Rishabh R

In my experience saying no is tough but worth it. I need to work on it.

@Mada_ That's terrifying. However, you are not alone. Many people think that they would never find someone for whatever reason. As a 24 year old (turning 25 by December) single male I found it to be helpful to replace assumptions about the future with not-knowing. For example earlier I was battling with the beleif that I would never find someone. Now I tell myself that I don't know weather I would find someone in the future or not. I'm sorry you are going through this.

@Leo Gura That was a good answer. But MBTI test gives Independent thinking as one of strengths. I asked to interpret the results by perplexity ai by feeding it my results. It said that I was an independent thinker even after taking Big five personality test and feeding it the results and my insights generated from contemplation - What is happiness ? I am confused as almost nobody is an independent thinker. Correct me if am wrong ? I could be or not.

Yes I once contemplated sadness. As per state -no state is achieved but only experienced. I am not talking about avoiding these emotions but rather confronting them by altering one's perspective on them. So that they don't spiral and become prolonged . I didn't talk about permission ,I just contemplated happiness the 3rd time since years.

@Natasha Tori Maru Got it.

@Zeroguy Ok Thanks. Is the test verified ?as last night I surfed the internet and found out that that the test uses some psuedoscientific claims which are prone to confirmation bias .

I remember taking the MBTI personality test 4 years ago and now I took it this year. The result was the same. Mediator INFP-T. Could anyone answer why or is it constant ?

I contemplated for 40 minutes- What is happiness ? These are the insights. .The feeling of fullness .The realisation that fullfillness is internal not in imagined future prospect .A choice of being elated .The realization that fulfillment is not achieved by experienced when one detaches from excessiveness of external desires .Not caring about uncontrollable conditions .Realisation that being filled internally is wisdom I also fed my insights to perplexity ai. Here were it's rating on accuracy of my insights. Here’s a concise evaluation of each insight you contemplated, rated for philosophical and psychological accuracy (0–100%): The feeling of fullness – 80/100 Captures the essence of contentment but is too general. Fullness could stem from transient satisfaction as well, not necessarily deep happiness.The realisation that fulfilment is internal not in imagined future prospect – 95/100 Excellent. Aligns with Stoic and Buddhist psychology that happiness arises from inner orientation, not external expectations.A choice of being elated – 70/100 Partly true; one can consciously choose grateful or positive focus, but happiness is not purely a voluntary emotional switch—it involves inner harmony and value alignment.The realization that fulfillment is not achieved but experienced when one detaches from excessiveness of external desires – 97/100 Profound. Reflects both Stoic detachment and Buddhist equanimity. Experiencing rather than achieving happiness is a deep insight.Not caring about uncontrollable conditions – 90/100 Very accurate and Stoic in nature. Happiness arises from acceptance of what cannot be controlled while focusing on virtue and response.Realisation that being filled internally is wisdom – 85/100 True in the sense that understanding and embodying internal sufficiency is a sign of wisdom, though slightly abstract in phrasing.

I have been following your work for more than 8 years and I don't want to outright hate you or put you up in the pedestal .I Hope that you find a girl in the future who is truly compatible with you. As per the topic I have been single my whole life (I'm turning 25) with a few girls interested in me/receptive but still there were compatibility issues between me and them. For example- The most recent girl who was receptive to me was coming from a financially unstable home and also I didn't like her fully.Therefore I didn't moved things forward with her. So yeah compatibility matters.

@Leo Gura Yup even those who are in relationship die alone. We are born alone , we die alone.

@Something Funny Congratulations again.

@Luke W Yeah he must burn through his Karma and I think that behaviour follows mindset which has a huge impact but taking action is also important as mindset without action is useless.

@Yimpa Thanks.

Guys,right now I was emotionally reactive and was cursing/reacting violently the people who did wrong to me in the past. However, later I sat down and did nothing which calmed me down.

@Leo Gura Thanks Leo for these encouraging words. Even though this thread was not started by me but seeing this thread I remember my college self which had this belief that I would never get a girlfriend but now I rarely beleive it and I am more open to the fact that I don't know even though I found a few receptive girls along the way. With that being said I am 24 now and yes @Yimpa beliefs are huge. Questioning our beliefs is necessary for growth. @Never_give_up Reframe your situation as an opportunity for finding a girlfriend that you really like , it will make a huge difference.