Jacob Morres

Whatever books you need at that moment of time in ur life Reading just to read will give you diminishing returns essentially immediately I think classical therapy models are good and practical. Like cbt, dbt, exposure therapy. I think those dont get enough credit here. These are very practical for mental health stuff tho

Generally i like to copy people who are already really good with women. I think this is best But i really like dating coaches that advocate for massive experience. Some of them however lean really far into manipulation of women, BS self help, upselling their material. So i prefer teachers that are high social intelligence and normie I grew up on the pua type, which has its strengths tho

Wdym by stone-cold exactly? Like what traits/behaviors does this look like

I like how body positivity was ultra viral 5-6 years ago and now we have looksmaxxing. How the pendulum has shifted

Not sure but its def an important skill.

@Leo Gura $$ too honestly

Was going to ask this very question. Im guessing you may have trouble with being meek, non-assertive, shy? I think one thing that might help would be trauma work (challenging old limiting beliefs and healing trauma that may be holding you back) and changing your self concept (rewriting a new belief system and personality with affirmations, visualization and behavior change into the person you desire)

Maybe particular modules in therapy training. They have to do a good amount of that. Maybe regarding active listening, validating, empathy

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@Raze Flaws in (mainstream) feminism The anti woke crowd had a few great points. That being said, i did take a course in college where the prof did address many mens issues as well (things like expectations in sex, gender roles and a few more things)

start a socialization habit. spend 20 minutes a day conversing with people. make some friends. start an instagram account and post pics. a linkedin. just do it everyday and keep applying principles #1 thing non-negotiable is this: spend 20 minutes a day you must get practice daily

@NewKidOnTheBlock perhaps but the structure alone gave me the most gains. But youre right, you would just need to sift through the noise a lot bc most content on feminism is slop

Id def recommend taking some reputable courses from a university on feminism if you are interested. They go very in depth and cover a lot of topics. I took one in college and looking back - it was extremely well grounded in high quality principles. Some ppl say "oh its leftist dogma". But, idr any dogma at all from my courses. Professors and students are super chill too because essentially everyone is contemplating together, pretty unbiasedly

Sometimes feminism can be high spine, if you're in a more conservative area But also feminism is also about our own individual behavior, not just collective Would you not say its valuable to hold certain feminist principles, even if it's not immediately valuable? Bc the collective needs individuals to believe these things for collective change

why not pursue the next 10,000 hours, in an adjacent but just as fulfilling pursuit?