The frame is:
My body is my temple, why would I pollute it with poison?
My other frame is:
Alcohol is for children. Adults do DMT.
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When I see someone drinking I look at them like at an ignorant child.

Yes that's all good. But do it less so for the girl and moreso for you. The point of this is not to please the girl but to become an awesome man.
Would an awesome man be a lazy fat slob with yellow teeth and pimples? Is that your idea of an awesome you?
Become awesome FOR YOU. And then girls will be very attracted to that type of guy.

If women are as visual as you think they are then why do you think I'm able to fuck models?
Just some food for thought.

Of course girls will have sex with them if given the opportunity.
When you give a girl no other way to decide but based on looks, of course she will pick the best looking guy she can find.
But girls are not walking around hunting down the best looking guys to sleep with. That's not how girls get attracted in real life.

@SamC if it’s a girl I met five minutes ago, than no. You don’t owe her an explanation about anything personal. And I also will not be asking her.
In a longer term relationship, I still don’t think it’s that big a deal. But I do think it’s a problem if you can’t at least have an honest conversation about it. Yes, I’ve told girls my body count and the universe didn’t explode. 
Of course if the other party is going to use that information to shame or attack you, that’s not cool either. 
 

You're right?
Btw, being called asshole is pretty low tier insult, at least that's how it seems to me. Many women will call you that jokingly, so I don't see a big problem with that - there's no serious intent there. And that's what it's about at the end of the day - intent, rather than the actual word. Even calling a woman bitch is fine, if used jokingly in a funny context/situation. But of course, we are talking about arguments here - and having arguments is inherently bad, since they show a certain ammount of immaturity from both sides. Well developed people don't really argue - they find better ways to come to a solution.

with such words, the 1st time you say them to another is huge, it a watershed moment
sometimes it can't be recovered from ... other times it is just a heated argument but relationship has entered new disrespectful territory afterwards

Not healthy.
Such a relationship will not last long.
There needs to be an agreement not to insult each other. Once that line is crossed it cannot be uncrossed.

It's the opposite in practice. The more I socialize the less I care what people think about me.
I used to care A LOT. Now it's just irrelevant because I've talked to 1000s of people, many of whom rejected me and I grew a thick skin.
No! You fundamentally misunderstand what charisma is. It's not about getting people to like you or saying things you think they want to hear.
Go out and talk to people.
Talking to people is not some high consciousness activity. It's dumb. Learn to relate to people on a dumb, fun level. Don't treat it too seriously. Especially when talking to girls.
The biggest change I had to make to get good with girls is to learn to talk dumb. The biggest mistake is to trying to be intellectual or serious with girls. Ironically, learning to talk dumb is not easy if you're smart.
It is a mistake to try to make socializing "high consciousness". It's not supposed to be. It's like playing with a child.

A good opportunity for you to practice not giving a fuck.
Go socialize anyway. It's very beneficial for you to do some socializing when you're not looking or feeling your best. So you stop trying to "be the best" for people. Get comfortable letting people see you when you're not "on".
If you have a giant zit on your face -- Go socialize! You'll see that no one cares.

It doesn't really matter where your date is. You could make any location work if you got some game. Of course some locations are more optimal logistically and more enjoyable, but you could do a date at Walmart. It doesn't matter.
Personally I enjoy nice outdoor shopping malls with some scenery to look at. Window shopping together makes for a great date. I like these places because they tend to have a lot of variety and everything you could want: drinks, coffee, food, window shopping, park areas, trees, ponds, benches, ice cream, cookies, people-watching, etc.
You could do a date at Ikea. Be creative. And also, go places you actually enjoy.

Drinks are fine, but you need to have drinks in a location where you can bounce around to multiple venues. My fave 1st date location is an outdoor shopping mall area, with cafes, bars, restaurants, shops, ice cream, park with trees and benches, scenery, etc.
Then you bounce around between those. Try to do more walking than sitting in a booth. Walking lets you escalate easier.
As far as conversation goes, you're just being too logical and boring. The core of game is learning emotional, nonlogical ways of talking to girls.
Also, if you are not sexually attracted to her you shouldn't be dating her. Follow your dick on this. Stop setting up dates with girls you wouldn't sleep with. This is a waste of your and her time.
Law Of State Transference: whatever you feel she will feel. If you don't feel excited neither will she. You need to be sexually excited by her. Then ride this excitement to bed.

I’m pretty sure “brain damage” from heavy metals is reversible. Andy Cutler himself says that essentially once you remove the toxins, the brain will regenerate itself naturally 

It’s amazing what a person can accomplish with just hard work, determination and enthousiasm. I know two women who became doctors and I highly doubt they score a 100IQ points if you tested them.
Success is also greatly decided by your self confidence. And I think smarter people are also more likely to doubt themselves probably because they self reflect more. A healthy dose of ignorance can actually be a huge advantage into becoming successful.

IQ has nothing to do with wisdom.
What is important to live a good life is wisdom, not IQ.
Plus tbh even for the more shallow materialistic type of Orange success, EQ and social skills matter WAY MORE than IQ.
I would say wisdom and EQ both outmatch IQ by a mile.
Funny thing is that if your EQ and wisdom are well-developed, people will automatically assume you are smart. Happens to me all the time. I never took an IQ test and never plan to, however i think i might be slightly above average but nothing crazy (I scored around 1200 on the SAT). However, because my EQ and wisdom are well developed for someone my age (im 23), people automaically tell me stuff like you are smart etc. It is quite funny, almost like good marketing  
So yeah, do not worry about this bullshit. Focus on improving your social skills, meditate, read books and develop EQ. 
IQ obession fundamentally is caused by lazy people who do not want to do any work to improve and grow themselves because IQ is mostly set in stone and cannot be changed. 
Ironically usually Incels that obsesses about facial aesthetics also tend to focus about IQ a lot. Why? Because they have a deterministic attitude towards everything in life. Do not become such a person.

IQ can be good to get a sense about certain kinds of things. A certain amount of IQ is required for every job, because if you don't have the bare minimum amount, you basically incapable of doing certain things and you can't really learn effectively. Once the bare minimum is reached, then after that it can be argued, that it doesn't have that much significance for a normal person. If you want to go to the academic field, or if you want to do a certain kind of job, then yes you will need to have a higher amount.
But looking at it in a broader sense, it is just one intelligence measure from the many. But just as with anything, you need a certain amount of it, to be able to be more effective at anything.
It is very unintelligent in my opinion, to only use IQ tests to figure out how intelligent a person is.
Here you can see other kinds of intelligences. But even this is limited.

 
 

I am refering to pure Intelligence. Intelligence is God's capacity for self-understanding.
Imagine for a moment being so intelligent that you can create the entire universe from nothing. That's what intelligence is at its highest level. Then there are sub-degrees of it which are less than omnipotent.
Omnipotence is simply a function of intelligence. When your intelligence reaches infinity you become omnipotent.
God is pure Intelligence. Intelligence cannot be defined because it is infinite.

exactly what the title suggests. it only happened about 2 weeks ago and i found out 2 days ago. i can't stop thinking about it. i do not know how to process it. 

I've never been in such a situation. 
All I can say from the absolute perspective is that everything happens due to cause and effect 
Learn to let go and understand that we are all flawed deep down. Some are more flawed than others. 
 

It's a combination. There were strong innate capacities which tend required years of cultivation.
I just know that my core intelligence is not something anyone taught me. It's also effortless, like breathing. It's not something I trained per se. It's something I applied in my self-education.
I've also always felt more intelligent/wiser than everyone around me. I didn't understand why until I realized that I'm just more conscious as a baseline than most people. This is not something I trained. I was born with it.
Innate intelligence is like height. It is what it is and you won't change it. However you can do a lot to cultivate and make whatever intelligence you got shine. You can also practice good health in order to maintain and maximize it. For example, if you consume metal metals your intelligence will drop.

It sounds like you have an underlying health/chronic fatigue problem. This could be due to diet, heavy metal toxicity, low vitamin D levels, low thyroid function, etc.
You should get some comprehensive blood work done and start studying chronic fatigue.
The #1 thing to try is drastically cleaning up your diet.

Yes, but I also just have innately high holistic intelligence. It's just not measurable by IQ.
There is definitely a big genetic factor to intelligence. Like I said, if you had the genetics of a mule, you'd be stupid.

I feel like, since this pandemic started, I don't get to live my early 20s the way I want. I wanted to have interesting life experiences, love, live life to the fullest, travel with friends/a bf. This pandemic started when I was 20. I am freaking 22 now. I am annoyed quite frankly that this is happening.
This has also lowered (my already low) chances of meeting potential bf. (I say "already low" because I live in a city of 200,000 people, where more than half are older people).
And the guys I do manage to meet, it seems like we are not a a match, which is starting to frustrate me quite a bit because, when are they gonna find me more attractive than now? And when am I gonna have these beautiful romantic experiences? In my freaking 50s and 60s? It's ridiculous. This was supposed to be my best years lol.
It's easier for guys, they can settle later in life, but for a girl, I feel like young years are their best time to find their partner. It's freaking depressing and this is stressing me out to no end.
I feel like I'm not using all my potentials too and I'm spending my best years at home most of the time. I do go out, but the amount of people I see out is quite depressing. Almost noone is going out because of sudden peak of new corona cases here. And what is funny is that, rarely does it happen that I meet new guys through my social circle (that consists of mostly girls). I don't know if this is universe playing tricks on me lol.
What is even a solution to this? What can one do about it? 
@soos_mite_ah
 

If heavy learning doesn't suit you, no problem. Work on all the other parts of your life. Heavy learning is overrated and not necessary to live a great life.

@Consilience good insights man! Your schedule is intense, I like it.
As far as a the whole psychedelics debate, I find myself somewhere in the middle. I’ve used them in the past and plan to use them again in the future. The insights are radical and often genuine. And I do believe they can create true healing for people, as seen from my own experience and from the experience of others. People have literally cured hard drug addiction with a single session of Ibogaine or Ayahuasca. 
At the same time, I’ve also seen people who have spun their wheels with psychedelics. People who may have had deep insights, but seem to still struggle with many basic emotional problems, limiting beliefs, etc.
I don’t really know why some people seem to get better results than others. Lack of “manual” practice and integration perhaps. Lack of proper intention. Or perhaps this debate goes deeper than any technique or substance. Perhaps it’s simply the soul’s will to have that experience. And all our arguing about what method is best is just laughable.
What I do know is that I currently resonate with more of a manual approach as well. That feels like it gives me the deepest integration and embodiment, which is what I’m really interested in. And if I can sprinkle in some peak psychedelic experiences every once in a while to see what that brings, I’m happy with that as well.