Rishabh R

@pursuitofspirit Yup bro. I discovered that she isn't right for me since she smokes, has OCD , for me I have never touched a cigerrete in my life and I said it to her plainly ( honesty) so thereby I will just keep it a friendly restaurant visit. Also there was an initial spark of attraction but she isn't aligned or compatible with me Many woman have approached me in the past but none asked me for my number or relationship status. Time to find someone else who is a Fuck yes.

@Leo Gura Your blog post where you posted a podcast and wrote about dating and told that rise up to the challenge inspired me . Even if this date gets cancelled or things don't work out I will still engage with the challenge. Thank you .

At work a woman came towards me , put her arm around me then asked for my number and asked weather I am single. After we exchanged numbers I asked to come to a restaurant with me and she said yes.

@Thought Art Thank you . Hope he listens .

@Leo Gura A healthy post on this forum. What I have observed from following your work since 2017 that transitioned from basic self -help to advanced spirituality , that's growth in a nutshell. But I also observed over the years that you learn heavily towards - Negativity bias - a well documented concept in psychology . Also when I first interacted with you after joining the forum I was surprised that how such a mature self-help teacher who changed my life was very harsh with me and his audience . It created a split image of you in my mind. I know it sounds ridiculous but it's worthwhile for you to watch your own video again - Counterintuitive nature of life. Yup people are selfish but doesn't it lead to selflessness since you know selfish people run companies,create technologies but it leads to betterment of mankind as whole. I mean just look around - Coul you possibly imagine we would be interacting on this forum if internet wasn't created due to whatever selfish reason. I have experience of applying self-help since 9 years and my journey began with Actualized.org. I also learn heavily towards negativity bias and overlooked the counterintuitive nature of life but as I applied it my life deeply improved.

I took many romantic rejections personally , including the harsh one as a result I suffered for years and years.

So are these values listed here are better than chasing women ,money ,fame or even worse? Bro I have experienced them to better than chasing success,sex or women and fame . It has been proven counterintuitive to me after years. So yeah suffering changed me for the better- experienced this and I am saying it proudly .

@Leo Gura Then why I experience happiness when I measure myself based on my values of Resilience by accepting and engaging with challenges head on, when I question my assumptions why do I feel tranquil, when I express myself honestly then why it feels better than performance? Even though I have moments of suffering but when I sit with suffering practicing acceptance it dissolves . Anyways thanks for the feedback.Self-correction is necessary for truth since it's an attitudinal thing. As per control I disagree with you since if not in 100% but most cases it's in our control how we respond to the external world. Are the values listed above part of truth or are they divorced from truth ? So are you suggesting that Stoics were liars ? Also as per most people I have observed that more honest I am in my social life , more fulfillment I experience regardless of other people's reactions .

@Iblitan Whenever you feel depressed during tragedy or adversity , tell yourself - Challenges are the path to becoming stronger. Process the emotion and take action. If it's outside your control realize this - No amount of crying or weeping can improve it so I must endure it and continue taking action. I don't know what you might be going through . Just sharing my advice.

@Leo Gura Question on values . Is acting in alignment with your values which are 100% within your control an alignment with truth ? Is it wisdom? (I think it is but correct me if I'm wrong)Posting my tracker here.These are my results .

@Emotionalmosquito Hurray . Love to see your progress .Bro.

@Ulax Sorry dude I considered it seriously by the way love you man.

@Ulax I don't think that manipulation will lead her too far other than sex. But if he's looking for sex then great.

@Olaf Oh really . It matters but until you like that girl, not for the sake of manipulating her into your bed.

@Olaf Great . But bro from your previous posts I saw that outcome detachment is huge. Like recenty I approached a woman just asking for some work related stuff. Before I approached her she smiled. After the approach ,I mean after sometime she came to talk to me . I talked to her and enjoyed it. Truly Backwards law is huge .