BlessedLion

I think most people have this idea of death as floating in infinite black space of nothingness. It's crazy when you realize we are already floating in an infinite space of nothingness, just hallucinating a reality there

One hour per day is more than enough at your age. Just stay consistent and cut out bad habits that are harming you. I think it's wise at your age to build wealth, social skills, dating skills, and have fun, allow yourself some space to fuck around a bit. I started at 24 and now at 33 my life is radically different. I went balls to wall though, but now my life is golden

It's now 9/11/2026 here in Bali, 25 years ago the attacks happened that changed the US and the world forever. I decided to revisit some old footage, interviews, documentaries... and I still can't wrap my head around it. Like something about it just doesn't register, like I don't get it. Not in some moral way, more like the event itself was so other-worldly, chaotic, and insane that it still just doesn't make sense to me. It's a feeling that's hard to explain. I was like 6 when it happened and still remember seeing it on TV but had on clue what I was looking at. Anyway, may the world find peace.

Sure, you are somewhat limited by genetics, but it's far less than you think. Plenty of people have overcome their genetic limitations and crushed it in domains they were told they'd never excel at. The universe definitely rewards persistence in life, this is limiting belief for sure.

@Emerald Also, I think it's helpful to think of relationship formation as an equation. Here it is (at least for men) Scenario 1: Tom is a quality guy and sees Angel and thinks she is cute, he is past his player phase and is ready for a serious relationship (he is in a rare window where he is actually ready to exclusively commit to one woman), he goes up and starts talking to Angel to see what else is going on there, if they have chemistry, etc. Depending on how Angel is, her vibe, compatability, personality, etc, he will either keep dating her or (if he has high integrity) walk away knowing that there isn't a long term option there. If he has low integrity he might lead her on and sleep with her only to ghost once he got what he wanted, That's where Angels discernment and intuition needs to kick in. Scenario 2: Tom is a quality guy ready for a relationship, he sees Sarah, a below average looking woman. He gives her a friendly smile and continues his stroll through the park. Instead of seeing a man being physcially attracted as some toxic filter that women need to sort through, it's more like the gateway for anything to form.

Hmm, what you are saying is landing in a certain way. The beautiful woman is going to have more guys coming to her solely because she is beautiful, therefore making it harder for her to discern their intentions, honesty, and if they like her personality. But I still think people sort themselves quite rapidly and figure out and understand their general "window" of attraction, so then they adjust for that and it becomes relative, and an average woman will be a score for a less than average looking guy. He is still very much factoring in her physical looks, no guy or girl doesn't do this. I still think lower than average (uglier) women struggle to attract the types of men they want. We can't separate beauty from liking a woman or her personality. Even my female friends will say it's a factor for their attraction. If a guy has a 9 personality but is a 3 physically, they won't want to date him and will friend zone. We can't seperate these things, as idealistically as we'd like. Maybe some people can, but that's not the norm, and it's certainly not the norm for men. They also have less power in the relationship dynamic. This is undeniable. A very beautiful woman weilds much more power in a relationship than an ugly one. Because she has something that a lot of people value, this is just economics. Your peacock theory even proves it, people want to be the more attractive partner because there is an inherent power in that. The reason an average woman doesn't want to date a 10 physcially guy is because there is too large of a power imbalance there. If you remain more attractive than your partner then this gives you a certain power over them, especially for a woman because men value looks more than women do.

Yeah i gotta admit Leo's work is another level of quality. It totally changed my life just because of the synthesis of different points of view and timeless principles he carries. Also, to this day, the book list just astonishes me, idk how he found and filtered through some of the best books on the planet on major topics but idk if i would have found those myself. Also, Leo introduced me to Ralston, who also is in a league of his own. Ralston taught me how to think, stop suffering, and attain mastery by dropping my ego and getting to the core of what works in any field or domain, not what i want to work or what i think should work. It gives me this ridiculous advantage over other people for whatever i want to pursue. Now i live life in a whole different lane than most people who struggle with survival, emotional and sexual needs i can pursue what interests me and not take the survival aspect of life so seriously, and actually kick ass in those too. I'm also grateful for my mentor Sahajanada , who taught me what the spiritual heart, and love aspect of God/Reality is. No matter how deep i go into game/attraction/evolutionary theory, or business world, or any feild. I am always aware of Love and God, which science and biology tries to reduce all of reality down to an equation or evolution, not making room for the mystical. I had another mentor in my early 20s, Justin, my therapist, who helped me through the most turbulent of emotional difficulties and introduced me to meditation and mindfulness, he didn't just plop me on a bunch of pills and shit. Dude saved my life in many times of crisis. Overall, I've been beyond gifted with the men who have shown up in my life as mentors and helped me navigate the confusing waters of life. And interestingly many of them share the same general conclusions about life and how to live. I try to be that mentor for others now, but i'm not nearly as big or recognized. I don't really care though , i do it for the spirit of the work, whether 100 or 100,000 listen to what i have to say. I used to think this forum was full of people whining and talking immature bullshit, but now I see people who are actually embodying and have integrated this work in their own unique way, which is inspiring to see. We are very lucky to have stumbled upon this work. Thanks Leo

I agree with you here. I think for men attraction skills are more important than sorting skills and for women it's vise versa. I have an unrelated question for you , as I am gathering research on this and asking my female friends. But how important are physical looks to women? Like if a guy is a 9 but he is awkward, cringe, unconfident, etc will he still have a chance? Versus a guy who is a 4 physically but is confident, fun, safe, intelligent. And how important is status to women? I agree with that. I also am curious why partners have similar physical attractiveness, because it goes agains sexual evolutionary theory, like if "men value youth/beauty and women value status/wealth" then wouldn't there be a bunch of 50 year old rich men walking around with 20 year old beautiful women? Yeah, but thats' Florida jk But seriously, again that's the relative best those guys can do. Attraction is relative, so in their eyes she is an absolute dime. They see her as the hot young 20 year old. Attraction is the initial context for anything else to form. If i spend enough years on a deserted island and Delores shows i'm up....I'm game haha. Fair enough, maybe we are just looking at different metrics, currently i am in a phase of studying sexual attraction, the sexual market place and dating dynamics so maybe it's different. Also, I was thinking about it, and I don't have the belief any of this has to do with a loving partnership. I think 2 "ugly" people are still able to love as fully and deeply as anyone else. This was more a discussion about attraction and the optionality/power that comes with that. And i still stand by my statement that more attractive women have a higher leverage in relationships and get to enjoy more variety in optionality, allowing them to find the best possible option for their goals and standards, whereas uglier woman might have to settle more or put up with worse behavior (if they want a relationship) - and that the reason for men approaching , from rich ceo to Old Joe and Bob, is because they want sex and find whoever they are approaching sexually attractive. That is all relative, so the reasons behind the approach and interest (at least the initial interest) doesn't change. Does the woman in the second video really have an advantage in the dating world to Giselle (first video)? Is she really going to get better options?

Crazy stuff, he's like functionally unhinged as fuck as i feel like he is surronded by yes men who just fuel his delusions. Also, i feel bad for his wife, like he's totally brainwashed her

Definitely. I have a YouTube channel where i've shared some of those insights, like writing i find speaking about and modeling these things to take the learning to a whole new level. Check it out if you'd like:

I've been synthesizing sexual evolutionary theory (Red Queen, Sperm Wars) / Dating Theory (Value of Others, Dating Essentials for Men) / and Male/Female psychology and difference (Male Brain , Female Brain, Different) and it's been such a beautiful synthesis. I am having an intellectual orgasm daily just from the synthesis and understanding that is happening! And that's just attraction. Next. year i'll be diving in Tantra and Relationships, going deeper into this dynamic in a sustained and heart centered way.

Just watch the first 5 minutes of this and try not to throw up

He was always sorta unhinged, and i don't really enjoy criticising other peoples work, but i keep up with him to see what he's up to. Some of his latest thumbnails: "The 13 heavens are real" "Jesus was half alien" "The Fake God Running Reality" Seems like he's really gone of the deep end of the psychedelic alien world. It should be a warning of epistemic irresponsibility, fantastical thinking, and misusing psychedelics. He is very stage purple and stage blue in a lot of his models and ideas. He used to be sorta grounded but now it's just totally wacky and has nothing to do with consciousness work.

Attraction, Sexuality, Dating between the sexes. Been going super deep into this topic, solely for the sake of understanding it for it's own sake but also enjoying "the laboratory" as well Been mind blowing, and honestly essential

@Emerald Key note on this response; i typed responses to different sections you had written. Like "Quoting" them, but the stupid forum crashed and luckily i copied what i had written but there is no responses to what you had said earlier. I hope it still makes sense: A worthy opponent you are Emerald. I appreciate that! I am trying to run your perspective through my mind without my filters and beleifs, but i still struggle with your perspective. How are we defining "high quality"? I feel like the old grandma is getting the scraps. I see the sentiment of what you are saying but it doesn't align with reality, that is just not the world we live in. If you ever talk to a single woman in her 70s very few of them are actively dating because the options that are left over are just awful. It is very hard to find love again after a certain age- that isn't random. My older female friends are struggling a lot because the options that they have are not (let's just say not "top of the line"). The top of the line options are pursuing young beautiful women. I saw a netflix show about old people dating around and it only lasted one season bc none of the couples ended up together. like 0, and that was only people in their 50s. I have female friends who are less attractive and they definitely just end up settling with unimpressive guys who either treat them poorly or are just kinda wimps. A young model is going to have a swamp of men sure , but within that swamp is a line of men at their physical and mental peak ready to commit, give her a great life, devote themselves to her and for better or worse treat her like a Queen (the clean water in the swamp). The Granny is really getting better water or a higher swamp to clean water ratio? If she (the model) is Stage Green, she can marry the yoga teacher who started the school she's at. If she is Stage Orange, she can find a wealthy, intelligent husband who she can pursue her material and success oriented goals with. If she is Stage Blue, she can marry the guy who runs the Church sermons and leads the community. She can still find chemistry and compatibility, and on top of that get resources , status and lifestyle. Why? Because Men value beauty. The men who can give her the life and pursuits and excitement she wants will not entertain dating her if she is 80. It's not that men only care about beauty, but it is the context for them to start a romantic interest. The Granny stands 0 chance of getting a man like that. Why is it such a big deal to see a super beautiful woman with a broke loser? Because it veers so far from the norm, it is so rare! Same for seeing a succesful, charismatic, powerful guy with a troll. In all these examples the model is getting the highest quality men on the market. Women are attracted to this kinda shit, point blank. Again we are looking at the real world and not some ideal. Any woman acting like she doesn't care about a guy having influence, respect, social skills, poise, is lying (imo). Sure, some narcissist awful men will be in that group but it's not like ugly women are automatically exempt from shitty, bad intentioned guys. They may even be more suseptible to ending up with them because they have less options and are more desperate for the intimacy (like my unattractive friends), whereas a beautiful woman can more easily walk away from bullshit behavior. She has more cards to play. If i was a woman, i would definitely prefer being very beautiful even with all the bullshit that comes with it, and being able to sort out who i want to end up with through a catalog of men pursuing me. I don't think it takes that much intelligence and skill to smarten up with this. It's really just emotional mastery. Beautiful women get incredible experiences, opportunities and special treatment handed to them on a platter, in the fucked up world we live in this is probably an advantage and better overall for most. Sure an uglier woman may get lucky and take that challenge to learn humbleness, wisdom, spirituality , and be geniunely more happy in life etc, but most will just suffer the disadvantages of being ugly. The young model is going to have healthier, wealthier, stronger, better looking, more socially skilled, more competent options. The Grandma is not getting Prince Charming. I've come to the conclusion your perspective on this particular point is simply wrong. Attractive people have more power in dating and life in general, a young attractive model will have much more negotiation power, optionality and ability to find the best partner for her individual wants and needs. She can basically tell a guy point blank "if you aren't commited, i'm out" whereas an ugly woman will need to sleep with him and get pulled along before having negotiation power, unless she dates down, whereas then she will have the power, but will dating more desperate men, who yeah, might see her as an angel because their only other option is their right hand. Sure, the model will have to "Sort through" more "junk" but women are probably pretty good at that anyway. <12 hours ago, Emerald said: What you have to understand is that every Tom, Dick, and Harry wants a hot women. And many of them just want higher status among male peers or to feel validated by having an attractive woman attracted to them.> I think you underestimate how much men value youth and beauty. Of course, it isn't everything. But as a woman, i feel you have a bias - becuase women value that less. They didn't need to look as much for fertility signals, men did. This is millions of years of evolution in the making, it's not some shallow thing. Men want young beautiful women for it's own sake. The status thing is a factor but much smaller than actually having the woman, they are genuinely just attracted to her for it's own sake and it drives us insane. There's a reason porn is such a massive and addictive industry, it's pure unfiltered female youth and sex, no status symbol in jerking off to porn. <12 hours ago, Emerald said: But the grandma has 100 men interested in her... and probably 20 are genuinely interested in her as a person.> The body and physical beauty comes with the person, they are a package deal. You can't just seperate the two. These old men are still factoring that in. If she is suddenly an old grandma who is 300 pounds overnight, the men interested in her has now dropped to 5 as great as personality might be. <12 hours ago, Emerald said: There just aren't as many ulterior motive for wanting to court a granny.> For an old man, he likely still sees beauty in the granny relative to the people around him and the options he has. Nothing has changed. The ulterior motive is that the only other option is to die a celibate <12 hours ago, Emerald said: So, if Old Joe is bringing Old Betsy flowers, he's probably really interested in her.> Or he is lonely and horny and that is his best relative option. People tend to sort themselves out quite rapidly in the sexual marketplace. And if Old Joe suddenly has a 20 year old model who is similar in personality to Old Betsy interested in him, he is going to start dating the model. And the model can make all sorts of wacky demands that Old Betsy can't. <12 hours ago, Emerald said: But if there's a very attractive 25-year old model... she's going to have a bunch of guy chasing her around for all kinds of ulterior motives, like sex, status among other men, trying to redeem his self-esteem in his own eyes. There's no way that the ratio is the same. That's why beauty is a liability that must be compensated for with extremely ruthless sorting, as beauty is like an email inbox of a wealthy person with no spam filter.> It sounds nice on paper but is fundamentally disconnected from reality and sexual dynamics, which is a brutal place. But i prefer to look it in the face, painful as it may be sometimes. Idk maybe we just live on different planets but i see it differently and data and real world truths definitely show a different story. Old Granny isn't magically getting a better ratio, it's just adjusted for the men who know their place in the sexual marketplace and what they can realistically get. Again, they aren't going to her by the greatness of their character and sweet hearts. You are basically saying , Because Granny is ugly, the men who pursue her are doing it from a better place. And because the model is hot she is only getting pursued for her beauty. My argument is that it's relative. The men have the same motives, they are just adjusting for what they think is within their reach. Attraction comes first, liking her personality comes second. The men pursuing Granny likely think they can get something from her that would be impossible to get from the model. And let's just say you are right.... Granny has a more clean water to swamp ratio, because those men are going to her for reasons that might be unrelated to her attractiveness. But the quality of the clean water is still kinda murky and maybe not even good for her or neccesary. And that Young Model has a terrible clean water to swamp ratio, becuase every guy in town is pursuing her for her looks, but the clean water is cleaner and she can easily build a dam to surrond herself with the clean water (social circle) and the clean water can offer her a lot of things she needs and wants, like building a family and being supported for that. Attraction = Power. Period. I ask myself....What would ever make me want to date an ugly woman? And i'd have to say it would be less genuine than if im pursuing a beautiful woman. If im dating a beautiful woman i'm likely more genuine in my interests in a relationship and equal playing feild and her as a person, i'll be more enthusiastic about her needs and bring my best self to the table and be more flexible because we have a more leveled sexual marketplace value, is that superficial? Maybe. But for me to date an ugly woman there would either have to be an amazing sexual chemistry where she never says no (still in my interests) and i would also enjoy having a power advantage in the relationship, that i would exploit if i was a bad guy. Or a grandma if she had some huge inheritance i could benefit from. So the truth is , the intentions are not neccesarily more pure just becuase guys are dating down. I cannot say in ernest i would date a truly ugly woman just because she had a great personality. Plenty of beautiful women fit my compatability and chemistry. I would feel slighted in some way, if i dated an 80 year old grandma it would feel wrong no matter how great our chemistry and compatibility was, i would feel like i was getting the short end of the stick because fundamentally my attraction and sexual marketplace value is much higher than hers. Like buying a Benz for $500. Its a rip off, and on some level we all know this. And most men would probably agree with this. How many 35 year old millionaires do you see dating 80....no let's even say 50 year old women? Let's look at reality here. Its probaly less than .1 %. There is a sexual market place and goods are exchanged based on their value. A 35 millionaire CEO knows he has a high marketplace value. I would also argue that beautiful women do have filters for spam like a rich guy does with his email. Many of them are unaccesable and locked into social circles and groups that most men can't access. You think Instagram DMs matter or work at all for these women? They have 10,000 unread messages there that will never get opened daily. I genuinely appreciate the conversation though. And i agree with you that discernment is more important for women than attraction. In fact i see it like this: Men need to improve their attraction skills (or else they are fucked and no one is coming to save them) Women need to improve their discernment skills (or else they will get played and tricked and just used for their looks) <12 hours ago, Emerald said: she's going to have a bunch of guy chasing her around for all kinds of ulterior motives, like sex, status among other men, trying to redeem his self-esteem in his own eyes. > How do you know Old Joe isn't just doing this with the only option he's got? <12 hours ago, Emerald said: There's no way that the ratio is the same. That's why beauty is a liability that must be compensated for with extremely ruthless sorting, as beauty is like an email inbox of a wealthy person with no spam filter.> We can all look at examples of women dating a millionaire narccist and getting tricked or fucked over, but there are also plenty of other women who end up living a higher quality of life and in a better situation because they optimized their beauty and locked in a solid man with it. They can use their beauty to find a more compatible, better chemistry option and have more power in the relationship dynamics. More of the ladder too. Women are smart, they learn quickly, and most of them figure it out, it's survival and evolution at work. I get what you are getting at, but to say beauty gives women absolutely no advantage and is even a detriment in the sexual and dating marketplace is wildly false. Like it's so false that i can't believe i'm still talking about it. I think anyone would rather have more options they can sort through than less "more genuine" ones. A young beautiful woman is the most powerful person on earth in a certain sense, and can change her life situation drastically for the better with her beauty, parnership quality included. I can't help but feel like a guy who is going for an uglier woman is doing so because that's his only option, it's not because he sees something special in her. Overall, i think you are missing a fundamental dynamic. And I think you are more likely to have good chemsitry with an alpha male because they have better social skills, charisma, empathy, etc than a wimpy autistic type guy who will be problematic to live with. That’s usually the options ugly women are left with, they aren’y getting Prince Charming. Not that high status men can't be psychos, but men who have low options aren't except for the same fucked up traits as all of us. Whew...my head hurts.