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  1. @Jannes Firstly, be kind to yourself. In my 6 years teaching, I found students aged 12-14 to be the most challenging without a doubt. It’s tough. You’re doing good. Secondly, it always starts with your Self. Observe how students trigger you, how they respond to you, how they react to you, how you react to them. The more grounded in your own energy you are, the less students will pull you of course or even attempt to do so. Silence and presence speaks in the classroom. Teenagers have little egos but they are human beings and they intuit and feel strong awarenesss in the classroom from their teacher. Thirdly, PRACTICE the art of regaining the attention of the classroom. Planning and delivery of interesting and interactive lessons is a skill that’s never complete. Also, those moments where you really do have to “layeth the smack a down” and command control and demand silence of a class that is quickly getting out of hand is like stand up comedy, you’ll bomb sometimes before you get the timing right and more on point. Even veteran teachers slip up from time to time. Young people don’t tend to hold a grudge towards teachers so much. You can switch from strict to friendly pretty quickly if you’re congruent. You can tell a student off one lesson and then the next class they are all ears and happy to see you. The biggest difference is your own energy, health, commitment and internal state. Meditation, exercise, visualization of classes going well and students being engaged and enthusiastic. You have to care as a teacher. Even 8 year olds can tell the difference between a teacher with passion and a teacher ‘at work’. But if you’re here asking this, you care. Before I started, a veteran 35 year teacher told me; ” You might do everything in your heart and soul to make it work and it still won’t go down right. That is just how life goes sometimes. “ When it gets really tough and rough with certain classes and students, remind your self that, often it’s them and it’s not you. Focus on what you can control and don’t forget about all the hard working, respectful, attentive and polite students you have and have had before. Good luck and enjoy. Teaching is a beautiful, deeply fulfilling and profound art form. From a fellow teacher in the trenches!
  2. @Leo Gura Happy to hear you’ve not retired just yet Leo. Infinite love and strength to you brother. Everybody hopes you’re taking care of yourself and doing what you need to do even if we miss your new uploads. I definitely took Sunday’s new videos for granted but there is plenty to work on already.
  3. I need to spend more time listening. I've been watching spider man anime recently. It is a lot better than the movies. The thing the language learning world gets wrong is they make vocabulary and grammar study the most important action and treat watching tv shows and movies and practicing active listening as somehow 'lazy' or 'just relaxing' and 'not for serious students.' In truth, active listening Is the most important language learning practice. Of course, if it was common knowledge that you could pretty much listen ( and read) your way to fluency then that would put a lot of language teachers and schools out of business... Language learning is a subconscious process, the study of words and grammar is a supplement to active listening and reading compelling content, and not the other way around. Its pretty effortless really so long as you're building your passive vocabulary. Passive vocabulary is the key. It's amazing how the brain can decipher the language over time, in just a few days of listening you already see improvements in comprehension. Best part about it, it makes the language fun, even if you can't comprehend most of it. Makes the process very satisfying as you 'Level up' your understanding bit by bit. Output can only reach the level of your comprehension.
  4. @Sempiternity I am sorry this simple post triggered frustration in you.
  5. Man and womans reproductive survival strategies are not the same. This is what you need to understand. You only care about beauty and being nice because those qualities for 1000s of years meant the difference between your male ancestors offspring surviving or not surviving. Man and woman are fundamentally attracted to different things. There is some overlap but at a core level their survival strategies are different, this is hardwired into man and woman through 1000s of years of sexual reproduction. Your not a woman. Woman care about these things because for 1000s of years if they could not find a man who demonstrated these qualities, it could mean the difference between her offspring surviving and having her Gene's past onto the next generation or not. Man and woman have for 1000s of years played out very different roles in the world which has led to very hardwired core sexual reproductive strategies being very different. No matter how sophisticated, modern, free thinking, independent, liberal and progressive we think the world we live in today is, attraction is still attraction. What attracted women 10,000 years ago is still pretty much the qualities that attracts them today. 'Fame' /status gives men a lot of social proof to women that they possess qualities that they are deeply attracted too. It doesn't have quite the same effect for men though as we are wired differently.
  6. @Grant6 The world we live in and the cultural and societal narratives that we are brainwashed with do not encourage us to be metaphysically curious. We are herd animals, if the pack is chasing money and fame, that's what most are gunna do.
  7. Sitting on the sofa and eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches = Law of Attraction
  8. As part of the process to actualize ourselves and become more of our authentic nature we shed layers of ourselves that cause us to act out from our lower nature. This is a long term process and there is no end point where now I have made it and now I am authentic. We can experience glimpses of awareness (authenticity) and then we fall back into unconciousness an inauthenticity. We keep returning to authenticity (Awareness) and working on ourselves to deepen this connection so more and more of our actions come from awareness and authenticity. Whatever actions come from that place are authentic actions. Those actions might change over time as we become wiser of course. Authenticity/ Awarenss/ Truth/ Self... all similiar.
  9. @Razard86 I'll check out the video. Actually I lived and saw the world through the polyamorous perspective for a few years and the end result was I concluded that monogamy was what I prefer. Before all of that I was convinced marriage was some form of archaic slavery. I no longer believe that anymore. 'Sex at Dawn' is an eye opener. Not sure if it's all accurate but an eye opening book. Duncan Trussel made the point that at the very least the book meant people don't have to feel guilt and shame for being attracted to other people outside of their relationship. Doesn't mean they have to cheat or be polyamorous, but they can accept the attraction to others as natural and normal.
  10. Conflict takes up a lot of energy. Conflict creates a lot of suffering. Conflict removes the mind from the present. Conflict removes authenticity. Conflict prevents Self development from gaining traction. Conflict creates backsliding. Conflict destroys relationships. Conflict must be healed. To transform, one must be out of conflict.
  11. The source of conflict within the individual is a result of dissowned and disintegrated parts of himself. This normally happened because an immature boy misinterpreted events that happened to him. As a result, trauma was created, as a defence mechanism, to help the boy survive. As a man, this trauma, this defence mechanism does not serve him or his world. The process is to strip back the layers and return to realness and authenticity. The specific event of the past doesn't really matter in the process, what matters is seeing the truth and seeing the past for what it really was, seeing why the trauma was created, what it was protecting, how it was false or how it no longer serves the man.Then returning to seeing the present for what it really is, as pure, authentic, divine being and presence.
  12. Don't feel the language in your head, feel the language in your heart.
  13. If it feels awkward and uncomfortable, you're probably doing it right.