assx95

Why do I repel girls by being myself?

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I text girls when i feel like, and say what i want to say most of the time. I am mostly nice to them. Why are they not attracted to me and why do they never text first?

 

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You are not truly being yourself. You are the Ego thinking its being itself. One must first know thyself to truly be thyself.

When you are truly yourself there is little to no thinking involved, everything flows naturally.


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@Shin What kind of details are necessary? I usually compliment them, and talk about things that interest me. 

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Just now, assx95 said:

@Shin What kind of details are necessary? I usually compliment them, and talk about things that interest me. 

Give a typical conversation, and not just 3 lines :)


If you want the moon, do not hide from the night
If you want a rose, do not run from the thorns
If you want love, do not hide from yourself

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Maybe you repel girls because you dont give enough details about yourself😂.

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Posted (edited)

1 hour ago, pluto said:

You are not truly being yourself. You are the Ego thinking its being itself. One must first know thyself to truly be thyself.

When you are truly yourself there is little to no thinking involved, everything flows naturally.

+1.

Is not everything already flowing naturally though? Even when he's not being himself?

Edited by Psyche_92

My journey came to an end. It's all crystal clear now. The "I" that i thought i was ceased to exist. The 5 years of suffering were totally worth it, although i couldn't have done it any differently.

Probably not visiting this forum anymore as of now 5/11/2019.

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Some woman decide (either that or they seem to know no other way) to live by ‘the culture rules’ when it comes to dating, even though it is now the year 2019!  Culture could be described (as Leo has put it on YouTube) as the ‘collective ego’.  That suggests that those (unconscious?) women who never text first are acting out their egos instead of allowing their own true selves to emanate from them.  I would like to say, “Leave them be”, but perhaps they are all like that.

We all grow and evolve over time, and that’s healthy, but just let the real conscious non-ego ‘you’ at this time to emanate and just ‘be’ (instead of being ‘this’ or being ‘that’), and the like woman should, in theory (ha ha!), come into your life.  That way, you wouldn’t need to concern yourself about the details.  With respect to those ladies, if they cannot/won’t accommodate a opportunity when they see one, why would you want to bother with them?  Would you not want a woman who can evolve with you over time?  I would!  :D

If you haven’t already (which I am sure you have, just that you didn’t mention it), ask her questions about her.

Edited by Tim Stretton

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@assx95  Look inwards for any attachment, neediness or hurt. Try to fix that :)  Needy energy is really easily felt and it is extremely unattractive.

Edited by bejapuskas

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@assx95 Because girls are impossible.

It's best to forget girls altogether. Reality is as it is, just accept it and move on, and hope that you become a girl in next life so you can have romantic love.

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22 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

Because girls are impossible.

It's best to forget girls altogether. Reality is as it is, just accept it and move on, and hope that you become a girl in next life so you can have romantic love.

You are not gonna lose your desire for romance and a girlfriend by ignoring it, or putting girls into a bad daylight.

Stop being a victim to your own fears and inadequacies and conquer them one by one.

Edited by Psyche_92

My journey came to an end. It's all crystal clear now. The "I" that i thought i was ceased to exist. The 5 years of suffering were totally worth it, although i couldn't have done it any differently.

Probably not visiting this forum anymore as of now 5/11/2019.

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24 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

@assx95 Because girls are impossible.

It's best to forget girls altogether. Reality is as it is, just accept it and move on, and hope that you become a girl in next life so you can have romantic love.

Hahaha this is fatalism at its finest, I really hope you can go back someday and laugh at your own posts

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9 minutes ago, Rilles said:

Because girls are impossible.

@Mikael89 what’s funny is my dad said the same thing even after being married to my mom for over 6 years 

its hard to “get” (understand) girls when you don’t get yourself 

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@assx95 It's easy to sense neediness, even unconsciously. Are you talking to girls expecting them to behave in a certain way? Double check your attitude.


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@bejapuskas @Psyche_92 @Rilles @DrewNows Jordan Peterson calls girls for "the gatekeepers of nature".

It's the biological purpose of girls to be selective and picky about who they breed with. Only the best of the best guy is good enough.

It's also downscalable: the egg is the girl, and the sperm is the guy.

Millions of sperms fight about one egg. The task of the sperm is to fight in a cruel war against many other, and the odds are against him.

The task of the egg is to sit there and be picky and selective, be the gatekeeper, let only one in. Millions of guys wants to get inside the girl, literally.

The smart sperm knows that it's a unpleasant and hopeless fight.

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1 minute ago, Keyhole said:

You just have to keep trying.  My brother is Deaf and has high functioning autism, kind of a slob, short, bad breath, never learned that when he speaks it's unintelligible so he sort of sounds like a barking seal when interacting with him, only works part-time, never has any money - and he can get girls.  If he can... ANY of you on here can find a girlfriend.  You're probably just being picky.  

That sounds so hot! 

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7 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

It's the biological purpose of girls to be selective and picky about who they breed with.

You are not gonna have sex with every single girl you meet either.  You will always have a preference. You don't eat chocolate when you like vanilla.

7 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

It's also downscalable: the egg is the girl, and the sperm is the guy.

Millions of sperms fight about one egg. The task of the sperm is to fight in a cruel war against many other, and the odds are against him.

The task of the egg is to sit there and be picky and selective, be the gatekeeper, let only one in. Millions of guys wants to get inside the girl, literally.

Well, seems like you won that fight as a sperm as you are here now. Why not win another time by getting yourself a girlfriend.

 


My journey came to an end. It's all crystal clear now. The "I" that i thought i was ceased to exist. The 5 years of suffering were totally worth it, although i couldn't have done it any differently.

Probably not visiting this forum anymore as of now 5/11/2019.

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12 minutes ago, Keyhole said:

You just have to keep trying.  My brother is Deaf and has high functioning autism, kind of a slob, short, bad breath, never learned that when he speaks it's unintelligible so he sort of sounds like a barking seal when interacting with him, only works part-time, never has any money - and he can get girls.  If he can... ANY of you on here can find a girlfriend.  You're probably just being picky.  

You are mistaken. The only thing that proves is that personality is what matters, and that your brother has a attractive personality, which everyone doesn't have.

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