@Onecirrus Great work dude!
There are millions of Incels who you could help break out of their toxic mental hellscapes to become well-integrated healthy men.
The niche is ripe for conscious leadership.

The relevant question is not whether you work for a wage but whether you love the work you do.
If you work for a wage but you love the work you do, yes, technically you are still a wage slave, but since you love the work, it doesn't matter.
You can certainly find great wage jobs. Plenty of people have wage jobs and are happy with it.
Also, some high level wage jobs can come with lots of perks and freedoms. Don't be afraid to look for nicer jobs. You can always leave to start your own biz if you are unhappy there.

Def either gay or asexual. Perhaps your hormones are out of whack.
If you were full on straight you couldn't go more than a few days without dreaming about pussy. It would drive you nuts.
If I were you I would definitely get my hormones checked. Check your testosterone levels and others. Check your vitamin D.
You may simply be repressing your desire for dick because you feel it is wrong or abnormal.

During the last months (boredom from quarantine hehe) i have dived deep into the black pill. I am not popular with girls and was drawn a bit into it but soon realized how toxic and destructive it is. After talking with dozens of Incels and seeing a lot of the Youtubers that make blackpill material. I honestly would like your guys ideas on why this happens. What struck me the most is the fact that they always use "it is proved by science, there is data behind it" argument whenever i criticized the blackpill. Why is this happening today? There have been people that do not socialize a lot for a long time, this ideology is quite recent.
They often say Tinder and online dating is a big factor and i do agree. Being unattractive is a HUGE downside if you base your results on online dating since it is 90 percent based on your looks. However, you can still go out and meet girls in person. It does not seem as the ultimate reason why a guy would be dateless for decades. 
Another thing i have heard from some Incels is that they claim to have approached hundreds of girls without any results. One person said 100 and another over 1000, all rejections. I find that very difficult to believe since before even autistic people managed to find a partner or people with disabilities. Heck, John Nash had fucking schizophrenia and still managed to find a wife. Have girl standards gone up? Have men become weaker? Has online dating and the spread of technology made dating more based on appearance since online dating is mostly look focused?
Now i know you people would probably say stuff like "they are scared of changing and working on themselves so they complain", i fully get that. But some guys being like (socially awkward, hermits etc)  this has always been the case. Even in the early 2000 s for example . Why the blackpill has happened in the last 5 years or so?
Leo it would be amazing if you could make a video about this issue like you did for conspiracy theories. Looking at this forum can clearly show you how much of an issue this is becoming and would be good if it got some high conscious addressing. "the hidden psychology behind the blackpill/inceldom would be a good title hehe".
Disclaimer: I do not agree with the blackpill and it's core beliefes. I am just reporting what i have seen from a small research i did.
 

To be more helpful to you, women generally have less problems with being incels simply because women are more social creatures. These days it's all too easy for a man to lock himself in his mancave and spend most of his time online or playing video games. You just can't get laid that way. If you invested as much time into being social as you did into playing video games or hanging around online, you'd get laid way more.
The #1 biggest thing you can do to increase your sex is to be social.
It's that simple. But it requires you make structural changes to your way of life. Which of course no one wants to do.
Try it. Make a goal to talk to 10 new people every day for 90 days. You'll be amazed at the opportunities that come your way. Not just sex but jobs, ideas, friendships, etc. Being social takes effort for many people, especially guys and introverts.
If you're an introverted guy who spends all his time online, you will basically never get laid. So change that.

He sounds like a nerdy, clueless, nice-guy with zero game and little experience. Intellectual guys can be like that.
Keep texting with him and dropping some flirty / sexy signs. He should bite at some point.
Don't be afraid to get flirtatious with him. Subtly plant in his mind that you want his dick, but then pull back a bit and play it coy so he pursues you.
Dangle the bait. Then make him work for it a bit.

The upside of rolling solo is that you grow very fast, as long as you're able to do approaches. If you're going out solo and you're so scared that you don't even approach, then you're not ready for that yet. You need a wingman/friend.
@Brenzo2 You mean you're in a relationship but you want to build your pickup skills at the same time? That's hard. In practice, once you get in a comfortable relationship your pickup skills will suffer. There's a trade-off.
@Joel3102 Yes, it certainly is, but it's going to take much more work than you imagine at the outset. But the upside is that it will also be much more rewarding (in terms of growth) than you imagine. To really get good at pickup you need to hit it hardcore for a couple of years, approaching 5000+ people. You need to take it very seriously. A half-assed attitude will not work here. You basically need to rewire and retrain much of your mind. Attraction is extremely counter-intuitive. It will shock you. You'll be in for some rude awakening. It will be emotionally difficult. But it will grow you like crazy. If you do it, don't do it for the sex, do it for the stronger man it makes you. It can also be very fun and exciting compared to sitting at home and playing Fortnite. Doing pickup hardcore makes you feel ALIVE! It makes you feel like a hero on his journey towards manhood.
I highly recommend handling this part of your life. Just don't be a douche, don't hurt women, and don't develop an ideology or identity around it.
If you want to get serious about learning this skill set, you must bite the bullet and move to a large city with great nightlife and lots of hot girls. LA, NYC, Chicago, Miami, Austin, Vegas, London, etc. It's very worth it. Don't be trying to learn pickup in some redneck part of the world. You need volume to practice on. If you're not willing to relocate, you're not very serious about it.
But at the same time, don't make excuses if you can't relocate immediately. Begin wherever you're at and make plan to upgrade your situation.
Pickup is not just about attracting girls. Pickup is about upgrading your entire lifestyle. It's about better nutrition, better fitness, better apartment, better decor, better cloths, better haircut, better friends, better car, better everything. Transform yourself into an attractive fucking man with an awesome life such that a woman would be itching to be around you. Shed your old childish ways. Become awesome. When you become a truly awesome, valuable man, guys and girls will flock to be around you. This is not some gimmick. You are actually becoming awesome. It's a total makeover.
But also don't get lost in it. Return to spirituality once you've completed that phase of your life.
P.S. There are always limits to everything a human does. Don't let that stop you from being awesome. You don't need to sleep with 100 girls. You don't need to become the Michael Jordan of pickup. You just need to become decent and score a few girlfriends. Which basically any guy can do.

@MM1988 What bad experiences? A girl rejecting you is not a bad experience. Did a girl stab you with a knife? Then I might understand you'd be hesitant.
You are just being weak and playing victim.
You need to take massive action to solve this problem. This requires going out over and over again hundreds of times. Try to enjoy it. Some night you will cry. It's difficult but also rewarding.
It helps to find some friends and wings to roll with. Solo is doable but pretty hard for a newbie. You REALLY have to push yourself when you're solo.
The problem with kids these days is that they have no sense of work ethic. They don't know how to discipline themselves to achieve a big result. You expect everything to be handed to you, otherwise you think it's impossible. Like if I took you by the hand, sat you in the car, drove you to the bar, put you into a good mood, and pushed you to approach girl after girl after girl, and told all your sticking points and all the right ways to deal with girls, you'd have success. But you're not motivated enough to do all that by yourself, to figure it out by yourself.
You have to learn to lead yourself and to be a creative problem-solver. All the resources you could possibly want for learning how to approach and date hot girls is available online. Much of it is free or very affordable to purchase. But see, you're not making use of it. You're not even appreciating that 20 years ago none of this information was available. It was basically unheard of and impossible 20 years ago. But today it's all free knowledge. And yet still you don't put it to use. 20 years ago you would have paid a million dollars for this knowledge.

After watching just the pathetic bad attitude of many on this forum about girls, i decided to go out and approach as many girls as possible to see what they are like. This is something which i never do, so relax a bit because this is going to be fun for you, lol. The rules before i went out:
- no drinking;
- approaching alone, no wingman;
- try to spend as much time as possible with strangers;
- no pickup lines, authentic conversations.
When i was in the bar, the most difficult thing to do when looking back was the first approach. I just went to do it annyway, which quite surprised me. The conversation was pretty sollid and she laughed a lot, but she had a boyfriend. The following 5 approaches where just like this, everybody had a boyfriend, lol. What also was verry funny to me was when i did the approaches, almost always, the girlfriends of the girl i approach in that instant grap there phone. The girls i approached thus far, where all nice and enjoyed my company. But i wanted to go to another bar to change things. 
The following two approaches in the line-up before the entrance i can just say where the most awkward social experiences i ever had. I asked a girl if she was enjoing her night, she looked me straight into the eyes and then turned away her body. I just didnt experience for her anymore. I was just dumpstruck. The girlfriend of the girl then turned arround and said that i was to nice and must be a fucking dickhead in order to be more attractive. The guys in the line-up just laughed me out, but i didnt give a damn fuck. Went in the bar and approached 2-3 girls, 2 of them where blowouts. The third was a pretty sollid approach but she had a lot of social value so after a while she just ignored me because there where also other guys. What i also found funny was the effect my approaches had on other guys. When you see me rocking it there are no excuses left i gues.
Then i switched bars again and approached 4-5 girls, 2 of them went pretty good and there was physical contact. But one of the girls i approached was 15, so then i stoped. But the other girl liked me untill i said that i went out alone, lol. From that point on the conversation went downhills and the stoped touching me. 
This was my night out, much learned here. In conclusion i can say that my objective was met, but i suck shit in flirting. Like really. If i didnt do a lot of spiritual practices i would have been depressed now because there is much work to do. But im happy i did it annyway, and i will go out at least 1 time a weak to practise this. 
You will here from me in the future, more epic rapports comming?.

Sorry. I stand corrected. I was not thinking of it as a percent.
0.2% is more realistic for a newbie. Although I knew a newbie in Vegas who slept with 25 girls in like 3 months. So it very much matters your geography and also how quickly you learn.
The biggest problem will be that you will attract a LOT of hot girls, but you will be unable to close them for stupid logistical reasons.
The most important element for getting a high lay count in pickup is becoming an absolute master of handling the logistics. You will lose 90% of girls due to logistics. Which means, 90% of girls who are ready to fuck you, you will lose. At least as a newbie. As a vet you will get good at handling all the bullshit obstacles.

If blacks in America received $30 trillion dollars in reparations for slavery (which is just one estimate of the damage done during slavery), the IQ gap would disappear. That's my empirical claim. It could be tested. But of course the whole point is that no one wants to test it. The whole point of the IQ race debate is to deny that blacks are economically abused. The ego wants to blame it on their "inferior genetics", rap music, drugs, sex, black culture, laziness, etc.
The economic unfairness is deliberately overlooked. Because it's too true to admit! It's too much responsibility. What white ego wants to admit that blacks in America incurred $30 trillion dollars worth of abuse? It's too outrageous to admit.
The amazing thing is that blacks have as high an IQ as they do, given the amount of abuse they incurred. A 10 point IQ difference is very small given the historical context and their economic situation.
Hell, one easy way to remove the black IQ gap is to simply change the way we fund public schools. Make all our public schools evenly funded rather than basing the funding off local real estate taxes. This would equalize funding for school in regions with low real estate values. This one change alone could equalize the IQ gap. But no one wants to implement it because it means whites will lose their best schools.
See, blaming genetics is very convenient because then it means we don't have to make any tough policy changes. The ego abuses a victim out of selfishness, then it blame the victim's genetics. This way the ego can feel righteous and superior while it keeps behaving like the selfish devil that it is. The whole purpose of the ego is to prevent honest self-reflection. The devil cannot look himself in the mirror, so he covers up all the mirrors.

@Esilda I love that you brought this up because this is typical of how most women think about game. Notice the tacit virtue-signaling and disgust you have for game. I am not judging you because this is how 90% of women think about the concept of "game". 
What you don't understand is this:
If you get approached on the streets by a strong, confident, charming good-looking guy you will go home and tell your girlfriends enthusiastically that this very cute boy approached you and you will probably note that he was tall, dark whatever. (even though it was a more unconscious primal or spiritual-energetic aspect that ultimately won you over). 

Now if you get approached by a dark soul loner with poor social calibration your face will shrivel up in disgust and you'll go home and tell your friends that a maniac approached you. You will then reiterate the importance of #metoo and feminism. 
Strong guy = massive survival value for you therefore everything he does "I accept and think is cute". You will yield massively to him.
Dark soul nerdy guy = "Ewwwwwwww. Please get him away from me."  
Of course, these are two extreme examples. But ultimately your biggest problem with game is that it is a seemingly love devoid statistical endeavor and that a "creep" can grow into a stud that you are attracted to. 
As a guy, I think the best thing that "game" teaches me is how to act whenever I meet a girl that is just my type or we are in love. When there is a match like this girls assume everything will be smooth and effortless. But you have no idea how easily an inexperienced guy can ruin a match made in heaven. 
I personally was so inexperienced and insecure that when an absolute tenner fell in love with me there was nothing I could do. I actually broke her heart with my inexperience and insecurity. 

Why you sleeping with such deluded girls? You enjoy torturing yourself?
The correct move was to dump her as soon as you found out she was a fundamentalist Christian. This is a disease of the mind that you will never be able to cure.

@Leo Gura I've been looking in to the Bible and the teachings of Christianity a lot more over the past few months. Per my understanding of the foundation of what Christianity suggests, Christ is the Son of God who came and gave his life for all of mankind and that we need to accept Christ as our Lord and Savior. This is in direct opposition to what you suggest - God is everything and we are all streams from the vast ocean of the oneness that is God. I'm curious how you explain this contradiction or what a stage Turqoise Christianity would suggest? Seems to me like its coming down to just who I choose to believe.

@liamnewsom202 You misunderstand what makes pickup and attraction work.
It's not about cars or money or appealing to hippie chicks with hippy crack. It's about learning to become a strong, authentic man with powerful social skills who exudes charm, humor, charisma, and presence. It's about becoming grounded and confident.
These qualities are attractive regardless of culture or Spiral stage. You can attract a crack whore this way or a yogi saint.
Attraction is distinction from relationship compatibility. You could attract a crack whore but not be compatible with her value set. Likewise a yogi saint.
You need to screen girls for compatibility. Doing so will make you even more attractive.

Blue sees Red as thugs and criminals. Blue has a piss poor understanding of Red.
To understand Red requires Tier 2.

@Mada_ There is no such need.
All you need is to make direct eye contact and move your body/face within a foot of her's. If she doesn't hold eye contact or tries to lean away, she's not receptive. If she gives you puppy-dog eyes, then that's your green light.
One final trick is to slowly brush her hair to the side with your fingers, and slowly run your fingers down her jaw line. If she flinches, she's not receptive and do not kiss her. If she maintains eye contact then she definitely wants to be kissed.
Really, it's all about the eye contact. Look at her erotically in the eyes and hold it steady. If she maintains it, it's on boy!
Another trick is if you go in for the kiss and she refuses it by leaning away. You brush it off as though nothing bad happened and try again 5-10 mins later. Keep trying even if she is resisting. Eventually she should relent.
It's also important to time the moment. The mood has to be right. The best time to go for a kiss is after you've made her laugh. When she's in a good mood, she'll be much more receptive.
Also, don't make it a big deal. Don't make it some formal, stiff thing. The mood has to be light and casual so there is no nervousness or awkwardness about it.
When you go for the kiss, decide on it and commit 100%. The worst thing you can do is be seconding-guessing yourself in your mind and half-assing it. Just assume that she wants it and that it will succeed. Don't be playing images of failure in your mind.
If a girl is on a date with you, she's already agreed in her mind that she is willing to sleep with you. Otherwise she would have never agreed to the date in the first place. So all you gotta do is not be awkward or creepy.
You need to build comfort and ease by doing lots of touching throughout the date. Then kissing is easy and natural. It is awkward and creepy when you go for half the date without a single touch. Get your hands around her body ASAP. You gotta be finding excuses to touch her all throughout the date. Tickle her and so forth in a playful way to break the ice.
And finally, if you wanna use words, rather than asking, the better way is to declare it: "You look yummy. I feel like kissing you now." You must say it in a way where you are not fishing for her permission but stating your genuine desire and intention.

@Vrubel Whenever an attractive girl locks and holds eyes with you, you must approach her immediately. That is her telling you: "Come fuck me please."
If you do those kind of approaches you will see the girl is super-receptive and your job of picking her up becomes almost effortless.
So don't ever pass those up.
Stop blinking like a fool, grow some balls and approach.

A con man understands more about the human mind than a psychologist burdened with useless theories.  
 

I consider smooth physical escalation a cornerstone of good dating technique. You can get ridiculously good at it and girls love it.
Entire manuals have been written on it. Search for "kino escalation". This is one part of the Mystery Method which was actually quite good and practical.
The rule of thumb is, you start to physically touch her within seconds of meeting her. During the day time physical escalation needs to be very mild. But during night time, like at bars and clubs, it can be very heavy.
It needs to be very natural, which means you need to feel that it's natural for her to feel that it's natural.
Start with non-erotic areas like hand, arm, shoulder. Then move to hug. Then holding hands. Then playing with and rubbing various parts of her body. Make it as casual and playful as possible.
So typically you shake her hand as soon as you meet her. Then you might pat her on the shoulder. Then you might take her hand in your hand and immediately throw it away. Then you might get real close to her body and immediately step back. Then you might take her hand and examine her bracelet, ring, or watch. Then you might tell her to give you a hug. Then you might hold her hand as she walks with you. Then you might put your hands around her waist as you square up to her. Then you might gently run your finger along her jaw line. Then a very short kiss, no tongue. Then you might rub her hips. Then you might pull her into your chest. Then you might squeeze or spank her butt in a playful way. Then you might fondle her tits over her clothes. Then you might breathe on her neck. Then you might gently bite her neck. Then you might run your hands through her hair, gently grabbing and pulling it. And by this point you need to isolate her to a private location for heavy makeout, foreplay, and sex.
The best way to get comfortable doing all this is to go out to rowdy nightclubs and open every girl with physical openers and practice escalating as quickly as possible until she pushes you way. You'll be amazing how far you can get how quickly. Try even going for an instant makeout. All of this builds your comfort level and confidence such that later you can escalate smoothly on any girl in any situation and it will feel natural to her.
She does not have to be drunk for any of this. But obviously if alcohol is involved you can get away with a lot more a lot faster. Mostly she doesn't even need to drink the alcohol. All that's required is that you're in a social space where such things are seen as normal. Whatever you do needs to fit the social situation you're in. At bars and clubs this kind of heavy physicality is totally normal. Obviously not at the mall during day time. There you play it more chill. Although I've met a guy who would hit on women at the mall and have sex with them in that very same mall! LOL! You'll be amazed at what you can get away with when you're smooth and confident.
Obviously for any of this to work she has to show some attraction to you. Although the initial few steps of physical escalation require no attraction. Touching any erotic areas requires a degree of attraction.
The best way to tell if a girl is attracted to you is by looking in her eyes. Does she look into your eyes and hold contact? Does she follow your lead and listen to your words? Then she's attracted. If she's looking away from you a lot, she's not attracted. You need to capture her attention with charm, humor, and confidence.

Pickup leads to that if you want. Most guys who get into pickup just want to get a nice girlfriend. They are not going to bang 100 girls.
In practice you sleep with 10-20 girls, you get that out of your system, and you settle down with one who's right for you. Not much different than normal social people do.
Don't forget, people who are social can easily have 10-20 sexual partners, simply because they are so social and have ample opportunities. A hot girl will easily have 10-20 sexual partners in her lifetime. She is fucking around. She just keeps it secret.
LOL, you haven't read about how many gurus sleep with their students?
Gurus have optimized pickup so much that they don't even need to go to the club/bar, the girls flock to them. This is the ultimate form of pickup. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. Getting laid as a guru is the easiest thing in the world. Which is a big reason why spiritual communities are formed. If you start a spiritual community you are automatically guaranteed sex. Of course it all turns into a toxic mess soon enough.
LOL, how naive.
The "very specific religious purpose" is to bust some nuts.
The people participating are carefully selected to be as hot as possible.
You must appreciate how sneaky the sex drive is. It will not simply lay down and die, even after awakening. It will get crafty.

@AdeptusPsychonautica It is amusing that you took my lastest dangers of psychedelics video as my acknowledging any delusion on my part. I said no such thing. All my spiritual and existential claims still stand. The delusional one is you who is so lost on your own stories and projections about my work that you read into my video something connected to you. This is ego 101. I don't make reactionary videos like you. I know this will sound crazy to you, but some people on YT are actually too busy making original content to care about what some reactionary is raving about.
If you actually bothered to study my full body of work you would know that I have warned about the dangers of psychedelics from day 1. See my video: How To Use Psychedelics For Personal Develop. The reason for this latest video was to lay further safety guidelines for when I reveal the powerful new psychedelic I discovered. You got this silly idea that somehow I have not be safety conscious about psychedelics or spirituality, as if you have some monopoly on safety. But in fact the public record shows that I have always been extremely careful and responsible and urged safe of my audience. Just because you overlooked that to feed your cult leader narrative is not my problem. That's just bad reporting from you, as your vision has been clouded by your YT ego.
I have never claimed to be a messiah. All I have claimed is that I am God and you are too. And of course that is the case. The only problem is that you aren't conscious of what you are.
P.S. You have an unhealthy fixation with me. My work has nothing to do with me. If you were less focused on being a troll you might realize that. It is ironic that you rave about my delusions when your whole channel is an textbook of projection and ego-reaction. You are like a child throwing a tamper tantrum at the gates of Disneyland, too busy raving and whining to actually walk through the Gateless Gate.
The reason I don't like corresponding with you is because I don't want to reward troll behavior and you show little interest in geuinely pursuing Truth. You are more interested in trolling for views or playing the psychonaut policeman. Play whatever games you want, I will just focus on doing my work, as I have for 8 years. My work speaks for itself, and so does yours. You deeply misunderstand spirituality, God, yourself, and the paranormal. Nothing more needs to be said.

A relationship can only last among parties of like values. Each Spiral stage is a different values set. The most important factor in a relationship is alignment of core values. If your values are not aligned, forget about it. Relationships are nearly impossible even when your values align, nevermind when they don't.
Blue and Green would quickly devolve into a toxic clusterfuck.
Spiral Dynamics is very useful for screening out incompatible partners.

Absolute Love isn't fluffy at all. It is as serious as bullet to your skull.
You only consider it fluffy because you don't understand how serious Love is.
Because that's survival.
And survival is Love.
If you are a man and your woman cheats on you, it's definitely a you problem. I side on taking extreme ownership of such things.
While you guys are a busy pointing fingers, my attitude is to take extreme ownership of such things rathet than playing the victim. The bottom line is that most women are loyal to a fault when they find a good man. If that isn't your experience then maybe look in the mirror and see that you ain't a good man. Or you are poor at selecting women, which also means you ain't a good man.
Bottom line is: if people are cheating on you, look in the mirror.

Be more of a leader, socialize more, be with more women, do challenging things in life, start visualizing yourself as a man.
Or, better yet, start visualizing yourself as God. Being a man is overrated
You shouldn't feel like a man, you should feel like a God.