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Why do thoughts have such a strong pull?
Why do thoughts have such a strong pull?It's how you survive as yourself. You (the ego) is a bundle of thoughts.
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John Anthony, fraud or legit claims?
John Anthony, fraud or legit claims?Even in Vegas finding 10 girls worth approaching is not always easy.
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Did my first daygame cold approach today
Did my first daygame cold approach todayUpdate: Second day game cold approach.
Saw a cute girl behind a counter in a shop at the mall and hesitated. Went to get my groceries instead, then on the way decided that I just had to go and approach. Walked into the store. It wasn't too busy. Maybe 3 customers.
Walked up to counter:
Her: "Hey, good afternoon, how are you?" (typical sales talk)
Me: "Hey, good thanks. Hey this is a bit out of the blue.... but I was walking out there [main mall foot traffic corridor] and saw you and thought you were really cute and wanted to say Hi"
"omg! thank you (smiling and good eye contact).... what's your name?
Me" my name's xxxxx... yours?
her: xxxxx
Me: I don't want to distract you from your important work (half joking) but would you be keen to grab a coffee sometime?
Her: yeah! that would be great, I'd love to. I can't now cause Im at work but I would like to do that"
Me: Cool, well do you wanna grab my number (I was holding a big box with groceries so taking my phone out would be a pain).
Her: sure....[contact exhange]
Me; Cool, I'll see you around....bye
Overall, I'm happy she was receptive because I do know that lots of people can get some harsh rejections like 20 times in a row, which massively discourages them from pursuing cold approach. But this interaction made me more confident to just approach, because good outcomes can happen.
In terms of after-approach: my main goal was just to approach and push through approach anxiety. If I was more advanced I would make sure that our contact exchange was solid in terms of her actually texting me to confirm her number or vice versa if she had given it to me.
I don't actually expect her to text me because of the theory of behaviour state untethering. (see Mike Mehlman article about it). Essentially, even those girls who are receptive of the surface will ghost the majority of the time. Also, I dotn think she got my number right when I said it so even if she does text me I wont get the text.
Basically, I succeeded because I approached. During the day, sober, direct. I don't actually care whether we go on a date because now I have a palpable sense that approaches can result in receptive/positive conversations (i.e not all approaches by me are creepy). This is reinforced by approaches I made years and years ago at the start of uni, but its good to get this reinforcement in the present day.
The result is that I am now more confident to approach because I can envision a positive outcome.
Additionally, The honest, direct approach is one of the easiest to make because you dont have to make up a story or some indirect bullshit. WHat I said to her was the truth. I was walking past, I saw her at the counter, thought she was cute, and wanted to talk to her. I don't have to make up some bullshit about what kind fo clothes they sell or whatever the fuck.
This interaction has solidified the notion of the direct, masculine, man-to-woman-frame approach.
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Is there a way out of suffering?
Is there a way out of suffering?Because if we select 1 human out of 8 billion at random, chances are much more likely that you will be born in a shitty part of the world than in a good part.
And we haven't even considered animals. If you reincarnate as a random animal, most animals have it pretty hard. Chances you are you will reincarnate as a chicken in a factory farm or a bug that goes SPLAT on a car window shield.
Actually pain is conceptual and something your mind is doing. If you become conscious enough you can literally stop feeling pain as painful.
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John Anthony, fraud or legit claims?
John Anthony, fraud or legit claims?Definitely BS
His advice is not bad for getting laid, but you're still gonna have to do 1000s of approaches to get good at it. There is no magic pill for getting good with girls. It requires years of training.
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Alcohol
AlcoholI drink sometimes like 0-2x a month or so. It's not always worth it. I prefer to drink only with people I am already familiar with so I don't make friends with people I don't care when sober
If I had friends that I hang out with only to use drugs I'd cut them off. It doesn't matter how harmful the drug of choice is
For the health part, less is more. I don't drink caffeine so I can't just get drunk and get myself up the next day with a stimulant like people do so I need to moderate.
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Ear ringing
Ear ringingIt's called tinnitus. Fairly common on this forum. Meditation, spiritual work, and psychedelics can certainly cause it.
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Job opportunity in Austin, TX (tech)
Job opportunity in Austin, TX (tech)Austin is awesome.
Dating = awesome
Food = awesome
Activities = awesome
Culture = awesome
Cost of living = high but worth it
Worst part of Austin is the horrible traffic.
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On not being enough
On not being enoughLol
If I had a sister I wouldn't want her opening her legs for you because you're so damn insecure you don't deserve a woman.
Women want strong secure men. You disrespect women by being an insecure pussy.
You find peace by transforming yourself into a strong man who's dick women are eager to suck.
Talked about in my LP Course.
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I need advise on a college relationship
I need advise on a college relationshipIf you like her, be serious about it, go deep with it. You are young enough that you will have plenty of time left to explore.
You are being too meek with her. When you like a girl, you have to claim her. You are not leading the relationship properly, which is why she's uncertain and looking around for other guys. Do you want to own her pussy or not? It comes down to that.
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Is it worth it losing your virginity to a hooker?
Is it worth it losing your virginity to a hooker?Do not do it. You are cheating yourself out of an important authentic experience, literally.
Being able to attract someone and have sex with them is like a coming of age thing.
Have as much paid sex as you want after, but DO NOT let your first time be like that.
You will end up regretting it down the road.
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Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escort
Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escortYou may not be aware of this social pattern, but prostitutes are often forced into prostitution because of poverty, life circumstances, drug addiction, or even being directly forced into it through pimps who control them and their livelihood through the threat of violence. So, the life of a prostitute is often a very miserable one. I think many of the men who visit prostitutes aren't aware of the fact that many of the women (and men) are some of the most vulnerable individuals who are being exploited, and that they're contributing to that exploitation. So, I personally wouldn't do this because I think it would make you feel yucky in the long run. Since your self-esteem is already rocky, I wouldn't put myself if that situation.
Leo did a video "Fake Growth v. Real Growth." This would be fake growth. I recommend first trying to hook up with a woman at a club who doesn't go to school with you. You don't even have to tell her that you're a virgin if you don't want to. Learn some pick up techniques, and try them out. Get over your shyness. That's the only reason why you haven't done it yet. I can almost guarantee you it's not your looks, your personality, or anything about your worth as an individual. It's just fear of rejection and low self-esteem... assuming that no woman would want you.
So, it's a matter of approaching and being willing to be rejected. You'll eventually, and probably in short order, find someone who's interested in hooking up with you. You assume that none of the women that you know are interested in you. But be careful with this assumption. Women are discouraged from approaching and do their best not to let on that they're attracted to the guy they're attracted to. If you show no interest, they're unlikely to show you interest first. So, try casually flirting with one of your female friends first to see what her response is. If her response is positive, flirt a little more. If she matches your flirtiness, flirt a little more. If she steps back, you step back. But this would probably be a better recommendation for establishing a relationship and not just hooking up.
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What's your opinion on Master Degree Philosophy (Even PhD)
What's your opinion on Master Degree Philosophy (Even PhD)@Extreme Z7 I was talking about philosophy degrees.
A Masters or PhD in engineering is much more functional.
Philosophy in particular is not meant to be studied in a university. This preverts the whole point of philosophy.
If you want to do serious philosophy, get yourself a bag of mushrooms and DMT and start doing yoga.
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Struggle with approaching consistently
Struggle with approaching consistentlyIt's just not practical to do it randomly. What worked best for me is to go out with the plan to do 5-10 approaches.
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Leo, have you done no-fap?
Leo, have you done no-fap?When you got no creative outlet, no LP, yeah, you'll be jerking off multiple times a day. But when you cultivate a serious creative outlet you will be so busy you will barely have time to jerk off a few times a week.
Idle hands (and minds) do the devil's jerk
The less you pursue higher spiritual pleasures the more you will pursue lower carnal pleasures.
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Struggle with approaching consistently
Struggle with approaching consistentlyI'd do both. I did both when I started. They synergize nicely.
Night game is crucial for getting good with girls. Day game simply does not offer enough practice opportunities. Night game is your dojo.
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Relationship between iq and lovingness,consiousness
Relationship between iq and lovingness,consiousnessObviously
IQ is an extremely narrow measure of intelligence. Actual intelligence is a much broader and deeper thing.
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Fairness and Unfairness - is this really the right way to look at life?
Fairness and Unfairness - is this really the right way to look at life?@MM1988 Notice how egoic your perspective is. Just the fact that you are evaluating the fairness of life based on how much sex you do or do not get, is absurd. As if the universe cares about how much sexual pleasure you receive. No one cares about that but you. It's got zero importance at all in the big picture.
Also notice how you assume that if you don't have sex, then some other guy will have sex instead of you. This is a horribly warped and biased way of looking at things. Most of the time when sex doesn't happen is has nothing at all to do with another guy stealing that sex. Sex fails to happen for many reasons, many of them valid. A lot of times sex fails to happen because it was not supposed to happen, because the chemistry was missing, because you two were not a good match for each other, or simply because the logistics and timing was bad.
Nobody owes you sex. And nobody is competing with you for sex. Drop these toxic mindsets.
Relate to the whole woman. Right now you are relating to the sex.
The valid way of looking at things is: "Sexual pleasure has zero importance. If it happens, great. If not, oh well, I got important shit to do."
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Struggle with approaching consistently
Struggle with approaching consistentlyYou need to build up momentum by going out consistently several nights a week. Then use that momentum to approach during the day.
It's hard to just do a random cold approach in the middle of the day while shopping for books. To be able to pull that off usually requires a few years of training. You need to get good at managing your internal state and cutting off all excuses. This requires 1000s of approaches. The first 1000 approaches will come with a lot of anxiety and hesitation so get them out of the way quickly.
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Stage Green Excesses Not Mentioned in Leo's Video
Stage Green Excesses Not Mentioned in Leo's Video@Hardkill Genuine hippies are pretty happy and evolved people.
Most people have a lot of growing to do before they deserve to be called hippies.
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I am done with trying to meet women through social media
I am done with trying to meet women through social mediaGuys i am really dissapointed,
Every time when i try to set a date with a women which i dont know through social media it never works.
First of all i consider myself as average looking in the face and tall and muscular body, i dont have very good profile though and I know that.
The last straw happened when I texted with one girl back and forth for couple of days and when I asked her out, she said sorry but we barely know each other, she was so super kind that I felt that rejection didn't even happened.
So there are couple of reasons that this happens everytime:
1. They see me as ugly
2. My text game is week and I don't build enough rapport (which I don't think its the case)
So I know that online games definetly works for other dudes, so the problem is in me, for me it doesn't fucking work I wont even try anymore, because I am so frustrated with same scenario over and over again. I forgot the mention that I am not targeting super attractive girls, just normal girls, some of them are below my attractiveness for sure.
I am 24 y.o What do you think guys?
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I am done with trying to meet women through social media
I am done with trying to meet women through social mediaSounds like your technique is very noob.
Having the best profile pics is EVERYTHING in online dating. You must hire a professional photographer to take your pics, not some selfie bullshit. Pay a pro $500. Get really good casual pics of yourself. And you need some pics of you being social, not just a loner.
And yes, you text game sounds like it sucks too. Takes lots of practice to get it just right.
Key practicing. These things require lots of failure before success.
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How Unfair Life Is
How Unfair Life Is@Maty The ego is an illusion. It's no one's fault because there isn't anyone here.
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How Do Highschool "exam Results" Matter?
How Do Highschool "exam Results" Matter?They matter in the sense that if you can't discipline yourself to ace a government exam, how you gonna ace the much more emotionally challenging aspects of life?
How you show up in life tend to be consistent. I find that people who slack off in school tend to have the exact same attitude towards life. And their lives are shit.
That said, of course there is no direct causal link. You could technically flunk school and become a rockstar human being, but I wouldn't bet money on that.
And none of this is to say there aren't serious problems with our education system. There are! Which is why I recommend taking your education into your own hands. Going WAY beyond the basic curriculum, but also including it.
As far as grades themselves, and even entire diplomas, the truth is they virtually don't matter in real adult life. Nobody cares about your grades, diploma, or what school you went to. They care about what results you can generate. And if they DO care, then those are the kind of people and places I would avoid, because it's just a silly status game. Focus on mastering life and business, not on jumping through somebody's hoops like a well-trained poodle.