective action. Otherwise, it'll be an unhealthy catharsis, damaging not just the person but other people around them.
Ideally, we all should be able to generate positive motivation inside us, but sometimes we can't and we end up negatively intrinsically motivating ourselves, so next best thing is extrinsic. Sometimes, even positive extrinsic motivation isn't enough, so it's off to negatively extrinsic motivation, which is either you sink, or swim, which I offer to those reading, you do not want to find yourself being negatively extrinsically motivated.