Spence94

Member
 View profile  See their activity

  • Content count

    497

  • Joined

  • Last visited

Posts posted by Spence94

  2. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    @Judy2

    28 minutes ago, Judy2 said:

    @Seeker_of_truth Can you elaborate on how to create such a distance, that is, disidentify from thoughts and feelings?

    Meditation. Deep meditation. The key word is 'awareness' not 'thought'. On one level, meditation will make you aware of thoughts, as you continue the practice, meditation will make you aware of awareness itself.

    Focus your attention on Self discovery of awareness. Deepen awareness.

    Return to AWARENESS, again and again and again and again, until you don't even have to return anymore. This is the meditation game. 

    Thoughts? Let em be.

  6. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    I've just started a daily 5 minute minimum clean up and organising habit commitment. Just 5 minutes, that's it. No excuses. 5 minutes every day cleaning and organising.

    Sometimes I do a lot more than 5 minutes but it's just bonus, when I'm done i'm done.

    Today I literally just swept up for 5 minutes then I stopped cleaning.

    There is something very powerful about being clean and orderly and making a simple daily commitment to keep the place clean and organized. 

  12. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    On 06/03/2022 at 4:34 AM, Knowledge Hoarder said:

    Better to deal with real people.

    @Knowledge Hoarder  word.

     

    On 06/03/2022 at 7:55 AM, Lyubov said:

     

    On 06/03/2022 at 7:55 AM, Lyubov said:

    You might find this “compatible” partner boring and passionless.

    You can become conscious enough as to understand why relationships will always take some work and why there is friction when there is polarity.

    @Lyubov

    Got me thinking of a Jordan Peterson line.

    "In order to have a relationship with the feminine, you have to sacrifice your relationship with the ideal."

  17. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    Have a dedicated space just for meditation. If you can be so fortune to dedicate a whole room to the practice that is even more ideal. Make it comfortable, inviting, get some plants, a nice cushion and blanket. You can also add any beings who inspire you to the area. Eg. Buddha. 

    Don't meditate on your sofa or your bed. Try to have a space that's ONLY for meditation. It will make the practice more attractive and will automatically put your mind in the right mode, which I find also helps you stay more mindful throughout the day.

    and to second @nistake prepare your body before hand. A core part of yoga is meditation. Asana and pranayama are designed to prepare the body and mind for deeper meditation states. Release the tension and stress from the body so the mind can relax. It is  a lot more satisfying that way. Do concious breathing before you do your meditation technique, like pranayama in yoga or simply conciously connecting to the breath. Again, this stills the mind and allows for more effective and enjoyable meditation. 

    If you just sit down robotically without treating the practice with some respect, it's easy to become dissatisfied with it.

  21. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    Has anyone actually found their 'dream girl/guy?' and is in a relationship with them right now? Or did anyone find them and then broke up with them?

    How did it happen? (both longterm and short term)

    Were you very clear and specific about the kind of partner you wanted? How much of those things were met? How much did you compromise on? (Given nobody is perfect.)

    Did they fulfill your dreams so to speak?

    James Marshal from TNL said "the most desirable and coveted women, more beautiful, more curious, more interesting  and more powerful themselves, will not settle for anything less than what they are. To get the 10, you must become the 10."

    I don't like to give number ratings very much but for the sake of argument, did you 'become the 10'?

    I heard someone say that your 'dream' partner will show up in your life much later than you expect...

    Just curious.

    Most of the forum seems to be about pick up/ dating much more than it is long term relationships with one incredible person.

     

  24. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    I am enjoying the use of this forum. It is nice to connect and discuss Self-Actualization with like minded people.

    I remember Leo saying forums are personal, raw, unfiltered and direct and it is helpful to get real peoples POV as apposed to just listening and reading teachings. I agree.

    You get out of life what you put into life. What you put into the forum, you get out of it.

    Given we are all One and we are connected, commenting on posts is nourishing for my Self just as much as reading others comments. If I give people advice, I get advice back in return, albeit at a different moment. If i comment something of value, later, i get something of value back. If I write a joke, later I will find something funny on the forum. Writing a comment or a post helps clarify my own thinking and perspectives and also will hopefully serve others too.

    The topics and comments although seem seperate are all one, as are the topics and comments in relation to my actual life. There is not a duality between the forum and my life. Beautiful.

    I won't get attached, but for now, this forum is serving my Self and life, and I and happy to be here with you all.

  25. Posted · Edited by Spence94

    The Gita talks of consituents that act upon constituents. self dissolves and Self expands. What is left is not self control but is Self expansion. So wether one within Self expansion is expressing their story in some context or wether they do not is nothing more than the consituents of nature acting upon one another. In that light one teacher who claims all story is false and one who claims story is still part of the expansion of Self, are both merely consituents acting upon consituents within the expansion of Self.

    Brahman allows for all scenarios. What a beautiful mystery.