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To me that just sounds like simple muscle tension. Like if I sit for long or don’t exercise I will feel more tense than if I move around. I also have issues with my spine which contributes. A life of bad posture could put our bodies in non optimal positions and cause us to be locked into un-alignment so when we sit still we don’t sit in the right way for example , or when we move in yoga etc we move in the wrong way

Good thread. Out of my health issues, I have one that is a bit embarrassing to me, and that is that I occasionally struggle with bad breath! Two family members have occasionally pointed it out, my friend said she hasn’t smelled it though luckily. I am aware of it sometimes because sometimes I can feel my mouth gets dry and I can feel it’s not the freshest I did my own research and I think one medication I took as a child for a long time could contribute because I found a study that said it can damage teeth, plus I took anti biotics as I child which can cause fungal infections in the mouth. Im doing research into it, I’ve tried some things like oral probiotics, I’m not fully sure if it helps but I’m trying (besides from consuming mint and drinking enough water etc)

Sometimes some path are harder than others, and there’s a greater risk of failure. But it might be what resonates the most, what the heart calls for the most, so if we don’t follow it, we might end up unhappier than we would if we followed it. There’s instant gratification, like quick dopamine, but then there’s the more long term happiness, and it’s more from the heath and intuition, and it’s worth focusing on because it’s longer term. But then on the other hand we have practical reality, and practical reality works a certain way, where we need to do certain things to survive. So if you find yourself needing to do something that doesn’t align with your heart, you could try to reframe it. What doesn’t seem to align with you, might simply be a stepping stone: it’s something you need to do temporarily, shorter term, in order to build yourself a more stable foundation, in order to later go to the thing that aligns with you more. So the thing you thought was unaligned actually becomes align: it becomes a stepping stone to the bigger picture. All the puzzles don’t have to appeal to you, it just builds the greater puzzle.

Wow it’s so cool that you share this Ive had exactly the same thoughts. I’ve had partial dissolutions of the ego , “awakenings” (maybe partial) and some of them I’ve felt some bliss and love. But when I took 5 Meo dmt (in PARTICULAR when I took it, I took small dose and it was the closest I’ve been to full ego dissolution) and my normal state nowadays , is more empty and “dead”. I have thought to myself when I’ve been in the most extreme states “this is almost like death “ that’s the best way to describe it: it’s like everything looses its fullness, it’s reality, things become flat and empty. I have wondered, where is the fullness, the love, the joy? It seems to be associated with the self: when you feel you are real, and others and the world feel real, that’s where the joy is. When the self almost or completely ends, that’s where death is. That’s the end of “your life”. You approach death, a nothingness: that has nothing in it for you . But nonetheless, I try to stay open, maybe I just experienced the partial thing, maybe there’s facets to it. There’s hope still. Don’t lose hope. Don’t judge all awakening based on your own.

So random 😭

I can relate to this. Might add more thoughts later but what came to mind was in high school my crush talked to me once (I’ve talked to him before but this particular moment I was nervous). He walked up to me and said hello and I just froze and said nothing and awkwardly looked away and he was like “hellooo😄” noticing I felt awkward. lol just know it’s possible to overcome, I worked at it and nowadays I’m not nervous socially I sound so silly by taking example from high school lmao but it’s just because it was that time I was shy😭

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It is indeed pretty common to feel happier during vacation that during work week 😂😂😂

I mean it works sometimes for the average person when it comes to conventional happiness. For example how someone feels happier during vacation so they chose to take that vacation. But if you wanna access an unconditional happiness which is what it seems you talk about then yes the very wanting can be hindrance

I don’t know what I have done but thanks for the mention eheh 😅🥰

I’m sorry dude but the way you formulate yourself here makes it sound you’ve been in a medieval torture chamber or something 😭 Makes one wonder what can cause such suffering

Hahahah nah😂😎But it’s good you have social sensibility I mean pursuing something could mean identifying if you have things blocking it, so if something blocks your “being-ness” then it could block that happiness that is tied to being-ness as you say. But that assumes you have “blocks” to begin with, if not then yea pursuit can be a hindrance because ~wanting~ in itself can be a form of suffering.

Even happiness associated with circumstances arises from within so yea it’s possible to have it arise when nothing special is happening. I’m with you. We pursue the good not the neutral. Although being closer to neutral is a stepping stone to happiness and better than suffering I do pursue happiness …I was just sharing my view Yea exactly id have to get enlightened to answer some things🫡🫡

Relatable Relatable in my past. I used to have a very visual mind with a lot of daydreaming that could give me a lot of pleasure. But I am not able to gain that level of satisfaction from my mind anymore. What I can do is improve my mindset while I have a mind: and it has helped me but hasn’t gained me access to more than equanimity mostly

Yea their love is still valid it’s just that it’s often easy to love your children while becoming truly loving in general is harder It seems humans have the capacity to challenge this wiring and perhaps rewire it for something greater It’s not all self centered. That’s too black and white. A portion of self gratification permeates almost everything but it’s not the whole picture. Otherwise I’m with you when you say it’s not inherently wrong to be selfish. This ties to a discussion about how independent the mind is from the brain. Humans can engage their minds and form identities and beliefs that go against their wiring (like wanting to be a monk alone in the mountains while having social desires). So transcendental could mean it goes beyond the basic wiring. For example desiring enlightement is not really “wired”. The human has possibility to create a reality using their mind that isn’t much connected to the natural reality, as if the mind can become kind of independent . It’s still dependent on the five senses to gain “inspiration” from tho. I don’t know.