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Self diagnosing with type 2 bipolar but it really matches up perfectly. Recently had a horrible episode. @BipolarGrowth videos look fascinating im watching those today

Yea makes sense. I don't know, for me, why would I want to get in the way of other people's love. And why would I think that it affects me? I just feel like people have the capacity to love multiple people and it doesn't take away from my relationships. Furthermore, if someone ends up closer to someone else than me, maybe they are a better match and have a better relationship. I woudn't want to restrict them and prevent them from having a better relationship for my own needs. And I would want the same. The sacrifices, control, limitations, jealousy, insecurity, romanticization, and everything associated with monogamy feels so low consciousness I just don't feel drawn to it.

Ok well what about relationship anarchy, that's a whole super green antihierarchical school of thought that doesn't believe in primary partnership. Certainly lots of green people are actually poly. You heard on a podcast extreme levels of jealousy can occur? i mean yea, but it can also be worked through and you can live without it. It's not optimal to be always jealous. In my situation some people just don't really have much jealousy to deal with, including me. Why would you be jealous? I appreciate these takes though since you're not just saying its fundamentally flawed haha.

i think plenty of green people do it fine if they have a heathy psychology. Why do you think it doesn't work unless everyone is turqouise? come on I know you got some reasons!

bumping because i know yall have opinions i dont understand why everybody aint doin it

Not in my experience, with communication and everyone taking a conscious approach there's no need for drama. Haven't had any other than working out initial dynamics can be complicated and hard. I think drama can certainly be avoided its low consciousness.

Okay but what if you totally can handle monogamy and have invested and work hard on healthy relationships, and polyamory comes as a natural next step as I find it fulfilling, helps me embody higher consciousness, healthier attachment, better communication, etc. I mean I have an opinion I think it's great. Honestly i'm just surpised more people here aren't into it.

I also just struggle with all the low consciousness criticisms, it would be nice to hear a better pro con evaluation. I think it can be done and it's not that hard

Hello, What are your thoughts on polyamorous relationships? (just started and its lit) A couple things, there is definitely a lot of green in things like relationship anarchy, orange can practice open relationships or swinging or whatever, and so I think its way too simplistic to reduce it to a stage, but please do use the spiral to explain things. Do you think polyamory can be practiced in a yellow way, in a healthy way, in a self-actualizing way, etc. If so, how can this be done?

Yup I signed up! 100 pages into the ebook now

Thanks so much, so cool to talk about this journey with you after 8 years of listening and applying things. I am signing up for it today. Been taking mushrooms a couple times a month, lots of high doses and some deep breakthroughs. Still cold approaching too. I've been meaning to go back through the life purpose and work on the mindset stuff and everything again. Seems like at this point it will be helpful to integrate that again now that I am actually on the quest.

Well said. To be honest I have a lot of money for my age, 50k up instead of in debt while graduating just from jobs, my farm business, and scholarship. I've worked very smart to get to this point and now my life purpose will be a lot more attainable. All of that money is going towards the farm, its simply an allocation of resources. In total, I think I'll spend under 5k on education over the next few years, so this is just part of that. The tiny house itself and basic farm infrastructure will require money too. Overall, I'll need about $110,000 invested over the next few years to get to a point where I can quit my job. Nearly halfway there, now I just need to get going on spending it, so idk why im hesitant haha.

Yea that makes sense. It's a lot of money but I keep coming back to how fundamental it is. The sooner I can live on the land, the better I can actualize my life purpose. I've been brainstorming for days and was on the edge of buying it and figured I'd see what the people on here think. So, thanks. P.S. Can't wait to get out of Aliso Viejo in May this place is weird.

The course would help a lot, it comes with everything I would need, ebooks, video series, etc. I think it would be very effective and better than piecing together the resources myself. I would say an 8, I still have to learn the skills myself. It would be a lot more comprehensive, and so would be a lot more effective to actually building a house that functions, and lasts. I think it makes sense to buy it, I just wish I didn't have to plan so far out. Thanks for the response Leo, I took the life purpose course like 5 or 6 years ago and am still going strong, things are finally going to become real over the next few years.

It is specifically for straw bale. It is $1150 My life purpose is around sustainable farming, I've got 20 acres and want to get a tiny house built asap to help make farming there practical. I am going to be traveling a lot, and so this summer will just be doing some infrastructure projects on the land, a shed, outdoor living space & kitchen, compost toilet, etc. In 2025, after the snow melts (northern climate) I want to build this home. Here is my pro con list: Pro It would be good to build my own house asap, it would be much more efficient for learning. I want to build my house in early 2025 so after I graduate college in May ideally I would be ready to build in like half a year. This workshop is a months worth of rent, and could help me save a whole years of rent, or having to live with my parents without my own place. Workaways (an alternative learning method will be impractical when I need to work, where I will make that much back in 1.5 weeks. For that half year I want to road trip, work, and road trip again before spring 2025. Meet cool people and other builders to learn from. Con 1150 is a lot of money. It would take 55 hours of working for $20. Other options exist like books, workaways.