I'd say 20+, for either gender. I don't buy into the red pill laced talking point and attitude that women "should" have a lower lay count than men. It just comes from insecurity from thousands of years of subconscious patriarchy eroding 
Also have to keep in mind this is a self improvement forum, with some dysfunctional people, and PUA's who will distort perceptions of what is normal or "healthy".
Of all the "normies" I've met in my life (99.9999% of people not doing self-help), I would discern most of them have never had more than 5-15ish sexual partners. Which seems like a pretty reasonable and healthy number of people to engage with in that way.

The simple rule is this: Until she sleeps with you, you are allowed to flirt/date other girls. There is no exclusivity until at least after sex.
You should keep talking to girls until one of them sleeps with you and wants exclusivity. Until such time you are a free man and you talk and flirt with anyone you want. Do not sit around waiting for a girl, thinking she is your girlfriend. She's not your girlfriend yet.
Obviously you do not explicate any of this to her. You just go about your life and don't tell her anything.

Reality is a Mind that dreams/imagines. When you say something is "real", what you mean is, it's imagined by you so deeply that you are not even aware of how it is imagined. And so you call that "real". Whereas if you become aware of how something is imagined, you call it unreal.
You have to realize that this is all a trick of the mind. There is no ground for the distinction between real and imaginary. Because at root all there is, is Mind.
The key is to drop the idea that there exists anything outside of imagination, by noticing that everything is Mind.
How do you know? Consciousness. The only way anything is known. The only solution here is more consciousness, and no other way will work.

Jerk off and talk way more girls.
Don't kid yourself. Even if you get a gf you will not get by in life without jerking off.

Birth is a position of total ignorance, the opposite of Omniscience.
You were born so ignorant that it took you a long time just to realize you were ignorant. And most people still haven't realized that.
If you think back to how your earliest life experiences were, you knew nothing.
SAT measures certain narrow verbal and math skills. If you want those skills you can develop them. But there are much more important skills to develop so don't waste your time jumping through silly hoops like a dog.

Of course! Haha
This is not license to be stupid though. You must be intelligent and pragmatic about actualizing your dreams.

Pickup has an insanely steep learning curve. You have to be irrationally optimistic to succeed. Any doubt, negativity, or weakness in your attitude will fuck you up.
Same as business.

@evgn It's worse than that. Pickup requires delusional levels of optimism. Beyond anything reasonable or logical. Science itself is your enemy. You have to take on science and beat it to death with a baseball bat.
Luckily for you, hots girls are not very scientific nor rational

Yes. Night game is better for doing lots of practice approaches since the stakes are lower. You can also practice stuff my rapid physical escalation, makeouts, pulling, and dealing with logistics.

You are correct that state is king and you cannot just will yourself into a higher state. However, you jump to some wrong conclusions about that.
1) Psychedelics trips are much more than about occupying a different state, they are also about self-reflection, insight, contemplation, understanding, dealing with emotional baggage, healing trauma, and exposing yourself to new experiences. All of this has a cumulative effect on the mind and produces growth, maturity, widsom, self-mastery, and development.
2) By your logic all meditative practices are also useless because any awakenings acheived by meditation are also temporary experiences which fade over time. This is clearly a silly position.
Just because you have a temporary experience does not mean it doesn't powerfully affect you. Rape is a temporary experience. Notice how silly is it to tell someone, "Oh well, you aren't being raped right now so it's not important. Rape is just a state."
Notice your double standards. You would never dismiss rape in the way you dismiss a trip. Now imagine being raped 300 times and what that does to the psyche.
There is no problem with memory. Your whole life hinges on memory. If you lost your memory you would not know how to use a toilet or that you were even human. So there is no way around that. Every spiritual person relies on memory of their spiritual work. To even claim you had an enlightenment requires memory. This doesn't invalidate their work.

That is a phenomenal result.
You are complaining over nothing. Your attitude is all wrong and negative. And if girls are rejecting you so much then you gotta really work on your game. You need to analyze how you are doing the approaches wrong.
If 14 girls slept with you from online then obviously you're an above average looking, fairly attractive guy. Your game just sucks. Learn proper game. Study the theory, identify your sticking points, maybe take a bootcamp.
And most importantly, stop being so negative. You got laid more in 2 years than most guys will in their entire life.

Don't frame it as bravery. Frame it as: Doing what you know is right.

You don't need to keep a girl consistently swept off her feet to get her to be your exclusive girlfriend. You can even be abusive to girls and most of them will still stick around for a long time. When a girl is seriously attracted to you she will put up with a lot of shit before she leaves.
For me, keeping a girl around and loyal to me is effortless. I don't "work" at it. It just happens. The biggest thing I have to do is to make sure I'm too not brutually honest or critical of her, because girls cannot take it and take everything personally.

Well, the problem is that people have a very wrong idea of what intelligence is, since people are not intelligent.
If you were truly intelligent you would value integrity and character very highly.
Being able to solve some narrow technical problem is not a good measure of intelligence.

That's one way. Ideally you find the busiest nightlife spots in your town. Usually bars and clubs.
You could also socialize through meet-up groups, networking events, parties, spiritual groups, dance classes, improv classes, acting classes, wine tastings, etc.
This is an absurd excuse. I have never smoked weed when I socialized. Nor have a drank. Ever!

@Zion No, it doesn't need to be better. It just needs to capture the depth of matter. The key thing I look for is depth of understanding.
When I hear someone telling me that they have meditated their way to GOD, to me this is laughably shallow. Nobody will ever meditate or self-inquire his way to the things I've become conscious of. I have lots of experience dealing with such people, and I find flaws in all them. GOD is too profound for such things.

You're not retarded, you're just inexperienced.
The solution is to invest 1000+ hours socializing.
It's that simple.
It's like you want to do everything except the one thing that actually matters.

So far this stuff seems like having super powers to me!
Leo says that not too many people do PD work, and even fewer do it properly and get something out of it.
What's your best guess for how many people outside this Acutalized forum genuinely understand and use Leo's concepts?

I work on over 100 topics at once. I make outlines for each. When one outline is complete I shoot a video.

I rank it as irrelevant. Looks are important to gain her approval to sleep with you, but once she has decided to sleep with you, from then on looks don't matter. Looks are not determining whether she sees you as boyfriend material because if she has already decided to sleep with you, she already finds your looks acceptable. And that's enough. Women are not looking to maximize a guy's looks. They just need him to clear a basic bar. Looks is more like a pass/fail test.
Girls are not saying to themselves: "Well, his looks were good enough for me to sleep with him, but not good enough to make him my boyfriend."

@Yali A cool, developed guy with a great sense of humor, who makes her feel strong emotions, who has a cool lifestyle, and has his life put together. Has a good career, is comfortable financially, is passionate about life, is very experienced, confident, and comfortable with himself. Who is emotionally stable and treats a girl well.
That is the perfect boyfriend.

I would say they are as rotten as the average person. But then money, power, sex, and fame corrupt them even further.
I have experienced a small bit of fame. It's extremely toxic and corrupting.
This is the exception. And this tends to be older celebrities who have matured after a rather degenerate past.
Look at Russell Brand. He used to be heroin addict, now he has found God. Or look at Mike Tyson.
No, your view is badly skewed. First off all, most girls are not cute. Cute is rare. Cute is top 20% at least.
Girls have it easier to get laid, but that doesn't mean they find good guys who don't just use them and move on.
You are biased because all you can think of is getting laid, but if you were a girl getting laid would not mean much to you, your need would be to find a stable guy who sticks around and doesn't just pump and dumb you, or makes you his side bitch.
Even as a hot girl many guys would just pump and dumb you.
Most women struggle to find quality guys. And as a girl, you would too. Even if you were hot. I promise you. You would get lots of sex but you would not be fulfilled and you certainly wouldn't be loved. And then all your beauty would fade and you would hate yourself.
You have a cartoon idea of what it's like to a woman. You couldn't even walk down a street at night without worrying about being raped.
You are envying a cartoon fantasy. Like, why wasn't I born Batman?

Sounds to me like you're not offering enough value. Like you're not a high value guy. The girl is not that impressed by you and feels she has more value than you.
It sounds like you're fairly physical attractive, but then once the girl sleeps with you she sobers up and realizes that this guy isn't offering me very much. The other possibility is that you're physically attractive but you don't have much charm, humor, or charisma. You're not stimulating her emotionally enough to fall in love with you. This basically means your game is weak.
To really hook a girl you gotta sweep her off her feet by making her feel strong emotions and a deep rapport with you.
Of course online dating is not gonna be as great as approaching.
I've basically never had a girl end a relationship with me. Because she knows she found a rare gem. So the ultimate solution is to make yourself into a rare gem.

Yes, your first 500 approaches will be pretty cringe. Just get them out of the way as smoothly as you're able.
Your vibe is like 90% of your results. So the reason you're getting these bad reactions is because your vibe is off, your subcommunication is off, you're tense, you're afraid, you're insecure, you're not smiling, you don't feel good in your body, your verbals are awkward, you're not smooth, and you don't know how to lead the conversation well.
All of that improves with practice. Don't beat yourself up.
One of the best ways to improve is watch as much in-field hidden video as possible. Or get a wingman who can demo it for you. You need to see what a smooth approach looks like and sounds like.

I have literally paid my wingmen to record their approaches and give me the audio files. So I can study them.