Lyubov

First it’s impossible to be rejected. Women can communicate their choice to you (she doesn’t like you), that’s fine. But be careful with your words. They build the foundation of your house. You can’t be rejected. Your value is inherent and always the same regardless of whether a woman wants to relate with you or have sex. I don’t know what stage you are at in life or your country you’re from so I can’t really say much else. This story you shared is sounds like classic zero game zero swag college dating where you have very little going for you from the relative perspective of attraction and the list of everything you need to do is like a mountain to climb because just by reading this I can tell you have a long ways to go. But do not discredit quiet momentum. There is a slip stream you can flow into where your efforts will compound and 4 years from now you will be so wildly different and able to pull. I would suggest you focus on your studies if a situation like this really throws you off emotionally and affects everything else you do. You are in college so it’s time to really build a strong foundation. You need to get into excellent shape and get great grades so you can earn decent money and I’d also really do inner work so you don’t have any doubts about your true value king. Once you have that honed in I’d say start finding ways to tap into your authentic self and develope swag, that’s when you’ll get the results you want.

I'm not entirely following the disagreements in this thread but there are few things I believe I can speak on. Truth and honesty is not a standard to live up to or a measurement or set of rules. It is more of a path or a way, an unfolding or a becoming. I believe this purity test of somehow removing mystique or striving for the most honest and open communication is not actually truthful and ultimately is a lie because it's largely motivated out of fear and trying to be "safe" in the relationship (a person who is threatened by this ambiguous unknown space can see it as harmful deception if they believe the other person lied to them or didn't communicate things with them). Purity testing honesty is a misconception and not actually what's true. This space is also what drives passion and attraction. A relationship based on truth and honesty is not wearing your heart on your sleeve when you go out to meet a girl. The space between attraction especially when you first meet a girl is what drives the intense passion in the first place and is part of the dance. This is the law of the jungle. You observe the world without bias and truly understand it. Courting a mate has a ton of ambiguity and ideals of the most honest and perfect communication is not the solution to your fears and expectations about how you wish it were easier to navigate and more predictable. This is not remedied by imposing some ideal of being completely honest and open. You do not tell your mom she looks terrible and fat when she asks you how she looks in a new dress she bought that doesn't fit her. This sort of layer of ambiguity is not a bug of reality, it is an integral part to relating. You need to not judge others for how they navigate this. All honest relating is just being true to yourself and testing your beliefs against your spirit. Rome was not built in a day, the same goes for a great relationship.

idk how his fans ignore this

Does anyone here have a facial skin care routine they follow? Something to reduce redness and make your face look healthier and skin clearer and nicer?

Well, yeah I agree. That’s why we date. We observe our environment deeply to see what the nature of it is and gather experience/info to inform our next choices. We see a tiger and see its nature is to bite us. You seem really concerned about future proofing yourself and avoiding a potentially problematic partner. I would still say there are no guarantees when it comes to that as well. I do think with proper discernment and maturity it makes it possible to make wiser choices though and we can build our foundation for who we choose to be in relationships with on this which circles back to living honestly and responsibly. But still there are no guarantees and there doesn’t have to be, we have ourselves living honestly. There are women who unknowingly married serial killers. That really happened on our planet. It’s so easily to retroactively look back and blame them but I’d pause on that and hold such judgement. They may have done everything right by themselves with what they knew before finding out the truth and that’s still what they encountered in life.

If I was in a relationship with a woman and I knew she was a psychopath I would have to be honest with myself and responsible and make the choice that I believe is right for my life which would be leaving her. I would hope that if I had enough time with her to choose marrying her that I probably already would have sense of the person she is and know fairly well she isn’t a psychopath but even none of this is guaranteed. I’ve heard of some of the most fairytale marriages that seemed so perfect from the outside break down and end in bitter divorce. The only certainty you get is being honest with yourself about what you believe and know to be true and being responsible for it when the moment arrives. That’s all you fundamentally need to do for your half of relating based on truth, honesty and vulnerability (I still don’t like this word vulnerability).

That would then come back around to being honest with yourself. Because if you know in truth what you know to be true that your girlfriend / partner is a psychopath and it is the wrong choice for your life, but you chose it anyways, you are not living honestly. That is being responsible. Now if you didn’t know that when you chose to be with her that is different, because we can only know what we know and choose accordingly with what we know. So I’m talking to you now and say a couple posts from now you send me some really nasty messages calling me names, I now have new experience to live by and adjust what is honest for me, which would be maybe asking you to not call me names and if you choose to not fulfill my request I can no longer relate to you. This is relating. It applies to your second point which I agree with but I would ask why would you marry a person like that? What does a marriage with a person who lies do for your life? Maybe there is some benefit for you? Be honest with yourself here. Are you choosing such women? Reflect on this.

We do not get any guarantees in life. I don’t get them nor anyone else here. Many couples married and aren’t guaranteed kids either because they can’t conceive. The nature of relationships is they can be steady at times and sometimes also filled with complete twists and turns and surprises, people change, things don’t always go how we like no matter how much we try to grasp and control them. It is an active process. You mention a relationship based on honesty and that is really the only one certainty you can get and it’s from you choosing honesty with how you choose to communicate and be responsible. You can show up and communicate your thoughts and beliefs and feelings honestly without judgement and that is the only certainty you can really get if you’re responsible to do so and it’s the one thing you realize is all you ever need to navigate relationships because in doing so you strengthen your integrity and connection with yourself. Everything else comes after that in a relationship and is more or less out of our control. Since we are unable to control people. There are the happiest most picture perfect marriages you have observed which have ended in divorce before. I would also reframe the concept of wasting time. We are always exactly where we are supposed to be and anything that unfolds just is and couldn’t have been any other way after the fact. It is not some grand mistake just life. We live in the unknown and we don’t know with complete certainty how things will ultimately go with the people we love. It’s useful and empowering to see it this way because it means there’s always a lesson there we are meant to learn and we are also responsible no matter what for being honest and living according with that.

Never understood this.

It starts completely with you. Are you true and honest with yourself, your self talk? How you live? The choices you make? Have you observed the field long enough to be honest with yourself about your observations on how it works? How have you been observing it? With expectations you laid on top of how you think it should be? What do you mean by date seriously? I will say you have to be careful how you approach relationships, your expectations for them and also your fundamental framing of them in the first place with your language and words you use. If you try to overly optimize or control them you turn it into another proving ground where there is a carrot on a stick you’re chasing. Everything that turns serious starts out as unserious. I would say if you are being responsible in your life and both truthful and honest with yourself first and foremost. the path becomes clearer and things seem to naturally unfold in due time. I’d say really do some self reflection on your beliefs about relationships first.

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how to have videos posted on subreddits? I mean do i do it myself or ? idk i hate posting on reddit

DNC sabotage incoming. I swear the Dem party exists largely to keep true opposition from forming. I do believe a new left leaning political grass roots party could come about in the USA.

So I am one person and I have to balance my other responsibilities while making videos. In order to grow on YouTube you need to produce decent content people wanna watch. Your videos need to be both good and hold people’s attention + be consistent in output since the platform is driven by frequent production of new videos. You usually don’t make one video then have a successful channel with a million subs. You need to put out lots and lots of videos. Therefore you need a system for your content in order to make it sustainable. As a single person you can put out weekly videos but they will usually be shallow and not very good if you are producing one a week. Because you only have one week’s worth of time to make it. If you are publishing once a month you have more time to produce the video and refine it but you are not keeping up with the algorithm. The big channels either A) earned the right to publish infrequently by having built up a core audience over the years posting frequently or B) still post frequently but have a whole production team that is able to bridge the gap between algorithm and quality. I do travel vlogs which is largely a passion thing. It’s one of the harder niches to consistently publish in and it’s difficult to sustain frequent travel. I’m not sure if it’s viable for the long term financially but there are views in it and hopefully a way to meet like minded people.

He was originally a PUA, that’s true.

There isn’t complete certainty in any relationship. The only thing I believe one can really try to do on their end is communicate openly and honestly while honoring your own flow and authentic way. I don’t believe in vulnerability. I think it’s an illusion. What are you vulnerable to? What are you trying to keep safe? The relationship ending? Them saying something mean to you or withholding signs of approval and love? All of that traces back like a loose thread and culminates in some untrue belief like “I am not enough when my partner _________” or “I am unlovable because ________.” These beliefs are false. The ego / inner child creates this illusion that it needs to be in control with every step of change and every part of the relationship, like every step of the way and every moment in life this lens we retreat into because of the illusion of safety it grants like there is something to protect but the whole premise the word implies is faulty in the first place. You cant be emotionally safe, it doesn’t even make sense when you are the one creating your emotions in the first place. Relationship basically rest on being aligned in your innate spiritual value and acting in Wu Wei with honest communication. Reading books on how to communicate in a non violent way (nonviolent communication for example is a great book) is a great resource for how to communicate in relationships. From there it’s then finding the harmony between two people and accepting when that is not the case.

How does one be more original and creative in their pursuits in life?

Similar vibe entering Russia as a citizen from an unfriendly country. Questioned for hours. But they were polite to me.

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Another issue I’m seeing is that a lot of information and self help for men is far too broad and muddied. Self improvement is incredibly personal and sometimes the steps you need to take come before other steps you think you should.

How old are you? What is your nationality and citizenship? What is your money situation and lifestyle? Ponder this: right action, wrong time.

I apologize if my words hurt you. I say fat because it’s the typical build of a person who watches looks influencers and kick twitch tv streams where this trend started. You can appear to be reasonably in shape and look fairly alright and even have decent photos and still do incredibly mediocre with online dating. You think you’re going to pull a super model that melts your face as a normal dude? Online dating is awful and flooded with men who lean entirely on it and don’t get the results they want then moan about how it’s all about looks. Men outnumber women by an astronomical proportion on tinder. We all have different foundations and unique places we start. In my day the obsession was about height. Every single guy moaned about height. Then it included race, Asians and Indians would moan why hot white women didn’t wanna sleep with them. Then it moved onto money and status and now it’s down to the total looks package of being fit and having a nice face on social media. All of these have always mattered and will always matter. The segment that was just unaware of it came of age and has a window into everyone’s life (influencer they covet) via social media to compare themselves to. I can guarantee if your friends were pretty decent guys with decent looks and they optimized their lifestyle they would pull irl if they did pick up face to face.

Excuse me? Do not call me dummy. They haven’t become more important. Chronically online tards just became aware that being fat obviously affects their chances with the instagram models they sit around fapping over. It always has, but people like you will run with looksmaxixng pollutants and use it as evidence against yourself to file away and strike down empowering beliefs about going out and approaching and socializing.

Early PUA maybe glossed over looks to a certain degree, maybe to a slight fault, but to be honest it was for good reason because a) it wasn’t teaching you to whipe your ass, obvious shit, not every teaching is complete and if you can’t put it together that if you’re fat as shit and un groomed and dressed like shit that it will affect your odds…. Idk what to say. 2) it was about developing your belief system, no longer being a victim and taking charge of your life through face to face action. Being slightly delusional in a way about affirming your value is extremely powerful in transforming victims. Challenging norms, making you tougher and more resilient by sharpening yourself and social skills and pushing you to take action. Looksmaxxing is largely by design for pure determinists and does nothing to work on your belief system about yourself. It puts you in a treadmill to try and buy products to change your face. Most guys won’t do anything other than that now.

No one ever said it was bad to exercise, lose weight, groom yourself, dress nicer. This is like some gen alpha shit just taking regular stuff you gad to do originally and putting their own social media spin on it by adding crazy shit to it in order to grift and find ways to become famous on the internet. Since when was looking nice some new concept? A lot of guys just do a shit job at it and generally speaking there was less of an emphasis or expectation for it to be needed at least in the zeitgeist but I’m still fairly certain it always was a determining unseen force a lot of guys just overlooked (why do you think some women say no? They have their reasons). Maybe now that has changed some.