NoFap - Why you should quit porn & masturbation !

[Shin]

1 minute ago, Psyche_92 said:

Well, i left it behind me for 120 days before and i could tell the difference in freedom for sure. The question however, is this sustainable long term? Can't keep counting days forever, and sooner or later masturbation will happen anyways, at least that's how i feel about it. In the end i will always go from being very rich to very poor in 5 seconds of pleasure.

Ya i know. I'm not even looking for those at the moment. Ofcourse they may come if they want, but i'm not pursuing it atm.

 

If you have to ask that question, then you're still not free.

See, if you're free of it, you don't care if you do it once in a while because you're depressed/sad/ or just because you want to have some fun, you don't judge yourself anymore at all about it.

What is sneaky though, is that you can use this excuse to indulge in it when you're still addicted and never break free.

[hamedsf]

On 7/9/2019 at 3:38 PM, Psyche_92 said:

Guys, i'm really starting to think total abstaining from masturbation is impossible. 

This is your EGO mechanism trying to defeat you when you're abstaining from it.

 

[Shin]

https://medium.com/@FightTheNewDrug/3-reasons-why-watching-porn-is-harmful-and-research-is-proving-it-bc572b1b0abf

[herghly]

Back on day 1 guys

 

I relapsed pretty hard last week and faped most days. Does not feel good at all

[herghly]

Do you guys still allow yourself to have sex? 

[bejapuskas]

@herghly  Yeh sure, just be aware that you can become a slave of that as well, it's just not so easy as with masturbation. Probably you shouldn't worry about it  

[Psyche_92]

7 hours ago, herghly said:

Back on day 1 guys

 

I relapsed pretty hard last week and faped most days. Does not feel good at all

Lol same. I've been watching porn at least 2 times a day since last week.

[herghly]

On day 3... I want to make 90 days without faping (sex is ok).

Any time I feel an urge i'm going to come back to this thread.

 

[Aeris]

On 21/07/2019 at 6:33 AM, herghly said:

Do you guys still allow yourself to have sex? 

I fap now only to become a better lover

and I sometimes don't for days.

there is truth to the idea on an addiction pattern in the mind ( to easy pleasure ), but now I try to be balanced. Fapping once every 3 days on some "normal porn" can't makes you bad.

Especially if you do it with tantric work for being longer in bed. ( and if I see my gf, I don't do it a lot, but if you're alone )

I don't believe in the no fap mental benefit, they are all related to neuroticism and non acceptation of sex as a godlike features. But I approach sex from a love perspective, not a lack perspective. it just like everything, find a balance.

 

a perspective from a man who works in porn

 

Edited July 29, 2019 by Aeris

[JustThinkingAloud]

I’m not a guy so excuse me interfering.

I think that when a guy is not “satisfied” all he thinks about is sex. I can’t have a decent conversation, everything he does is to persuade me to have sex with him. Maybe finding the right balance might be the answer. Anyways, just a different perspective

[bejapuskas]

@JustThinkingAloud  In my experience, masturbation makes me less satisfied actually...

[Bill W]

On 21/07/2019 at 1:05 PM, Psyche_92 said:

Lol same. I've been watching porn at least 2 times a day since last week.

This is why you have a problem. Once a day is more than enough. Even once a day is pushing it. Gotta cut down on overdoing it. Do something else if it has started to become a distraction. Or it could be your hormones if you are young. 

[Psyche_92]

On 2-8-2019 at 1:31 AM, Bill W said:

This is why you have a problem. Once a day is more than enough. Even once a day is pushing it. Gotta cut down on overdoing it. Do something else if it has started to become a distraction. Or it could be your hormones if you are young. 

Once a day is too much. I can't even masturbate once a day. It fucks up my whole brain chemistry. I will feel down, depressed, unmotivated, lethargic and will have social anxiety for at least a week if i do so. I started masturbating to escape reality at a young age because of being bullied. It was my only coping mechanism. It's no joke for me.

[Shroomdoctor]

I am 100% sure that Porn and Masturbation is the reason all my efforts failed in the past. The best I have ever felt was on a 100 days streak. I recommend the book "Your Brain On Porn" for a deep analysis of the issue.

[SerpaeTetra]

On 5/31/2019 at 7:01 AM, Shin said:

 

Awesome video series!

[Western Buddha]

hey man. have your heard the logic about an organ you dont use stops to work? 

i think no porn is a must but no fapping at all is not a good idea if you dont do sex,

a friend of mine did no fap for over 1 year (and didnt had sex durning that time). after one year he met his girlfriend and his dick woudnt stand up.

it took them a few months to make it work again.

 

[Psyche_92]

I failed again boys. Haven't watched porn but i fapped after 32 days.. Rip

[bejapuskas]

@Psyche_92  Don't worry, the time will come for you again  

[IndigoGeminiWolf]

I've gone about 5 days without fapping. Though I did look at some porn so that I could transmute the sexual energy up higher into my heart.

I always ask myself when I think about it now "Do I really want to do this?"

"Do I really want to sacrifice my connection to the Infinite for a moment of pleasure?"

I am getting like 4/10 bliss from just Kundalini awakening, so I have no need to fap.

I'm trying to use Tantra to move the sexual energies up from my sexual chakra into my heart and crown.

The stream of bliss is much better in its full state than a simple pulsing orgasm that is short-lived.

[Bill W]

@Psyche_92

32 days still shows discipline. No Fap is not part of my development but others areas of perceived ill discipline are. If you managed 32 days regularly you'd only be fapping 11 or 12 times in a whole year. 

2 hours ago, bejapuskas said:

@Psyche_92  Don't worry, the time will come for you again  

Interesting choice of words!