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  1. Hurt a girl, what to do... ethical way of dating?
    Hurt a girl, what to do... ethical way of dating?
    Because all these videos are made for guys.
    The more you believe that women are out there looking for casual sex, the more you will be able to find it. It suits your needs to believe it.
    But Leo is right. Sure, women enjoy sex. And they might settle for casual sex at times. But really what most of them want is an intimate relationship, which is also where the sex becomes the most enjoyable for them.

  2. David Pakman is yellow?
    David Pakman is yellow?
    Hard to say. He's definitely a very intelligent, highly developed stage Green at least. Probably some shades of Yellow, but also probably held back by the lack of knowing Spiral Dynamics and what Yellow even is.
    To really get into solid Yellow it's extremely important to learn Spiral Dynamics so one can explicitly see the whole Spiral at work in society.

  3. Actualized and book list a sufficient stage yellow education on it's own?
    Actualized and book list a sufficient stage yellow education on it's own?
    You can always find more books. But at some point you gotta stop reading and start doing.
    Forget about quantity and focus on grasping the fundamentals.
    If you read and actualize the things said in those 200 books, I don't know what else you need. You would become superhuman.

  4. Percentages and Ages of Spiral Dynamics Stages
    Percentages and Ages of Spiral Dynamics Stages
    Reaching the Tier 2 stages will require most people more time.
    Yellow and Turquoise at 26 would be pretty rare because most people at that age are still just starting to get a handle on Orange and Green.
    I didn't even know Turquoise existed until my 30's.
    It's important to give people time to grow.

  5. What % Of People Do Personal Development?
    What % Of People Do Personal Development?
    @beastmode 99% of people in society are mediocrity zombies. So the percentage of people excelling in anything -- let alone consciousness (the hardest thing to excel at) -- is of course super low, but that doesn't say much. The bar is set very low at this point in human civilization.
    Which is good news for you in a way. It's easy to rise above the herd with a bit of wisdom, intelligence, and heart.

  6. Feeling hurt that my girlfriend commented that my crying bothers her
    Feeling hurt that my girlfriend commented that my crying bothers her
    Yes, of course.
    In this case this girl is telling him: "I'm losing attraction for you".
    Raw attraction is what makes her wet. Love is a different matter. You can have one without the other and vice versa.
    It's like two balls that you're juggling and you gotta keep them in balance.

  7. Hurt a girl, what to do... ethical way of dating?
    Hurt a girl, what to do... ethical way of dating?
    Dude, get real. 95% of girls want serious relationships, not friends with benefits or open relationships or whatever.
    You can't make her feel better with some "friendship route". Most girls are sleeping with you because they expect to be your girlfriend.
    If you want to be ethical about dating then you should try to fuck only those people who you might want to be in a relationship with. Unless perhaps you're just clubbing and having obvious one night stands with girls who clearly understand it's just a one night stand from a party. But in this case you don't see them after that one night. And still, you will hurt some girls even then.
    You can't just have sex with a bunch of people and not hurt anyone in the process. You're kidding yourself.

  8. Moving past this silly men vs women war
    Moving past this silly men vs women war
    Most people struggle a lot with dating and relationships so it turns into a survival contest and blaming the other side.
    Few people actually want to take ownership of mastering this domain of their life. Which leaves only one thing: blaming and fighting. Either you're going to handle it, or you're going to become bitter and jaded.

  9. Picking up Seoul chicks in the streets with INTP wingman, making it easier (Daygame)
    Picking up Seoul chicks in the streets with INTP wingman, making it easier (Daygame)
    Doing day game, I tried and tried to do it by myself. Boy was it hard. I told my friends that I will reach 93 approaches just this month. We promised that if I don't reach the number and have no evidence, I'll have to pay those 3 people 50 dollars each.
    And the first 3 days, I could only do 10 by myself with great discomfort. Every approach required a lot of mental effort. Today is the 4th day, and in one day, and I met this older guy in his later 20s, who've already done day game for a year. I've done 16 approaches on sets yesterday just being with him. Girls who looked intimidating on the streets, girls in the back alley, cute girls in souvenir shops, bookstores, girls walking down the street, bus station and I saw my fear wither away in a heartbeat just because I had a wing who was into pick up, not some slob old friend who talks shit and tries to make me feel bad for approaching (I cut him off from my life). I approached way more than the wingman, but we both got one girl's phone number each. And it was all about the details and the technicalities of the game, we were all about creating solutions when we were talking. It was productive. I was so glad that we were both action based, not some piece of meat hanging around doing nothing and talking shit for nothing. The guy didn't know how to speak English, but he read the book, The Game, in Korean. He was analytical but still was intrigued enough to ask me a lot about what Tyler. So I showed him his pick up and many of his ideas to him. Overall, great experience.
    I've found doing this with a friend in the beginning phase and then doing it by yourself is a preferable way. Better, not some slob mf who won't take action for shit, don't ever go picking up chicks with the guy. Just don't hang out with such a person when picking up chicks (and life).
    Anyway, I write this for anyone who is into day game, but struggle to take massive action. The point here is to tell you the importance of having a person next to you doing the same thing, competing for the same thing, challenging each other and cooperating with each other. Motivation and action taking levels go up in a heart beat. And I could see myself doing it by myself now without any fear.  
     

  10. What facet of awakening is this?
    What facet of awakening is this?
    That's not about awakening at all. He's just showing you how to be vulnerable and more authentic in social situations.
    You're not going to master social skills unless you hit the bars and clubs like a beast. 1000s of nights out talking to girls.
    There is no book, video, seminar, or course that can give you such skills. Only by going out.

  11. Buying/Owning a House
    Buying/Owning a House
    Finding the right house takes time.

  12. Is There Any Point In Meditating For 30 Mins A Day?
    Is There Any Point In Meditating For 30 Mins A Day?
    @electroBeam Until about 6 months ago, I meditated for no more than 60 mins per day, and I was seeing good results.
    The intent and focus you put into your 20 mins is way more important than sheer quantity of minutes.
    I said 10 hours per day in the very radical context of using meditation to fix all of life's problems.
    You guys need to listen more carefully. I notice a lot of sloppy listening, where you listen without any nuance and your ego runs away with it.
    Sloppy listeners are not cut out for spiritual pursuits.

  13. I struggle with day game
    I struggle with day game
    @Marinus That's great action-taking. 31 daytime approaches is a lot.
    There are many stages to a successful pickup that must be mastered: the open, body language, the smile, eye contact, keeping conversations going, flirtation, kino/touching, authenticity, sexual tension, hitting a hook point, screening for boyfriend, getting the close, leading and pulling for instant date, number closing, etc.
    It's quite hard to learn all those on your own. It helps to go with a wing-man who already has experience with this and can help you evaluate your interactions. Try to find some wings in your city.
    A successful daytime approach requires a lot more than just opening the girl and saying Hi. You must learn to make the conversation fun, flirty, and interesting. And you must learn how to close in order to get any results. All daytime approaches must end with you asking the girl for an insta-date coffee.
    Yes, you will be very awkward and mechanical at first. But you can quickly improve. Your goal should be to approach a girl in the same way you might approach and talk to your own girlfriend. It has to be very natural, like it's no big deal, like you've known her your own life. You must just assume this vibe and sense of friendship and familiarity right off the bat. It has to be super casual so the girl is not put on guard.
    A great way to practice conversation skills and body language is by chatting with store clerks at the mall. Go find some girl clerks. They are bored most the day and will be happy to talk with you. Try to flirt with them a bit without outright hitting on them. Try to get them to open up about themselves. Try to charm them a bit. Tease them. Wink and smile at them. Tell them some stories about yourself, etc.
    At this point your goal is not even to have sex but simply to become a more social, extroverted, talkative, charismatic person. You can even practice on guys and old ladies. Get good at small-talk and self-expression to strangers. Get good at building rapid social comfort, so people are comfortable around you. So they feel you as a fun friendly guy.
    I love day game. The biggest problem with it is that it's not easy to find a lot of hot girls during the day unless you live near certain great locations. Cities like LA, London, and NYC are amazing for daygame, but most cities aren't.
    The advantage of night is that you get a lot more girls to talk to. And there's possibilities for same night pulls.
    Oh, it's also VERY IMPORTANT that when you approach a girl during the day you stop her and face up to her squarely, face to face. Do not be approaching girls from the back or the side. If she is walking, you must stop her cold by getting her attention. You must face her directly. You must have her full attention before you deliver your opener. Do not be whispering your opener to her side or back as she is walking. Run around her and stop her without scaring her. And you must always open with a smile. If there is a look of fear on your face, she will freak out. Practice that smile like your life depends on it.

  14. How to deal with rejection because of Looks?
    How to deal with rejection because of Looks?
    I have a lot of rejections from girls in real life but also on an online dating platform where I usually  get blocked whenever I reveal my photos. How do you not let that get to yourself? I mean you have to be real with yourself that you start with a huge handicap, I'm already 30 and it feels so hopeless at times.
    Looks wise Ive done everythig I can (good clothes & fit)

  15. How to deal with rejection because of Looks?
    How to deal with rejection because of Looks?
    There are four main ways in which you can meet women:
    - online
    - night game
    - daygame
    - socially
    Pick the one that caters to YOUR strengths. If looks aren't your strength, obviously online dating isn't for you. Just delete all those apps and forget about it. Focus on meeting girls face to face.
    Now, are you more introverted or extroverted? If you're more of an introvert, go for daygame. This means you approach women during the day, anywhere you want: a bus stop, the streets, a coffee shop, a library, a supermarket, etc. You don't need high energy, you don't need friends, you don't need money, all you need is skill. You obtain this skill by practicing a lot, which is the advice you got from Leo.
    If you're extroverted, both night game or social game are where it's at for you. If you have plenty of friends and are a leader, people listen to you and you organize events, parties, stuff like that, then for you it's social game. Girls will flock to you that way.
    If you're just a fun guy but not a leader of men, then night game is for you. Go out to bars and clubs and approach women.
    Whichever you pick, just stick to it and become good at it. You will suck in the beginning. So what? How does anybody ever learn anything? By sucking in the beginning. Then try again and again until you no longer suck.

  16. Eating seafood
    Eating seafood
    @Max_V Keep in mind that people have different genetics which leads to significant differences in the detox pathways of heavy metals. If you have the right genes you might detox 90% of heavy metals naturally. If you have the wrong genes you might detox only 20%.
    You can actually get your DNA tested for various methylation genes.
    My methylation genes are not the best, so I have to be more careful.
    Don't underestimate how big of a role genetics plays in diet and health questions. It is THE key factor.

  17. Is DMSA a supplement or a drug?
    Is DMSA a supplement or a drug?
    @Leo Gura
    What about this Leo
     


  18. Pulling her home during NIGHTGAME
    Pulling her home during NIGHTGAME
    @museumoftrees If you want to specialize in quick pulls, just show up to the venue at 1 hour before closing time.
    But you are scraping the bottom of the barrel here.

  19. Good style for looking attractive? (Pick-up)
    Good style for looking attractive? (Pick-up)
    True.
    Except, almost everyone is a lazy fuck, so almost everyone is vanilla and mediocre. So trying hard will get you amazing results.
    "I rejected that guy because he had style" said no woman ever.

  20. Kinda upset that most guys I find attractive are taken
    Kinda upset that most guys I find attractive are taken
    Simple: meet more guys.
    It's a numbers game.
    Your numbers are too low for luck to roll your way. Luck is a huge factor in dating so you need to stack the deck in your favor.

  21. Are green people really cognetively superior to blue people?
    Are green people really cognetively superior to blue people?
    There are many levels to Green. Many people's Green runs only skin deep, as beliefs and ideology. It's like a Green veneer. It takes a lot of inner work to reach solid Green. You can't reach solid Green merely through adopting liberal beliefs.
    Few Democrats are solid Green. They are mostly Orange with a Green veneer. But most people don't know any better. So we get this wolf in sheep's clothing effect -- as seen with the corporate Dems.
    Never forget, there are always devils around who will try to convince the world that they are one color when they are actually a few colors lower. This makes understanding Spiral Dynamics a bit tricky. You have to really develop a keen eye.
    For example, Trump seems Orange, but he's got a solid Red foundation with a bunch of Orange veneer. And it fools A LOT of smart people, not to mention the dumb ones. So watch out for fakers.
    To be at solid Green requires not just beliefs but an opening of the heart. You have to really empathize with other beings around the world. This cannot be faked. It's an honest signal. And yes, good education in a highly developed society can help you to open your heart. Good education is not merely book-smarts.

  22. Are green people really cognetively superior to blue people?
    Are green people really cognetively superior to blue people?
    Lets say we have two persons - one is (mainly) blue and one is green.
    On average, their values of the both are a result of their family, environment and education, and were given to them with a spoon directly to their mouth.
    So, Why that the green one will be superior cognetively? He is not. He has not built by himself any more complex neurological pathways because of his values, he was not sweating more, he just has given its values as a content or as a story.
    Yes, in both sides there are people who are more autodidact and may have superiority in cognition because they develop their brain by themselves, but than can happen pretty equally (statistically) with the both colors, so this parameter offsets itself.

  23. Learning to have sex without getting attached as a woman
    Learning to have sex without getting attached as a woman
    Emotions trump reason. Welcome to being human.

  24. The 5-MeO-DMT Mega-Thread
    The 5-MeO-DMT Mega-Thread
    Cause I'm not interested in an intimate connection with a shaman.
    The shaman adds nothing to the experience. The partner does.

  25. Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator
    Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator
    It's shocking how dead-on this description fits me: http://personalityjunkie.com/the-intp/
    Lol, check!