Here are some Masculine and Feminine principled aspects of people and reality at large... (written Masculine first, Feminine second)
Doing vs being Hierarchical thinking vs lateral thinking Abstract vs concrete Loftiness vs groundedness Knowledge vs wisdom Geometric vs organic Clear vs mysterious Truth vs illusion Individuality vs collectivism Expansion vs contraction Infinite vs finite Spiritual vs Earthly Mental vs material Order vs chaos Intellect vs body Utility vs beauty Emptiness vs meaning Extraordinariness vs ordinariness Difference vs sameness Logic vs intuition Automation vs spontaneity  Purification vs integration Unlimitedness vs limitation Spring/Summer vs Fall/Winter Light vs darkness Perfection vs imperfection Immortality vs mortality Trajectory vs cycles Giving vs receiving Fight vs surrender  

Sadhana is like a trampoline. Letting go of attachments is like a ladder.
Awakening is like glimpsing the roof. Enlightenment is like sitting on the roof.
You can't sit on the roof without a ladder, but a trampoline can help you see what is up there. You can also use it to jump a few steps up on the ladder. It can also strengthen your legs to help you climb the ladder.
Sometimes it helps to use the trampoline more. Sometimes it helps to use the ladder more. There is not only one way, and what works best at what time depends on the person.
Trying out one over the other for some time might be smart, but unless you are on the very last step, you will eventually go back to the other thing in some way.

If you were tortured, eventually your ego would collapse and you would accept it.
What do you think the crucifixion means?
Christians literally worship surrender to torture.
Christians don't even understand what they worship.
The entire point of Jesus is that he accepted his torture as Love! That's what makes Jesus God and everyone who worships him a rat.