BlessedLion

I'll add emotional stability, having worked through all your traumas and shadow stuff, but also not getting lost in that world

I truly believe that in life if you are in good health and have drive, you can manifest and create whatever you want with enough hard work and discipline. The question isn't whether or not that's possible, but what actually are the proper things to work towards in life. I feel like most people just go for unconscious programming without questioning it much, this channel has helped me get clear on what the proper things to desire in life are. I also notice a lot of online views are conflicting regarding this question, many seem to place high import on money, but typically making a lot of money, like "fuck you" level money requires a ton of emotional and time investment that could be used for other things like spirituality, understanding, rest, contemplation, yoga, excercise, dating, etc. On the other hand many spiritual teachers just say go all in on awakening and Being, but this is too simple an answer imo. Here are the things i think are actually worth working towards in life: -Quality social relationships (4/5 good close friends) (building this) -Dating and Attraction Skills -Sexual skill and mastery, being able to have great sex and be an incredible lover -Social skills and confidence -Speaking, thinking, and articulation skills -Awareness, knowing your true nature as Nothing (Who am I?) -Consciousness, becoming conscious of reality and metaphysical questions -Pursing mastery in a domain in life -Knowledge and understanding , reading 100s of books and creating a nueral map of how things interrelate -Moving up spiral dynamics (development, mastery, growth) -Learning what you Authentically want without societies influence (ie- do I want kids, marriage, career, house, etc) -Financial independence, not being tied to anyone or dependent, able to walk away from anyone or any situation -Strength, flexibility, endurance, power, skill, hitting the gym and having a healthy and ripped physique -Being able to fight/defend yourself -Having fun expereinces, partying, dancing, laughing, not being too serious or a robot -Finding and fulfilling your life purpose -Creating a body of creative work -Having clean habits, like meditation, yoga, walks in nature and mastering getting rid of detrimental ones like porn. coffee, booze, scrolling -Having a calm energy and stable nervous system -Getting high quality coaching on skills you want to learn What else?

I think it can be a useful metric early on because to get laid you have be doing something right, unless you're just banging ugly girls (even then), you have to be charsimatic, centered, masculine, able to lead, fun, have courage, and be good with people to get someone in bed. Not saying it is the ultimate truth but there is a correlation between body count and social skills and probably success in general i would guess. Again, not a fact, but correlation. Also, you can learn a lot about different styles, energies, and vibes in sex. If you've only had say 6 sexual partners, your view of what's possible and what you might resonate with is quite limited. And i don't mean in just a way of trying new things out with the same person, women have quite a range of sexual expression and energies which you only discover through sex. Overall i think it teaches you a lot, but wearing it like some badge for your ego is pretty cringe. I also think it does something to you, as a man it changes you in a fundamental way. You sleep with 100+ women that's going to change you in potent ways that otherwise couldn't happen.

I don't know, i think anyone willing to sell their bodies and sexuality for money (especially when they don't really need to) is fundamentally pretty fucked up. I will give this a listen though, i'm sure he has some insights

This.... I feel the whole "marrying myself" thing comes from narcissism and insecurity... people say things like "I deserve only someone who loves me as much as I love me." Without thinking about how they can actually be a high value and good partner, it's all about judging and expecting the world of others who have the honor of being in your amazing presence. Cool, have fun being sexless and alone

However i will say, I live in Bali, and it is packed with beautiful women- in fact i've never seen anything like it, my gym club looks like a fucking Victoria Secret bikini haul. There is certainly competition and lots of the men their have their shit together, but still it's quite evened out and a good ratio, i've been having success

More for us I guess (the Men who actually have balls)

Who would've thought doing a bunch of drugs leads to bad things happening in your life. Wish him the best, but people simply don't respect their minds or the power of substances enough, shit is no joke. You guys with your psychedelics are no exception

I've heard that this is the reason it can actually help with things like porn, alcohol, caffeine, and gambling addiction becuase it tampers with your reward system, which is good for cutting out those bad habits or at best creating a riff so you get a few months free enough to stop yourself, but also i worry that it would also tamper with rewards you get from intimacy, life purpose, excercise, and meditation.

That's why i find it so silly when people say they are holding off on conciousness work while they pursue material reality. Its' like "yeah, i prefer to suffer and remain ignorant during my peak cognitive and vital years." Then there is this idea that at age 50 or 60 they are magically going to have all this free time and energy to do long intensive meditation retreats like bro at that age your biggest goals will be an afternoon nap and daily excercise. Also, the mind will be so deeply rutted into it's ways that changing anything will require 10X the work and effort. That said, for the record, Ralston is no late bloomer, he had his first enlightenment in his 20s and spend his whole life pursuing consciousness.

who knows what he's actually conscious of, it's all speculation

I understand this sentiment, but I think the 2 can co-exist. It's kind of a cartoonish idea that spirituality (consciousness work) and the material world have to exist seperately. The material world can be the best training ground for dissolving your ego and enhancing Love. Dating for example will bring up all our traumas and fears and we can work with it to become more conscious and free, far more effective than sitting in a cave. If you have that deep desire to do consciousness work i wouldn't hold out on it, integrate it into your material pursuits. This is what i am doing right now. Raising your consciousness will only make your life better. Not to brag, but my ability to manifest effectively what i want in life these days is ridiculous- money, sex, fitness, is all a breeze these days and i can still stay rooted in that truth of consciousness and play God's game well. The consciousness work helps, or else i'd be lost in craving, projection, ego which only gets in the way of actually being effective. I was a bit sad to see Leo's disullisonment post, becuase i don't think that what this work is about. It's meant to make life more full and meaningful not empty and meaningless. The whole thing is God's game, so love it and play it. Idk, just an idea. It's not like the highest "spiritual" achievment is to just be sitiing at home not wanting or doing anything, the whole thing is consciousness, go play, make it meaninful, make it fun

Just saw the post on Ramana Maharshi, I miss these types of posts and content, it seems to be the most important thing to focus on. The world has always been and probably always will be corrupt, chaotic, and disgusting, but uncovering yourself as God seems to be the most important venture. It's funny because i just posted a video on how social media is destructive and sighted Ramana (along with Ralston and Wilber) as examples of men who would never have a social media page because they would just see it for what it is: Ego worship. Whereas most men who obsess over something like an instagram account are actually quite feminine in their doing that.

Most if not all of my past lovers have at least one tattoo, it's pretty common these days especially in Stage Green communities. I think they are sexy and a cool way to express yourself, kinda silly to make a generalization about them. Personally I love tatted baddies

Sorry to hear this man, it's crazy how addictive and tricky those gambling sites/apps can be. It's a good reminder to be content with what you have, live simple and once having the basics covered just being okay with it. The trap of "just a litte more would really lock me in" is a sticky one