You are imagining persons A and B.
You are also assuming a difference between A and B. That difference is imaginary.

It requires 100+ hours of continuous intense concentration to shift one's state of consciousness to have an awakening. Realistically this is what's required. You are not at all intense enough about it, so nothing happens.
Take psychedelic to see instant shift in state so you understand what you're missing.

Girls will flake on you all the time for no reason. Get used to it.

Obviously pursuing success will interfere with deconstructing reality.
Which is why monks don't pursue success.
Figure out what you want to do in which order.
Success usually requires A LOT of manipulation and illusion.
The pursuit of truth vs the pursuit of success are very different things.

Yeah, well... struggle with it and you're sort that out through trial and error.
A meditation practice is such a minor thing. You can do that while pursing success. I was talking about serious spiritual work towards awakening, not just a meditation practice. A meditation is not a serious pursuit of anything.
I pursue my artistic and creative passions.
I am not a good example for you to follow because I already invested 10 years of my time in building massive stage Orange success. I doubt you have.

Haha, no one gets laid for his intelligence.
If that were the case, I would have a line of girls queued up outside my house.
Getting laid is more about being stupid than it is about being intelligent. The more stupid you act, the more likely you are to get laid. Girls are attracted to pure stupidity. Sorry, but that's the cold hard reality of it.

@Valach In this case you want to proactively work on diving into the intimacy. Build it up to crazy levels. Turn that into a game.
Lead her into deep intimacy and consciousness.

Yup, cause a real man knows how to lead and takes what he wants. And that is precisely what's attractive. Women want to be wanted and led.
Just don't be creepy or rapey about it.
Be a gentlemen. But take it!

"PUA tactics" are not based in language.
My PUA friend would pickup foreign girls in Vegas using Google translate on his phone.
A guy who knows what he's doing can pickup a girl without talking at all. Try it sometimes. Go out and pretend like you lost your voice and try to sleep with a girl without saying a single word. You might be shocked at how effective it is.
The words said in pickup hardly matter at all other than for handling logistics.

So often that you should stop even calling it "rejection".

That is true for low value guys who got no game.
The whole purpose of game is to make one so attractive as to condense that typical few months time-frame down to 4 hours.
It sounds crazy, but it's possible to do. If you think about it, there is no good reason why it should take a few months to build a deep rapport with a stranger. It only takes that long when people are doing it lazily, unconsciously, by accident. But if you take conscious control over the process, it can happen much faster.
From a guy's POV, waiting a month to sleep with a girl is just a giant waste of time and energy. As a guy we can figure out whether we want to sleep with a girl within 5 minutes. The rest is just cat and mouse games.
Even though it's called "game", ironically it is women who play the most games. A guy is very clear about what he wants. So the guy's "game" is just a reflection of the game that women force him to play to get what he clearly knows he wants. Because if a guy does not play along with your games, you will reject him.
Things would be much easier and simpler if we could just approach and say, "Hey, I like you. I think we should fuck." But this doesn't work. It's too truthful. Hence the game. Okay, game on.

They are not mutually exclusive.
There is no genuine relationship with a woman until after sex. She is not invested enough for there to be a relationship.

Do whatever you want but I ain't waiting a month to have sex.
This does not hinder my ability to have a relationship.
The thing is, strong successful men don't wait around for things. They see a thing and act on it immediately. This comes with the territory of being effective in the world. If a man is willing to wait a month to fuck you, this is not a guy you should be fucking. This is a lame beta guy who has no idea how to lead.
A real man is clear about what he wants and is very proactive about it. Women find this highly attractive. Because this is how shit gets done in the world. This is how success is made. This is how wars are won. This is how empires are built. This is how rockets are launched. This is how fires are put out. This is how lives are saved.

But you can't "make love" if you cannot even get a casual hookup.

The average guy is so lonely and desperate that he will be happy to get any girl at all.
The higher value guy you want to land, the higher his standards will be, the harder it will be lock him down, the more insecure you will feel around him. BTW, the same is true with high value girls, so spare me your tears. High value has a price.

For the agendas to be the same men and women would literally have to be identical. Then there would not be any sexual polarity that makes you all hot.

Yeah, well, the whole point of pickup is that it makes all such logic irrelevant since attraction is not logical.
So you can tell yourself you will never sleep with a guy who "sells himself" to you, but when you meet an attractive, high value guy, all that logic will become irrelevant.
Emotion > logic
Doubly so for women.

Yeah, well, I understand. But that is the definition of neediness: I need something from you and I can't wait, and if I don't get it, I'll be upset.
And of course neediness is unattractive.
Do as you like but don't be surprised if it turns people off because all healthy people find neediness unattractive because it's fundamentally selfish. ME! ME! ME! Give ME what I need!

It is pure selfishness.
Of course men are selfish too.
Both parties are just doing what is best for them while expecting the other one to be selfless.
See, when you act selfishly, why are you surprised when others do the same? They are only doing what you're doing back to you. But since you are selfish, you don't like it. The ego's game is to be as selfish as it can while denying others that same move.
You exercise your choice not to have sex with a man when he needs it but you don't. And a man exercises his choice to go pickup other girls when he needs it and you need him to be loyal to you.

Well....
The needy thing is very tricky, because you have to understand that any guy who gets into a relationship with you is doing so to fulfill certain needs of his, be that sex or whatever else. So it's mostly just a question of degree of neediness.
The whole point of a relationship is to use the other person to fulfill your own selfish needs. Otherwise you would not relate at all.
Both partners are doing that, so then it becomes a sort of dance/game/negotiation. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it does not.

Which is why a man has to take responsibility for getting the sex he wants. Because women certainly are too selfish to care about giving to him when he needs it. Hence pickup is born.

It's just victim mentality, scapegoating, projection, denial, and all the other classic ego defense mechanisms that the ego employs when it is scared, hurt, and denied love.
What's changed is that thanks to the internet and video games, lots of men have stopped socializing face-to-face, which makes getting laid impossible. An Incel is just a guy who doesn't socialize.

The Buddha told ya that life was suffering.
This is true but it also two addition points:
A) If you are conscious enough, HERE is hevean  too. Heaven is not a seperate place, it is just high consciousness.
B) Going to hevean assumes you are conscious even to want to go there. You could also end up in hell if your consciousness is limited and twisted.
To experience and enjoy finitude. If you were in heaven now, you'd find it boring. You'd desire to experience limitation again.

She sounds super sexually repressed. Probably childhood abuse, trauma, or religious conditioning. You will have to open that wound and get to the bottom of it.
Meanwhile, start by making her cum using her toy. Figure out what turns her on. Have her show you so you can replicate it.
She may also have hormonal imbalances or other health conditions which would need to be addressed. You need to do some archeology into her past. Find out what is going on in her subconscious mind: fear, anxiety, stress, tension, guilt, bad memories, etc.

Why not? 2 dates per week is plenty! Like I said, too much of a good thing burns it out.
Sounds like you're getting too clingy.