Dan Arnautu

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    @Gligorije Holding on to guilt prevents you from increasing your consciousness and is very counterproductive for you and for the people around you.

    It's actually the most unresourceful emotion to have, worse than apathy or depression.

    Learn to let go of it using Dr. Hawkin's letting go technique. You can find the book "Letting go" on Amazon.

    Get it, do technique and then come back in 5 months as a brand new human being. ;)

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    @blaircooper Don't confuse breaking the body's limits with an everyday habit.

    Sure, it reveals who you are. But that's an insight, an aha moment. Once you get the message, you put the phone down. You don't keep calling every single day for the same message.

    Get the message, adjust your life accordingly and maybe plan another barrier-breaking period for the future. But don't go about doing it on a day to day basis. It will come back to bite you in the butt.

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    @Charlotte No diet is best. One year keto is best, another year paleo is best, another year vegan or carnivore is best and then the cycle repeats. It's just marketing. Don't get caught up in it. Every diet works. Some just work better with certain body types than with others.

    Also, substitute the word diet with nutrition. Diet is something you do once and then you yo-yo back to your previous condition. Proper nutrition is something that you integrate into your lifestyle and it doesn't change much after you set it properly.

    What calorie problem do you have specifically?

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    @Aquarius Dude, your profile picture is a game character and your name is 'Aquarius'.  There's nothing wrong with that because this is just a forum but of course, people will think you are shady. What people think doesn't say anything about you though because they don't have all the info. 

    For people you are just a random guy on the internet. I don't know your intentions, your values, your beliefs, your motivations, your appearance.  What does the primal instinct say in these kinds of situations? It would rather assume you are shady than not, because that keeps me safe from danger.

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    @AceTrainerGreen Like Leo said, work smart not hard. I'll give you an example.

    Let's say you want to grow a business and you still live with your mom. How do you grow it faster? By working 120h a week on it while eating Mc Donald's and canned tuna?

    You could do that, or... you could learn a freelancing skill for 3 months day in and day out, you then get some gigs that pay 1000$ for 3 days of work per month. You use half of the money to delegate tasks in your business/hire people and you invest the other half into assets or further educations/coaching/mentoring that would exponentially grow your business.

    With this simple scheme, you just grew your potential to earning 10x as much for 1/2 of the time... This is what smart work looks like.

    And yes, 3 month is enough to learn a skill to the point of being able to charge 40$/h on freelancing websites.

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    @Viking Options include:

    • A mobile or desktop game that provides just the right amount of stimulation and relaxation
    • A fantasy book that keeps you connected to beauty, the magic of life and the hero's journey.
    • Listening to music mindfully (doesn't require as much concentration as meditation, just sit back and take it in)
    • Reading news 
    • Having a chat with a friend
    • Commenting on forums, like I'm doing now
    • Doing Tai Chi
    • Picking up an instrument
    • Doing visualizations/hypnosis/affirmations 
      • What's more relaxing than picturing your perfect life in your head at the end of the day?

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    @Mezanti Read the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy". It's written by a guy that dedicated his whole career to this. 

    There is also "The Assertiveness Workbook", which is an amazingly good book imo.

    Don't try to reinvent the wheel. Experts have already solved the problem and developed systems to get over this issue. Just get the two books and do the techniques and exercises.

    Good luck.

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    @Simke I'm gonna provide a word of caution, as I've been doing this work for over 4 years now. 

    You might be better of starting with a book, deriving actionable steps (after you have finished reading it), starting to take action on them and then moving on to another book. The biggest trap I've fallen into is reading lots of books, feeling all smart and fancy, but still having a shitty life because I wasn't taking enough action.

    The ratio should be 10% reading, 90% implementing.

    You can go the other way though (reading 40 books at once, like I do now), but be prepared for a massive backlash that comes with the radical increase in openmindedness and knowledge.

    After your first book, you will feel good. After your 50th, you will feel like you know nothing anymore. LIke all you've ever grown up with was a lie and you might discover that you need to redraw your life from scratch at that point. It leaves you totally paralyzed. That's the critical point where you should not give up.

    Only at the 100th book onward will you start to gain some clarity again and get a feel for the road.

    So the path looks like this.

    1st book - You feel good cuz you're learning something new and feel like you're making progress.

    50th book - "All my life was a lie. Wtf. I don't know anything anymore. I know nothing. Nobody knows anything. What is next?"

    100th book - Ooooh, ok. I'm starting to see patterns. I'm starting to get in touch with my own intuition and I can see concepts repeating and interconnecting. It's starting to feel like a dance, and I have to keep up the rhythm. Everything starts to be more clear and my confidence is increasing. I'm over the hurdle.

  15. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    4 hours ago, Eric Tarpall said:

    I have no idea why this works. My theory is that the brain thinks "Oh he's sleeping less. That must mean that life is good. And exciting" 

    I also think that the body gets used to being more active. And adapts to it. 

    It might be that you are just more at ease than most people and thus you don't expend as much energy. As a wise guru said, what your body needs is restfulness, not sleep.

    I've read Matthew Walker's book ("Why We Sleep"), and in the book, he effectively bombards you with scientific studies on every page, including one where getting 6h of sleep instead of 8 for just a week fucks your entire bodily system in many different ways. For example, decreasing the hormone that makes you feel full and increasing the one that triggers hunger and cravings for carbs.

    Of course, do take into consideration that most people here on the forum do not fit the general population because they work on themselves and are not as neurotic. So, if you are an outlier, it's definitely possible that 6 hours might be just fine with your body. Personal and spiritual work can decrease sleep quota quite a lot.

    I still need my 8h though, for now.

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    10 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    Colloidal silver gets a lot of positive reviews for these purposes.

    That plus NAC, vitamin C, anti-oxidants, and beta-glucan.

    You must take all this as soon as you feel the cold coming on even a little bit. It doesn't work as well if the cold is already raging.

    But you'd have to experiment to see what works for you. People have different genetics and immune systems and it can be hard to sort out the placebo effect.

    Thanks, Leo. Real useful input. Gonna try them out. 

    I tried David Hawkin's letting go technique on cold symptoms and my desire to get better. 

    The technique coupled with 2 nights of proper sleep made it go away. I never got over a cold that fast before. 

    I avoided any medication aside from nasal spray so I could go to sleep otherwise I couldn't breathe properly. 

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    @Baotrader 

    15 minutes ago, Baotrader said:

    @Leo Gura but the body still feels pains. When someone has little money he worries about how to carry on. It's just natural

    That's a projection. Eckhart Tolle sat for two years on a bench and he never knew when the next paycheck will come. And you can hear him personally saying that he never worried about it.

    Just because you worry when you have little money, it doesn't mean that everyone does.

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    @rNOW

    19 minutes ago, rNOW said:

    Have used this forever (Recipe from my grandmother): Dry roast carom seeds, add water, ginger, holy basil leaves and some salt. Boil till half the quantity. Sieve and drink hot. (One cup a day if you're acidity prone, otherwise could be more. Do not take this along with cold-suppressing medicines as it negates the whole purpose.)

    And soups with garlic, ginger, pepper, and other 'hot and spicy' vegetables. 

    Also, stay away from anything with added sugar or ice!   

    Thank you! Very helpful! :)

  22. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    @Elysian You want to be woke and help others, but your body just pushes against. Apparently you're not fully owning your feelings. You have some more outer layers of karma to shed before you can be in full service to others.

    Just by the way you talk I assume you haven't had many girls in your life (I can usually tell very easily), though I'm open to being wrong.

    There also seems to be an underlying unconscious belief that sexual desire is at odds with the one to help others, as in having an agenda if you have a sexual feeling towards the other. You unconsciously believe that sex is an act of taking instead of giving.

    You are also repressing your sexual desire like it is a sin by not watching porn and not masturbating. You will thus over time unconsciously create a belief that sexual desire is a sin and it must be punished by not masturbating and not watching porn.

    What I suggest:

    Go and fuck/play around with as many sexual partners as you can until you are sick of it. You will get to a point of such abundance that you won't ever need something from a girl ever again and you're gonna be able to be fully present with the other person.

    "But Dan, I don't want to use girls as a sperm dump, or treat them as pieces of meat."

    • News flash. Girls love sex just as much as guys, if not much more. But it's so rare that they will find somebody that actually fucks them really good, maybe 1 in 100. And that's why they avoid casual sex. Not because they don't want to, but because most guys give such lousy sex.
      • So learn how to fuck well, you get your need satisfied, and at the same time girls will come begging you for more because you are the only guy they know that actually knows how to fuck.

    You're way too young to fight against your biology. Run with it and your carnal needs will drop away by themselves, higher ones for service and impact taking their place at the proper time.

    P.S.: Don't give me the b.s. with the time you need for spiritual growth if that's what you're thinking. This is spiritual growth. But it's uncomfortable because you would have to admit that you're not as woke or pure as you would like to be. Yes, spiritual growth can look like pulling the hair of a girl while you raw dog her from behind. It ain't always sitting in meditation and spreading love everywhere.