How Can I Become an Alpha Male?

[9735557264]

 

I was raised predominantly by my mother. My father was mostly busy working. My mother is a very submissive and meek person. I think it was because her father was very strict and domineering and it was her way of avoiding his anger.

 

Additionally, I grew up in an isolated part of town. Outside of school, I didn’t have much contact with non-family members. Most of my social skills training came from TV and movies. 

 

From all of this, I have ended up as the stereotypical beta male. In the movies, the nice guy with no masculinity gets the girls and success in the end, but this is not how it works in the real world. And the timidity that may have saved my mother from corporal punishment has gotten me no respect, especially from girls.

 

I am resolute to revamp my life and become an alpha male, but I have no idea how to go about doing it. Recently, I quit working at my family’s business since most of the employees have known me my whole life and still treat me like a baby. Asides from that and reading a few articles, I really don’t know where to start. All I know is that I don’t want to swing from one extreme to the other and be overly aggressive and arrogant.

 

Can anyone give some ideas how I can shed this beta character which I have embodied my whole life and become an alpha male?

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[enchanted]

Read Scott Galloway's notes on being a man. Key takeaways: a real man takes care of the people around him. Do that and you have become "alpha male". Also Galloway says BEING NICE is the best way to find and maintain relationships. Note: being nice doesn't mean being a push over, not having an opinion, not having a personality, not having desires, complimenting every 2 seconds, non stop texting, being weak having a  creepy smiling at all times, etc. Nice people can still have swagger and be nonchalant.

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[Natasha Tori Maru]

@9735557264 Can you describe for us what you mean by 'alpha male'?

This will give an outline for the types of character traits, values and qualities you wish to cultivate.

[Phil King]

Not sure if your familiar with owen cook but this guys videos is basically all you need to become an "alpha male"

 

[Ramanujan]

most of it inborn.  you can stilll become decent. go learn a martial art like karate

[Harikrishnan]

Confidence in oneself.
Inner knowing if what you are.
Knowing what you want.
Taking responsibility of life.
Being actively participating in life. Protecting.
Taking responsibility of others as well. Breaking barriers you have created for yourself.
Accepting reality, Accepting everything. 
Being decisive. 

[Basman]

Learn to create results. 

Confidence comes from surviving failure, and failure and set-backs are indicitative of progress. You need to take lots of action towards your goals. Make sure to define clearly what your goals are and work incremently on them everyday.

What differentiates jocks and chads from other men is that they are outwardly action oriented.

Don't think in terms of embodying a stereotype or being always keyd on and aggressive. Pick your battles. Sometimes its better to be submissive when the cost winning a situation is not worth it. Any humilliation, failure and set-back you suffer is endurable. 

[Carl-Richard]

The real answer: become a man with a vision.

What I was initially going to answer jokingly was "be funny and a be a psychopath" because I'm watching this podcast where John Zherka is being very funny and perhaps a bit too psychopathic (depending on what you like of course):

That kind of world is way beyond normalcy, it should mostly be looked at as entertainment; any lessons you draw should be way generalized.

And by the way, I'm not condoning Nick Fuentes or anybody else by posting this

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[Consept]

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[bazera]

7 hours ago, 9735557264 said:

Can anyone give some ideas how I can shed this beta character which I have embodied my whole life and become an alpha male?

Set goals and work on achieving them, actually do the work, this will increase your self-esteem because it will raise your sense of self-efficacy.

Take more responsibility, in any way you can, over many areas of your life.

Take care of your body.

Figure out what you want out of life and start working towards that. 

Contemplate why do you even want to be percieved as "alpha" male?

But essentially, challenge yourself daily / weekly / monthly / yearly and build up your life, do hard things, do things that scare you initially. 

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[Rigel]

Boy you’re in for a world of hurt when you realize what a dumb scam that whole narrative is.