Rishabh R

Average person's perspective on self-help is conformist.

I remember watching Leo's video back in high school - Advice for high school and college students or something like that in which he says that high school and college is the time in which you get opportunity for studying as a skill because when you reach adult age or when you begin working most of your time will be spend working. Lately I have been realising it now working as a trainee in corporate. In fact my daily meditation schedule is interrupted .

@UnbornTao 👍.

👍.By the way what's a-okay 😂. I assume you were trying to write ok.

@Natasha Tori Maru Ok but I am not disregarding the advice and supervision of my doctor.It's a gradual taper.

Was it an abrupt taper or a gradual dose reduction. I am asking you because looking at this a bit of worry and fear is induced in me.

I feel worse after it and it becomes a spiral until I question it to break the never ending rage.

It's been a while since I have made a post.Trying to be honest here.I have been on mental health medications since 6 years. It's been 3 months since tapering has started under the supervision of my psychiatrist. What disturbs me mentally is that I have occasional revenge fantasies against females who rejected me, hurted me. But since my top value is Growth - I question those fantasies using questions that I once read in the book Subtle Art of not giving a F---. For example - My mind imagined hurting a girl who didn't date me but dated a guy who was much more insecure than me( I'm sorry I wrote this but I'm being honest here).I would ask myself mentally- What of I'm wrong ? Then- What would it mean if I were wrong ? Further- Would being wrong create a better problem or worse problem than my current problems for both myself and others ? After answering those questions I would conclude that I am not hurting that girl. This leads me to feel good again. Also, I remembered when I went to collect my graduation degree certificate to my college I was worried about my future job. I did the same questioning mentally against my belief - I would stay unemployed and couple of months after that I got into a job training program with a stipend. I am about to turn 25 during this December and I realized that everything can be questioned including our assumptions,thoughts and beliefs about future. Thank you.

@Leo Gura Thanks. @Davino Even in the previous 2 years there were still practical videos such as -The psychology of Traps ,The psychology of being wrong .

Thanks.Yes I could be wrong. But I think that the idea that you must question your own assumptions , beleifs about reality is like a common therapeutic practice. Secondly, questioning other people is more conformist than questioning oneself.

@Leo Gura Meditation even though it's important is conformist. Self-questioning in the self-help space is conformist. But still it's an important practice.

In my experience saying no is tough but worth it. I need to work on it.

@Mada_ That's terrifying. However, you are not alone. Many people think that they would never find someone for whatever reason. As a 24 year old (turning 25 by December) single male I found it to be helpful to replace assumptions about the future with not-knowing. For example earlier I was battling with the beleif that I would never find someone. Now I tell myself that I don't know weather I would find someone in the future or not. I'm sorry you are going through this.

@Leo Gura That was a good answer. But MBTI test gives Independent thinking as one of strengths. I asked to interpret the results by perplexity ai by feeding it my results. It said that I was an independent thinker even after taking Big five personality test and feeding it the results and my insights generated from contemplation - What is happiness ? I am confused as almost nobody is an independent thinker. Correct me if am wrong ? I could be or not.

Yes I once contemplated sadness. As per state -no state is achieved but only experienced. I am not talking about avoiding these emotions but rather confronting them by altering one's perspective on them. So that they don't spiral and become prolonged . I didn't talk about permission ,I just contemplated happiness the 3rd time since years.