BlessedLion

Looksmaxxing is the male version of annorexia and i blame social media. Guys think they need to look like 6 foot chads with chiseled jaws to attract, when that is only a small fraction of what attracts

I grew up in America, but left to work remote about 10 years ago and only visited for short periods of time, most of my friends are international. Honestly, I don't really even identify with being American much anymore, and i find it to be quite a cringe culture. When i watch the American news updates (which is very rare) it just makes me so grateful that i don't live there anymore. I have no plans to ever go back, i find that i fit in much better with different cultures and mindsets. Wish America all the best, but yeah no way i'm going back there, it took so much work to break out of that mindset and conditioning.

Come to Bali it's literally over flooded with beautiful women, i don't even react or look twice anymore

Fitness, Dating and Attraction/Social Skills, Meditation/Consciousness, Speaking and Writing skills for YT

Beautiful stuff, thank you!

hollyyy fuccccckkkk the craziest thing is to realize that even this forum chat, the text on it, the "different users", even the wifi, and every pixel and light on my screen is all that same imagination. And that all its made out of is consciousness! It's so fucking precise and consistent it's so delisously devious!

So what is your take on Free Will versus Gods Perfection, because if i eat the poison and use my mind in a foolish way, is that outside of God Perfection? Or if i become more intelligent and use my mind to become a Master of martial arts for example, is that outside of Gods Perfection and something that i manifested? Does Gods Perfection hold the possibilities of me both being an idiot or a master and it's up to me which one to pursue?

I think there is a beauty is allowing people the freedom to do what they want with their bodies and lives. Who is to say that someone cannot be the decider of something like that? Some countries that are developed actually have programs where you can "opt out" in a safe and professionally monitored way with dignity and no shame. Imagine how terrifying it must be do already want to committ suicide then having to figure out a way to do it all by yourself knowing your family and friends are going to hate you for doing it. They do it over a period of months so that it is clear that you are sure about this decision, you do workshops, excercises, talk therapy, but eventually you get to "commit suicide" I also think of people in horrific medical or mental conditions who just want it to stop and have no hope of getting better. Why is suffering through that better than death?

Kinda edgy advice but maybe see an escort just to experience it once and see what it is, get it out of your system. Then you can maybe go about it in the real world in a more relaxed manner. stay safe. that's what i would do if i was still a virgin.

you lost me here lmao

Can we please start discussing dating dynamics in terms of spiral dynamics. I think it'll save a lot of confusion and conflict. Sexuality and attraction has an intelligence and develops like SD systems do.

Dead on. It's actually exhausting. And the saddest part is that if you are playing this game you might actually miss out on the rare woman who doesn't care and wants to know the real you, but she writes you off because you are playing "alpha male i'm above you high status" monkey games.

I've been trying to get more into social circle and hosting events, specifcally for creatives in Bali (people doing creative work) not neccesarily to meet women, but that's not a negative. I do find cold approach to be quite powerful though, because dating/hooking up in your social circle can get messy quick

I also question just how much men bend themselves and do things just to have access to hot women. I mean i've met guys who literally have based their whole lives around this one thing, completely changing their values, interests, activities, and personality so they can be around and date hot women.

I actually totally resonate with this, i feel like there is something really sexy about WOMEN, the maturity, grace, poise, and actual development into a more refined femininity, whereas the typical "20 year old hotties that all men are competing over" are wildly immature, too energetic, have huge egos, low attention spans and very little life experience so they can't talk about deep and nuanced things. I find them boring and childish. Whereas older women, especially single mothers, man something so sexy about that.

Incorrect (IMO). They actually are the same. The problem is most men don't have high attraction skills, it has little do with status. Status helps sure, let's not deny that, but it's not the core of attraction. If all men built their attraction skills, then it would be similar to your example of women (that men will just see a woman as hot for her being hot and not need to compare her to a fat or ugly woman) you see what. I am saying? Women would just see a man as hot becuase the guy is being attractive without needing to compare him to other guys, also if he DIDN'T have attraction skills, she wouldn't see him as hot and it wouldn't matter if there were other guys around. Similar to how we see a woman and know if she is hot or not no matter who else is around her. But even that i would challenge too, because if you were on a desert island with a fat ugly girl in a few weeks she would start looking like Jessica Alba.

This is actually something i've begun to question. I think it's akin to the black pill ideology that women "only want a rich, tall, ripped guy" which just isn't true. Attraction is a skill that can be developed, and when it's all said and done that is what matters. There are guys with tons of money and status who are basically incels and guys who are dead broke but have massive attraction skills. I live in Bali, it's full of ripped rich entreprenuers and lots of the women here see them as corny and girlier than they are. Is there usually a correlation betwen status and sex? Yes, but that is likely because someone who gains status is already displaying the major pillars of attraction - dominance, confidence, frame, security, etc, so it's more like "high status guys get laid not because of their status but because who they are, which also results in status." But this idea that status alone is super attractive can be challenged. There's been many examples i've seen in my own life recently in Bali where I go to some Villa party with 2 girls and the guy throwing the party is shooting his shot (and missing) with one of the girls i came with only for her to leave with me. Or like last night i went to World Cup watch party and was hanging out with the hot Dutch girl that the guy who literally organized the party and was DJing for it was trying to get with. My point is that if you can develop serious attraction skills you can skip all the stupid backwoods ways that guys use to get chicks, like throwing parties, gaining status, making money, imo this is all kinda lame because most of them are just doing it to meet chicks, then the day hits where they realized they lived their whole life around trying to impress women. If you just act in a powerful manner for no reason other than you decided that you are a high value powerful man (regardless of your money, freinds, job, or looks) and changed your whole self concept and show this in your voice, eye contact and playfulness when talking to women you will get more results than the dude organizing parties and shit just to be seen.

That's a solid insight actually, he wants his ego and idea to live on, not his body, so in the most mind fuck-y way he is doing that by using "keep my body alive" to get famous.

i guarantee he's going to die earlier than most people because of all this nuerotic shit he is doing- life is counter intuitive like that

Never trusted this dude

I truly believe that in life if you are in good health and have drive, you can manifest and create whatever you want with enough hard work and discipline. The question isn't whether or not that's possible, but what actually are the proper things to work towards in life. I feel like most people just go for unconscious programming without questioning it much, this channel has helped me get clear on what the proper things to desire in life are. I also notice a lot of online views are conflicting regarding this question, many seem to place high import on money, but typically making a lot of money, like "fuck you" level money requires a ton of emotional and time investment that could be used for other things like spirituality, understanding, rest, contemplation, yoga, excercise, dating, etc. On the other hand many spiritual teachers just say go all in on awakening and Being, but this is too simple an answer imo. Here are the things i think are actually worth working towards in life: -Quality social relationships (4/5 good close friends) (building this) -Dating and Attraction Skills -Sexual skill and mastery, being able to have great sex and be an incredible lover -Social skills and confidence -Speaking, thinking, and articulation skills -Awareness, knowing your true nature as Nothing (Who am I?) -Consciousness, becoming conscious of reality and metaphysical questions -Pursing mastery in a domain in life -Knowledge and understanding , reading 100s of books and creating a nueral map of how things interrelate -Moving up spiral dynamics (development, mastery, growth) -Learning what you Authentically want without societies influence (ie- do I want kids, marriage, career, house, etc) -Financial independence, not being tied to anyone or dependent, able to walk away from anyone or any situation -Strength, flexibility, endurance, power, skill, hitting the gym and having a healthy and ripped physique -Being able to fight/defend yourself -Having fun expereinces, partying, dancing, laughing, not being too serious or a robot -Finding and fulfilling your life purpose -Creating a body of creative work -Having clean habits, like meditation, yoga, walks in nature and mastering getting rid of detrimental ones like porn. coffee, booze, scrolling -Having a calm energy and stable nervous system -Getting high quality coaching on skills you want to learn What else?

I'll add emotional stability, having worked through all your traumas and shadow stuff, but also not getting lost in that world

I think it can be a useful metric early on because to get laid you have be doing something right, unless you're just banging ugly girls (even then), you have to be charsimatic, centered, masculine, able to lead, fun, have courage, and be good with people to get someone in bed. Not saying it is the ultimate truth but there is a correlation between body count and social skills and probably success in general i would guess. Again, not a fact, but correlation. Also, you can learn a lot about different styles, energies, and vibes in sex. If you've only had say 6 sexual partners, your view of what's possible and what you might resonate with is quite limited. And i don't mean in just a way of trying new things out with the same person, women have quite a range of sexual expression and energies which you only discover through sex. Overall i think it teaches you a lot, but wearing it like some badge for your ego is pretty cringe. I also think it does something to you, as a man it changes you in a fundamental way. You sleep with 100+ women that's going to change you in potent ways that otherwise couldn't happen.

I don't know, i think anyone willing to sell their bodies and sexuality for money (especially when they don't really need to) is fundamentally pretty fucked up. I will give this a listen though, i'm sure he has some insights

This.... I feel the whole "marrying myself" thing comes from narcissism and insecurity... people say things like "I deserve only someone who loves me as much as I love me." Without thinking about how they can actually be a high value and good partner, it's all about judging and expecting the world of others who have the honor of being in your amazing presence. Cool, have fun being sexless and alone