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  2. Posted

    10 hours ago, Vision said:

    @Anirban657 What medication were you prescribed? How long did you have to take it for to get cured?

    It feels kind of surreal to see anecdotes like these. I’ve only had negative experiences with the medication they gave me. I think they are a hit or miss. A common cause of anhedonia from what I’ve seen on the subreddit is SSRIs. 

    @Vision I had psychosis and bipolar disorder with depression and suicidal ideations. At the time,4-5years ago when the doctor diagnosed me with anhedonia I was having mania. They prescribed me 5-6medicines which I don’t remember the name. But they prescribed me medicines for anhedonia. Right now I am taking anti-psychotics, anti-depressants and other medicines as per prescription by doctors. 
    I would say in 2-3months from prescription I felt much better. From severe depression I finished my high schooling and joined college and overcome my severe social anxiety and despair. 
    Anhedonia was there because of depression. Once the depression is cured, anhedonia won’t exist. 
    I would say don’t worry about anhedonia all by yourself. See a good doctor and let them take care of you. Have faith in the doctor and trust the process.

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    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    All fear is overcome by facing it. Face the thing you fear to realize that it's not so bad.

    @Leo GuraI am taking baby steps towards facing my fear. Recently I was having problems calling the college for some inquiry, so instead of calling them I emailed them. I got a reply. But things like going to the market to buy vegetables alone. There are street dogs in the street and I am scared. So I am going for walks to the market with my sister. The psychotherapist I am seeing now is guiding me with exposing myself slowly to the fear. 
     

    12 hours ago, JoeVolcano said:

    When you get confronted with rude people that trigger your social anxiety, that anxiety envelops you in a stiffling cloud of contracted emotional energy. Isn't that right?

    When you have some time to yourself, you can trigger this same emotion by replaying or imagining such scenarios in your mind, even exaggerating them if you want to go all the way with it.

    When you do this in a safe space where nothing will disturb you and you know nothing bad can happen, you can light up this emotion and practice feeling it in or around your body. Turning your attention toward it instead of away from it.

    What gets triggered is pent up emotional energy that wants to be released. And that is how you release it. It can take some time, practice, and perhaps several sessions, and it may not be pleasant, but sooner or later you will have processed through a particular anxiety.

    You'll know this has happened when you can no longer trigger it, and you don't even really know anymore what made those scenarios in your mind so bad. The whole gestalt falls apart. All the charge will have been taken out of it, permanently.

    So the short answer for how to deal with any kind of emotion, is by lighting it up, and turning toward the feeling in your body, instead of away from it.

    Cheers

    Thanks! I understand what you are trying to say. I read about a similar technique in Psycho-cybernetics. I will apply it. 
     

    43 minutes ago, Mormegil said:

    Very sorry to hear that. The key is to do little baby steps with the confrontation. You don't need to achieve some sort of moral victory against the next bully right away.

    Maybe one small sentence at first like "I don't like how you treat me." or something like this. Or if talking is still too much, maybe just walk away next time someone is rude to you to express your discontent in that way and see how it makes you feel.

    Outside of these situations you can work on building more self-esteem and self-worth. Excersize, meditate, be kind and loving to yourself. Overtime you will slowly get the courage to  call people out if they disrespect you, simply because you have enough respect for yourself.

    All the best!

    Thanks! Very interesting! I am moving forward with baby steps. I guess I will have to face the fear and start saying “I don’t like how you treat me” more often.

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    I think this is it. This is the root cause of my social anxiety.

    I was bullied as a child and my mother brought me up till age 8 and then my father came into my life actively. But in childhood, I was bullied and I have no one who told me to face those bullies. I just came home, and complained to my mom who complained to the teacher at school and the teacher took care of the bully. 

    But the fear of confrontation still lives in me. It's costing me my education, my career, my love life,etc. 

    I live in a 3rd world country called India where people are not pleasant. I have to face rude people and this really gets me anxious. 

    If I can confront people and stand up for myself I don't have to manipulate them, I don't have to lie to myself, I don't have to be indirect. 

    I just want to be brave and face those rude powerful people.

    When I force myself to overcome the fear, my mind comes up with excuses like "You can change to another college", "You can get another job", "You can try to get another girlfriend", and when I arrive at the next college and nothing has really changed, I think I was so stupid. The problem is not the world. I am the problem.

    How can I overcome this fear of confrontation?

     

  6. Posted

    On 16/06/2022 at 8:13 PM, Razard86 said:

    Study intuition. That is the answer.

    I don't understand that. Are there books dedicated to studying intuition?

    On 16/06/2022 at 9:38 PM, puporing said:

    Consciously pursue your needs and desires until you are no longer very attached to outcomes. Doesn't mean you don't care when you reach that point, but internally you can reach a point of letting everything go for "yourself". ;) 

    Thanks @puporing . I will keep that in mind.

    On 17/06/2022 at 1:52 AM, itsnutsandbolts said:

    All of the above.

    Also focus on process, not on speed.

    Very interesting. I am bad at focusing on the process. I have to learn to do it better.

    2 hours ago, KoryKat said:

    80% action , 20% theory 

    Use a journal and track your progress... You will see patterns quickly across 4 short entries 

     

    Look for mentor at the level above you.

    Accountability - tell your friend $20 for each day you fail

     

    Might search out barriers to next levels , sticking points common to your level.

     

    Challenge yourself and have fun! Aka Flow States 

     

    S.M.A.R.T daily goal setting

     

    Practice teaching it, when you can teach it like to a 5 yr old, u really got it.

     

    And definitely shift your self-image to see yourself as the person you mean to be

    100% commitment , not 99%

     

    Pump your emotional state 10/10 , like jump around cheering like your team won the tournament and your dream girl said yes to marrying and get that dopamine jacked up to max, peak emotional state  (emotion = motion) 

    Go to sleep and remember your day as if everything you wished for had come true , like instead of imagining your perfect day,  remember it as if you experienced it earlier in the day

     

     

    Various techniques , don't overload yourself, (general rule of thumb is 2 habits per 30 days or so)

     

     

    I journal almost everyday but never read them back for introspection. I also suck at SMART goal setting. I love the pumping your emotional state part but it will be super uncomfortable. Negative thinking always stops me from working on my self image. Thanks @KoryKat !

  7. Posted

    2 hours ago, Yarco said:

    Move away from the things I've highlighted in red, and move toward the things I've highlighted in green.

    Understood. 

     

    2 hours ago, Yarco said:

    In the Life Purpose Course like you said, money is considered a toxic value. You didn't quite do the exercise right, because you're supposed to discard all toxic values and replace them with a higher conciousness value.

    I would recommend re-doing all the Values Assessment sections of the course. This time, don't allow yourself to answer money or wealth for anything, and see how your outcome changes.

    Okay I will.

    2 hours ago, Yarco said:

    You have to figure out how these crazy ideas got into your head, and acknowledge that they are totally unattainable and impractical. Where did the number 100,000 come from instead of starting with 10 or 100 apartments? 

    I was writing about 40 year goals. Actually you are right. They are impractical.

    2 hours ago, Yarco said:

    I had the same problem when I started off, I really wanted to own a Lamborghini. Then the more I researched, the more I realized Lambos are actually pretty shitty unreliable cars, constantly having problems. I could spend $100k on a car and still have it break down in a parking lot just like a $2000 car, why would I want that? Then I have to also worry about the extra stress of someone stealing or damaging it. Plus I don't even drive that much or enjoy driving. It was all just an idea put in my head by society, not what I actually wanted.

    So relatable.

    38 minutes ago, Bobby_2021 said:

    Bro go make a million. 

    Why do you say that? 

  8. Posted

    Hi I am 22 years old from India. And I am  just starting to earn money and commit to a career. No romantic relationships yet. No physical possessions. 
    How do I grow through the Maslow’s hierarchy of needs in the fastest way possible ?

    I am asking this because I see wise people in this forum writing and I am unable to understand anything. 
     

    If I could grow through the hierarchy,maybe I could understand they and Leo’s wisdom.

  9. Posted

    @NickH Thanks Nick! I realized that those desires of luxury are not my own. They are picked up from society. And I don't have many luxury goals that can't be just replaced with a cost effective alternative. I will be focused on my higher consciousness values. 

    You know after you wrote about "burning through your karma", I immediately went to write my goals and plan for a 10years journey of burning through karma. But the first 2 goals and the only luxurious goals were "Buy a Gulfstream jet" and "have 100,000 apartments under real estate management" but those don't evoke any inspiring feelings in me at all. The 3rd goal was "Have an understanding girlfriend" which I think is possible without making millions of dollars. The 4th goal was have happy children of my own, which also did not require a million dollars. So I dropped the idea of luxury fully.

    I might look back to this day and think that I might not be able to talk to the business friend of mine who chased money all the time but I don't think I will regret not having lived a luxurious life.

    My true goals have nothing to do with a million dollars. After all it's not like I won't have income without chasing a million dollars. I will still make decent money writing copy for higher conscious brands. I will focus on my copywriting which writing is my passion and do copywriting in a conscious marketing manner for higher consciousness brands. Thanks again.

  11. Posted

    I am 22 years old from India. I learning copywriting and will copywriting in higher consciousness niches. Consciousness is surely one of my values. But money is also a value for me although Leo said in the Life Purpose Course something about money not being a  healthy value or something like that.

    My starting niche is decided in the men’s personal development/coaching niche but I know that I won’t be a millionaire anytime soon with a higher consciousness niche like that.

    I want to be a millionaire and invest in real estate and have multi million dollar of passive income but I feel like that would mean sacrificing my values of consciousness, conscious marketing , freedom to do something meaningful in life.

    My friend who has 4+ businesses in India and abroad says I have a tendency to choose niches that people don’t want to buy because in my last e-commerce business I screwed up by choosing meaningful niches instead of money-making niches. He has a lot of money and he has good intentions for my future as we were  friends in high school. But his value is money and my value is consciousness. He is telling me to stop copywriting, complete college and get a job as a copywriter to learn from a big experienced company which I won’t do. It goes against my values of freedom.
     

    Also according to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs , I live with my parents, I don’t have any income and I have not completed college, I am pretty much at the 2nd bottom tier.

    What do you think? What do you think about values? Do you think I should go for higher consciousness values or lower consciousness money-making values? Do you think I should do copywriting for higher consciousness brands or lower consciousness brands? Should I do copywriting at all or go back to college so so I can get a job and learn from a company to eventually earn more money? Should I sacrifice my values ? Or should I make a million dollar which won’t make me happy at all?

    Thanks!

  12. Posted

    On 12/3/2022 at 2:54 AM, Alex_R said:

    There are several people who have overcome extreme social anxiety and became successful in content creating and sales while achieving high levels of social skills, Leo gura, rsd tayler (owen cook) are good examples, but there are a lot of people like that if you search them.

    The only think you need to do is to grind it out and approach 100++ strangers to overcame your fears. You will build your confidence like a muscle, there is no secret.

     

    Also high doses of Psychedelics will help you with this giving you another point of view about your shyness.

     

     

    Remember that facing and overcome fears are mandatory to complete the maslows hierarchy of needs and having a fulfilling life, if you avoid this work you will regret it when you got older.

     

    On 12/3/2022 at 3:00 AM, Alex_R said:

    Just find another coach or cognitive therapist who encourages you and make a plan, approach 5 strangers a day and build your confidence slowly, make a goal to join a public speaking group like toastmasters and keep grinding it. 

    @Alex_R Thanks for your amazing perspective! I will definitely think about changing my counsellor.

    On 12/3/2022 at 3:16 AM, JonasVE12 said:

    Look at the fearless man youtube channel. That channel is all about overcoming your fears and limitations around social interactions. It is mostly centered around dating though, but it can be applied to getting better socially in general. Not just with women. 

     

    @JonasVE12 Thanks! I will watch the full video. It is pretty interesting.

    8 hours ago, flowboy said:

    Your counsellor is an idiot.

    Saying this with love.

    He's coming at this from what is called a "fixed mindset" - which means that you assume that you can not change.

    Things are just the way they are, better accept them, and that kind of nonsense.

    Whereas that's a great idea for external problems you can do nothing about, it's terrible to treat internal issues that way.

    Here's my life philosophy:

    1. Find out what you really, really, really want
    2. Then go for that and solve any problem that's in your way

    Anything else won't result in happiness. And I know this not only from my experience, but also my clients'.

    Social anxiety is part of your Hero's Journey apparently. It's the monster you have to slay to free the princess and marry her!

    The question is: will you accept the call?

    @Anirban657

    @flowboy Your perspective makes things very clear. This is amazing. Thanks!

     

    4 hours ago, Ulax said:

    This is gold

    @Ulax Couldn’t agree more!

  14. Posted

    4 hours ago, Rokazulu said:

    You can overcome anything.

    @Rokazulu Can I become a master social person like Steve Jobs even if I have social anxiety from my teenage years?

    4 hours ago, JonasVE12 said:

    Maybe first decide if you really want to work on this seriously and then come back for guidance on the next step. 

    @JonasVE12 Yes I want to work on this seriously because I have to overcome social anxiety because it is ruining my social life. 

    4 hours ago, JonasVE12 said:

    The first step is to look for teachers.


    As you said that to look for teachers. What kind of teachers? 

  16. Posted

    Background for my situation- I did the life purpose course 5 years ago and at that time I discovered that my top values is impact, awareness and service and my top strength is love of learning. At that time I was in high school and what my exact career was not clear. 
     

    Now I am 22years old and I am about to finish my undergraduate course in English. And before yesterday I wanted to study Law and become a lawyer because I want to be a politician. But I have crippling social anxiety. 

    And yesterday I paid a career counsellor to help me understand my career paths better. She said “because you have social anxiety, law is a big ‘NO’”. 
     

    I am confused.

    Till now I have been taking action like signed up for a sales insurance internships which by the way I could not even start due to social anxiety. I started an online business which only generated only $100 in a year. I started a YouTube channel (35subs) which I am not able to upload videos consistently because I don’t want to show my face but I don’t have any good content ideas. 
     

    My counsellor said-

    That because I have social anxiety I should not go to mainstream careers like sales or lawyer or marketing or insurance or journalism. I should do linguistics, cyber law, digital marketing or something related to computer science.

    I want to be a leader in managing and moving people through movements whether political or business. 

    Is it not possible to overcome social anxiety permanently?

    I guess it is possible but there is a lot of inner work.

    I have read How to win friends and influence people but I feel so anxious getting out of my house and so unwilling to attend social events. I feel so lonely in the crowd of “friends”.

    So basically my question is should I let social anxiety be a reason to decide which career I should choose? Should I give up from social anxiety or fight it? Should I choose computational linguistics because I have social anxiety or should I try to follow my passion for law?

  17. Posted

    I have been following Leo since 2015 and I have watched hundreds of his videos and got immense help from his videos. But I almost always misunderstand his spiritual teachings.

    For example the notion of “Nothingness” is not easy to understand. I don’t seem to understand it at all. At one point I thought it means total annihilation of existence and total black darkness of the physical world. And I know it’s not what I think. It can’t be anything I think. I have to experience it by actually doing the consciousness self-actualization work. 
     

    How to not misunderstand Leo’s advanced spiritual teachings?

  18. Posted

    53 minutes ago, Martynas777 said:

    It took me about 2 weeks to get my first hits of higher consciousness, I felt amazing.

    @Martynas777 First of all increasing your level of consciousness is not a “hit” like hit of pleasure or high. And it has nothing to do with feeling amazing. You can become more aware of your inner states and emotions but it’s not a drug.

    It looks like you are pursuing a high or hits of pleasure or feelings. Consciousness is none of those. 
     

    57 minutes ago, Martynas777 said:

    Well, I'm only like 2 weeks in this and I made so much progress already, how far can I go? 

    What progress did you make? What did you realise?

     

    57 minutes ago, Martynas777 said:

    At first I was doing about 30 minutes of basic meditation per day, but then I discovered this "strong determination sitting" technique. When I did it for the first time, it was simply amazing. After that, my "spiritual gains" stopped. I did 1 to 3 hours of strong determination sitting a day for a couple of months and couldn't get any further. I got used to this slightly elevated state and it felt regular. Still felt pretty good, but honeymoon was over.

    Again you ramped up the meditation from 30mins to 3hours because your “spiritual gains” stopped. What spiritual gains are you referring to? And just because you stopped getting the “spiritual gains” why would you jump from 30 mins to 3hours?

     

    1 hour ago, Martynas777 said:

    Day after day, this sense of darkness got stronger and stronger, and I felt way worse than ever before for no reason and felt 100% disconnected from "source energy".

    I would tell you to stop the meditation for a few days and see if your condition improves.

    1 hour ago, Martynas777 said:

    I went to one of the best psychologists in my country, he's 70 years old, working since 1985, has buddha's statues all over his desk and shit, and after a couple of visits, he admitted that he has no idea how he can help me. He told me that it would be a good idea to see an exorcist, I did that, but he didn't find anything. 

    Do you have family members? Spend time with them and get out of your house and enjoy life and stop meditation for a few days. 
     

    Also read books on meditation from Leo’s Book list or best selling books on meditation. Read about the dark night of the soul. 
     

    I am saying this because I also take Prozac and I have been through some tough psychologically disturbing episodes due to excessive meditation. 
     

    I am not discouraging your pursuit of Truth and consciousness. I am saying make sure you are not chasing the wrong thing like a sense of pleasure or high without even being aware.

    Take care!

  20. Posted

    11 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    You have to design a transitional bridge.

    There's nothing wrong with spending a few years building up a biz to generate capital to fund your ultimate calling. That's usually what's required.

    Or you could do something like a conscious clothing biz. Clothing for conscious or spiritual people.

    But in general if you racked your mind you could brainstorm dozens of different business ideas which are somehow related to your values and to helping people raise consciousness. You have to get creative here. There are hundreds of possible ideas. You should do serious research and brainstorming.

    @Leo Gura Wow that’s a great idea. Conscious clothing. I have make sure the cloth manufacturing process is of less pollution and sustainable by choosing the least polluting fabrics. Also I will need to make sure the kind of clothing is solving a problem that is going to bring a positive change for people and the planet. Then I have to create the product and market it in a convincing way. I read about a Tshirt made of living microorganisms that looks like normal tshirts and it decomposes when buried in the soil.

  21. Posted

    8 hours ago, SageModeAustin said:

    Ever since I started aligning myself with Jesus Christ's principles, my life has been transforming for the better. My relationships improved, my self confidence, i exercise way more and actually do it right, my relationship with this woman has improved i can experience genuine love, my relationship with my family has improved, girls have been quite literally throwing themselves at me, no-fap is consistent and i am able to conquer lust on a daily basis like its just a passing allergy. I just feel way better than I did before where i was trying to figure everything out on my own. Crazy. 

    @SageModeAustin Great! Make sure the results are consistent not for a few weeks but months and years every day.

  24. Posted

    Hi, this is Anirban here from India. I watched the Life Purpose course 5 years ago and I found my values and strengths.  But I do not understand my exact life purpose. My values are contribution,awareness and service. My strengths are hope,creativity, appreciation of beauty, and gratitude.

    I sometimes sit down and write my life at the age of 60. I am 21 by the way. I get all kinds of inspirational ideas of helping people and truth seekers become more conscious. 
    But then I realise I myself need to find truth first. But to go to a consciousness retreat costs money which I don’t have much. 
    And that’s why I am back to finding my life purpose and feeling frustrated.

    I wonder how can I integrate helping people become more conscious and having an income. I don’t like to read books. I feel ADD. So I watch videos. 

    I don’t know. I am already starting a clothing business and will have to do heavy sales and marketing. 
     

    Do you have any ideas of how to switch from a completely money focused business to meaningful business?