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@Inliytened1I really liked this outlook and it's how I feel too. Despite Trumps ego I believe there's a higher self at work making decisions. The ego can't be outside of God anyway. It's just God wearing a certain mask.

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@LordFall Sounds like it usually gets triggered when people try and impose their opinions into you? Perhaps it gets your back up and you feel the need to put them in their place, or to give them a taste of their own medicine, like saying, if that's the game you want to play then you will lose...but then you end up feeling like actually you lost something too, maybe some composure, or you lost sight of your values etc I like what you said about the love polarity. It's harder to remain loving when you feel defensive or have an emotional reaction. I find it feels so good when someone baits me, or behaves arrogantly and I can retain a level of care and consideration for them, but it's very hard. This is a very rare skill I think. Sometimes all I can do is just not respond at all. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your experience

@Human Mint Having this realisation is powerful. I had the same one recently and started researching and watching those videos I linked. The book 'Cues' by Vanessa Van Edwards is very good. A couple of the interviews I linked are with her. There are some things you can start doing very quickly to get better at conveying ideas and holding people's attention. It's very liberating when you realise it's a skill you can learn..

@LordFall How did you develop the self awareness to realise you had this issue? Was there a specific event? It's interesting to me as most people stay very ignorant of this and get stuck being self righteous and blaming other people

As life purpose is such a fundamental aspect of our path towards self actualisation, I'd like to share a recent insight I've had that has given me a real boost, which is that charisma and communication skills are at the heart of everything. I think this ties in with Leo's great video on marketing. I know this seems obvious and rudimentary to some, but like me you may be shocked by how far you can go with it. I love the Podcast Diary of a CEO as Stephen Bartlett is so good as distilling pure wisdom out of his guests. I especially want to reccommened the following interviews regarding communication skills and charisma because as I mentioned, they're the most important thing beside actual talent, apparently even more important, as people often see others with less skill getting more opportunities because they know how to market themselves or connect with people, to gain trust and make others feel a certain way. We're all wearing a mask, so why not wear an appealing one and make people feel good whilst getting your needs met. Here are my top recommends for Charisma training. If you watch these and take notes, work on it..you will see your life change. I've already landed a job using this stuff. Went into that interview glowing, dealing out competencey cues left right and centre, a pause here, a head tilt there, some choice facial expressions, hand movements, slowing down my speech. It's just gold. Please don't disregard this. I say that as I care about my self actualising brethren and I just wish I'd known about this shit sooner. Notice how incredible each of these people are at communicating. Also notice how authentic they are. It's as if the mastering charisma allows you to come across as more natural and authentic. They are almost hypnotic to listen to and watch. With this one, pay more attention to McConaughey's way of communicating than the content, which is still very interesting and insightful. But really he's a poster child for charisma. I saved my favourite until last. Chase Hughes is something else. Look at how calm and controlled he is, whilst also seeming comfortable and relaxed. If you like it, look up his special operations manual. He's written a tome on covert tactics. Use what you can to get ahead as long as you look after people and leave them better off than before you found them. Really by mastering these skills you become more effective, more yourself, and more able to experience love and connection in every area of you life.

Very important post and thread. I've had my world rocked recently because I entered a relationship with the wrong person. The worst thing I did was buy into her opinions of me and I'm still trying to navigate my way out of that. My weakness stemmed from craving validation. She gave it to me then when it was removed it was like a toddler having his favourite toy wrenched out of his hand and stamped on in front of him. More fool me in many ways. I should have assessed her level of consciousness straight away. I was just getting some spiritual gainz when I met her and now I feel like I'm back in the stone age. Onwards and upwards though. Let's be careful

I think that learning the levels within spiral dynamics would help. Discovering how that person's non objective processes work. Harder to do if they're a stranger and you're limited for time. The key could be asking a lot of questions so you get them to solve the problem themselves. I'd love to be able to do this masterfully.

I love that you guys are embracing AI for personal development. That's a no brainer to me. I used it a lot in VR to make images for mindmaps and get the info needed to just build makes a lot faster in general. I have a mode I can get it to activate where it will switch to Stage Yellow Spiral dynamics and give me advice from that perspective. I didn't have to do much as it already knew about the model. @Jason G Oh and just to say, you can still use standard voice mode if you create a project folder on the left hand side. When you're in that folder it will always use standard voice mode.

Thanks @Florian that feedback means a lot to me

@AION I'm afraid not You can buy the app for about £20 but it's missing the ability to use 'export hosting.' Then again you may not ever want to do that. I found this info online: Noda Core (buying) offers unlimited maps, data import/export, and shared access. Noda Plus (subscription) provides unlimited cloud services, export hosting, and exclusive features. It sucks I know. You can still use the free version to see if it's something you might want to invest in at some point.

@OBEler Thanks! The joys of being unemployed Hope you find it interesting/useful I'll warn you in advance, it's LONG (said the actor to the bishop). Then again being a follower of Leo's content I'm sure you're used to it

Hi guys, I created this map using Noda in VR. It's a great little app for system thinkers. Grab it if you have VR. I sent it to Ralson and he said it looks like fun and a lot of effort (fanboy fantasy moment). I had asked him if I'm at liberty to post the video, seeing as it's his work. He didn't say no in his response so I've posted it for now. View it from a Browser Here: https://noda.io/view/index.html?map=eaa6a8a9-2d93-41f0-a39b-cfd8a7fe6293&auth=11e48df6-f3b4-4cc0-8caa-455f2ba004b1 If you want to download the room for your own headset, use this CSV file: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-DlxCQEnG7SNwPKPa7hNkzuN8PsAW-bN/view?usp=drivesdk Basically you just load your room, open the CSV file on your browser in VR and it will import everything into your room. You'll need the subscription though. It's only £4 a month. Here's a tutorial on how to do it: If you're interested I can join you in the room and show you around. That's the cool thing about Noda, you can get multiple people in there. It's an incredible learning tool. Being able to Map ideas out like this... I have some other stuff on my YouTube channel too, showing various techniques and ideas. I'm going to do Donella Meadows book on systems thinking and also map out spiral dynamics. Get on board with me on this guys. We could collaborate Oh and do pick up Peter's book, it's a gem

@Terrelllease@Terell Kirby This makes me think of something Peter Ralston says in his book 'Mastery.' He talks about detaching any emotional content or subjective valuations from the truth itself, as it's superfluous content that actually interferes with being able to see things clearly. This content adds extra distinctions that act as a fog. Easier said than done of course, as these valuations of wrongness will probably be made due to the effect the situation had on you emotionally. That being said, you could notice that it made you feel this way or that way, but try not to let all that creep back in too much. I'm probably talking shit as per usual though. I really have no clue as I haven't even started the work. I'm just a theory junkie. I collect the damn things

@Hojo Thank you for taking the time 🙂 I'll put some time into this and see how I get on.