Dan Arnautu

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  3. Posted

    4 minutes ago, Eric Tarpall said:

    Having high standards as a male is a rare thing. I used to have very low standards but that made me feel pathetic. A girl has to be pure, feminine, innocent and she has to chase me a little bit before I want her. If she doesn't have those qualities I still love her but I'm not gonna do business with her.

    Even if she's had only one relationship that lasted many years she will be more likely to break up with you because of that. 

    Having high standards is one thing. Having unrealistic ones is a whole different thing. 

    If you want girls who never had a relationship or sex, go to a monastery and get yourself a nun. 

    Also, one long relationship doesn't translate to increased chances of breaking up with you. It indicates just the opposite. She knows how to maintain a commited relationship.

    People can break up for all sorts of valid reasons.

    I would be more worried if I was with a girl who never had a relationship. She can break up with you solely based on her relationship fears and insecurities, which are usually overcomed with relationship experience. 

  7. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Annoynymous said:

    @Dan Arnautu  I find pickup very manipulative and deceptive. Can't we attract women by honest and authentic meansM

    Be careful with these assumptions when you haven't gone through the products yet. 

    The Natural and The System don't teach you manipulative tacticts.

    They teach you how to become the man women want, how to portray your value and how to get to your goals in an authentic and fulfilling way. 

    There are good and bad pickup artists. I have no interest in the latter. 

  8. Posted

    @Mezanti Even Pagan is outdated at this point regarding pickup. 

    Some better modern teachers for this are:

    • Todd Valentine
    • RSD Max
    • RSD Tyler

    Todd is the best teacher and has the most logical, systematic way of approaching dating, sexuality and pickup. 

    Also, be on the lookout for Denton Fisher. He might blow up soon and become the best pickup artist out there and thus leader of the pickup field. 

    Eben Pagan is good, but he is much more dedicated to business than dating right now. That chapter is much over for him. 

     It's better to not waste time and follow those that dedicate their life to this field and make a living solely off of it. 

  10. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    @Annoynymous The method is incomplete and outdated. Think of it as a computer from thr 60's compared to a 2018 Macbook Pro. 

    The best and most complete product that will teach you everything from A-Z with the most up to date pickup info is 'The Natural' by RSD Max. The second best is 'The System' by Todd. 

    If you go through either one of these, you're not gonna need anything else regarding pickup/dating for the rest of your life. 

    Double your dating is a waste of time and money at this point. Was revolutionary when it first came out, but it's way too outdated. 

  15. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    "We are one
    We are a universe
    Forebears of what will be
    Scions of the Devonian sea
    Aeons pass
    Writing the tale of us all
    A day-to-day new opening
    For the greatest show on Earth

    There is grandeur in this view of life, with its several powers
    Having been originally breathed into a few forms or into one
    And that whilst this planet has gone cycling on according to the fixed law of gravity
    From so simple a beginning endless forms most beautiful and most wonderful have been
    And are being, evolved"

    Nightwish went through a very natural growth process and that made higher states of consciousness stable. They were able to sustain and channel their new level of consciousness into this album, that represents the peak work of their career. 

    This is why whole album reflects turquoise, not only this song. Although they don't have the proper theoretical foundation for turquoise, apparently there is a force that is working through them without their will that pushed them where they are at now.

     

     

    "When I leave this skin and bone
    Beyond my final heartbeat
    I'll dismantle piece by piece
    And I will know that death is not defeat

    When I leave this skin and bone
    Beyond my final heartbeat (heartbeat)
    I'll dismantle piece by piece
    And I will know that death is not defeat

    Holding on tight to what's left of our time
    We've hidden away
    But it's in the design
    Why do we fight what we can't define?
    Don't be afraid, we all cross the same line

    When I leave this skin and bone
    Beyond my final heartbeat
    I'll dismantle piece by piece
    And I will know that death is not defeat

    Into the night we burn and rage
    In death we repay for time on this stage
    The lights are bright
    But don't lose your way
    'Cause once it ignites
    The flame must decay

    Now you're finally complete
    I will see you where oceans meet

    Past and present merge
    Light and dark will converge
    Time will overthrow our reign on this throne

    The everlasting sleep
    Returning through the veil
    Far beneath the deep
    Another soul sets sail

    When I leave this skin and bone
    Beyond my final heartbeat
    I'll dismantle piece by piece
    And I will know that death is not defeat

    When I leave this skin and bone
    Beyond my final heartbeat
    I'll dismantle piece by piece
    And I will know that death is not defeat"

    I feel like Architects slipped into Turquoise with this song but they were and won't be able to sustain it yet. It was just a slip caused by the death of the guitarist. They were maybe put into a higher state of consciousness temporarily, and I hope that more of their songs in the future will be like this.

     

    "Round like a circle in a spiral, like a wheel within a wheel
    Never ending or beginning on an ever spinning reel
    Like a snowball down a mountain, or a carnival balloon
    Like a carousel that's turning running rings around the moon
    Like a clock whose hands are sweeping past the minutes of its face
    And the world is like an apple whirling silently in space
    Like the circles that you find in the windmills of your mind"

    Sting lives a pretty spiritual life and nails life purpose. I'm not surprised that he was and is able to put out songs like this.

  18. Posted

    @Krisena Thank you for the tips.

    I lived for a year with a guy that was the total opposite of me on the personality spectrum, and some attitudes did rub off  but he was too on the other extreme for me to want to emulate any of his behaviors. He seemed to take assertive behavior a bit overboard. He was very low in agreeableness and very low on honesty-humility, and high in psychopathy, machiavellians and narcissism.

    He commanded respect, but in a manipulative and superficial way it seemed to me.

    I reflected a bit on the situation and figured a few ways I could improve:

    • Practice saying exactly what's on my mind for the sake of long term peace instead of short term conciliation.
      • I should tell the truth even if it's nasty, because if what I'm saying is right, it shouldn't impact me negatively, and even if it does, it's better than not saying anything or saying something that complies with their attitude or opinion.
    • Learn a martial art.
      • A lot of times, I am not saying what's on my mind or establishing boundaries because the guys I am trying to establish them to are intimidating, fit, aggressive and short-tempered. I am afraid of physical harm and that makes me shut up when they disrespect me, which is not good either. If I did not fear physical harm, I would be able to say exactly where my boundaries lie, even to intimidating people.
    • Do assertiveness training
      • Finish "The Assertiveness Workbook", "The 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem" and maybe Jordan Peterson's "Self-Authoring Program".
    • Figure out exactly what my vision is and what my goals are
      • When I am guided by these, it's much easier to establish boundaries compared to when I have a vague resentment about how someone treated me. I can figure out exactly what bothered me because I will see how a certain kind of behavior causes friction with my goals and vision.

    Would love to hear what you guys think.

  19. Posted · Edited by Dan Arnautu

    "Persons with very high scores on the Agreeableness scale forgive the wrongs that they suffered, are lenient in judging others, are willing to compromise and cooperate with others, and can easily control their temper. Conversely, persons with very low scores on this scale hold grudges against those who have harmed them, are rather critical of others' shortcomings, are stubborn in defending their point of view, and feel anger readily in response to mistreatment." -  Official HEXACO Website

    My current challenge is balancing agreableness with assertiveness.

    I tend to be very accomodating, wait a lot more than I should before setting boundaries, have trouble finding what those are in some cases  and I avoid conflict at all costs, even when it may be constructive. 

    It's ok to have high agreableness but there is a very high chance of being taken advantage of or make the mistake that most people also think like you, when the total opposite may be true. 

    Many times, high agreableness can also slip into 'Nice Guy Syndrome'. 

    Do you have any insights on this? Anything that would help balance my personality and be more forceful and assertice when needed (and figure out what those situations are)? 

    Thanks. 

    Note: My agreableness score is 98 out of 100.

  22. Posted

    @DaveB I've dealt with this problem for a long time and found the perfect tried and tested method to get out of this type of rut.

    • Dedicate three months to learning a freelancing skill that you enjoy (and can leverage into your new career)
      •  (three months is all the time you need to get proficient enough at a skill to be able to make 40$/hour) 
    • Sign up to freelancing websites
    • Create a good portfolio and learn to write amazing job proposals
    • Find a few long term clients you can work with and earn a full time income on a flexible schedule and part time work hours
    • Dedicate the remaining time in your schedule (which is a lot of time) to practicing your real craft and building a full time income on that
    • Transition slowly from freelancing to your craft
    • Enjoy making a living doing what you love most

    Ta-da! ;)

     

  23. Posted

    @Ampresus Buy the LP course, stay at home for 1 year and then proceed accordingly. Don't figure yourself out while in a study program that you don't even really know you want to pursue on a shitload of money. It's unfair both for you and your parents.

    Even if you do decide to go to college afterwards (which imo is the biggest waste of time and money as all the info you learn is gonna be obsolete given how fast the market is morphing right now), you can do it after 1 year of solid contemplation and introspection so you can go at it 200%.

  24. Posted

    On 12/11/2018 at 10:32 PM, Viking said:

    as i see it with my very limited perspective life purpose is a way to fet money, to survive. maybe some enjoyment could be had helping people, contributing, doing some creative stuff, but can it compare to love, relationships?

    the meaning in most people's lives are relationships, friends, family, life partner. even if people build very meaningful life purposes i dont think it could be compared with love. maybe at some point it converges but thats some airy fairy 1000 lifetimes from now kind of thing.

    people that choose life purpose over "personal life" which means friends and family are usually miserable people. my whole life up until now ive been thinking that what i achieve in the world matters most but im starting to realize its nothing compared to love, i dont need to be elon musk if i have love.

    i get that the best way is to go middle ground and have relationships and life purpose but sometimes people need to choose all out life purpose in order to do something really big.

    im trying o guess to asses just how valuable exactly life purpose is in comparison with other things in life.

    i dont really know what the point of this thread is, i just want more opinions on this topic

    It largely depends on your values. If you value connection, love and intimacy more than excellence at a craft or impact on the world, be grateful that you found that out. It's not a small thing.

    For me personally, I value personal growth + art/beauty + impact/helping others  more than intimacy and love, but that's just my unique configuration (and it might change in the future). You have yours.

    Most importantly, don't feel like you HAVE to put impact on the world first. You're on your own unique journey and guilting doesn't make the path better. Instead, use the value of love and connection to empower your LP. Brainstorm ways to do that. You can create and lead a community. 

    Although, I'll add a little caveat. Women are most attracted to men who are on their purpose, men who penetrate the world with their energy, take what they want and lead to the holy grail (and that are willing to drop the woman in their life for that). David Deida has a chapter on this in 'The Way of The Superior Man' (something like 'Women never want to be the center of your life'). If you make a woman the center of your life, you are gonna drive her away.