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NoFap - Why you should quit porn & masturbation !

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20 hours ago, John West said:

Bc I heard people debating about prostate cancer as a siderisk of no Ejaculation.

Sure, me too. Doesn't mean they are right. All monks would have prostate cancer.

21 hours ago, John West said:

do they allow wet dreams?

Can't really choose whether or not you will get a wet dream. Sure you can sleep on your back etc to lower the chance but it can still happen.

21 hours ago, John West said:

Do monks practice no ejcaulation

That's what we assume, because it's one of their precepts. Who knows? No one can tell for sure.

 

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one of the reasons I've joined this board is because I have an issue with pornography.

I tend to binge on it for days or weeks at a time then abstain for periods, thinking it's done and dusted. It's always snuck back in.

It's not just porn vids. it's pictures of ex gf's, one of which dates back 15 years. that's right. for 15 years I've been fantasising about an ex-gf. 

I am seeing a girl at the moment and sex ranges from good - average. I have no problem getting it up but often have delayed ejaculation. part of the issue is I know we aren't compatible long-term. After having sex but no ejaculation I'm back home and fapping to porn.

for several years now (i'm in my 30's) the threshold has been on the rise and to get the same buzz my fantasies have become more warped. picturing my gf with other guys. that progressed to online chat rooms where i'd pose as someone who wanted to see their GF getting banged, and chatting with other dudes about her and what they'd do with her.

This currently is the biggest 'bad habit' that I have to deal with. 

I am not against a period of nofap. It would be nice to recover some sensation and eliminate the delayed ejaculation. It would be nice to have a healthy sex life instead of relying on porn. 

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On 15/04/2019 at 8:15 PM, John West said:

Are you sure? Bc I heard people debating about prostate cancer as a siderisk of no Ejaculation. Do monks practice no ejcaulation, or do they allow wet dreams?

Think about all the mamals that don't masturbate, like come on ?

Your body will ejaculate on its own if it feels it has more sperm than needed at some point, which happen on average every 2/3 weeks.


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It is the art of living fully

 

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50 minutes ago, bejapuskas said:

@studentofthegame  Make sure to combine your nofap practice with spiritual practice, like meditation, kriya yoga, pranayamas....

Thanks for this.

I am looking to get into a meditation practice. I've read the books, watched the vids. I've made some attempts but been unable to engage with it so far. There is a lot of conflicting information about how to do it. What is your experience of it?

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1 hour ago, Shin said:

Think about all the mamals that don't masturbate, like come on ?

Your body will ejaculate on its own if it feels it has more sperm than needed at some point, which happen on average every 2/3 weeks.

Ok thank y'all. Haven't had a wet dream for a long time, I was just wondering. But I heard that for some people, they dont have wet dreams and the body takes care of it internally somehow. Maybe that's what's happening;)

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The End of NOFAP

I decide to stop this journey. I won't be a fapstronaut and that is okay. The reason for stopping is because it doesn't serve me any more to the contrary it became counter productive. In my almost 3 years of meditation I learned some things about thoughts. One of those things is obsession. Whenever I'm obsessed I can't stop thinking, normally it is hard to quiet the mind, but when thoughts are obsessive the feel invincible. My obsession when meditating is sex and girls. 

I believe that life needs balance. Sexuality is a need that needs expression. When you do nofap you suppress your sexuality, it doesn't flow. In my experience nofap is the opposite of masturbation addiction. Both are extremes and mess up sexuality. One is overindulgent, the other total absence. If your diet is unbalanced you either eat to many or to little. Too much sleep makes your body weak and to less sleep makes you too tired. The last months I thought about this and I knew this wasn't the case in my reality. 

Sadhguru thought me that the best way to know what is right for your body is to listen to what it communicates, so today I did. My orgasm was the fastest ever, under 10 seconds and it lasted longer then it used to. Today I did it 4 times and all those times the amount getting out was a lot. I felt free from the pressure I created myself. 

Until today my streak was 191 days, which is outstanding in my opinion.  One of my values is Health & Balance and if I do nofap I won't be embodying this value. This also means that I won't be fapping everyday. I lived half a year without masturbation, I'm sure I can find balance now. To every one who reads this, I don't mean to discourage you. This is my personal experience, maybe it's different to you. If you want to do nofap, do it, but if you feel like your sexuality gets out of balance reflect on it and maybe you come to the same conclusion is mine.

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NoFap is mostly about recovering from porn and masturbation addiction.
Then you do whatever makes sense to you.

To me it doesn't make sense to feel tired for a day just for 10 seconds of pleasure,
And if I had a rapid recovery, or it would have zero impact, It could be totally different.

It doesn't make sense to not having sex with my girlfriend either.
If I had a normal sex drive, I would definitely have sex with girls I like without them being my girlfriends too quite frequently.

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@Marinus

I felt like that too, but for me it wasn't really the No Fap that made me feel "lust" all the time, it was my fucked up image of women, that i was just treating them like a thing that i want to fuck.

It's ok to want to fuck a girl, but do it with apprietiation for her beauty and her personality. No Fap has way to many benefits for me, to just throw them in a dumpster with a tissue. Affirmations like "i love all the women" helped me to change image of them in my mind.  

Of course you feel obsessed with girls and sex and you feel like you need to balance your sexuality. But I think you should do it by having sex with girls.

But if you feel different and you just love women - how they smile, how they move, their eyes, bodies, their cute voice and just talking to them without big crippling lust in your mind to just fuck them straight in the ass - then it's ok to fap.

If you don't really care about benefits that much and you feel like you are great fucking guy and you don't really need that shit to make you better - go ahead and squezze that cock.

 

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Did someone read "The Multi Orgasmic Man" ?

How much is it about having actual sex vs concepts/knowledge about semen retention ?

Like 50/50, or 75/25 (actual sex/knowledge) ?


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On 15/04/2019 at 8:15 PM, John West said:

Orgasmic man

 

7 days after a relapse be like

 

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Ugh i relapsed to porn yesterday after almost 3 months... Can't believe i'm still going back to that crap even though it's done so much damage to my life and is still doing today... Yay

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You're going to relapse even more if you judge yourself.

Love yourself :)


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1 hour ago, Winter said:

Just found the reasonable person!

and even that is already a Huge mission for me

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I seriously consider to fap once every two weeks when I'm on vacation.

Once every month or longer when I'm working.

That's not a pipe dream, that's just what happens when the addiction wears off.


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It is the art of living fully

 

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4 hours ago, Shin said:

I seriously consider to fap once every two weeks when I'm on vacation.

Once every month or longer when I'm working.

That's not a pipe dream, that's just what happens when the addiction wears off.

I can't even do just that. Even if i just fap without porn, i get extremely tired and lose all my motivation to do anything.

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15 minutes ago, Psyche_92 said:

I can't even do just that. Even if i just fap without porn, i get extremely tired and lose all my motivation to do anything.

If you're young it's probably harder, and if you just begun too.


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It is the art of living fully

 

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