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  1. Actualized Blueprint - 100+ of the most powerful personal development concepts of all time. https://actualized.org/blueprint Actualized-org-blueprint.pdf
  2. Self Control - How To Develop Self-Control To Create An Amazing Life By mastering yourself, you’re creating more self-control. Self-control is being able to: discipline yourself direct your own life. Self-control leads to: stronger relationships, a better love life better health ridiculous levels of success with your finances powerful contribution and impact on the world through the work you do. Self-control leads to feeling: excited, positive, proud, joyful, peaceful Lack of self-control leads to: depression negative thinking worry pessimism anger frustration overwhelm your life’s work is to develop self-control, to develop self-mastery Start looking for solutions in the inner world. we live simultaneously in two worlds the outer world of circumstances ( the computer that you’re looking at, the chair you’re sitting in,how much money you have in your bank account, the relationship you’re in or you’re not in, the country you reside in, the city you’re in) the inner world of psychology (feelings, thoughts) what’s going on in here is ultimately what you care about. Whatever you’re chasing out there, you only care about it because of what it does to you in here. Think about it. That million dollars you want to earn? Yes, you want to have a million dollars, but in the end, you want to have a million dollars because it does something for you in here. It literally sends out some chemical in here that’s making you feel good, which is why you’re pursuing it. The same thing with your relationship. The problem is we tend to think all the solutions and all the challenges in life are out there. the biggest trap you can get caught in is to become a victim to the outer world and not pay enough attention to your inner world. Victim mindset: being so focused on the outer world that the outer world mesmerizes me reacting to the outer world, I am not creating what I want too concerned about the outer world and with what’s going on in the outer world paralyzed by outer circumstances "It’s the boss. My boss is not as good as he should be. It’s my spouse, my spouse is doing crazy things, behaving in irrational ways. It’s the guy at work who is not doing the job that he’s supposed to be doing." Creator mindset: belief in myself. self-esteem. resourcefulness. drive. vision, goals. self-control, discipline, emotional mastery Creator = empowered Victim = disempowered (actually you are so powerful that you can create the illusion that you don't have power) Most people are stuck in the victim mindset. Most people are too concerned about the outer world. Let’s tie this back to self-control. To be able to influence the outer world, you need to have your psychology mastered. When you master your own psychology, it becomes easier to influence the world, otherwise the world is always influencing you. why developing self-control and discipline is really hard emotional labour involved. There is struggle involved with building self-control. How to develop it? through work. You have to develop emotional intelligence, start thinking, introspecting, start watching yourself, start building up consciousness. imagine your brain as being a thermostat. A thermostat is a self-regulating system. When it gets too hot, the air conditioning kicks in and brings the temperature down. When it gets too cold, the heater kicks in and brings the temperature up, to maintain this equilibrium. you have opposing forces. One is saying it’s too cold, the other is saying it’s too hot, how is it going to pan out? There has to be a war. There has to be a clash going on inside.A Battle Of Wills. Some of them sometimes win out, other times others win out., you have clashing neural networks. They’re vying for control. build up your prefrontal cortex, right here, which is able to control, for example, the different impulses that you have. It controls whether you’re going to splurge on that donut you know you shouldn’t be splurging on. It controls whether you’re going to keep up with your gym routine. It controls whether you’re going to explode at your spouse in a fit of rage when they do something that bothers you, or that you didn’t want them to do. Ultimately, what personal development is, it actually takes place on a physical level, where you have these neural connections being built. You start to notice that you get more awareness and more ability to control your feelings, more ability to control your emotions, more ability to control your behaviour, more ability to persist in spite of the fear, to have courage, more ability to learn, more ability to introspect, to be very honest with yourself. What are some things you can do to build self-control? disciplined practice. get up at a certain time when you want to be getting up. if you have intentions to meditate, do that. If you have intentions to journal, do that. If you have intentions of eating healthy, do that. If you have intentions of going to the gym, do that. Be very disciplined and consistent about it. 2. unhook from media and stimulation. stop television, radio, gossip from your friends, advertising, negative influences from your family, from friends, browsing internet all day, chatting with friends, ice cream, chocolate.... Get back to your source. Spend some time by yourself in solitude. Think about things. Be introspective. Raise your level of consciousness.
  3. Profound Quotes #003 - "Children Want Candy; The Intelligent Want Self-Control" - Rumi ‘The intelligent want self-control; children want candy.’ ~ Rumi The reason that people are not getting what they want in life is because they are behaving like children and they are after stimulation, excitement and pleasure, whereas what is truly important to be after is self-control. This can manifest in all sorts of ways. It can manifest in very, very unhealthy dysfunctional ways or it can manifest in more healthy ways, but either way it’s still the search for candy, for stimulation. Example of a Spectrum of stimulation and pleasure: heroin cocaine marijuana alcohol partying video games television sex food relationships gym trying to get a good job So you’ve got this spectrum of activities that you’re doing from the very beginning here with the heroin addict, which is a completely dysfunctional, basically completely shit life. It’s basically leading towards an early death Then you’re kind of moving your way up, slightly better, slightly better, slightly better forms of stimulus seeking until you get to this end which is maybe pursuing a really nice career which on the surface it’s very hard to fault someone for doing that, but in the end all of this stuff what you’re doing is you’re looking for a hit. You’re Simply After Candy "So you get caught into that trap, but in the end what is the difference between someone who is seeking a marriage as an outlet for happiness and fulfillment versus someone who is seeking heroin for that same reason? In the end there’s not much fundamental difference. It’s still the same thing. What you’re looking for is you’re looking for something outside yourself to make you happy." The wise want self-control. The wise want self-mastery There is no chance for me to be happy if I: don’t control myself and my impulses my emotions and thoughts don't understand myself on a very deep level not just intellectually but also practically Where you ultimately want to be is you want to be in a place of happiness, just quiet, sober contentment with your life. Undisturbed, unreacted, unfrantic. Just very calm, very peaceful with what is. You want to have tranquility and serenity. You want to be okay with how the world is.
  4. Bad Relationships - How To Break Your Cycle Of Painful Relationships dysfunctional intimate relationships, whether it’s a marriage, or long term girlfriend/boyfriend situation, or even a short term girlfriend/boyfriend situation. 3 Levels, from the lowest to the highest Codependency: This is where you are at if you have problems with your relationship, and you keep getting bad relationships Dependent on each other. You guys can’t be independently happy, but you can be happy together. (It never really lasts.) Leaning on each other for support, using each other as emotional crutches. You just need your needs desperately met. A codependent person can only stay in a relationship with another codependent person. A codependent person is never going to be able to stay in a relationship with an independent person. Independent: confident and grounded individuals they come together and have an independent relationship. They don’t synergise. It’s simply just independence, they’re sharing some stuff together, but it’s not really the synergistic relationship. Interdependent relationship: This is where two come together, and then they perform almost like a choreographed ballet, where they start moving in sync, and a synergy effect happens, and really, something awesome flourishes that’s greater than the sum of its parts. Interdependence is really just independence of two people, then deciding to do a really nice choreography together. You can move out of codependency and into independency. Once you’re independent, then you can start to have nice relationships. Look Inside You are choosing to be in this relationship there are deep personality flaws within both individuals in this relationship. There individuals are not willing to address these flaws. The problem is in you. The pattern of bad relationships is going to keep repeating until your psyche has a gap/ void in it. You need to fill that void with something, and that other person is doing it for you. That’s why you’re hooked. You’re addicted to that other person, so you keep coming back even though you know this relationship is not healthy. Once you get honest with yourself, once you really get fed up with this recurring pattern of bad relationships then you’re going to tell yourself “OK, what can I really do to take responsibility?” Once you’re at that point, then you have to ask yourself “OK, what is the real void I’m trying to fill? Why am I so needy?" That usually comes down to one of these five things. money sex love companionship support, emotional support or other forms of support One of these things is going to be the cause of your neediness and your codependency. When you’re independent, you don’t really need love. You want it, but if you don’t get it it’s OK. Step 1: Identify one of these gaps — let’s say that your gap is love Step 2: then you have to look back and see where does this gap come from. (past, from your childhood or early adulthood.) probably what happened was that you weren’t getting enough love. Maybe your parents got divorced when you were young.Maybe some sort of traumatic situation happened, or you have some self-esteem issues, or insecurities. You feel that you’re deficient in some way. You need something to come in and fill the void. What’s you’ve been doing your whole life, especially in your dating life and your intimate relationships, is that you’ve been looking for the person who’s going to fill that void. What you were really looking for is an external solution to an internal problem.The problem is that when you find an external solution to an internal problem, then you’re even more dependent on it. The nice thing about doing that trace is that it gets you more awareness, more consciousness, so that you’re not acting as unconsciously in the future, in your relationship You are the cause of your own relationship problems, not the other person. You have to bite this bullet and admit it. The gap is not going to go away just because you change relationships. a happy, successful relationship that has a chance of continuing on the long run is a relationships that has a ratio of five to one of positive to negative interactions.That means for every five good things that happen in a relationship, one bad thing happens. How many negative looks they give each other? How many positive looks? How many loving looks? How much positive conversation is going on versus negative? How many fights are there relative to all the good stuff that’s supposed to be happening in a relationship? if you’re in a codependent relationship, then you’ve got to break it off. When you break it off, you have to break it off cold. (you’ve got to endure a little bit of pain to grow yourself and move on to the next stage. ) Make sure you don’t come back to that person. Then, when you’re off on your own, you’re going to have time to reflect, to ruminate, to really introspect, to do this tracing back activity, to find out what are the real codependency problems within you that are causing this pattern.
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  6. Here is a list of all the youtube videos. [x] - summary is done [] - summary is not done or missing The first 200 videos have transcripts in the video section of actualized.org, but we still miss almost all of the summaries from the first 200 videos. If you want to contribute to this thread, select one of the videos that still need a summary and post it here. [x]How to Invest In Yourself []Why Life Coaching Works [x]Be Different to Be Successful []Get Coached [x]Inner Game of Career Development [x]The Most Interesting Problem in Philosophy and Science []How I Lost 65 Pounds in 5 Months [x]Understanding Resistance []Mastery [x]Work Less to Accomplish More [x]What's the Worst That Can Happen? []What a Roman Emperor Can Teach You About Happiness []The Number One Reason Why You're Not Succeeding []The Problem of Self-Control []The Art of Solving Problems Permanently []How You Must Think About Failure []Life Purpose - Critical Points For Finding Your Life Purpose []As Good As Your Life Will Ever Get []How to Delegate to Your Subconscious Mind []Garbage In, Garbage Out - Watch Your Information Intake []The $100 Million Dollar Question []Positive vs Negative Motivation []How To Transform Your Entire Life []Personal Development Blueprint - Intro - Actualized.org []Personal Development - The Ultimate Vision of What You Can Be []Life Purpose - The Thrill of Creative Contribution []Success & Creativity - Why You Should Be More Schizophrenic []Personal Development - How Your Mind is Like a Rider Atop an Elephant []Personal Development - Tips About How to Give Advice []Create an Exciting Life - Your 5 Proudest Moments Exercise []Happiness & Success - Should You Work on Strengths or Weaknesses? []Personal Development - Professional vs Hobbiest []Personal Development Blueprint - Mission Statement []Personal Development Blueprint - Charged Life []Personal Development Blueprint - Top 5 Feelings []Personal Development Blueprint - Eliminate Addictions []How to Make Your Life Extraordinary - Actualized.org []How to Do Real Personal Development []Personal Development Blueprint - Meditation []How To Become Successful - The Secrets That Everyone Overlooks []How To Get More Energy - An Approach Nobody Ever Talks About []How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You - What Guys Really Want []How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You - What Girls Really Want []How To Make More Money - Increase Your Income In Career or Business []How To Become A Life Coach - Every Part of the Process Revealed inDetail []Benefits of Meditation - Top Reasons To Start Meditating Right Now []How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert []What Is The Purpose Of Life? - Use Purpose to Achieve Massive Success []How To Motivate Employees - Creating Ultra-Productive Workers []How To Feel Happy - Scientifically Proven Ways of Creating Lasting Happiness []Productivity Strategies - Are You Prolific? []How To Increase Your Results From Self-Help Products by 10x []Personal Development Blueprint - Information Intake []New Years Resolutions - How Getting Back On Track Is A Huge Opportunity []Self Expression - How To Express Yourself & Find Your Authentic Creative Voice []How to Be Happy in Life - Happiness Bottlenecks []Overcoming Fear - How To Slay Your Greatest Demon [x]Sensitivity - Why Personal Development Is Impossible For You Right Now [x]How To Never Quit - The Key To Reframing The Toughtest Obstacles []How Your Subconscious Holds You Back From Greatness []Negative Thoughts - The Origin Of Negative Thinking & How To Eliminate It Forever []How To Succeed In Life - The 6 Key Elements of Phenomenal Success []Fear Of Public Speaking - The One Key To Overcoming It Forever []How To Change Your Life - Making BIG Life Changes Actually Stick []Fear Of Failure - Why We Have It & How To Deal With It []How To Change Careers - Dealing With The Fear & Transitioning Smart []How To Stay Focused - The Key To Being Extremely Productive & ClearMinded []Resume Writing Tips - The Secret Mindset For Writing a Perfect Resume []How To Stay Motivated To Lose Weight - The Psychology of Weight Loss Success []How To Stop Worrying - The Fundamentals of Eliminating Worry []How To Change The World - What It Takes To Have Massive Social Impact [x]Personal Power - How Personal Power Creates Success []SMART Goal Setting - How to Set Extremely Effective Goals []The Subconscious Mind - Using Your Subconscious Mind to Create Massive Success []What Is Ego - How Your Ego Dictates Your Entire Life []How To Get Motivated - Creating a Consistent Drive for High Performance []The Law Of Attraction - How It Really Works & How To Use It []How To Stop Procrastinating - A Step-by-Step Process For Busting The Worst of Procrastination []How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident []Self Actualization - The Most Inspiring Self-Help Concept Of All Time []Positive Affirmations - The Tricks of Using Affirmations to Transform Your Life []What Should I Do With My Life - How To Find Your Passion For Life []Peak Performance - How To Hit and Maintain Consistent Peak Performance In Life []How To Stay Healthy - The Psychology of Maintaining Consistent, Effortless Health []Overcoming Adversity - How To Handle The Most Horrific Life Challenges Ever []How To Become A Vegetarian - Practical Steps You Must Take To Succeed []How To Control Anger - The Shocking Truth Behind Your Anger Problems []Positive Psychology - What Is It & How It Can Transform Your Life []Self Control - How To Develop Self-Control To Create An Amazing Life []How To Relieve Stress - Scientifically Proven Stress Relief Techniques []How To Be Attractive - The Ultimate Attraction Strategy []Why Am I Depressed? - The Shocking Truth Behind Your Depression []Profound Quotes #001 - "All Of Humanity's Problems Stem From Man's..." []True Vision - I Reveal My Life Purpose Until You Can Feel It []Willpower - Scientifically Proven Techniques to Increase Willpower []Redefining Philosophy - How To Become A Jedi Master []How To Become Rich - The Number One Reason You're Not Already Rich []Mindfulness - How To Actually Practice Mindfulness & Conquer Your Emotions []Profound Quotes #002 - "Specialization Is For Insects" []What Is Happiness? - An Extremely Advanced Definition Of Happiness []Self Image - The Amazing, Absolute Key To All Personal Growth [x]How To Stay Committed To A Cause []Introvert vs Extrovert - A Deep Understanding Of Introverts And Extroverts [x]How To Eat Healthy - Create A Super Healthy Meal In 15 Minutes []How To Be A Man - The Deep Core Of Being Masculine []Positive Thinking - The Key To Thinking Positive []Healthy Relationships - What You MUST Know To Sustain A Great Relationship []Dream Life - What It Takes To Create An Extraordinary Life []Best Supplements - What You Must Know About Supplementation []Optimism - How To Become Optimisitic Right Now []Letting Go Of The Past - How To Get Over The Past In Minutes []How To Find Your Passion - Why You Have No Passion & How To Fix It []Critical Thinking - Use Independent Thinking To Build A Powerful Life []How To Motivate Yourself - The Trick Behind Lasting Self-Motivation [x]Emotional Intelligence - Why Your EQ Is More Important Than Your IQ []Cause & Purpose - What Are You Willing To Bleed For? []Id, Ego, Superego - Understanding An Old School Psychology Concept []Self Help - How Self-Help Can Revolutionize Your Entire Life []Life Coaching - The Powerful Benefits Of Working With A Life Coach []How To Start A Business - Bootstrapping A Successful Business []How To Use Technology To Super-Charge Your Personal Growth []Time Management - How To Get More Time In Your Day []State Of The Union - My Camera Dies In Death Valley []The Secret - The Truth They Didn't Tell You []Personal Development Plan - The Essentials Of Getting Results []How To Love Yourself - How To Like Who You Are Right Now []How To Feel Good - Re-Designing Your Life To Feel Amazing []How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now [x]True Value - How To Create Success Out Of Nowhere [x]The Power Of Routines - How Your Daily Routine Holds You Back From Your Dreams []Staying Hungry - How To Use Pain For Growth []Relationship Advice - The Master Plan For Creating An Amazing Relationship []How To Become A Millionaire - The Truth No One Tells You []Self Esteem - Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem []Judgment - How You Ruin Your Own Happiness []Profound Quotes #003 - "Children Want Candy; The Intelligent Want SelfControl" - Rumi []Whatever Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger - True or False? [x]What Women Want In A Man - 5 Factors That Hook Women Like Crack []How To Make A Girl Squirt - Give Your Girl An Explosive Orgasm []Positive Attitude - The 3 Pillars To Cultivating Positivity [x]How To Exploit People To Grow Yourself - An Advanced Technique []Stress Management - Permanent Solutions For Stress Reduction []Why I'm A Dick - And Why I Won't Change []Goal Setting - How To Set Goals Effectively [x]Bad Relationships - How To Break Your Cycle Of Painful Relationships []Bad Habits - A Live Exercise For Dropping Any Bad Habit For Good []How To Get A Girlfriend - The Ultimate Guide For Landing A Hot Girlfriend []How To Forgive Someone - The One Trick That Makes Forgiveness Easy []Openmindedness - A Huge Overlooked Obstacle To Self Improvement []How To Make Friends - 4 Sticking-Points That Limit Your Ability To Make Friends []Good Vs Evil - Why Evil Doesn't Actually Exist []Communication Skills - The 6 Keys Of Powerful Communication []Low Self Esteem In Women - Why Women Have Lower Self-Esteem Than Men []Visualization - A Powerful Technique For Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind []Self Confidence - The Two Essential Avenues For Building Confidence []Why Women Use You For Money - And How To Never Get Used Again []Why Men Cheat - And 8 Ways To Keep Your Man Loyal []How To Follow Advice Without Betraying Yourself []How To Master & Control Your Emotions []Negative Visualization - An Ancient Stoic Technique For Creating Happiness [x]How To Stop Being A Victim - The #1 Reason You Are Stuck In Life []Spirituality vs Religion - The No-Bullshit Guide To Spirituality []Self Discipline vs Freedom - How To Create More Freedom In Your Life [x]How To Deal With Depression - The Key To Breaking Out Of Depression []How To Stop Caring What People Think Of You []How Science Keeps You Stuck In Life - Exposing Problems With "Scientific" Thinking []Why Women Fall For Assholes []Understanding The Authentic Self - Discovering Who You Really Are []How To Deal With Difficult & Toxic People []Leo's List of Top 140 Self-Help Books []How To Stop Watching TV - Why You Must Eliminate TV Right Now! []Luck & Success - Is Luck Important For Being Successful? []How To Meditate - The No Bullshit Guide to Meditation []How To Manage Your Money Easily Using This Budget Template []The Biggest Thing You Should Fear - Halloween Special []How To Be An Attractive Man - Interview With Dating Coach, TrippAdvice []How To Stop Being Lazy - Solutions For Short-term & Long-term Laziness []How To Deepen Your Love For Life - A Powerful Exercise []How To Deal With A Breakup []Why The Most Successful People Don't Do Personal Development []How To Have Amazing Sex - Part 1 []The Truth About Passive Income []How To Practice Gratitude - Xmas 2014 Special [x]How To Stop Being Jealous - Techniques To End Jealousy Forever []Responsibility vs Blame - Why You Are 100% Responsible For Everything [x]How To Study - The Keys To Acing School & College []Beware Of False Prophets - Stop Worshipping Human Personality []What Is Karma? - The No-Bullshit Explanation Of How Karma Works []Stop Demonizing People! - Why You Are Wrong For Calling Terrorists Evil []Spiritual Enlightenment - The Most SHOCKING Truth You'll Ever Hear []What To Do Next After Learning About Enlightenment []The Happiness Spectrum - The Best & Worst Kinds Of Happiness []Paradoxes Of Personal Development []Spiritual Enlightenment - Part 2 - Understanding The Conceptualized Self []The Secret Curse Of Being Human + Bonus: A True Spiritual Exercise! 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[]How To Create Your Dream Career - The Ultimate Life Purpose Course [x]How To Unleash Your Ambition - Must-Watch For Ambitious People [x]How To Get Shit Done - The Inner Game Of Being A Results-Maker []My Enlightenment Experience - Exactly How It Happened []Lower vs Higher Self - Understanding Your Two-Faced Nature []Using Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs To Self-Actualize []Masculinity vs Femininity - Psychology Of The Male & Female Mind [x]Meditation Techniques: Do Nothing - The Simplest Meditation Possible []Meditation On Steroids - How To Get The FASTEST Meditation Gains []The Grand Model Of Psychological Evolution - Clare Graves & Spiral Dynamics []Being A Spiritual Seeker, Good or Bad? []One Simple Rule For Acing Life []How To Be Funny - Comprehensive Guide To Developing A Sense of Humor []Contemplating Your Own Death - To Stay Motivated For Life []How To Deal With Criticism, Trolls, and Haters [x]Avoiding Dysfunctional & Abusive Relationships - 30+ Red Flags []Advice For High School & College Students - The Keys To Mastering Life []Curing Perfectionism - How To Stop Being A Perfectionist [x]Mindfulness Meditation - A Complete Guide With Techniques & Examples []A Vision For The Self Actualized Life - Get Yo Ass Inspired! []How To Overcome Creative Blocks & Writer's Block []How To Deal With Strong Negative Emotions []Radical Openmindedness - How To Break Free Of Dogma & Beliefs [x]30 Ways Society Fucks You In The Ass [x]How You Lie - All Your Dirty, Sneaky Lies & Manipulations Exposed! [x]40 Signs That You Are Neurotic - Understanding Neurosis []How To Stop Judging Yourself []The Challenges Of Making Bold Life Changes [x]Understanding Awareness - The Staggering Depth Of Your Unawareness Revealed []Free Will vs Determinism - Does Free Will Exist? []A Rant Against The Pickup Community - Must Watch For All PUAs []The Ultimate Model Of Human Knowledge - All Knowledge Explained! [x]The Most Important Commitment You Can Make + Huge Announcement [x]27 Qualities Of All Successful People [x]The Enlightened Self - A Description Of Your Existential Nature [x]Fake Growth vs Real Growth - What If You're Just Tricking Yourself? [x]How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others [x]How To Be A Strategic Motherfucker - The 7 Pillars Of Strategic Thinking [x]Why Rationality Is WRONG! - A Critique Of Rationalism [x]The Power Of Self Acceptance - How To Stop Beating Yourself Up [x]The Benefits Of Enlightenment [x]3 Step Formula To Be Ruthlessly Effective At Anything [x]Overcoming Addiction - The Root Cause Of Every Addiction [x]How Your Mind Distorts Reality - Needy vs Non-Needy Perception []Enlightenment Guided Inquiry - The Neti Neti Method [x]Grasping The Illusory Nature Of Thought [x]Lifestyle Minimalism - Renouncing Your Busy Stupid Life [x]How To Stop Being A Victim - Part 2 - What All Victims Fail To Understand [x]A Rant Against Morality - Very Foundational [x]How To Stop Moralizing - Removing The SHOULDs From Your Life [x]Meditation For Beginners [x]Awareness Alone Is Curative - How To Auto-Correct Unwanted Behaviors [x]Be Fucking Patient! - How To Deal With Lack Of Results [x]The Psychology Of Small Business Success - Top 5 Errors Of Aspiring Entrepreneurs [x]10 Important Things You Don't Know You Want [x]You're Not Happy Because You Don't Really Want To Be [x]The 3 Levels Of Personal Development Work []The Amazing Power Of Psychedelics - Leo Does Magic Psilocybin Mushrooms! []How To Use Psychedelics For Personal Development []Guided Meditation - The Next Level Of Meditation [x]The Paradox Of Developing Self-Trust []How To Be A Man - Part 2 (Advanced Version) [x]The 64 Most Fascinating Questions A Human Can Ask [x]What's Wrong With Ego? []What Is God? - Leo Becomes Absolute Infinity (Aka God) - All Of Reality Explained []5-MeO-DMT - The Magic Pill To Enlightenment & God [x]Low Quality vs High Quality Consciousness [x]The Dark Side Of Meditation [x]The Mechanics Of Belief [x]How To Harness Your Intuition []The Trap Of Projection, Especially Onto Teachers & Mentors [x]A Rant Against Culture [x]Money Psychology - The Inner Game of Mastering Money []Using 5-MeO-DMT To Become Enlightened - Interview With Martin Ball [x]How To Deal With Confusion [x]Becoming A Sage - A New Vision For Actualized.org & You! []Mystical Traditions Around The World - Nonduality Goes Cosmopolitan! [x]Becoming A Zen Devil - The Dangers Of Half-Assing Enlightenment [x]Uncovering Your Childhood Vows - Unwire Your Neurotic Personality [x]The Pre-mortem Technique - The Trick To Avoiding Project Failure [x]How To Control Anger - Part 2 - Understanding Evil To Death [x]A Rant Against Naive Realism - Reality Is NOT Physical! [x]How I Do Research & Develop Big Picture Understanding []The Launch Of Infinite Insights - Leo's Blog! 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  7. What Is The Point Of Life? An Advanced, Life-Changing Explanation Pasted from youtube user: Thomas Vanhuysse Short answer: Creation! The problem of rationally trying to answer the question: "What is the point of life?" Leo starts out by denying an objection that people from the materialist paradigm might come up with: "Reality is just arbitrary." It is just this physical, rigid system. Life is not dumb, it is not accidental, it is not coincidental, it is not arbitrary. Life is intelligent and designed. You need to step out of your ego mind and rational mind to appreciate the brilliance of reality and the design behind it. What is the point of the Universe? (macro-level) The Universe is an infinite singularity: An infinite amount of dimensions, an infinite field of consciousness. It is completely self-aware and alive. It is all-loving and creative. It is God. The Universe subdivided itself into an infinite number of parts because there is ultimately no distinction between a division and a unity, it is all one. All possible subdivisions are already contained within the Universe and always have been. There is only one ultimate Reality, containing within it an infinite amount of sub-realities. It is radically all-encompassing, if you will. The only one thing the Universe can do, for all of eternity, is explore itself. Remember that the Universe is not dumb, it is vibrantly alive! It can desire! It desires constantly to know itself. It does this through your human life and an infinite number of other experiences. The only way in which the Universe can know or be itself, which are ultimately the same, is by living through every single infinite amount of possibilities. All there are within the Universe is an infinite number of perspectives. The point of the universe is to live through every single one of them in order to know and to be itself. - The point of the Universe is itself. - The point of the Universe is for God to simply be Itself. - The point of the Universe is to experience all the parts and teh whole of Itself. - The point of the Universe is for God to experience itself being a creator. - The point of the Universe is God realization. For God to awaken to Itself. - The point of the Universe is for God to create Itself and to love Itself. - The point of the Universe is unity through division. What is the point of your human life? (micro-level) - The point of your human life is to realize that you are God. - The point of your human life is to realize that you created all of this, but that you forgot. - The point of your human life is to realize your own magnitude. - The point of your human life is to Love yourself. - The point of your human life is to become God-like. - The point of your human life is to be a consciouss creator. - The point of your human life is to conquer fear through unconditional Love. - The point of your human life is to embody Love and Goodness. - The point of your human life is to inspire others through your example. - The point of your human life is to experience the duality. - The point of your human life is to experience every moment fully. - The point of your human life is to help others to awaken. - The point of your human life is to evolve your consciousness. - The point of your human life is to align your will with the will of God. - The point of your human life is to create the most beautiful creation possible. - The point of your human life is to choose and define who you want to be. "Consciousness has devided itself and it seeks to reunify with itself. This cycle goes on forever. You have an infinite number of lives, and you cannot die." […] "You have nothing to lose in this process. There is no possibility of failure." OBJECTIONS: "Life is meaningless!" Life is meaningless, but that is not to be confused with nihilism, depression, lack of inspiration and motivation, negativity… Being is prior to meaning and it is much more profound. The point of anything is itself. Human life has a deliberate design. It's part of a greater whole of which you might say it does have a function, a meaning. "I thought that nothing mattered?" Nothing matters, yet God must still be God. It must still experience itself. That is what it means for God to be God. Ultimately, Creation does not matter. That's why God creates. It creates for the joy and delight of Creation. "Isn't this religious dogma?" No. Verify the Truth for yourself. "How could you possibly know all this?" Through mystical experiences, contemplation, deep study and research of spiritual scriptures and books. Through intuition and direct consciousness of God. All the answers about life you come up with are ultimately your own imagination. But everything within Creation is imagination! "What if you're deluded?" What is the alternative…? Any alternative you give is also just a point of seeing the world. So do the spiritual practices and see for yourself if you are God. "isn't this contradictory to life-purpose?" No. Life-purpose is a practical human realization about what you are passionate about as an indivdual. "Can I fail at life?" No. Death is an illusion. You are immortal. All roads ultimately lead to Nirvana. Don't rush to enlightenment for the sole purpose of trying to avoid failure. As explained earlier: there is no failing this game. "I just want to escape this life and suffering. Why don't I just kill myself?" If you do, you'll escape to Nirvana. Eventually, however, you'll want to polarize yourself again and reincarnate. Where you are right now is the perfect place where you need to be. When you die, you will be here. "Isn't this an ego driven explanation of the point of life? No. It's an explanation of the design or architecture of life. "Doesn't enlightenment mean there is nothing to do? You make it seem as though there is stuff to do." If you want, you can do nothing. Enlightenment doesn't say anything about what you should or should not do in your life. It is simply the realization that you are ther Creator. Then, you can choose what you can create. There are no "Should's" within the Universe unless you create them yourself! "This explanation of the point of life isn't in line with what I heard or believe." Spirituality is a broad concept and certain people will use certain words to explain certain things. It is a complex phenomenon. "Isn't reality perfect? So then why does it need improvement?" This is a simplistic notion of non-duality. From the absolute perspective, this is true, yet practically you can consciously choose to improve your creations.!
  8. these topics explored more deeply and part 2 of understanding emotions.
  9. Emotional Intelligence The 1# factor of successful people is high EQ (Emotional Quotient) and not IQ (Intelligent Quotient). Wrong Assumption: People who are smart and who have high IQ are able to get stuff done. That's usually not the case because they get stuck in their head and lose touch with emotions. Emotions are what really creates success in life. Emotional intelligence is your ability to work with emotions. What EQ is not: sociability being a confident extrovert Definition of emotional intelligence: "the ability to recognize and understand your emotions, in yourself and in others, and your ability to use this awareness to manage your behaviour and your relationship”. 4 Pillars of emotional intelligence: ability to understand your own emotions, being able to label your emotions ability to control your emotions ability to read emotions in other people (empathy) ability to manage your relationships Notes on Pillars: Pillar: having more awareness there (being self-aware and conscious)....a broader range of emotions Pillar: to be able to discipline yourself, control yourself, so you’re not having those crashes and ecstatic peaks, but you’re somewhere in the middle. To manage emotions to channel into your work, or the habits you’re trying to instill in your life, like your diet or your gym Pillar: It’s your ability to understand what other people are experiencing and feeling, being able to relate to that, your understanding of their point of view. It’s really the ability to step into somebody else’s shoes and look at life or a situation from their perspective. Pillar: How smooth are your relationships going for you? How well are you communicating and interacting within them? Effects of EQ: anger management. - being able to manage your anger well accountability. Responsibility, ownership and not blaming others. Self-honesty and honesty with others. assertiveness and confidence: - Good and effective communication stress tolerance: Minimizing stress, anxiousness, negative thoughts, judgement and guilt decision making: Being a strong decision maker and not waffling all the time, making a decision and then going back, and going forward, and going back, and going forward... Or not being able to decide between two things for a long time, flexibility: Being able to flow with life and handle the challenges and situations that are coming up. Or are you very rigid and set in your ways, and everything is bumping into you and causing all sorts of pain and suffering? That’s a sign of low EQ. presentation skills: How well are you able to give a presentation, to speak, to convince people, to motivate and inspire people? listening skills: How good of a listener are you? Are you able to really listen to what people are telling you? Are you able to understand it, to really empathize with it? Are you able to then show them, reflect back to them that you did understand? Do people think you’re a good listener? Or do people think you’re a poor listener? If you’re a poor listener, that’s tied to low EQ. If you always have negative emotions, you have low EQ. (You’re not recognizing them in yourself, first and foremost, but then you also don’t have tools and strategies for how to manage them.) more so than IQ, EQ is highly developable (meditate to reduce stress and journal to understand them better...) Homework: Find out if you have low or high EQ through surveys (online or in books)
  10. How To Meditate Deeper Stage 1: Beginner: Simple Observation Allow everything to happen. And all you do is just watch it. You simply observe it. Whatever’s going on is ok. Your mind will wander. Let it wander and do whatever it wants to do without controlling it. Let it think about tomorrow night. And let it think about the email you just got. But, as it goes there, your job is to watch it go there, and just be mindful of the fact that: “Oh, it’s going somewhere. It was here, and now it’s there. And now it’s here. And now it’s there." You don’t want to take your thoughts within that meditation session seriously at all. Not just thoughts, but also feelings.You can either buy into those and take them seriously, or you can just watch them. So, your objective here is just simply watch them. Stage 2: Inermediate: Active Detachment You try to drop the thought, release it. Actively try to release every thought that comes into your mind. So, it’s just like the first stage, except now you’re actually doing a little bit of manipulation. You always have to go meta, see what’s happening and then release, alright? And if it fails, don’t worry about it. Try it again. don’t resist thoughts arising. Because thoughts will arise. What you do is say: “Oh, that’s a thought. Let me just let it go.” And you let it go. Stage 3: Advanced: Awareness Focus you put your awareness on awareness itself. here what you’re doing is — you’re kind of working on this problem of understanding what awareness is. And the way that you do that is that you notice that everything that comes up is just content that fills this space of awareness. The field of awareness is filled with content. An emotion is a piece of content. A thought is a piece of content. An itch on your ass is a piece of content. Now, usually what we do is we get sucked into this content. And we get sucked into our thought stories and into our emotions. Your job here is just to become aware that all this stuff actually is content and it’s happening within this field of awareness. And that awareness itself is not the content. focus your awareness on the fact that content is arising. And you try not to get sucked into the content. And you keep your awareness on the fact that you’re aware. Notice that things enter awareness and then they disappear from awareness. So, they arise and then they die. And then they rise again. And then they die again. And this is happening constantly. What you need to do is focus your awareness not on the content, but kind of, like you zoom out. And you try to maintain that as consistently as possible without having your mind wander off course
  11. Understanding Resistance It’s easy to identify the feeling of resistance. Resistance happens when: you create imperatives for yourself, things that MUST be done, when you force yourself to do anything, it's like pressing the gas and brake pedals on your car at the same time.... Life should flow. But, insidiously, we tend to resist the things we want most. (Not wanting to go to the gym, read a book, meditate) you use excuses and reasons (I’ll go to the gym… Tomorrow for sure! I swear!.... I’ll call my Mom… But I wonder if anyone replied to my witty Facebook post. I better check now.) Your higher self wants you to do one thing, but your lower self creates sabotage. The Ultimate Technique for Releasing Resistance - Sedona Method Counter-intuitively, the way out of resistance is to accept it. Process for releasing resistance: Conjure up the feeling of resistance. Feel it. Let it flood your body and mind. Ask yourself, “Could I let go of this feeling?” Ask yourself, “Would I like to let go of it?” Ask yourself, “When can I let it go?” Repeat steps 1-4 at least four times until the feeling disappears. Note: Step 1: There is a big difference between actually feeling a feeling, and merely thinking about it. Step 2,3: Don’t force a “Yes” if you really believe “No.” Step 4: Answer honestly. If you want to hold on to the feeling for 2 days, then say, “In two days.” If want the feeling gone right now, say “Right now!” Any answer is acceptable. It might be subtle at first, but you’ll feel the heaviness lift, even if you answered “No!”, “No!”, and “Never!” each cycle takes about 30 seconds. It takes 4 cycles to feel a lot better. So you can release resistance within 2 minutes Allow Yourself to Feel Shitty Simply ask yourself, “Could I allow myself to just feel bad right now?” Surrender to the situation. Yes, the situation sucks, but it sucks x10 more simply because you’re resisting it. When you stop trying to escape bad feelings, most of them simply disappear. The “Just Do It” Method simply forcing action as thoughtlessly as possible. Just take that first baby-step. Then the second baby-step. Then the third. Soon enough you’re on a roll and the resistance naturally melts away.
  12. Division vs unity - The engine that runs reality "...to form a more perfect Union..." - Preamble to the US Constitution Division and Unity is the engine that runs the entire reality. Everything that you see is an example of this. There is a purpose, a point, a goal and a logic to the mechanism. Everything is an interplay between division and Re-Union. (includes social level, personal life, relationships, birth and death, biology, chemistry, physics...) It's very profound when you start to see how this shapes everything that is happening in your life at a practical level, it puts everything into context, it allows you to take a step back and kinda see what is the reason of reality and how intelligent it is. The history of mankind is a series of divisions and re-unions and it unfolds like a fractal. . re-union is love (45min) consciousness going through a process of polarization and de-polarization, division and re-union, it expands and it contracts back, it converges and re-converges. Disintegrates and re-integrates. And it keeps doing this forever. Examples: hydrological cycle (it starts in the ocean (unity), evaporates through heating into particles, then form individual clouds and then some clouds re-unite and when enough divided clouds unite, there is enough re-union, starts to rain - it divides into separate rain droplets and then form paddles on the ground, they start as divided paddles and then start to merge together into streams, rivers, and then back into ocean, back to its source Morning smoothie - starts with elements, starts with earth, water and sun, then these elements grow into plants, (the plants has to unite different elements earth, sun, sunlight), then this plant can bear fruit, fruits separate from the plant (division), then you add different fruits, blend them and get a smoothie. Then your body has to un-do that process, digest them, separate them into individual molecules that your body can then use for nutrients, minerals, vitamins to nourish your cells, every cell has it's own requirements and needs Cells(division) Organism (unity) Body is a division within consciousness Species - one species, then geological things happen, a mountain range emerges, one species now lives in two different areas, one area gets more rain, the other is more dry and now the species have to adapt to different environments and then over time you get different species then these two species meet, you get a hybrid (re-union) and then the same process will happen again and through this process we got all the plants, animals, fungi, bacteria, birds... human race (unity), started in Africa, then wen to populate the world and got different human races (division), then they started inter breeding and got a third one (unity) Good and bad is a division and need to be re-united War - world war 2 - hiter wanter to create unity by division which is insanity (but he did it out of love) but in the process 50 million people died, and that created a need to unite - european union (easier to defend against China, America, Russia if EU united). so there is deeper intelligence to it. If bad violent aliens tried to conquer the world (independence day style), then all of the cultural differences would not be important anymore and we would unite to fight this common enemy in order for us to survive. clan warfare - Saddam Hussein who tried to unite tribes into larger nation states, the middle east is still a very tribal culture (stage purple) 13 colonies (division), created USA (unity - unity of divided things) and that's how it made it easier to defend against attacks. USA has now different states so it's not a total unity, even thought it functions as a unity, states merge together but still remain individual and autonomous. Soviet Union - it divided, couldn't be maintained EU, now brexit and the rise of some nationalist from stage blue people who want to maintain their individual identity, their German, Italian identity... but the EU is so beneficial so it's difficult to leave it. sometimes the unity has to divide (soviet union) roman empire - grew so big that it was difficult to maintain (internal corruptions..) and then they fell apart kriya yoga - probably hundreds of versions religion - judaision - divided into chrictianity, then cristianity into catholic church then into protestants and catholics.... internet - first small shops, video sharing sites...(division), then 1 social media (FB), one video sharing (youtube), one search engine (google), one that dominates ecomerce (Amazon ) - unification monopolization - what is being provided by this unification, you have one place where you find everything the downside is that it's much harder to start something new and revolutionary like in the beginning . One social media, benefit is that all your friends are in one place, the downside is that all get milked by facebook businesses - big businesses buy small ones, small ones can't compete with the big ones, small ones are searching for ways to differentiate (to divide from the big ones) and then big ones buy them (unification) , there is a lot of monopolization going on in business. The big ones buy smaller ones until they get so big and need to divide into smaller ones, this is especially a problem in America because of unenforced laws, and then the problem is that corporations get bigger than the government and start to manipulate it, which is a problem for maintaining democracy. You eat something - unification, you shit something that you don't need - division even spiritual people cannot keep their shit together and have to divide process of birth and life - birth is a division or polarization within consciousness, consciousness splits itself into two different organisms, creating a sharp distinction between two parts of itself, then this organism grows and eats other organisms, the process or eating is a process of reunion, you are using to to fuel you then you are excreting those parts that you can't utilize and this process is a process of division. Male female division happens so later a reunion through Sex and in this process a new birth happens, at the moment of maximum union is the very moment when the next division is created, a new birth. One cell at first, then this cell divides into two and then next into two, through the process of division, until there is one unified baby, then the baby comes out, division, then get soon back to suck mums tits - reunion, function as a family unit, then grows up separates from parents division, the grows old, dies and merges with infinite consciousness-reunion atoms unify to create a molecule then molecules unify to create a protein, then those protein unify to create a cell, then cells unify further to create an organ, then organs to create an organism, then a family, a tribe, a nation, mathematics (unity) - sub-field (division) physicism (unity) - sub-field (division) integrating different fields- unity - holism (leo's work)... there are so many sub-field that you can spend 50 years in one and that's why there is more interest in bringing stuff together to understand what human life is about social justice warriors (want more unity) vs anti-social justice warriors (want more individualism and less collectivism, more division) reunion of science and mysticism will happen in the next hundred years intimacy and space - you are first divided, then start dating, having sex, united, but then you want space and that space creates more desire to unite, and then you want your autonomy and sense of self hood again how stars are made - a bunch of gas united by the force of gravity (unification), then when there is too much unification the star explodes(division) black hole (strong unification force) and if you come close it kills you, that's why the ego is terrified of love marriage (unity), divorce(division) entropy - a measure of unity or division, high entropy is high unity, a lack of distinction, a lack of division. Life is about division. This is a concept in thermodynamics that tells us how life spreads through the universe, what molecules are doing is that they are moving to greater and greater levels of unity, everything is run by fluctuations in entropy. To have motion at all is through a division, need to create one position here and one position there, so it needs be a a difference between positions and only now we can have a sense of motion and then to fuel that motion with energy there needs to be an energy gradient, there needs to be high energy here and low energy there so they equalize out, and when they equalize out of all energies and positions through the whole universe and there is no difference and distinctions between anything anymore we are in total unity, total non-duality, total oneness and here you cannot have anything distinct, specific or any forms, you cannot have any motion, there isn't a sense of time. If you want motion, division, space, time you have to divide consciousness (it's not like a physical system like scientists think just some random stuff). The world is starting to globalize because of techonology and because people want peace, they want an interconnected globalized world where people can travel and trade around the world, where we have internet everywhere, we want unified laws, so we have to interconnect different nations... you want to travel to some place in Africa and not get your head chopped off and the only way that's gonna be possible is through globalization. That if someone from Nigeria hacks your bank account that you can sue them in court, that would be difficult to do now. There is a trade off when you unite things and also when you divide things. Reality is a unity of divided individual things. When you see this bigger pattern and start to understand what all of life and consciousness is doing then you stop resisting the re-union. It is not simply that re-union is good and division being bad, it is just a dance of consciousness. The balance of division and unity changes upon what is needed at the time, when this is not understood, this only deepens our problem. because people get ideological about "ohh taxation is evil, socialism is evil, redistribution of wealth is evil - not it's not and neither is capitalism evil, "if capitalism is good then socialism must be evil" that is not right lol, both extremes are wrong which is not to say that we take the middle point between the two, it's a dynamic equilibrium, it depends - for example in America the pendulum has swing so far to the right with neo-liberalism, rampid capitalism and libertarianism that now it needs to swing back to democratic socialism, redistribution of wealth and higher taxation then when this goes to far we have to swing it back to the opposite end . There is no black and white answers to how much we should be united and how much should we be divided. It is a combination, it's division within unity within division, within unity, within division, within unity... it's a fractal. Imagine how your body would work if every cell would want to maintain it's independence and autonomy for itself. Let's say even if each organ in your body didn't want to unite and coordinate but it wanted to be arrogant and just do what it wanted to do. Like your heart pumping blood only to places it wanted to. This is what libertarians and right winders don't understand how society and civilization works because they only taut individualism and freedom as if it some absolute good, and it is not, reality is deeply interconnected and no part of reality is totally free or totally independent from the other parts. Especially in biological beings, your cells have to be very selfless and participate in some larger cause or purpose in order for your body to function. Libertarians doesn't understand how human life and survival hinges upon collectivism/collective organization - you have to appreciate your role in that, it's the height of arrogance to think how you're entitled to freedom and individualism, this is a benefit you earn through lot's of coordination and cooperation. The opposite of that is also a danger of becoming too integrated and neglect individual rights. (like china's treatment of Muslims minorities and the Tibetans -- too collectivist and neglecting individual rights) So how to build a society is not through one of these ideologies but with an interplay between the details of this. the problem is how do we get multiple diverse entities, with different, needs, interest to unite (common currenty...), to unite is for the benefit of all Even the most spiritual people cannot keep their shit together, they divide. Contemplate why does this keep happening? If there is one God and one Truth, why does this happen? Why all the ward, different sects, countries, why do we care about maintaining boundaries between countries, why do we form different alliances, why do we have different tribes that fight each other, why do people have a problem with globalism and nationalism, why do we have different races, why do people have a problem with marrying different races.... find the larger pattern here, look at it from the God's eye view. Sometimes things get so divided that it get untenable and unsustainable and a re-union is deeply craved and needed. open mindedness - not being attached to anything, (beliefs, ideologies) you are open to everything (maintaining the purity of a dish without mixing it with other stuff because of being closed, can miss on a lot. The other side is also true, if you are too open and mix everything with it, the purity of a dish will be gone) ego is a division, ego came out of unity, so the ego is always struggling to maintain its division from its environment, and re-union is what the ego calls death. the end is the begining, perfect loop zero is infinite, if you have a circle and collapse it down to a point of zero dimensions, as soon as it has zero dimensions it simultaneously expands and has infinite radius . beginning is the end, perfect strange loop subject and object collapse into unity, space and time collapse in no time and no space The universe started as this one undifferentiated "thing" but then wanted to differentiate and specialize, but then got frustrated with all division and limitation and had to re-unify. Total unity is God or Love or Truth, that point of singularity before the big bang we try to reach with awakening. you can't grasp totality with a part (like scientist try to grasp consciousness but to understand consciousness you have to be in the business of unifying consciousness and this is where mysticism, yoga(in sanskrit means union - subject and object, perceiver and perceived, life and death, matter and energy, mind and body) and meditation come into play) snowman -to let him survive, we have to program it with fear for anything that will melt it, survival agenda, sense of self for it to maintain its snowman shape... but eventually will die and once it does it will unify with its surroundings and merge with infinite love. The snowman comes from love and goes back to an infinite love just like you. Unification comes with costs and benefits. It's not an absolute good. Even the ultimate unification of death comes with costs (totally indistinct, you are not any particular way, so you cannot enjoy an ice cream, enjoy having a dog, having sex,..) and benefits (total peace, bliss and no more problems, no more survival, no more worry ). If you want to know what re-union feels like you have to divide yourself. If you want to know what it feels like to become God you have to create the illusion of not being God,. God is nothing and so totally indistinct that it can't even really know itself because even the process of knowing oneself requires there to be a knower and a known, god can't really know itself because it is itself. God can't reveal itself to you because God is nothing. Seeing Jezus, Buddha, Ganesha...these are all just manifestations of God and actually God is totally infinite and indistinct, which means you can't grasp it, define it and draw a picture of it... Muslims are smart for not drawing pictures of God Allah and Mohammed, because they think that to draw any picture of them is to diminish Allah (and then the scientists make the mistake "Ohh if you can't draw God, then God doesn't exist" lol). people resist unification and sometimes think of it as oppression, but sometimes unification happens only through great pressure, sometimes it requires war, death, cruelty, turture, murder, rape... to understand this helps you to come to peace with all the evil that happens in the world because all the evil in the world is often just the pressure to unify. There is no such thing as evil, just love and intelligence. (hitler did war out of love) this is not about justifying behavior it's about understanding how god works...it's about understanding the structure of all of reality and why it unfolds exactly as it unfolds. the fundamental rule of reality is that all divided entities will unite and all unified entities will divide another rule is that no part can get a monopoly over the whole, because the whole is unlimited and a a part is limited, the limited will never conquer the unlimited so it is futile. god seeks to maximize diversity of form, infinity is the maximum diversity of form, so God is the ultimate unity of all diversity, diversity is not the opposite of unity it is the very definition of unity. division and unity -- both are impermanent and important. imagined distintions and then unimagining them to unite infinity is not a number, it is every number all at once, 1 if infinite, 2 is infinite.God and infinity is every possible form God wants diversity because it is an expression of its infinite creative potential . Nothing gives God greater joy than expressing its own true nature and spawn infinite diversity to share it with, who, who, YOURSELF, cause there is nothing but yourself, when you are infinite, you are one, so you can't share yourself with anybody but yourself, so you fragment into a million pieces and then you share the joy of God with all those pieces by having them to re-unite and re-create you and this process goes on forever . Evolution is a universal process of differentiation and re-union and it is driven by love and intelligence and the key to evolution is maintaining this balance between division and unity. If you get too much division, you get hell, if you get too much unity you get hell and there is way to know how to balance this, it has to unfold. Be ware of ideological people who hold the unity as the absolute good or who make a duality out of division and unity as if these are separate things, they are not, they are like two types of unity. There is unity with a lower case you and there is unity with a upper case You. Absolute unity vs relative unity. there cannot be a unity if there is no division. unity has to include division. Life and reality is one giant fractal of infinite consciousness, this fractal is God, You, Love, division and unity. Your birth was a division, your death will be a re-union and everything that happens in between will just be a variation on that theme and nothing else can happen in reality because reality nothing more than differences and distinctions imagined by infinite mind and then unimagined by infinite mind by unimagining the distinction you unite what was distinct HOMEWORK: For the next week when you walk around notice how every object and situation around you is an example of division and unity
  13. A lot of good information for INTPs in this topic.