Lyubov

Thanks!!! Thing is though most partners aren't neutral. Most women won't just "be together with you." They want to get married after some time or walk because it's a waste of their time. Have a child or children, build a family, stability, formal agreements, etc. So if you value those things then you should get married. Just being together is fine but it doesn't always segue into fully committing to something, which is what the decision of marriage brings you into vs just getting your toes wet. Just being together usually doesn't lead to a deeper relationship.

As long as you avoid the strip it's really just like any other tier 2 or 3 car heavy US city. The nature is quite interesting I think. I personally was really surprised by how much I enjoyed the desert. It's worth exploring but not for the culture or people but the nature and native history.

I agree with you. I'm not convinced they have grown more than what life has thrown at me. But they are valid experiences and can def be used to learn things when used in a positive way.

Thanks so much. I got her to agree to a very affordable wedding and a dress she could wear more than once. Because I think we both are starting to realizing this lifestyle that’s sold by society where you need all this expensive stuff and to follow all these traditions actually aren’t great for building a long term marriage. Can save and use that cash to put a down payment on a house, go on an amazing holiday, etc. thanks again for your kind words.

You are not fooling me here. And I can tell there are a number of other people here that can see through your defense system here. When you wish to be more honest you can make another thread and we can discuss all the unfairness you dislike and help you make peace with them.

A man has no job for anyone but himself. Do not do this for women. Do it for yourself. Women benefiting from this is just a byproduct of you taking good care of yourself first. Don’t look for women to extend understanding to your faulty belief system of being inadequate. Ultimately you will have to extend these teachings to your woman too because a lot of the time they would benefit a good bit from it as well. It’s a form of emotional manipulation by crying and expecting people to constantly bend to your wishes because you feel sad.

I am getting married in the autumn. It’s the right choice for me in this moment, even amongst all the other desires I have such as sex with other beautiful women. Staying single and chasing women has its perks, putting this energy into a long term relationship also has its perks. It’s always a grass is greener on the other side situation when you starting contemplating what value it brings you. Both scenarios are valid life paths, don’t fret about getting it right or wrong. When I did the single thing, I saw my life as shallow and longed for deeper connection. In an LTR, I create fomo about all the hot bitches I could be slamming and missing the adventurous nature of new passions and new women. Pick your FOMO. For me long term makes more sense for my spiritual growth and long term career plans. I also value family, love her as a person, she’s my best friend, and I generally enjoy being with her. We can only live in the present moment and I believe it’s right for my life to make this choice. Maybe for you, you see yourself benefiting from being open to different women and finding something better each time, I don’t know. Don’t take it too seriously either. I think the most honest relationships take into account that they could end one day due to people growing apart and wanting different things. I’m not naive. The most honest and long term marriages don’t deny this possibility.

This forum is tainted with red pill ideology. I’ve fed this before as well and am in the process of letting this belief system go. This is ultimately a self sabotaging belief system if you plan to have a long term relationship with a woman and enjoy your life together. I am definitely not saying to go into blind hope when it comes to navigating the reality of the different needs we have and finding harmony in that. You are not growing by hyper studying unfairnesses and differences between men and women. You’re creating a self fulfilling prophecy that your ego/inner child will use to find evidence for why it wants to grind an axe.

I too am getting tired of this “women don’t care about truth as much as men” narrative that’s constantly popping up here. What that’s really saying is “women don’t seek how I do therefore I’m more right than them.” No one gender or sex or general human distinction cares more about what’s true than the other.

My parents live there. I went the first time last spring. It's nice but I don't think I'd stay there unless I had a nice house and kids. I don't care for car cities. It's a very cool place to explore though. I really like the desert nature, but prefer trees. I think it sort of lacks culture though and third places. I can't imagine dating there if you value long term monogamy. I have mixed feelings on this city.

Nah it’s much more sinister. They don’t want to pay for poor black people’s healthcare. They are just too selfish and stupid. They would rather blame a black person than recognize their entire system funnels money away from them to a select few who have all the power and keep eveyone poor. I guess Trump voters will just have to get poorer and poorer and things will have to get worse before people start to question all the capitalism propaganda and wake up.

Nothing about capitalism is a self sustaining lifestyle.

The electorate is dumb as fucking shit and doesn’t understand when it comes to any truthful or nuanced discussion of politics, economics or anything based in truth. They elected Donald Trump. Don’t ever let anyone gaslight you into thinking what’s going on now is normal or rational. It will be remembered by historians as a dark and dystopian time filled with wealth inequality and a massive tragedy of the commons. He’s just being contrarian and setting up some hurdles to try and sound like he “got ya”, devils advocate type points.

Generally speaking it’s fine but also has associated health risks and is a dead end. It’s like fast food. You can rarely indulge and not have any issues but if you build your diet around it you will have issues.

They are and it’s why I don’t think it’s likely there will be a total war between east vs west. Politicians are crazy though. I think we are bound to see all sorts of proxy conflicts play out until people wake up and return to diplomacy.