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  1. @Recursoinominado You’re not wrong, only thing you’re wrong about is what you think this thread is about. This thread has NOTHING to do with ME, and for some reason you don’t understand that. I’m NOT complaining about anything. I told you so many times but its like talking to a brick wall.
  2. @Recursoinominado You’re still not getting the point. You’re ASSUMING I’m complaining, you’re ASSUMING I’m stuck. You’re ASSUMING I don’t have a solution. Do you know what assumptions are? Clearly not.
  3. @Recursoinominado I already made my points clear but its like it you didn’t read anything I said. You seem to have me all figured out, great job detective! I have you all figured out too, if someone starts a thread on how social media can be unhealthy you automatically assume they’re bitching and looking for problems. If Leo does a video on female psychology then that definitely means he’s bitching about it. And psychologists too are only interested in bitching about how human psychology works. Lol stop replying, please. Nothing you say is helpful you’re just being a jerk. I’m not looking for problems, this is a just discussion on a specific topic. There must some deeper reason why you’re getting so heated about this topic, which I don’t really care about if there is.
  4. No, but it ties in with the fact that this whole discussion is about, which is “online dating is basically useless.” For example I list reasons why that’s the case from the article, and on top of that, the dating app algorithm is designed to put free members at a severe disadvantage in comparison to paid members. You don’t even acknowledge this in your point you just say girls choose 5% of guys with a better profile, that has nothing to do with the apps taking people’s money. Tell me what makes you think I’m bitching about it even though I said I’m not? Plus I even admit to my lack of success with online dating apps so I’m not bitching. This is just a topic for discussion, to understand the psychology behind it all. That’s what we all come to these forums for, to understand how certain things work. Plus I’m just sharing something I found valuable. You’re assuming things about me and what I’m saying through a forum post, just like what everyone else does on these forums. If you’re going to assume, based on what you’re saying I assume you STILL didn’t read the article. If you actually read it then you would understand the whole point of this thread and actually start to make some good points of your own based on what was said in the article.
  5. @Recursoinominado I was actually searching on Google for an explanation on why women find me more attractive in person rather than online. Trying to fully understand why that's the case, then I found this article. Confirmation bias? Sure I guess, if you want to call it that. I won't deny that I struggle with online dating, its surely is difficult and it really fucks me up. Its not healthy. I consider myself to be an above average looking male, maybe a 7/10, and I rarely match with the girls that I swipe right on. I only match with females I find to be average, then I honestly don't even message them. Maybe 5-10% of the time I match with a girl I find attractive. Over 5 years of using Tinder, I've probably only matched with under 10 hot girls who were down for me but I fucked it up with bad text game. Two of them gave me a lot of chances but I just fucked it. Tinder just makes me realize I suck at talking to women over text. But I'm not here to complain, just here to understand the psychology of this question and understand how dating apps are designed. Something tells me you didn't read the article, it talks about how dating apps are designed to get your money. Read my post above, the algorithm is designed to decrease your visibility over time, making you compete with members who are willing to pay for premium services. So I'm also commenting and agreeing on that point, its not like this thread is about me complaining about how dating apps don't work.
  6. Pretty much replying to everyone here, but a really good point that the article makes is the fact that because of how our biology works and interacts with the technology, men are at a disadvantage. Men are visual, women are interpersonal. Within' seconds a guy will decide whether or not he's attracted to a woman based on her photos and swipe right. Women on the other hand of course judge a guy based on his looks but mainly look for an attractive personality, social status, etc. With that being said, it takes quite a bit for a woman to decide to swipe right, but of course she's probably not instantly hooked yet once she matches with a guy, she wants to know what he's like over a text conversation. Another good point that the article makes is that text is weak. Texting just doesn't give the girl the full picture of what your personality is like, its literally just words on a phone screen. She can't read body language, verbal cues, eye contact, etc. which I would say helps the girl find attraction for a guy. Overall, this makes it difficult and frustrating for men to find dates with women. Again, NOT saying online dating doesn't work, people definitely meet through online dating. A good profile, good text game help men get laid and get dates there's no doubt about it. I'm just simply agreeing with the the points made about the psychology/biology of women that make it difficult for women to make a decision about a guy on online dating apps, which as a result leads to a lower chance of success for men. Please read the article guys if you haven't. Another good point I wanted to touch on about dating apps is that the algorithm is designed to make you spend money on their premium services. One thing I noticed about Tinder is that when you create a new account, you appear at the top of the list of guys shown to women in your area. As you continue to swipe and use the app, over time your visibility decreases. That's why they have "Boost" options for $3.79 or "Tinder Gold," some shit like that. As a free member you're basically being put at the bottom of the list and competing with men who create new accounts and men who pay for boosts, and girls have to keep swiping until they get through all the paid members/new accounts to get to the free members who have been on the app for a while. Kinda fucked up isn't it. If you haven't seen this, here's a good Tinder experiment video on Youtube made a while back. They created two real profiles of an attractive male and an attractive female. Guess who got the most messages and matches? You guessed it right, the female. Out of 1000 right swipes on each profile, the man had a 27% match rate while the woman had a 70% match rate. Here's the video:
  7. I won't say too much about it, but this article basically explains how all these online dating apps are carefully designed to get your money (guys mainly), how girls have the upper hand when it comes to online dating, and how psychologically unhealthy it is for both sexes to use dating apps. After reading this article, I realized that online dating is pretty much pointless for men, perhaps even for both sexes. Not saying they don't work, of course people meet through dating apps, but just read it yourself and it just makes you not want to use any dating apps at all and to meet women in person instead. For women, dating apps just gives them a false sense of what their worth is in the dating world when they see they have 100+ likes and hundreds of matches. As a result they most likely will search for the best man they can get, when in reality he probably doesn't exist. Here's the article: https://www.mediavsreality.com/mediavsreality/2018/10/30/why-online-dating-drives-men-crazy
  8. @Romer02 Any comment on my advice? I understand you want to move out but maybe that desire to move out could serve as motivation to work on your financial independence first. Potentially work to create some sort of income at your parents place first, then look to move out second. If you only move out without creating that source of income first, then you may not have that motivation anymore to create it. The job might get too comfortable for you then you might end up in a situation of staying at that job, or job to job in order to support your lifestyle. I don't know what your situation at home is like to make you feel the need to move out, but I can assure you my situation at home might be similar or even worse. Won't say too much about it but luckily its not an abusive household, but I live in low-income housing with my parents and siblings. This just gives me such a strong desire to move out, I want to be on my own. So I can understand where you're coming from. I actually wanted to move out at 19 years old but that was an ego thing, I'm 24 now and I still live here, 25 in two months. But I realized that I need to be more realistic, and understand that I need to create a reliable source of income first so that I could move out without any worries. So now I focus more on understanding money psychology. How money works, how to manage it, how to invest it, building good money habits basically. Moving out for $1K+/month just doesn't make any sense when you could use that money to create more money, which is more important than your desire to move out. In my opinion there's no good reason to move out in our situations other than if family/parents are toxic or abusive. That's the only reason I would say is a good idea to try to move out. But if you live rent free at home with parents, perfect. That gives you an opportunity to save some money up.
  9. Sounds like a very similar situation that a friend of mine is in. He's 21, doing deliveries with Skip The Dishes for side money, graduated recently, studied economics, lives with roommates, and studying Forex trading with me. My situation I'm 24, trying to move out parent's place as well, collecting money from the government, got money saved up and studying trading as much as I can. I'm doing my best to teach my friend everything I know about Forex because I've been in it for a while and he's new to it. My advice would be to maybe do the same, earn your side money, then do your best to put your free time into practicing and learning options trading. Trading is a long-term game, those who stick to it and put in the time will be rewarded. As for funding a trading account, I'm not sure about options but try to find a company that funds experienced traders. In Forex they have prop firms that funds traders internationally with $10K-$300K accounts for a $500-$1500 fee. I honestly want to move out of my parents place as fast as I can but it might be a good idea not to rush it. Even though I'm not too happy here, its important to have your finances figured out first before moving out. Personally I pay $320 a month to live with my family which is really cheap, location is great. Moving out would be double or triple that, and I would have to worry about living with random people. Not sure what its like in your country/city, but finding a 1 bedroom suite/apt to live on your own costs over $1k/month, that's a little too much. If you get a full-time job just so you can move out and live on your own without figuring out your finances or achieving financial independence (assuming one of your goals is financial independence), then you're kind of getting yourself stuck in a trap of worrying about and paying rent. And you'll barely have the time to study options or whatever else it is you wanna do. There's a lot of money traps out there that people fall into so its pretty important to be aware of that. Getting married, having kids, having pets, debt, etc. etc. Leo's video on Money Psychology is a good one. Not much I can say about finding a job, that's dependent on what skills you have or what you're naturally good at. I'm sure there's a lot of jobs that don't require experience. For example, kitchen jobs pay pretty well to those without experience. Hope this helped at least a little bit.
  10. @Annoynymous 1. Has somewhat of value to me, $50 is what I'd spend on groceries. Not a full basket of groceries but maybe enough to feed me for a week or two. 2. Small 3. Buy groceries/food. Or its close to what I pay for a month at the gym. 4. Careless. I often lose/profit more than this in 2-4 hours, trading markets. 5. Honestly, interestingly enough its a little too much if giving away to others. I like making use of every single penny, its just about being smart with my money, I wouldn't say its selfishness even though others may think it is. And I've learned that when you give, people tend to keep asking for more. If its friends/family and they're in desperate need for it then of course. If its a random homeless person on the streets sorry its a bit much.
  11. @Leo Gura We all learn from experience. 1st time I took one tab it felt weak like a marijuana high, 2nd time increased it to two tabs but it was too strong I had a bad trip. This time I lowered it to one tab again and had no idea it was gonna hit me like a truck. Picked it up from the same dealer.
  12. @Leo Gura Oh well I still experienced death and healed some past trauma. I don't understand why there's "little point" to that, that's pretty significant is it not?
  13. @Leo Gura How could I know what's happening if I lost my sense of self?