Joseph Maynor

It is best to find the idea through direct experience. Find something you want to do more of. Then do a lot of that work. The idea will come after that because you will see that now you want to do this work and it comes easy to you. Starting with the idea is kind of a trap because the idea really only summarizes a process that is lived.

This is a great book. "The Consequences of Modernity" by Anthony Giddens. Well worth reading. I'm reading it again.

Paradoxically the way to take a lot of action in an area is to take a lot of action in that area. I discovered this key to industriousness. It is almost like a ball that has momentum moves forward with less effort.

Yeah but he has a lot of power on here and I prefer to know what he looks like.

It is important because otherwise you don't know who you are dealing with IMO. You probably disagree maybe.

Most of us have revealed what we look like on here. I think that is important.

Let's see a good photo of @Inliytened1.

If you are in marketing you are already in a shape-shifty profession. You're dealing with manipulation of image. And this is what you are focused on. Impression of a certain viewer that you anticipate but don't actually know. And you are trying to negate everyone else so you look as good as you can.

Sometimes it is good to let different people take the spotlight. Other people have to step aside to allow for that.

Trying to make a popular or famous person look bad.

A lot of men have no understanding of masculine energy and how to strike up a conversation with everyone. This builds a link or relation with that person. Look at everyone you talk to as potentially fascinating. Give a simple remark or compliment. It is about learning to create brief, small talk interactions that are enjoyable to everyone involved, and that are entertaining. This is where it is good to see yourself and others as creators. And do it face to face. Avoid online IMO. Online is what it is, but there is nothing like just talking to people face to face. It could be a cat or a baby or an old man, anyone. Bring out the creator in the social setting of creation. This is a different kind of energy to master for many men. A lot of men are passive or way too controlling in vibe -- or way too rigid or hierarchical or intellectual, which gets in their way to learn social skills to co-create with beings that have feminine energy, or even beings that have masculine energy. It is a difficult problem and it is hard to explain in words. You have to feel it intuitively in the situation. And you have to practice doing it a lot. There is a skillset involved with in person face to face social interaction specifically. This sharing goes beyond dating, it is more like doing real relationship development work in general IMHO.

Right now I'm mainly working on my face to face social skills and relationship development. Not dating per se, but just talking to everyone.

Ideally to do development work, which is what I have been doing. But now I am more focused on real interactions and am valuing that more.

It is important for me to know who I am dealing with.

Yeah. That's it lol.

Show me your picture. Who is saying these things to me? You won't do that.

Zen is about the East-Asian distrust of Western, Indian, and Middle Eastern metaphysics.

This forum is really somewhat of a mystery because many members on here choose to be 100% anonymous. You don't always know who is who.

I don't even know who I am speaking to or writing to here.

But don't leave us hanging, show us a photo of yourself for once. I have no clue who you are.