BlessedLion

Just because someone is doing something that you don't do or prefer doesn't mean they are coming from some trauma, anxiety or core wound/belief, that argument is so lazy and biased.

Gaslighting at it's finest. I am totally whole and complete in myself, and it's probably because of this and not in spite of this that i prefer multiple partners. I honestly think most men would have a preference for this if we didn't have societal conditioning that pushes us towards monogamy and marriage. The other problem would be is if society was poly only a few men would have most of the women which most men don't want. Poly men/ players are a threat to society in a sense.

I will agree with you that some countries and cultures are better than others, but at their core all women are pretty much the same and driven by the same evolutionary wiring, including attraction. Some just have a "thicker shell" from their cultural programming.

Agreed

With this mindset you are definitely fucked. Your calling it over and yourself cucked before you've even gone out with her. Change your mindset and simply become the guy that gets her....make the other dude be worried about you

I agree that Dating Apps and Social Media have made dating harder but still, plenty of men are having success amid the explosion of these things. You could also argue that porn to men is the equivalent of social media and dating apps to women. I don't think complaining about it does anything, it's the time we live in, don't get blackpill about it. Men in the 90s could complain that the rise of feminism and internet chats is ruining dating, there is always some excuse. Don't blame the lack of results on the times.

Appreciate your takes. For sure, I think when a man is ready he can definitely go mono in a healthy way. But i also think some people not just men, lean more towards a poly preference. Have you heard of the chimps versus bonobos? Both are our ancestors in the ape lineage and they have wildly different sexual preferences. I think some people are like chimps and some are like bonobos in that sense. Sure, they killed people, but they also lived in a time where that was the norm/ level of development. I'm not saying they were saints but this is a discussion about sexuality and the claim that men who have multiple partners are ADHD is pretty wild

@Cred By your logic then King Solomon, Montezuma, Julius Ceaser, Genghis Khan and literally every other great conquerer and king had ADHD, LOL

Some people genuinely can''t do the monogamy thing. It doesn't work for their personality adn sexual prefences. Honestly, if most men knew how to get laid, they would be Poly. They only go for monogamy because it gives them consistent sex which they can't get without comiting to one woman

how can you know that though? Honestly, in my own life i've been having more girls with mongomous boyfriends/husbands suggesting they are open to hook up and i'm tired of turning down those opportunities because i'm trying to be ethical. It feels like it's not really my job to manage

yeah i take that one back, wasn't really well formed

I have no problem with integrating your feminine side , I do it, I love my inner Goddess. At the same time, when I am dealing with a woman I understand the sexual dynamics going on and my role as the man. It's not some macho bullshit game, it's about regulating her nervous system and letting her be the woman in the dynamic. I have no interest in being buddies with women. The moment i started focusing on polarity i started getting more sex than i ever have in my life. The amount of sexual success I am having these days in absurd, Call it bad advice, but results are results and I am learning more and more the truth about women and what actually works, versus what they say or what we've been programmed with.

Recently i've been meeting so many women (btw who have husbands and boyfriends) and complain to ME, sometimes only a few hours after meeting them about how there is no polarity or attraction in their relationship because the men are too emotional and clingy. The irony of course is that they pressure men to be emotional and vulnerable (not in a malicious way it's just how they connect) but this slowly turns them into mommy and dries up their attraction to him. Next thing you know they are talking to me about it.

Women in general are pretty conformist, they seem to base value solely on what other people value. (Not all women just in general this seems to be the case, maybe because they are so socially wired)