Shin

NoFap - Why you should quit porn & masturbation !

1,355 posts in this topic

27 minutes ago, Psyche_92 said:

I can't even do just that. Even if i just fap without porn, i get extremely tired and lose all my motivation to do anything.

 

Edited by Shin

Spirituality is not the renunciation of life

It is the art of living fully

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
58 minutes ago, Shin said:

If you're young it's probably harder, and if you just begun too.

I'm 26 and trying to quit for 5 years.. lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
55 minutes ago, Psyche_92 said:

I'm 26 and trying to quit for 5 years.. lol

How much time per day were you fapping 5 years ago ?

And now ?


Spirituality is not the renunciation of life

It is the art of living fully

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
1 hour ago, Shin said:

How much time per day were you fapping 5 years ago ?

And now ?

5 years ago every day at least once sometimes more. Today i'm not fapping everyday. More like 5 times a month maybe. It depends. If i relapse i tend to binge..

Edited by Psyche_92

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
9 minutes ago, Psyche_92 said:

5 years ago every day at least once sometimes more. Today i'm not fapping everyday. More like 5 times a month maybe. It depends. If i relapse i tend to binge..

That's already a lot better don't you think ? :)

Don't judge yourself for not being as much "thing" as "that person", everyone has different learning curve and things that makes it easier or harder.

The point is to continue to work towards it, and enjoying the process more than the goal, you'll get there eventually if you don't give up

;)

Edited by Shin

Spirituality is not the renunciation of life

It is the art of living fully

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

i am struggling with that aspect of my life to...

I really want to improve myself so i know that sooner or later i have to give up fapping.

Thank you @Shin myfriend for posting!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ahhh.. It's this time in my streak again where all i can think about is lady parts 9_9

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Lady parts is the only thing that matters

After Enlightenment and Love of course B|


Spirituality is not the renunciation of life

It is the art of living fully

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I've been seeing a new girl for a month or so. i'm really into her, but have not been able to bust a nut during sex. 

I need to cut out deathgrip and masturbation, recover sensitivity, and re-tune into healthy sex, rather than relying on heavy fantasy.

i'm on day 5 of nofap, so early days.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yoo.. I'm seriously starting to think i've conditioned myself to feeling bad about being horny.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
14 minutes ago, Psyche_92 said:

Yoo.. I'm seriously starting to think i've conditioned myself to feeling bad about being horny.

Yeah drop that, that actually makes it harder.

You can be horny as hell and still be totally in control, without struggling or supressing anyting.


Spirituality is not the renunciation of life

It is the art of living fully

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
14 minutes ago, Shin said:

Yeah drop that, that actually makes it harder.

You can be horny as hell and still be totally in control, without struggling or supressing anyting.

Yea probably going to meditate more on this later today. Just got that insight while meditating this morning. Kinda crazy that i've only just found out about it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Anyone else feel like the better you start to feel on your streak, also the harder it becomes?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Failed again... Rip.

Too much free time and too much sexual energy got the best of me. Nothing did satisfy me anymore and i got bored, so i ended up fapping 3 fucking times...

Starting to think this is impossible for me after 5 years of trying. Good thing i didn't watch porn this time, but still.

Feeling lazy af right now... yay

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Just now, Chi_ said:

Yes very true with me as well

If anything, NoFap is a good spiritual tool. In the sense that it can keep kicking your ego in the face whenever you relapse, and make you wake up to the truth that you have no control whatsoever.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
1 minute ago, Chi_ said:

emotional trauma from childhood

Yes. I started using porn and masturbation at 13-14ish to escape reality after getting bullied everyday at school. It's deeply ingrained in my brain.

I'm trying to meet the energy to release it, but you obviously can't force that stuff too much. That's not how it works, so i guess i just have to ride it out.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
2 minutes ago, Chi_ said:

A good way to go would be Psychoanalysis. 

Already did that for over a year. Psychoanalysis is only good for your mind to fall asleep. It doesn't resolve deep issues.

3 minutes ago, Chi_ said:

But also for the meantime you can try Shamanic Breathing, Osho Dynamic Meditation or Shoonya Meditation (by Sadhguru) to work with these emotional blockages.

I'm doing normal meditation. It's not too bad. Not gonna botter with another technique for now.

3 minutes ago, Chi_ said:

Trying to fix Nofap instead is kind of going in the wrong direction

Yes and no. I use fapping and porn to run away from certain emotions, so doing NoFap helps me to face them and not run away from them.

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

what if I fap because there is no where to run or hide from yourself ?

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@Psyche_92 now, i'm not really that good at giving advice in regards to nofap. But i recently realised something important. I am only on day 4 of nofap but i feel like i will finally defeat my addiction. The way i did it is by using consciousness. I just looked at myself on the mirror for about 10 minutes. I looked at my acne, which was caused by fapping. I also thought about all health problems, which were also caused by fapping. I didnt play victim, but looked at it in a detatched way. And i feel like it clicked. 

If you want a video that explains this is better detail, i recommend watching leo's video: awareness alone is curative.


"A great challenge of life: Knowing enough to think you're doing it right, but not enough to know you're doing it wrong."

- Neil Degrasse Tyson

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!


Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.


Sign In Now