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She rejected to have sex after looking at my picture
She rejected to have sex after looking at my pictureBy going out and learning to socialize with girls.
With that girl, no.
With other girls, of course.
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See, the problem in this example is that you wanted something for nothing. You expected a threesome for zero work. In real life if you want a threesome you will have to work your ass off for it. I have friends who do threesomes. They hustle for it. While you are at home on your PC, they are out there socializing. One guy I know here in Vegas had a threesome with two virgins.
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Casual sex vs relationships - your opinions?
Casual sex vs relationships - your opinions?Your "high quality" girl still wants fun, emotions, value, and leadership. A high quality girl has options. She won't be attracted to some needy inexperienced ass.
For a guy to get a good relationship requires hundreds of approaches.
You are assuming attraction. But that cannot be assumed.
A guy needs a lot of "customers" to get the experience necessary to be the kind of strong man & leader a high quality girl expects him to be.
Every girl wants the sausage but doesn't want to know how it's made. As it turns out, being a man tends to be a dirty business.
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Casual sex vs relationships - your opinions?
Casual sex vs relationships - your opinions?I'm sure some girls can pull that off, but I wouldn't count on it.
Again, she is not having sex for logical reasons. She is not sitting there calculating which guy is most suitable for her long-term health and well-being.
If your strategy is to get into a girl's pants using logical objective facts about yourself, you're going to be extremely disappointed with your results.
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Casual sex vs relationships - your opinions?
Casual sex vs relationships - your opinions?The problem here is, if you set the boyfriend frame she is likely to not get attracted to you and therefore you will lose your "high-quality" woman to a scummy player who doesn't give a shit about her. And yes, she will sleep with him instead of you because he is detached and fun while you are needy and serious.
If you see an awesome girl, the more you lead with the BF frame the more she will get repelled.
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Dating: Does your body count matter?
Dating: Does your body count matter?@Raptorsin7 For most guys anything higher than 30 is considered a high body count as the average guy sleeps with about 7-15 girls their lifetime. For girls I would say anything higher than 20.
I remember talking to some of my female friends about this and they would explain to me after a bad break up they would go on a dating spree and fuck the hottest guys they could match with to "regain their confidence"
One girl I met from TInder told me she went through a nasty break up and I was her 11 guy she slept with in the past month, that blew my mind.
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Dating: Does your body count matter?
Dating: Does your body count matter?I'd say 20+, for either gender. I don't buy into the red pill laced talking point and attitude that women "should" have a lower lay count than men. It just comes from insecurity from thousands of years of subconscious patriarchy eroding
Also have to keep in mind this is a self improvement forum, with some dysfunctional people, and PUA's who will distort perceptions of what is normal or "healthy".
Of all the "normies" I've met in my life (99.9999% of people not doing self-help), I would discern most of them have never had more than 5-15ish sexual partners. Which seems like a pretty reasonable and healthy number of people to engage with in that way.
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Sleeping with multiple girls yes or no?
Sleeping with multiple girls yes or no?The simple rule is this: Until she sleeps with you, you are allowed to flirt/date other girls. There is no exclusivity until at least after sex.
You should keep talking to girls until one of them sleeps with you and wants exclusivity. Until such time you are a free man and you talk and flirt with anyone you want. Do not sit around waiting for a girl, thinking she is your girlfriend. She's not your girlfriend yet.
Obviously you do not explicate any of this to her. You just go about your life and don't tell her anything.
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How do you know you are imagining everything?
How do you know you are imagining everything?Reality is a Mind that dreams/imagines. When you say something is "real", what you mean is, it's imagined by you so deeply that you are not even aware of how it is imagined. And so you call that "real". Whereas if you become aware of how something is imagined, you call it unreal.
You have to realize that this is all a trick of the mind. There is no ground for the distinction between real and imaginary. Because at root all there is, is Mind.
The key is to drop the idea that there exists anything outside of imagination, by noticing that everything is Mind.
How do you know? Consciousness. The only way anything is known. The only solution here is more consciousness, and no other way will work.
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How to deal with sexual frustration?
How to deal with sexual frustration?Jerk off and talk way more girls.
Don't kid yourself. Even if you get a gf you will not get by in life without jerking off.
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How to break duality between a priori and a posteriori knowledge?
How to break duality between a priori and a posteriori knowledge?Birth is a position of total ignorance, the opposite of Omniscience.
You were born so ignorant that it took you a long time just to realize you were ignorant. And most people still haven't realized that.
If you think back to how your earliest life experiences were, you knew nothing.
SAT measures certain narrow verbal and math skills. If you want those skills you can develop them. But there are much more important skills to develop so don't waste your time jumping through silly hoops like a dog.
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100+ approaches. No results. Does it even work?
100+ approaches. No results. Does it even work?Of course! Haha
This is not license to be stupid though. You must be intelligent and pragmatic about actualizing your dreams.
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100+ approaches. No results. Does it even work?
100+ approaches. No results. Does it even work?Pickup has an insanely steep learning curve. You have to be irrationally optimistic to succeed. Any doubt, negativity, or weakness in your attitude will fuck you up.
Same as business.
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100+ approaches. No results. Does it even work?
100+ approaches. No results. Does it even work?@evgn It's worse than that. Pickup requires delusional levels of optimism. Beyond anything reasonable or logical. Science itself is your enemy. You have to take on science and beat it to death with a baseball bat.
Luckily for you, hots girls are not very scientific nor rational
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Why are girls during daygame way nicer than during nightgame
Why are girls during daygame way nicer than during nightgameYes. Night game is better for doing lots of practice approaches since the stakes are lower. You can also practice stuff my rapid physical escalation, makeouts, pulling, and dealing with logistics.
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People don't have a clue, srs
People don't have a clue, srsYou are correct that state is king and you cannot just will yourself into a higher state. However, you jump to some wrong conclusions about that.
1) Psychedelics trips are much more than about occupying a different state, they are also about self-reflection, insight, contemplation, understanding, dealing with emotional baggage, healing trauma, and exposing yourself to new experiences. All of this has a cumulative effect on the mind and produces growth, maturity, widsom, self-mastery, and development.
2) By your logic all meditative practices are also useless because any awakenings acheived by meditation are also temporary experiences which fade over time. This is clearly a silly position.
Just because you have a temporary experience does not mean it doesn't powerfully affect you. Rape is a temporary experience. Notice how silly is it to tell someone, "Oh well, you aren't being raped right now so it's not important. Rape is just a state."
Notice your double standards. You would never dismiss rape in the way you dismiss a trip. Now imagine being raped 300 times and what that does to the psyche.
There is no problem with memory. Your whole life hinges on memory. If you lost your memory you would not know how to use a toilet or that you were even human. So there is no way around that. Every spiritual person relies on memory of their spiritual work. To even claim you had an enlightenment requires memory. This doesn't invalidate their work.
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Can't take rejections anymore
Can't take rejections anymoreThat is a phenomenal result.
You are complaining over nothing. Your attitude is all wrong and negative. And if girls are rejecting you so much then you gotta really work on your game. You need to analyze how you are doing the approaches wrong.
If 14 girls slept with you from online then obviously you're an above average looking, fairly attractive guy. Your game just sucks. Learn proper game. Study the theory, identify your sticking points, maybe take a bootcamp.
And most importantly, stop being so negative. You got laid more in 2 years than most guys will in their entire life.
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How Do You Become Brave?
How Do You Become Brave?Don't frame it as bravery. Frame it as: Doing what you know is right.
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Are women on dating apps broken? Or am I doing something wrong?
Are women on dating apps broken? Or am I doing something wrong?You don't need to keep a girl consistently swept off her feet to get her to be your exclusive girlfriend. You can even be abusive to girls and most of them will still stick around for a long time. When a girl is seriously attracted to you she will put up with a lot of shit before she leaves.
For me, keeping a girl around and loyal to me is effortless. I don't "work" at it. It just happens. The biggest thing I have to do is to make sure I'm too not brutually honest or critical of her, because girls cannot take it and take everything personally.
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Intelligence over moral character
Intelligence over moral characterWell, the problem is that people have a very wrong idea of what intelligence is, since people are not intelligent.
If you were truly intelligent you would value integrity and character very highly.
Being able to solve some narrow technical problem is not a good measure of intelligence.
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lol I think I am socially retarded
lol I think I am socially retardedThat's one way. Ideally you find the busiest nightlife spots in your town. Usually bars and clubs.
You could also socialize through meet-up groups, networking events, parties, spiritual groups, dance classes, improv classes, acting classes, wine tastings, etc.
This is an absurd excuse. I have never smoked weed when I socialized. Nor have a drank. Ever!
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Important! - Nobody On This Forum Is AWAKE
Important! - Nobody On This Forum Is AWAKE@Zion No, it doesn't need to be better. It just needs to capture the depth of matter. The key thing I look for is depth of understanding.
When I hear someone telling me that they have meditated their way to GOD, to me this is laughably shallow. Nobody will ever meditate or self-inquire his way to the things I've become conscious of. I have lots of experience dealing with such people, and I find flaws in all them. GOD is too profound for such things.
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lol I think I am socially retarded
lol I think I am socially retardedYou're not retarded, you're just inexperienced.
The solution is to invest 1000+ hours socializing.
It's that simple.
It's like you want to do everything except the one thing that actually matters.
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What % Of People Do Personal Development?
What % Of People Do Personal Development?So far this stuff seems like having super powers to me!
Leo says that not too many people do PD work, and even fewer do it properly and get something out of it.
What's your best guess for how many people outside this Acutalized forum genuinely understand and use Leo's concepts?
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Leo, what’s the process behind your videos?
Leo, what’s the process behind your videos?I work on over 100 topics at once. I make outlines for each. When one outline is complete I shoot a video.
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Are women on dating apps broken? Or am I doing something wrong?
Are women on dating apps broken? Or am I doing something wrong?I rank it as irrelevant. Looks are important to gain her approval to sleep with you, but once she has decided to sleep with you, from then on looks don't matter. Looks are not determining whether she sees you as boyfriend material because if she has already decided to sleep with you, she already finds your looks acceptable. And that's enough. Women are not looking to maximize a guy's looks. They just need him to clear a basic bar. Looks is more like a pass/fail test.
Girls are not saying to themselves: "Well, his looks were good enough for me to sleep with him, but not good enough to make him my boyfriend."