Rishabh R

@LifeEnjoyer I hope that you heal and find someone who is meant to be with you. Sorry to hear that . Are you feeling ok ?

@integral Indeed a weak and unhealthy coping mechanism which causes further problems .

@integral That's why I never ever smoked a cigerette in my life ,I mean I didn't even touched it . I think that people smoke to avoid or run away from negative emotions. In order to look cool they avoid suffering going through which is a strength in itself. Yesterday I was feeling bad due to a girl rejected me romantically in college in the past but I embraced it and a smile returned to my face for 2 times amidst suffering . Later the suffering was gone. By suffering I mean that I was reactively angry .

I opened the blog posts after a while and saw this post which was pure gold . Thanks @Leo Gura.

I think contemplation is becoming my favorite tool nowadays even though I have been contemplating since 2021. I contemplated for 31 minutes , 49 seconds.-How do I reduce my craving for external attention ? - By measuring my worthiness of bring loved by my past and present actions in dating -By telling myself that it is superficial and fades away quickly -By craving my values of resilience and tranquility amidst suffering instead -By thinking that even if I would get all the love and attention I desire I would suffer badly and my present state is good

@eTorro I am battling junk food addiction. Sometimes I have broken the addiction but relapsed into my habit of consuming it.

I like this perspective.

Owen. An advice from an internet friend -Rishabh. Try to listen to her compassionately , support her on her mental health journey and remind her that her last doesn't decide her future love life potential. Try to make her understand that it is better to detach past traumatic circumstances from future potentials. Overall it seems wise to me that she is taking professional help ,sorting this out by talking to you. It speaks me about healthy processing of emotional pain and symptoms rather than supression which many people do by addictive substances to numb their negative emotions.

Criticizing others based on inaccurate assumptions about them without doing the investigative work in their circumstances,nature,genetics ,family background etc.

@integral This is a wise insight, 2 years ago I recognized that more I run from negative emotions more they get amplified and paradoxically more I accept them the lesser they disturb me or get reduced. Thank you.

@Amer I would advise to just start and remeber that taking action is simpler as well as easier than we think. Stop caring about external outcomes ,metrics and only care about putting effort . Sorry if my tone seems harsh but I have experience the immense benefits of this mindset . All the best.

@eTorro Your doing great work by Mastering your mind since mind influences action,living,emotions etc. My thought is that consider mind mastery more important during failure,adversity and suffering. For example applying Growth mindset during failure (I personally applied it for more than a year when I was facing rejections constantly in my campus placement and finally I got into corporate sector ),reframing your experience during suffering and adversity . Final take of mine on this impressive post is - Consider questioning your thoughts for checking their accuracy and validity. They all are path of mind mastery since, bullshit thoughts and assumptions are the mind's default way of operating in the world which create problems since mental and physical world are intimately connected.

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

Trying to stop caring about validation and instead caring about one's own behaviour is a better thing to care about than wheather other people validate you or not. Learned this after huge amount of suffering,insults and disrespectful interactions (even though they still happen now but now I care less about them ).

@Majed You demonstrated an act of self-respect.